I’m so done with this.

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  • Kirkyballs
    Kirkyballs Posts: 10 Member
    It like anything in life you have to really want it. To start just start with ordering the small meals at fast food paces maybe water instead of coke slowly just cut down however your can and still walk still go to the gym remember something is always better then nothing. You only fail once you stop trying pal. I was heavily addicted to cocaine drink then binging on fast food when I was coming down I still battle this but I’ve realised the day I stop trying is the day I’m doomed so small steps keep moving forward. A saying I always think ov when things seem overwhelming is. The longest journeys start with one step. So try remember that before you do a 100mph to Mac d’s not going that first time is that small step. Keep me posted and if u ever wanna ask me anything I’ll try help u pal
  • slw37
    slw37 Posts: 89 Member
    Saibasu wrote: »
    Honestly? I found quitting calorie heavy foods harder than quitting smoking. I've been quit almost a year but I still struggle with my food choices, because honestly it's like an addiction to food for me. I totally get where you are coming from, that little though creeps into your head then BOOM its all you can think about and you are completely unable to stop it, so you satisfy it. You have to get your head thinking differently. I couldn't do it slowly, honestly. It took me 100000 times of cold turkey but eventually it stuck and I broke the "habit" of bad eating. I still have days where I don't make the best choices here and there, but I'm at a point where I can shrug it off and just keep going. We can try and motivate you as best we can and give you ideas and thoughts, but in the end, it boils down to your own intrinsic motivation. You CAN do this, you just have to let yourself do it.

    Agree... it is an addiction. And it is HARD.
  • try2again
    try2again Posts: 3,562 Member
    zach_duden wrote: »
    Thank you everyone for your suggestions/tips/words of encouragement. I know I can do this, i just have (a lot) of days where I doubt myself and I’m working to get rid of that self doubt.

    The self-doubt improves a lot with modest, sustainable goals that allow a person to experience success. I hope you've taken the suggestions here about fully utilizing your calorie allowance and not trying to completely overhaul your diet overnight to heart. :)
  • try2again
    try2again Posts: 3,562 Member
    kommodevaran wrote: »
    zach_duden wrote: »
    My calorie goal set automatically by MFP is 2,300. I’m trying to stay below that, if possible below 2,000. I’m 300 pounds. I like what I eat when I’m eating healthy (ie. fruits, ham sandwiches, lots of grilled chicken, eggs, pb2, etc.) but it’s just like I can’t stick with it. I’ve tracked my daily, normal day food before. Not good at all. Over 4,000 calories. It makes me cringe even typing that. I go to the gym, but then the next day I sleep in. I know I’m lazy. I need to kick myself in the *kitten*. But I feel like I’ve been there, done that 1,000 times.
    Why do you think MFP gave you 2300 calories? Because those who designed it, don't really want you to lose weight, or because they know something you don't understand yet?

    Of course... it's a conspiracy!

    Why else would so many posters ignore the perfectly sustainable calorie allowance given to them by MFP and choose to impose misery & deprivation on themselves instead? ;)
  • IHaveMyActTogether
    IHaveMyActTogether Posts: 945 Member
    I'm going to be honest with you. I don't think you are choosing to be fat. Or choosing the foods you eat. I think it is so hard for you to avoid McDonalds because you are so HABITUATED to McDonalds. Food choices, for many, are on autopilot. You can get slim the exact same way you got fat - by autopiloting your meals.

    Have you tried habit training?

    Maybe it's too much to try to eat under calories for an entire day. That's a lot of habits you are going against.

    How about changing one meal?

    Like, if you usually have coffee and a muffin, try coffee and eggs. Then eat like you normally would for the rest of the day. Do that for a month. Until you no longer want the muffin. Then move on to one of your snacks. Instead of chips, try popcorn. And so on and so forth until you have a good chunk of your diet under control, where willpower isn't needed. Then clean that up. Instead of coffee and eggs, move on to coffee and egg white and veggie omletes, etc.

    It is slow, but it is DOABLE.

    The little victories add up. Instead of beating yourself up for failure, set yourself up to celebrate your successes. It builds momentum.

    Whatever you decide to do, don't give up!
  • apullum
    apullum Posts: 4,838 Member
    You don't have to eat "healthy" in order to lose weight. You don't even have to work out in order to lose weight. You just have to consistently eat within your calorie goal. Unless you have medical conditions that dictate what you can and can't eat, you can get your calories from whatever foods you want.

