WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR DECEMBER 2018

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  • KJLaMore
    KJLaMore Posts: 2,850 Member
    Katla- I have never heard of HALT! I will be writing that list down and applying that to my life immediately! Thank you B)
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,719 Member
    edited December 2018
    Found the spoiler setup!!

    Something troubling happened yesterday. We have "new" neighbors "Jane" and DH who moved up from California early this year. They are nice and friendly, and I knew the gal has major back problems from some type of accident stemming from early 2000's. (I don't know the details). She mentioned she's in the process of getting her disability claim case relocated to WA. Here's the story if you want to read it:
    About a month ago, a gal representing the insurance company handling Jane's case came to the door, doing an update/review on Jane. I answered a few of her questions as best I could about Jane's mobility, and told her Jane has also often commented on her pain and limited activity on Facebook to take myself out of the middle. As she prepared to leave, we saw Jane drive in and carry a couple small bags into the house which answered investigator's questions about Jane's ability to drive and carry light items.

    The investigator kept going around the neighborhood. I didn't feel it was necessary to let Jane know as I felt it was routine since the claim process was reassigned to a WA provider, plus I didn't want her to worry since my answers supported her claims of disability.

    Well, yesterday another neighbor stopped at Jane's house and filled her in that an investigator had been by. Jane emailed me, in a panic, wondered if I spoke with the gal. I replied that I had, and Jane reprimanded me for telling the gal information which could be construed as being "private" and that I should have refused to speak to her and told her to speak to Jane instead.

    So I picked up the phone and called Jane, told her in my experience, by refusing to speak with someone that has legitimate purpose like that, it sends up a red flag. If investigators want to find out information, they will, and a person doesn't want to appear uncooperative because who knows what else they'll uncover. I told her not to worry since she wasn't observed doing cartwheels or changing a tire.

    Jane cooled off, and said she'd contact her attorney in CA, that she needed a shot in her back which she would normally get every 3 months and hadn't had one since January.

    Have any of you ever dealt with insurance investigators or the process of moving disability claims from one state to another?

    I think this also serves as a "heads up" about what we post on Facebook. I used to rely on it and other social media when I assisted with internal investigations and prospective employee background checks at my 911 job.

    I am praying Jane's case file gets set up quickly and she can continue with the shots she needs.
    Lanette
    SW WA State
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,719 Member
    Katla - thank you for sharing the HALT list. I'm trying to think of a way to add "B" for boredom. Maybe B'HALT for someone like me who binge eats out of boredom?

    Enjoy your dinner with niece and her son, and those Christmas Ships! You have a front-row seat!!

    Kelly - "transitioning" sounds like an appropriate term for your MIL. Seems like our bodies know when we are done on this plane and start their shut-down process. I agree, it's a chance for everyone to stop and say good-byes. When my parents passed, we had the opportunity to meet up with friends and relatives and share good memories with the person present the room. I hope the last words my mom heard were of her kids laughing..... we sure tried. o:)<3

    Lanette
    SW WA State
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,391 Member
    KJLaMore wrote: »
    LOL I was in such a hurry this morning, I goofed. Karen VA- Love how big Phoenix is! He definitely looks big sitting on his grandmere's lap. <3 Janet- Matthew <3<3<3 What a doll baby!
    Tracey- You and your hubby do such a nice job on those ornaments! Beautiful! I wish hubby and I had a hobby we shared. Not yet, though. Maybe in the future. We DO organize our pill boxes together! Romantic, huh?
    Pip- Enjoy your last 5k of 2018. Is this the one you do every year (or at least the past couple of years?) Get good pics of all of the runner costumes!
    Heather- So happy that you have the benefit of having one on one time with your grands! AND the option of "just a quick visit" with them. lol I expect that by the end of January, everything in your house will be in it's place and easy for DH to find. Tim has been driving me a bit crazy with his forgetfulness, due to his meds. If I have to show him where the batteries are stored one more time I am going to go through the roof!
    Yvonne- My father passed away eight months after my mother died. My sibs and I are positive that he was around long enough to make sure we (the kids) were all okay, then he went up to my grandmother's cabin (his mom) and stocked up her firewood and got her ready for the winter. He had a heart dissection while up there and never recovered from it. Geez, that was a rough year. The Bush funerals this year, brought that all home. A hard year for that family, but there is something "sweet" about a long married couple passing so close together.

    My mother in law is not doing well. She is "transitioning". I really hate that word. It is such a confusing and misleading word; but in this case we are pretty sure she won't be with us much longer. She is sleeping almost all of the time. Maybe awake 10-15 minutes a day. In the past week she consumed only about 500 calories. She no longer gets out of bed. I think Tim is in a bit of denial. Granted he has been in some serious pain due to his RA, plus he pulled something in his back; but I have offered to drive him over one evening, so has his brother and sister in law. I think he is afraid to go. I really hope he gets over this soon because if he misses his chance to be with her before she goes it will eat him up for a long time. (Been there, done that)

    Didn't hear a word from the doc's office as far as scheduling a consultation about ultrasound results. I guess I will call them on Monday.

