He's/She's Just Not That Into You

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  • bojack5
    bojack5 Posts: 2,859 Member
    bojack5 wrote: »
    bufger wrote: »
    I could have just said 'energy vampires' and saved you all 30 seconds of life.

    I agree. Negativity is hard to deal with. Especially if you’re the sort who vibes off of other people. Also when they are insecure. It can be a lot to handle. Confidence is sexy. It’s difficult to be in a relationship with someone when you begin to feel like it’s your responsibility to lift their confidence, more than a partner typically would.

    Gotta be honest, allowing other people to affect your mood is not sexy. People's bad moods are there issue, how we choose to deal with that is totally in our control. Somebody that doesn't need to vibe off another, someone that is self aware enough to not be affected by other people's moods, that's confidence, that's secure, that's sexy.

    Yes, but attitudes are contagious. Good or bad.

    Not to me.....I recognize other's attitudes, but do my very best to not let effect my own.
  • Cameron_1969
    Cameron_1969 Posts: 2,855 Member
    If they lack manners
    If they lack common curtesy and respect for others
    If they are gossipy about their friends
    Already said, but if they don’t put their family first
    If they don’t like kids
    If they don’t like animals
    If they are stagnant in life
    If they have bad hygiene
    If they have no hobbies or passions
    If they are a showboater
    If they lack communication skills
    If they don’t inspire me to be better

    I thought I'd been eliminated when you got the part about hating snowboarders. . But then I read it again.. How do you feel about guys who are easily confused?

    Lol. Easily confused is okay, long as they aren't indecisive. I happen to love snowboarders being one myself.

    I'm very decisive, but that can be dangerous for one who is easily confused. .

    And here's my snowboarder pic
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  • Cameron_1969
    Cameron_1969 Posts: 2,855 Member
    RDahling wrote: »
    Things that push me away from dating someone include:

    - ignorance (I can deal with stupidity - stupidity can be cured - but ignorance, not so much)

    oh. the irony. .
  • Cameron_1969
    Cameron_1969 Posts: 2,855 Member
    RDahling wrote: »
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    It's a work in progress. ;)
    81Katz wrote: »

    Umm, good luck with your endeavor towards finding perfection. 😁😁

    Thanks. With 7 billion people in the world, I'm sure I can find one or two that fit the bill. :smiley:

    You're single aren't you? 😂😆 kidding..

    Jo!! HAaahah I thought something very similar! What a list bro.

    Yes, I am single, but I'd rather be single and content (which I am) than dating and miserable, and I find it sad that people seem to think that being in a relationship requires some measure of selling out. There is a reason people have standards, and I've seen too many friends and family members in *kitten* relationships because they are afraid to be alone so they lower their standards and expectations, which is monumentally stupid. Relationships should make you happy; they should make you feel good, not stressed out and not like you compromised yourself, but too many people are quick to do that out of desperation, and then justify it to themselves in some fashion or other. That doesn't include when the investment model kicks in and people stay in relationships simply because of the amount of time they've spent in it - again, monumentally stupid.

    Think about all the relationships you've been in and think about how they impacted the subsequent relationship - you avoided the things you didn't like in previous relationships when going into the new one, and you kept an eye out for any appearance of these things (because people are just so full of artifice when first dating), so everyone has a list of things that are acceptable and unacceptable (and the unacceptable can be divided into hard and soft limits) when it comes to dating, and this list is based on past experience of what made you unhappy in previous relationships - why repeat the past if it made you so effing miserable the first time around?

    I'm on board! Dating a girl who did duck-face would be a sure ticket to lifelong misery..
  • projectsix
    projectsix Posts: 5,088 Member
    edited August 2018
    Smokers, drinkers, and substance abuse
    Dudes in women's bodies
    Women who are content with being unhealthy
    Dull boring personalities
    Mean human beings
    No ambition
    Lived a different lifestyle
    Women I just can't be attracted to no matter how hard I try
  • mustacheU2Lift
    mustacheU2Lift Posts: 5,844 Member
    People who wrote novels. Im just not into you
  • SwannySez
    SwannySez Posts: 5,860 Member
    projectsix wrote: »
    Smokers, drinkers, and substance abuse
    Dudes in women's bodies
    Women who are content with being unhealthy
    Dull boring personalities
    Mean human beings
    No ambition
    Lived a different lifestyle
    Women I just can't be attracted to no matter how hard I try

