I'm going to kill my husband

Achaila

Sounds about like my husband. His answer to just about everything is "I don't care." or "Whatever you want." then I get what I want and he complains about it.

"But I don't want to eat this." Well, then you should of told me what you wanted when I asked instead of saying you don't care. :grumble:

YellowNightingale

That's a man EXACTLY!

yeygoissaw

hubbies just dont care. when he says he doesnt like it when you put it up, then tell him "not my problem, i asked you." if he cares for you he would stop complaining. if not, get rid of him :glasses: :glasses: :smokin: :smokin: :grumble:

StillStrugglin

My ex ALWAYS had opinions about décor. SO. MANY. OPINIONS! And feelings, too. I was the one that was all, "Oh man, just pick a sofa. Honestly, as long as it's long enough for me to lie down on, I'm good. Oh, maybe we should get a yellow one so the dog hair won't show...?" *lol* So, just a note to say that SOME men do care. Like, WAY too much.

NerdyDollee

I bet he would say "whatever, I don't care" about the divorce too lol.

desert_mom

the only thing he cares about is a horrible pic he has that takes the whole wall... it is freaking ugly!!!!!!! everyone asks me WTH it is and that we should throw it away..... but he LLLLLOOOOOOVVVVVEEEESSSSS it..... every time he says I don't care, I try to give away the pic and he gets mad LOL

You know, sometimes really unfortunate, tragic, unintended things happen to prized possessions during remodels.

StrongAndHealthyMommy

I bet he would say "whatever, I don't care" about the divorce too lol.

he would say: is that what you really one? ok whatever!!!! LOL

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StrongAndHealthyMommy

the only thing he cares about is a horrible pic he has that takes the whole wall... it is freaking ugly!!!!!!! everyone asks me WTH it is and that we should throw it away..... but he LLLLLOOOOOOVVVVVEEEESSSSS it..... every time he says I don't care, I try to give away the pic and he gets mad LOL

You know, sometimes really unfortunate, tragic, unintended things happen to prized possessions during remodels.

I think Im going to drop a black gallon of pain on it LOL

DopeItUp

Welcome to every man ever. And every woman ever.

anemoneprose

Welcome to every man ever. And every woman ever.

Indeed. Sitcom city. Wait, is one tubby, and one thin? Does she nag too much? Is he going to bring all his friends over for the game and RUIN the dinner she's preparing for her boss? (I say, knowing I've just channeled Roseanne)

SrJoben

we are remodeling our house, and EVERY-SINGLE-TIME I ask him for an opinion his answer is: whatever I don't care...... do you want the cabinets of the kitchen black or any of those browns tones??? his answer: I don't care....... what color do you want the exterior of the house??? his answer.... whatever....... but then, if he doesn't like what I pick, once its done he complaints soooo much that I have to start all over again (of course without know WTF he wants...)

I think I should divorce him LOL:mad: :explode: :grumble: :noway:

This is kinda easy. We basically don't care. He's not blowing you off. He really doesn't care about the pros and cons of Eggshell White vs Linen White or whatever. He might even be a bit baffled by the idea that anyone cares that much. He may feel that you probably have a favorite and are just being polite, so he returns the favor and lets you pick. I'm not sure most of us are really capable of seeing this as a situation which requires careful deliberation, so what can he really say? The whole thing seems like either some sort of trap or just a weirdly deep discussion of something unimportant. Did i mention we don't care?

But it's possible that you will somehow manage to pick something that can penetrate his apathy. Maybe he thinks that shade of brown looks like vomit or something. Before you buy the paint show him a sample. Don't make is a judgement call between options. Just say something like "I want to get this shade of green for the hallway. Do you hate it?"

Divorce averted.

Cameron_1969

I'm guessing that 'discussing' these choices with you is probably no picnic. . He really hopes you'll be reasonable and not choose pink paisly wallpaper. .but if he gets too much into the decision making process and says he doesn't like your choices. . then you'll get your feelings hurt and the two of you will argue and bicker and it's just easier for the guy to go hide and be trodden upon like the doormat he's become. . left only to complain after the fact. . .

Guys. . some advice. . get involved and express your opinion so you don't end up like this (this was me, by the way. . lesson learned). .

donald149

Women ask that seeking concurrence, not opinion. All guys know this. Lol besides... if he truly hates the color he'll tell you.

LiftAllThePizzas

He's trolling you.