    Well, Trentin is here and bouncing off the walls; I better get him outside for a while. No snow to shovel, so we will go for a walk and or work on burning some branches in the back yard. ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)

    Yes it is, I’ve been doing all of them since I have been with kirby, so this is the 22nd year
  • 1948Peachy
    1948Peachy Posts: 1,511 Member
    Kelly ~ Your MnL's situation just makes me want to tear up. So sad! My MnL & FnL both passed away the same night. He had a heart attack and then she was so upset she had one too. It was very hard and unexpected for us, but in a way, we have always felt that it was wonderful that neither went through a long time of suffering.

    Lanette ~ I do not know any of my neighbors well enough to answer any questions about them. I hope your neighbor is able to get the help she needs.

    Cold & Wet in GA today,

    Carol
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Lanette: I almost never post on facebook anymore for the very reason you are considering on making a change. I am appalled that MFP is using them in any way, but it appears that is the case. Did facebook buy the company? Just wondering.

    Katla
  • teklawa1
    teklawa1 Posts: 678 Member
    edited December 2018
    Katla, like the HALT information. I’ll make use of it.
    Thanks
    Betsy in NW WA
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    edited December 2018
    Lanette If someone is applying for a job that requires a special government clearance & I am contacted by a federal or state investigator, I answer all the questions they ask as well as I can, after I confirm with the acquaintance that it's legitimate.

    If I'm approached by an insurance investigator, I advise the investigator that I will be glad to answer their questions after I have given my friend or neighbor a courtesy call. I get the name of the insurance company, the name of the investigator, and verify what their motivation is; are they a Workman's Compensation carrier, are they a privately hired company, are they a Disability company...just who are they? I want to know exactly who I am talking to & what their motivation is before I agree to answer questions. Maybe I am just an old cynic, or overly cautious. I work in a field where privacy and confidentiality are paramount.

    Kelly Those are some tough stories about the deaths of your parents and now your mother-in-law. I feel sad for you and Tim.

    I miss my mother.

    Karen in Virginia
  • 1948Peachy
    1948Peachy Posts: 1,511 Member
    Pip what an elegant place....Enjoy and Good Luck on your run!
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,813 Member
    NICE, Pip. B)

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxx
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,719 Member
    edited December 2018
    Katla - I don't think MFP is affiliated with Facebook. The amount of info Facebook gathers on people and can reveal to a shrewd user is astounding. If there was a good alternative I'd use it in a heartbeat and delete my Facebook account. I have friends who have done that and use Instagram which I'm not familiar with. I know Twitter has a messaging service I use sometimes.... very few people share ANY personal information. Good for messaging but not looking up your old classmates to invite to the next reunion or seeing pix of the grandkids.

    I know MFP and several other apps have the "sign in with Facebook" and I don't know what that's all about and refuse to do anyhow. Very confusing to me.

    Pip - why don't you win the lotto and move into that hotel permanently and invite your friends up for the weekend? LOL. Seriously, good luck in that race tomorrow. I think weatherman is looking for lots of rain so you won't get overheated.

    Karen in VA - very good points on investigators. I know when I was working, no information was given out without a release both from the potential employee or a formal request from the agency seeking information listing the specifics you mention. When I applied for jobs, I would make people aware in case they were contacted so it wouldn't come as a surprise to them.

    I'm not sure if folks on disability sign a release as well enabling the agency (state or private insurance) to verify both medical and other information from time to time. Maybe it depends on the agency. Would be good to know and ask an investigator to see a copy if it's available.

    Lanette
    SW WA State
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,391 Member
    lhscapil wrote: »
    Katla - I don't think MFP is affiliated with Facebook. The amount of info Facebook gathers on people and can reveal to a shrewd user is astounding. If there was a good alternative I'd use it in a heartbeat and delete my Facebook account. I have friends who have done that and use Instagram which I'm not familiar with. I know Twitter has a messaging service I use sometimes.... very few people share ANY personal information. Good for messaging but not looking up your old classmates to invite to the next reunion or seeing pix of the grandkids.

    Pip - why don't you win the lotto and move into that hotel permanently and invite your friends up for the weekend? LOL. Seriously, good luck in that race tomorrow. I think weatherman is looking for lots of rain so you won't get overheated.

    Karen in VA - very good points on investigators. I know when I was working, no information was given out without a release both from the potential employee or a formal request from the agency seeking information listing the specifics you mention. When I applied for jobs, I would make people aware in case they were contacted so it wouldn't come as a surprise to them.

    I'm not sure if folks on disability sign a release as well enabling the agency (state or private insurance) to verify both medical and other information from time to time. Maybe it depends on the agency. Would be good to know and ask an investigator to see a copy if it's available.

    Lanette
    SW WA State

    Yeah it’s supposed to rain tomorrow, oh welll, hotel is really close.
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,391 Member
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    Pike place bar and grill
  • OregonMother
    OregonMother Posts: 1,677 Member
    teklawa1 wrote: »
    Love the pictures of babies and kids and different Christmas things. Enjoying all the sharing. Must head out for my morning walk. It’s a bit warmer this morning but still need to bundle up.