    Phrasing.
  • MrSith
    MrSith Posts: 1,636 Member
    Poor Personalities or multipersonalities this does not include those 5-7 days a month
    No sense of humor
    No ambition
    Nasty in a since they don't pick up after their self or keep their vehicle clean
    Closemindedness
    Dependent

  • Misty_1375
    Misty_1375 Posts: 759 Member
    shaf238 wrote: »
    It's a little annoying when they turn out to be a guy :/

    I have to ask, are you speaking from experience?
  • SwannySez
    SwannySez Posts: 5,860 Member
    Misty_1375 wrote: »
    shaf238 wrote: »
    It's a little annoying when they turn out to be a guy :/

    I have to ask, are you speaking from experience?

    I have to say that growing up, I really expected quicksand to be a much bigger concern than discovering at sexy time that I was with a man. I mean, Lola and all, but still.
  • Misty_1375
    Misty_1375 Posts: 759 Member
    SwannySez wrote: »
    Misty_1375 wrote: »
    shaf238 wrote: »
    It's a little annoying when they turn out to be a guy :/

    I have to ask, are you speaking from experience?

    I have to say that growing up, I really expected quicksand to be a much bigger concern than discovering at sexy time that I was with a man. I mean, Lola and all, but still.

    I love that you call it "sexy time"
  • SwannySez
    SwannySez Posts: 5,860 Member
    edited August 2018
    Misty_1375 wrote: »
    SwannySez wrote: »
    Misty_1375 wrote: »
    shaf238 wrote: »
    It's a little annoying when they turn out to be a guy :/

    I have to ask, are you speaking from experience?

    I have to say that growing up, I really expected quicksand to be a much bigger concern than discovering at sexy time that I was with a man. I mean, Lola and all, but still.

    I love that you call it "sexy time"

    Honestly, the number of times this has come up so specifically as a disqualifier just in this thread made me think of a wildly NSFW article. Do NOT click on the spoiler unless you accept that it is NSFW.

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  • elsie6hickman
    elsie6hickman Posts: 3,864 Member
    The biggest thing for me is if they showed signs of being a narcissist. Of course, basic hygiene, basic manners are assumed, because if they didn't have that, we wouldn't even go out. And they didn't love animals as much as I do.
  • Misty_1375
    Misty_1375 Posts: 759 Member
    SwannySez wrote: »
    Misty_1375 wrote: »
    SwannySez wrote: »
    Misty_1375 wrote: »
    shaf238 wrote: »
    It's a little annoying when they turn out to be a guy :/

    I have to ask, are you speaking from experience?

    I have to say that growing up, I really expected quicksand to be a much bigger concern than discovering at sexy time that I was with a man. I mean, Lola and all, but still.

    I love that you call it "sexy time"

    Honestly, the number of times this has come up so specifically as a disqualifier just in this thread made me think of a wildly NSFW article. Do NOT click on the spoiler unless you accept that it is NSFW.


    Oh I love The Onion!!! I totally forgot about that website!! I'll check it out from my phone.
  • yyzext
    yyzext Posts: 1 Member
    If they whine a great deal in bed. When you take of your underwear off leave the outside world with your underwear on the floor where it belongs
  • SwannySez
    SwannySez Posts: 5,860 Member
    yyzext wrote: »
    If they whine a great deal in bed. When you take of your underwear off leave the outside world with your underwear on the floor where it belongs

    Are you talking about complaining? Like complaining about life while in bed?

    Nah, this is about them complaining that the catfish whiskers are tickly.
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  • SwannySez
    SwannySez Posts: 5,860 Member
    Doesn't know how to toss a salad.

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  • SwannySez
    SwannySez Posts: 5,860 Member
    If he has a very long list of mostly judgmental deal breakers, that's definitely a deal breaker. B)

    I think you get exempted from most of the lists since you're a woman who is not a guy who looks like a woman.
  • RunHardBeStrong
    RunHardBeStrong Posts: 33,069 Member
    Doesn't know how to toss a salad.