    You don't have to cut out any foods at all. If you're denying yourself the foods you want, then it makes sense that your plan will be difficult to keep up. You don't have to stop eating what you like, but you may have to eat less of it or eat it less often in order to make it fit your calorie goals.

    For instance, I love chocolate. I used to eat a whole chocolate bar as a dessert, no problem. (Also ice cream, brownies, cookies...you get the point.) When I was losing weight, I dropped down to eating just a square of dark chocolate per day. I budgeted calories for it. It was tough at first, but I really looked forward to my chocolate. I would have been extremely unhappy had I given it up altogether. Now that I'm in maintenance, my husband and I usually split a nice chocolate bar for dessert.

    It also makes sense that if you're trying to change a lot of things in your life at the same time, that might be overwhelming and hard to stick with. You don't have to change your entire routine all at once. One thing at a time, one day at a time.
  • AKTipsyCat
    AKTipsyCat Posts: 240 Member
    I dunno, I've found that I've had to give up certain foods almost completely because they trigger me. There are certain *cheat* meals I can allow myself because I know I can bounce back from them. The occasional slice of pizza vs. having it almost weekly, sometimes multiple times a week? Sure. A bit or two of a decadent dessert? Sure! And it can be just a bite, maybe two. Tostitos and that devil cheesey dip? Nope. I start with that and wake up three days later with a needle in my arm and a vat of nacho cheese sauce at the other end. Donuts? Hell No, give me a powdered donut and when I come to, I look like Al Pacino in that scene from Scarface when he goes head down into all the cocaine. I've really dedicated myself this year and have lost weight slowly and steadily, occasionally I'll do a round of Whole 30 - because each time after, I notice my taste buds start to change a little and I like certain things less and other things more... Allow yourself treats, sure - but if there *triggers* you may just want to avoid them as much as possible. But if you don't, and you find yourself three days later under a bridge using a pile of burger wrappers to stay warm - forgive yourself. Brush yourself off and start over. It's all any of us can do, and it's so muc better than just giving up.
  • estherdragonbat
    estherdragonbat Posts: 5,283 Member
    TotoBani2019 wrote: »
    Sugar is addictive and causes depression after about 1 hour of eating it because of the insulin spikes. I would highly suggest to try a keto diet and I promise your cravings will go away. just be strong and follow it for at least 2 weeks, once you re program your body to use fat for fuel instead of glucose.

    Nope. I don't bother tracking my sugar, but I allow moderate treats. No depression, no cravings, and I'm on the default 50% carb target. Some days, I even exceed that slightly.

    106lbs lost and counting.
  • estherdragonbat
    estherdragonbat Posts: 5,283 Member
    AKTipsyCat wrote: »
    I dunno, I've found that I've had to give up certain foods almost completely because they trigger me. There are certain *cheat* meals I can allow myself because I know I can bounce back from them. The occasional slice of pizza vs. having it almost weekly, sometimes multiple times a week? Sure. A bit or two of a decadent dessert? Sure! And it can be just a bite, maybe two. Tostitos and that devil cheesey dip? Nope. I start with that and wake up three days later with a needle in my arm and a vat of nacho cheese sauce at the other end. Donuts? Hell No, give me a powdered donut and when I come to, I look like Al Pacino in that scene from Scarface when he goes head down into all the cocaine. I've really dedicated myself this year and have lost weight slowly and steadily, occasionally I'll do a round of Whole 30 - because each time after, I notice my taste buds start to change a little and I like certain things less and other things more... Allow yourself treats, sure - but if there *triggers* you may just want to avoid them as much as possible. But if you don't, and you find yourself three days later under a bridge using a pile of burger wrappers to stay warm - forgive yourself. Brush yourself off and start over. It's all any of us can do, and it's so muc better than just giving up.