TheRealParisLove

People who refuse to make decisions, don't have to take responsibility for those decisions and also reserve the right to complain that someone else made the wrong decision.

Since he doesn't care how you remodel the house, do it exactly how you want it. That way, when you get divorced later, he either has to live in your ideal house, or you don't have to remodel it so that it works well for you.

Win/win!

justwanderful

we are remodeling our house,

Was this his idea or did you decide that's what YOU wanted and bulldoze ahead?

EVERY-SINGLE-TIME I ask him for an opinion his answer is: whatever I don't care......

I bet you have a history of doing what you want no matter what his opinion is; so he quit giving it.

but then, if he doesn't like what I pick, once its done he complaints soooo much that I have to start all over again (of course without know WTF he wants...)

It sounds like you have poor taste and are possibly colorblind.

I think I should divorce him LOL:mad: :explode: :grumble: :noway:

Life is short. You're not happy. And he deserves a better wife.
Cut him lose. Make his day and give him a divorce.

Soccermavrick

I agree with Donald. Do you listen to him when he does answer? Did you really want his opinion, or were you really looking for him to say he loved whatever you picked?

Next time pick it, do it, and then in your sexy's outfit invite him in the room to christen it. From your profile, he will probably not even notice that you painted the entire room pink, I know I wouldn't. (Note - that is the idea, you are appealling to what he really wants.)

Perplexities

I think we are married to the same man!! Mine says the exact same thing! He finally just said, he doesnt like making decision, and I can do whatever I want, he will complain either way. Geeeeez!

So, now I say, no opinion, no complaints.

Lol, I bet it's like the sierra.

jdad1

It is likely that he, along with many other men, just don't want to listen to a women’s indecisiveness for hours. So he closes off and just lets you figure out what color you want since you are not really going to listen to him anyway.

Oishii

I can get opinions out of my husband about décor, thank goodness, most of the time. Other things (where to eat, what to do) are much harder.thing is, I'm generally happy with whatever and he can whinge about anything. So I know exactly where you're coming from OP, just in different fields.

Warchortle

If you got married in New Mexico you could've gotten a 2 year temporary marriage.

TiffanyMeairs

When my husband doesn't care I opt for pink every time

BunBun85

This is how I deal with my husband; We were remodeling the room that will be the nursery before we were even pregnant. I picked out a wall colour, flooring and some of the furniture. Then I asked him something along the lines of "What's that wood stuff that goes on top of the floor and at the ceiling called? Should we have that too?" I know what it's called but me asking him gave him the opportunity to feel like he had some control, some knowledge that I didn't and really empowered him to make a decision and then even afterwards, helped me pick out a wardrobe and a matching chair with footstool. I'm not patronizing him because I know it's difficult for him to make a choice but I also know how helpful he likes to be when I need it so playing to his strengths is improving areas where he might not be so strong. It showed when we went to remodel the bathroom and he had already picked out the bathtub, wallboard and yes, more molding. Then we were able to sit and pick out together the sink and cabinets after a tiling disaster. I wanted river stones, river stones wouldn't work so we had to make a split decision on what to do and I don't make them that quickly either. Now we're working on the kitchen, we've got tentative plans on a 3-D modeler and he has said that it looks nice but that since I never let him cook the kitchen was really my domain. I appreciate it because I really do love cooking and playing house wife, so next I'm going to make him a "man cave" in one of the spare rooms in the house.

My point is that if he says he "doesn't care," give him a reason to care. If you are doing everything and dominating everything it can really make a man feel emasculated. It might be acting if you walk into a room and sigh and say in a wispy voice "Honey I just don't know what colour to paint this room... I know you like this piece of furniture, light fixture, big painting, could you help me pick some colours that you think would tie it all together?" Then when he makes a choice, don't disregard them, get some paint swatches in the colours he said, shades you like so he can hold them in his hands and tell him "Here are the colours YOU picked out. Which one do you like best?" Let him be dominate and manly and in charge.

You could always put on some lingerie in the colour you want, go into the room to be redone and ask him if the colour looks good in there. He won't soon forget that moment when he walks in and sees the walls each day.