    I do hate if the melons, cucumbers and eggplants aren't tossed around proportionately.
  • solorex
    solorex Posts: 696 Member
    What's wrong with birkys?? :anguished:

    Chacos or nothing! :lol:

  • solorex
    solorex Posts: 696 Member
    solorex wrote: »
    What's wrong with birkys?? :anguished:

    Chacos or nothing! :lol:

    They give weird tan lines !

    That they do. I've finally been able to get outside enough for the first time in a couple summers to get the stripes. They always make for a conversation starter. :lol:
  • nooshi713
    nooshi713 Posts: 4,877 Member
    I never, and I stress "NEVER", trust anyone who can sleep with socks on. That's dark magic

    Very true. Anyone whose second toe is much longer than their big toe is also likely an alien.
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  • SwannySez
    SwannySez Posts: 5,860 Member
    I will never consent to connubial relations with anyone who falls into any the following categories:

    - is not human (unless they are a really hot alien and not like that octopus chick in Galaxy Quest, that was just not right)
    - uses bad grammer
    - is currently, has in the recent past, or is planning on participating in a genocide
    - cannot abide a man's taste for a good speedball after work...or before work...or during work
    - was a cast member of any version of MTV's The Real World
    - wears Drakkar Noir
    - doesn't appreciate film noir
    - cannot make a rhyme for noir
    - has an extra leg growing our of their back
    - lost a Super Bowl to Eli Manning
    - knows all the words to the Don't Worry, Be Happy
    - dated Cheech Marin
    - was a back-up vocalist for Ratt in 1983
    - is grossed out by Cleveland Steamers and/or Blumpkins
    - is covered in boils
    - has more than four tentacles
    - can speak Wookie
    - voted for Wendell Wilkie
    - cannot toss a salad
    - doesn't understand that women were, like, you know, put on the earth by Jesus to please men, especially nice guys who deserve their vagina favors even more than the meanies
    - refuse to dance the Lambada
    - are @shaf238
    - don't know the words to at least one song by either Tom Waits, Steve Earle, Leonard Cohen, the Pixies, the Old 97s, the Refreshments, Sir Mix-A-Lot, the Beastie Boys, Neil Young, Johnny Cash, Bone Thugs-n-Harmony, the Rregrets, Cheap Trick or NWA
    - has more than 38 photos posted on social media showing "duckface"
    - prefers dip to chaw
    - takes lists seriously
  • mustacheU2Lift
    mustacheU2Lift Posts: 5,844 Member
    SwannySez wrote: »
    I will never consent to connubial relations with anyone who falls into any the following categories:

    - is not human (unless they are a really hot alien and not like that octopus chick in Galaxy Quest, that was just not right)
    - uses bad grammer
    - is currently, has in the recent past, or is planning on participating in a genocide
    - cannot abide a man's taste for a good speedball after work...or before work...or during work
    - was a cast member of any version of MTV's The Real World
    - wears Drakkar Noir
    - doesn't appreciate film noir
    - cannot make a rhyme for noir
    - has an extra leg growing our of their back
    - lost a Super Bowl to Eli Manning
    - knows all the words to the Don't Worry, Be Happy
    - dated Cheech Marin
    - was a back-up vocalist for Ratt in 1983
    - is grossed out by Cleveland Steamers and/or Blumpkins
    - is covered in boils
    - has more than four tentacles
    - can speak Wookie
    - voted for Wendell Wilkie
    - cannot toss a salad
    - doesn't understand that women were, like, you know, put on the earth by Jesus to please men, especially nice guys who deserve their vagina favors even more than the meanies
    - refuse to dance the Lambada
    - are @shaf238
    - don't know the words to at least one song by either Tom Waits, Steve Earle, Leonard Cohen, the Pixies, the Old 97s, the Refreshments, Sir Mix-A-Lot, the Beastie Boys, Neil Young, Johnny Cash, Bone Thugs-n-Harmony, the Rregrets, Cheap Trick or NWA
    - has more than 38 photos posted on social media showing "duckface"
    - prefers dip to chaw
    - takes lists seriously

    And now you are off my into list
  • nooshi713
    nooshi713 Posts: 4,877 Member
    SwannySez wrote: »
    I will never consent to connubial relations with anyone who falls into any the following categories:


    - doesn't understand that women were, like, you know, put on the earth by Jesus to please men, especially nice guys

    I was with you until this. I think they were put on this earth to please women. :)