WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR DECEMBER 2018

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  • okiewoman510
    okiewoman510 Posts: 1,319 Member
    Karen in BC - such cute grand babies. Congrats!

    Okie
  • klanders30
    klanders30 Posts: 2,569 Member
    <3
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,785 Member
    Karen in BC - Beautiful twins! And a good size! What a joy. :D<3

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxx
  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,071 Member
    :)
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,354 Member
    Ttttttt
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,685 Member
    edited December 2018
    I found this amusing because it relates to what I'm studying in my current course ... ERPs and all the related components (CRM, SCM, etc.) :grin:

    BTW - for those who may be familiar with it ... the ERP software we've been learning/using is SAP. Yay!

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    M in Oz
  • bwcetc
    bwcetc Posts: 2,832 Member
    edited December 2018
    Machka9 wrote: »

    For those of you who are carers ... do you ever attend the meetings your local carers organisation puts on?


    Machka in Oz

    No I don't as most of them are geared for the elderly/individuals with dementia related illnesses and my son, of course, doesn't fit that profile. I never chose to attend those that were geared to the disabled community either as I refused to see my son as disabled as he was growing up.

    And my guess is you won't like the meetings given your no-nonsense nature. Support groups and the such often leave me baffled ... I have little tolerance for whiners. Don't get me wrong, I have compassion, but at some point I like the conversation to move on and deal with solutions.

    Beth
  • bwcetc
    bwcetc Posts: 2,832 Member
    Machka ... you could probably teach a class yourself ... just sayin'
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,354 Member
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    This years ornament
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,354 Member
    stats for the day:

    bike ride hm 2 gym- 9.44min, 149mhr, 9.8amph, 1.5mi= 116c
    jog- 30.07min, 139ahr, 149mhr, 6.0-7.0sp, 9.41min mi, 5k= 307c
    ride gym 2 dome- 6.35min, 138mhr, 13.4amph, 1.4mi= 77c
    jog sta 2 wk- 4.49min, 9.21min mi, 149mhr, .5mi= 66c
    jog wk 2 sumn sta- 4.21min, 9.26min mi, 152mhr, .4mi= 60c
    bike ride dome 2 hm- 23.08min, 6.7amph, 152mhr, 2.5mi= 237c

    total cal 863
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,553 Member
    Did the 10 lbs down Better Body Blast DVD today. The plan for tomorrow is to do a Strength Training Band DVD.

    Barbie – that was so nice of the dentist’s receptionist to be concerned about Jake.

    Welcome everyone new!

    Called at 6:10 this morning just to confirm that our washer IS to be delivered today. It is, and they said they’d call shortly before they got here. Update: got it! And I even did a load (even tho I really didn't have to)

    Okie – you ladies are lovely

    Margaret – you are so talented (like Lisa and others). I can’t draw a straight line with a ruler

    Exercised, stopped to see Lynette, then got a chin wax, then to Aldi. I’d forgotten this was Thursday and the new things were on sale. I got 3 dozen eggs (that’s the limit) for 79 cents each

    Sent an email to the lady who does the scheduling of lectors, etc. I also cc’d the deacon (I think he’s in charge of the volunteers). Mentioned that the last time she had me scheduled to lector on a Saturday (my preferred day) was October of 2017

    Allie – I’m sorry about your washer and dryer. Look on the bright side…think of the steps you’ll get in plus the weight training lifting the laundry basket.

    Karen in BC – those boys sure are cuties

    Michele in NC
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,685 Member
    bwcetc wrote: »
    Machka9 wrote: »

    For those of you who are carers ... do you ever attend the meetings your local carers organisation puts on?


    Machka in Oz

    No I don't as most of them are geared for the elderly/individuals with dementia related illnesses and my son, of course, doesn't fit that profile. I never chose to attend those that were geared to the disabled community either as I refused to see my son as disabled as he was growing up.

    And my guess is you won't like the meetings given your no-nonsense nature. Support groups and the such often leave me baffled ... I have little tolerance for whiners. Don't get me wrong, I have compassion, but at some point I like the conversation to move on and deal with solutions.

    Beth

    I missed your edit when I responded before ... and yep! You got it. :grin:

    For example, they were "introducing" the I statement to us. I've trained as a teacher, so this was not new to me, and quite frankly, while it can be somewhat helpful in some situations, it has limited use.

    They gave an example of when you return home from work, and discover that your partner who has been home all day has left the dishes stacked around the sink. So now you've got to deal with them and make dinner. You're upset. So rather than ripping into your partner, you say, "I feel angry and overwhelmed when I see stacks of dishes around the sink. In the future, could you wash them before I get home". This is somehow supposed to make your partner realise the error of their ways in a "nice" way, and in the future they'll do the dishes.