Enough rambling! Best of luck!

anemoneprose

This is how I deal with my husband; We were remodeling the room that will be the nursery before we were even pregnant. I picked out a wall colour, flooring and some of the furniture. Then I asked him something along the lines of "What's that wood stuff that goes on top of the floor and at the ceiling called? Should we have that too?" I know what it's called but me asking him gave him the opportunity to feel like he had some control, some knowledge that I didn't and really empowered him to make a decision and then even afterwards, helped me pick out a wardrobe and a matching chair with footstool. I'm not patronizing him because I know it's difficult for him to make a choice but I also know how helpful he likes to be when I need it so playing to his strengths is improving areas where he might not be so strong. It showed when we went to remodel the bathroom and he had already picked out the bathtub, wallboard and yes, more molding. Then we were able to sit and pick out together the sink and cabinets after a tiling disaster. I wanted river stones, river stones wouldn't work so we had to make a split decision on what to do and I don't make them that quickly either. Now we're working on the kitchen, we've got tentative plans on a 3-D modeler and he has said that it looks nice but that since I never let him cook the kitchen was really my domain. I appreciate it because I really do love cooking and playing house wife, so next I'm going to make him a "man cave" in one of the spare rooms in the house.

My point is that if he says he "doesn't care," give him a reason to care. If you are doing everything and dominating everything it can really make a man feel emasculated. It might be acting if you walk into a room and sigh and say in a wispy voice "Honey I just don't know what colour to paint this room... I know you like this piece of furniture, light fixture, big painting, could you help me pick some colours that you think would tie it all together?" Then when he makes a choice, don't disregard them, get some paint swatches in the colours he said, shades you like so he can hold them in his hands and tell him "Here are the colours YOU picked out. Which one do you like best?" Let him be dominate and manly and in charge.

You could always put on some lingerie in the colour you want, go into the room to be redone and ask him if the colour looks good in there. He won't soon forget that moment when he walks in and sees the walls each day.

Enough rambling! Best of luck!

point about giving him a hook in taken. otherwise,

KidTarget

Yeah, you could always do what a friend of mine wife did to him to break him of the habit. When they were repainitng their living room she asked what color he'd like. He responded that he didn't care, so she picked to color, pepto bismal pink. After that he was gives his input.

BunBun85

This is how I deal with my husband; We were remodeling the room that will be the nursery before we were even pregnant. I picked out a wall colour, flooring and some of the furniture. Then I asked him something along the lines of "What's that wood stuff that goes on top of the floor and at the ceiling called? Should we have that too?" I know what it's called but me asking him gave him the opportunity to feel like he had some control, some knowledge that I didn't and really empowered him to make a decision and then even afterwards, helped me pick out a wardrobe and a matching chair with footstool. I'm not patronizing him because I know it's difficult for him to make a choice but I also know how helpful he likes to be when I need it so playing to his strengths is improving areas where he might not be so strong. It showed when we went to remodel the bathroom and he had already picked out the bathtub, wallboard and yes, more molding. Then we were able to sit and pick out together the sink and cabinets after a tiling disaster. I wanted river stones, river stones wouldn't work so we had to make a split decision on what to do and I don't make them that quickly either. Now we're working on the kitchen, we've got tentative plans on a 3-D modeler and he has said that it looks nice but that since I never let him cook the kitchen was really my domain. I appreciate it because I really do love cooking and playing house wife, so next I'm going to make him a "man cave" in one of the spare rooms in the house.

My point is that if he says he "doesn't care," give him a reason to care. If you are doing everything and dominating everything it can really make a man feel emasculated. It might be acting if you walk into a room and sigh and say in a wispy voice "Honey I just don't know what colour to paint this room... I know you like this piece of furniture, light fixture, big painting, could you help me pick some colours that you think would tie it all together?" Then when he makes a choice, don't disregard them, get some paint swatches in the colours he said, shades you like so he can hold them in his hands and tell him "Here are the colours YOU picked out. Which one do you like best?" Let him be dominate and manly and in charge.

You could always put on some lingerie in the colour you want, go into the room to be redone and ask him if the colour looks good in there. He won't soon forget that moment when he walks in and sees the walls each day.

Enough rambling! Best of luck!

point about giving him a hook in taken. otherwise,

Sorry, I like to give a lot of examples.

jdad1

killing is bad

2stepscloser

My husband is the complete opposite. I make a selection and he will either agree or make a different suggestion. If your husband doesn't care, you make the selection and he can't bi$&h about it later!

sijomial

Wait until you start choosing cushions and curtains - then you will discover how much he really, really, really doesn't care....