    I hear that. My main issue is rarely what I eat at the table. It's what happens between meals when the leftovers in the fridge start behaving like the Dish of the Day in Hitchhiker's Guide/Restaurant at the End of the Universe and pleading with me to eat them. I'll allow myself to indulge if it's a single serving. But if there's half a lemon meringue pie in the fridge, or several loaves of naan bread, or a half a cup of chipotle dip... Well, come back in an hour and it's likely that they won't be there anymore. (And I'll be trying to give myself a pep talk about not letting this derail me any further.)
  • btrias24
    btrias24 Posts: 30 Member
    This is definitely what a lot of people are going thru so u r not alone. I usually tell people its really about breaking bad habits.. You might do good today but it doesn't mean u broke your bad habit? In order to break it successfully, you have to take it slow.. For example start by not drinking soda, after a week i guarantee you, you wont be looking for soda anymore. Start slow, do it one at a time. This is the same concept when trying out new foods, i never like avocado, but i started eating it everyday till my taste buds accepted it. Very same concept with junk foods, since all you cranial nerves are so used to it, its always looking for that taste. So try to eliminate them one at a time. Its never too late 👍
  • H2OisGood
    H2OisGood Posts: 12 Member
    btrias24 wrote: »
    This is definitely what a lot of people are going thru so u r not alone. I usually tell people its really about breaking bad habits.. You might do good today but it doesn't mean u broke your bad habit? In order to break it successfully, you have to take it slow.. For example start by not drinking soda, after a week i guarantee you, you wont be looking for soda anymore. Start slow, do it one at a time. This is the same concept when trying out new foods, i never like avocado, but i started eating it everyday till my taste buds accepted it. Very same concept with junk foods, since all you cranial nerves are so used to it, its always looking for that taste. So try to eliminate them one at a time. Its never too late 👍
    btrias24 wrote: »
    This is definitely what a lot of people are going thru so u r not alone. I usually tell people its really about breaking bad habits.. You might do good today but it doesn't mean u broke your bad habit? In order to break it successfully, you have to take it slow.. For example start by not drinking soda, after a week i guarantee you, you wont be looking for soda anymore. Start slow, do it one at a time. This is the same concept when trying out new foods, i never like avocado, but i started eating it everyday till my taste buds accepted it. Very same concept with junk foods, since all you cranial nerves are so used to it, its always looking for that taste. So try to eliminate them one at a time. Its never too late 👍

    Yes, try this and you start again the next day, and start again the next day.... You do this and try it and I’ll try on my sugar addiction. This will help
    to inspire and motivate. You are so not alone. 🙂
  • try2again
    try2again Posts: 3,562 Member
    I remembered this list taken from an excellent article on building new habits and eliminating undesirable ones and thought it might be helpful:

    Be realistic. Only choose 1 or 2 specific, achievable things you'd like to work on at a time. Trying to reach all your goals at the same time is a sure way to reach none of them.

    Manage your environment. Make it as easy as possible for you to make good choices, and harder to make poor ones (i.e., if ice cream is your weakness, don't keep it in the house).

    Take a long-range view. Habits take time to build. Don't view 1 relapse as a permanent failure. Try to learn from your mistakes, and focus more on the times you were successful and how you can repeat those.
  • perkymommy
    perkymommy Posts: 1,642 Member
    zach_duden wrote: »
    I can’t do this up and down anymore.

    One day I’m feeling great! I go to the gym, eat healthy (for the most part), log all of my food in MyFitnessPal, stay under my calorie goal - I feel on top of the world!

    That usually lasts a day. Maybe two.

    Then I’m right back to eating all junk food again. Ice cream. So much goddamn ice cream. I stop logging my food because I feel like at this point, it doesn’t even matter. I stop going to the gym. I stop walking. I stop trying. Then depression kicks in and I’m right back to where I started.

    Ugh.

    I feel like I’m lost. I feel like at this point I’ve tried everything. I’ve done the “just start slow” and cutting everything out all at once. It’s just not working. I’ve tried the weight loss “fad diets.” None of them stick.

    I’m addicted to fast food and I don’t know how to break the habit. I bring my lunch to work, the suddenly I get one little tiny thought in my mind about fast food, and the next thing I know, I’m at the drive-thru window at McDonald’s.

    I just can’t do this anymore.


    Same. I used to be more motivated when I was younger. I know it's not due to age for a lot of people but it is for me. I'm almost 50, menopausal and raising three kids still and the stress of school stuff and keeping them all going all week doing activities takes its toll as well as working from home. My work never leaves. We all have different lives and different reasons for not being able to stick to it. I know I just have to DO IT and it's tough but here I am again trying to do just that.

    Good luck to you!
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  • shanti200
    shanti200 Posts: 116 Member
    You mentioned being addicted to fast food. You shouldn't have to cut it out all together. What if you still eat there but choose healthier options or the smaller portions? Or instead of going everyday why not once a week as a treat? I find if I try to cut out a particular thing out of my diet, its setting me up for failure. I believe anything in moderation is ok. Even if you slip and have a high calorie lunch at mcdicks then you can still eat a healthy dinner and stay with in the 2300 calorie goal. Good luck! You got this!
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