    One of the other participants jumped in a with a bit of reality. We're dealing with people who have difficulties ... hence the reason we're all there. We're carers. The people we care for don't necessarily have logic and reasoning as we would. They may not have empathy and sympathy. They may not have time management skills. So it's all very well and good to use an "I" statement, but it could go right over their heads. Or even something as simple as that could upset them terribly. Or they could mean to help with the dishes but for one reason or another, they can't.

    I didn't get a chance to express it, but my idea, when faced with a situation like that, is to solve the problem. If there are dishes stacked up everywhere every night and it makes you upset ... get a dishwasher, hire someone to come in once a week and do house cleaning, do the dishes with the person in your care right after dinner ... or something.

    I prefer to look at the situation and think "what could I do to make this easier for me".

    And that's why we've got a dishwasher, we've got a freezer so I can stock up on simple frozen meals and frozen veg, I use a grocery delivery service, I've still got carers coming in to spend a bit of time with my husband each day, I make schedules for him and his carers, I do things with him especially if it is the first time he's doing it since the accident (like making dinner, for example), and so on.


    Anyway, if I think about going to one again, I may try to make it clearer what I'm hoping to get from it.


    M in Oz
  • janetr7476
    janetr7476 Posts: 4,001 Member
    We went to our grandson, Trey's ( given name Jackie III after my husband, Jackie Sr., and our oldest son Jackie Jr.) Holiday Concert Band performance last night at the university. It's an hour and forty minutes drive one way. Trey and his fiancee are both music majors and will pursue Master degrees in Music as they both want to teach at the college level eventually. They will both graduate next December 2019, and will be married three days after graduation. I really enjoyed the concert. By the way we filled the car up with gas before heading out at $1.80 a gallon. :)

    I had an eye doctor appointment yesterday morning. I go every six months due to macular degeneration. It is the "dry" type where "wet" is more serious. It is progressing steadily but somewhat slowly. The concern yesterday came when she asked if there was any change in my vision. I told her I have a hard time getting things into focus sometimes and also a problem with my vision being rather dark, similar to cataracts. So after many lights in my eyes and drops and more lights, I have pockets of water on my corneas. I see a specialist Monday to try to determine the cause so we can get any progression stopped. If it continues, I would eventually need a cornea transplant. That doesn't sound at all appealing to me. Have any of you ladies had experience with this?

    Love you my friends,
    Janetr OKC
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,685 Member
    edited December 2018
    Friday ...

    5 km run up and down some hills and to the the beach and back.
    Upper body weights
    Stretches

    And homework ... I stayed home from work today to work on homework, but figured I'd get some exercise in too. I don't like going a day without exercise.

    I've put in 8 hours of exercise so far this month.


    Machka in Oz
  • GodMomKim
    GodMomKim Posts: 3,708 Member
    read to page 11 - been too busy to breathe!
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Lanette: I did not discover yoga until after I retired. My first teacher was wonderful and classes were just a few blocks from my home. She eventually needed a paying job to support her family. I went looking and found a great yoga teacher in a fitness club in the next little town. I’m still there after several years and am happy with my classes. I try to go three times a week, but don’t always make it. Mondays and Friday’s are my favorite classes. :flowerforyou:

    Debrakgoogins: It looks as though you’ve been handing a bad accident by doing good things to help your body heal. Congratulations on your amazing improvement. :star:

    Meg: It is good to hear from you! I am sorry that your husband’s first anniversary in prison led to a meltdown for you. You are an amazingly brave woman. I hope we’ll see a bit more of you here. :heart:

    Barbara & Pip: The rant certainly didn’t offend me. I’m glad you’re both on MFP. :flowerforyou:

    Heather: I’m glad that you were able to have a good visit with your friend who has cancer. You seem happy in your new home, and that is wonderful. :heart:

    (((Allie)))

    Karen in BC: What beautiful babies. Enjoy them! :flowerforyou:

    Barbie: Your holiday crafts are so delightful and I am impressed with the time, effort and skill it took to create them. :heart:

    Rori: I also have Christmas Cacti. I inherited the first from my mom. I’ve bought another and have babies from each of them. They’re currently in bloom and looking lovely—in the guest bathroom. Their usual place is occupied by Christmas decorations for now. I love the basket plant holder in the picture you shared. It is very appealing. :bigsmile:

    Machka: I agree with bwcetc. You are very likely a much better person to teach those classes than the airy-fairy contingent. You’re intelligent, articulate, and have personal experience. My guess is that most of them have no personal experience with the challenges that face the family of a person who has been injured. :noway: I'm sure they've taken loads of classes, but life experience is more valuable than classes in this situation.

    Janet: I am so sorry you’re having vision problems. I hope they can be treated successfully. :flowerforyou:



    I’m ready to head for bed. It has been an up and down sort of day, and I hope that tomorrow is better. We will be seeing my son on Sunday and I look forward to the visit with him. We’ll meet for a meal in Tacoma. He will be in the area because of a work-related trip. I’m glad it brought him close enough for us to share a meal. The chance to share a meal is a great Christmas gift for us.

    Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    edited December 2018
    cariwaldick wrote: »
    Barbie—I gave up coffee five months ago. I too liked the cream and sweetener, and I couldn't find a replacement that worked with the diet. Nothing is sacred when it comes to losing this prison I'm wearing.

    Cari in cold, rainy North Texas

    Brilliant Cari! "this prison I'm wearing." Powerful imagery there.
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    KarenBC Adorable twin boys. <3
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    Janetr So far I don't have macular degeneration, but I have friends/relatives with it. I don't know anyone with pockets of water on their corneas. Keep us posted. (((Hugs)))
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    Barbara CCRCs are expensive but they vary widely. A big commitment.
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    Machka I work in a medical field. I can tell you right now that you do not need to learn how to communicate with health professionals. You are intelligent, straightforward, precise, and well-informed. I am willing to bet cold hard cash that you ask specific, appropriate questions designed to clarify.

    The problem is that not all of the people you are communicating with are as educated or as globally informed as you are. Often people on the front line are well-meaning, but scripted...and limited. A brick wall in disguise. This is not necessarily their fault, and they do take the brunt of the frustration from people who really need to know the stuff that they don't know. It's maddening. That moment when you realize you are listening to a recording you thought was a person. The only thing I can suggest is that you give them permission to admit that they don't know: "It's OK if you don't know the answer. Please tell me if you don't know, so I can make good use of my time."

    Those who give the ludicrous sets of instructions are scripted, too, but my gosh that's obnoxious. I think laughing out loud, as you have already done, is a brilliant response.

    Moving on up the food chain to the people who know the stuff you need to know - some professionals are receptive to discussion/questions/planning/problem solving...and then some of them aren't. And that is the ultimate frustration. A professional who withholds information from patients/advocates is one of the mysteries of life. It would make me murderous if it happened to me.

    I think you are Wonder Woman. I definitely want you in my corner if I get sick. Wowza!
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    I just read what Katla responded to Machka. Much more succinctly said than my response. I agree with every word.
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    Bronners I learned about Bronners from my partner...who grew up in Frankenmuth! Can you imagine growing up in a town like that?
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    Karen in Virginia
  • LisaInAR
    LisaInAR Posts: 2,020 Member
    Margaret - love your paintings, and pleased that painting is helpful for you, too... it honestly is one of those things where I can drown myself in it, both because I'm learning and because I genuinely love color and pattern. Color, especially, makes me happy at a very deep level, far below the level of conscious thought.

    JanetR in OKC     - The idea of transplanting anything is worrisome, but add that to the fact that it's your eyes, and it does sound scary. But apparently, it's actually the most common transplant after blood, as they consider receiving blood from a blood bank a transplant, as well. There are definitely some well-respected surgeons in your area that do them. Hopefully someone here can speak out of personal experience.

    Machka - you are such a down-to-earth, practical person about all of your and your husband's journey through his recovery--you might want to add writing a book to your already crowded schedule, to help people through their own, similar journeys. It sounds like a roadmap that at least gives general direction would have been helpful for you.

    I'm almost giddy with relief at being finally done and dusted with the one job, and ready to start the other on Monday... but ended up on the phone with one of my co-workers last night who is going through similar issues with the same interim CEO. All I could offer was sympathy, and assistance with her resume. She is mentally and emotionally exactly where I was nearly two months ago, and the pain, especially about the injustice of it all, is eerily reminiscent of mine. It makes me wonder if this is a pattern for the CEO--put pressure on everyone and see who cuts and runs. Well, I ran, and am so terribly glad to be out of all the drama-drama. Hoping very much that the new council I'm going to is less... dramatic.

    Off to the races, my chickens... need that second cup of coffee, and once it's light, will go out to the workshop and get picture frames made, both for my daughter's paintings and for a number that I want to put up in the house. We're taking Sunday off, and going to see Mannheim Steamroller this weekend. Can't wait! Have wanted to see them for years. If you're not familiar with them, they do the dramatic, instrumental Christmas music, lots of brass and drums:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mP3sYPyk3Y0

    Love y'all!
    Lisa in AR
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    edited December 2018
    Lisa Mannheim Steamroller! Such a delight.
  • LisaInAR
    LisaInAR Posts: 2,020 Member
    KetoneKaren wrote: »
    Lisa Mannheim Steamroller! Such a delight.

    I know, right! Couldn't be more excited... :D and it's only 20 minutes away in downtown Fort Smith... love it! We also picked up tickets in April for the Celtic Women, who are on tour as well. My husband's always wanted to see them--we listened to their CD until we wore it out on long car journeys. There are a lot of big acts that come through this area.

    Allie - your babies look adorable.

    Lisa in AR - still waiting for daylight...

  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,354 Member
    Uuuuu
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