    Logged food every day this week. It keeps me honest. I wasn’t aware how much my snacks were adding calories. Ha!

    Betsy in NW Washington

    Logging does make a difference in our awareness. I learned that I was drinking way too many calories in my lattes and chai.

    Felicia
    Willamette Valley, Oregon
  • klanders30
    klanders30 Posts: 2,569 Member
    Barbie love it!
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,731 Member
    KJLaMore wrote: »
    My mother in law is not doing well. She is "transitioning". I really hate that word. It is such a confusing and misleading word; but in this case we are pretty sure she won't be with us much longer. She is sleeping almost all of the time. Maybe awake 10-15 minutes a day. In the past week she consumed only about 500 calories. She no longer gets out of bed. I think Tim is in a bit of denial. Granted he has been in some serious pain due to his RA, plus he pulled something in his back; but I have offered to drive him over one evening, so has his brother and sister in law. I think he is afraid to go. I really hope he gets over this soon because if he misses his chance to be with her before she goes it will eat him up for a long time. (Been there, done that)

    I'm sorry to hear that.

    That's exactly where my grandmother is right now ... she's in long-term care at the hospital, sleeping almost all the time, can't get out of bed, hardly eating, and every day I figure I'll get an email from my mother ....

    I wish I could go, but since I can't, I keep sending my love to her via my mother.


    M in Oz



  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,731 Member
    Katla49 wrote: »
    Lanette: I almost never post on facebook anymore for the very reason you are considering on making a change. I am appalled that MFP is using them in any way, but it appears that is the case. Did facebook buy the company? Just wondering.

    Katla

    Almost all sites are connected to Facebook in some way.

    And I think MFP is still owned by Under Armour. I doubt FB would buy it.
  • Poerava14
    Poerava14 Posts: 1,103 Member
    Lanette: Instagram was bought by FB a couple years ago. I lurk on FB, but on Instagram I have a profile set up for my cat #MarsLionBoy. Ironically, today DH and I went to a cat convention, and met some of the superstar cats I have been following on IG. There is one with 1.9 million followers, but my favorite was Baloo, the cat half of a dog and cat team that go adventuring together all over Colorado. As someone who struggles to take just one good picture of one little furball, I'm in awe of the photos they get of Henry the Husky and Baloo the kitty together in nature. https://ourwildtails.com/ With thousands of people and cats strolling by their booth, Baloo remained calm, mellow and open to strangers petting him.

    The entire convention was a hoot! And, the proceeds benefit 9 cat rescue agencies. I bought some unique items for Christmas gifts, and of course, for Mars! DH was hesitant to go, but thoroughly enjoyed it. Can't wait for next year.

    Rori
    Borderline Crazy Cat Lady B)
    Colorado Foothillls
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,731 Member
    Snowflake1968 wrote: »
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    Very nice ... I especially like the one with the little house. :)

  • Snowflake1968
    Snowflake1968 Posts: 6,993 Member
    Machka9 wrote: »
    Snowflake1968 wrote: »
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    Very nice ... I especially like the one with the little house. :)

    Thank you it’s my favourite, I’m hoping it doesn’t sell.
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,731 Member
    auntiebk wrote: »
    Machka trying to imagine a tactful way to help the bright young thing to understand that how she feels is fine for her but would be extremely uncomfortable for your DH. How on earth does one teach empathy? SMH. Hope the back-to-work organization will really listen to your DH's MD's recommendation and stop trying to push him into make-work.

    They do have to listen to the specialist Dr. I can tell she doesn't want to, but it does silence her when I say, firmly, "We will wait until he has his next appointment" or "According to the medical certificate, he is to do NO work until ..."

    The thing is, if she suggests something that causes him harm, she'll be in all sorts of trouble.

    And one of the problems is that if you spend a couple hours with him, he might not seem that bad.

    He limps a bit, but that doesn't seem too bad ... unless you know that he's limping because he's got next to no feeling in his left leg because he's got 2 herniated discs in his back which may need surgery.
    He's got limited movement and some weakness in his right arm/shoulder ... but you wouldn't notice that just talking to him.
    He's got vestibular disorder, but that only manifests itself in certain circumstances (such as looking up or down), so it might not present itself at all during the visit.
    And sure, his choice of words can be a little odd, or he'll use a pronoun or a description instead of naming something ... but you might not realise that he's got aphasia.
    Then you might go away thinking that he's made an almost 100% recovery ... and not realise that he's forgotten 1/3 of the conversation about an hour after you walked out.


    So I'm sure she's a bit puzzled about why he's not allowed to go back to work yet.


    M in Oz
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,731 Member
    TerriRichardson112 wrote: »
    M in Oz: I had to do a double take when I saw your photos. Your coast looks very like the area where I live in Northern Ireland in summer.

    :)

    Tasmania reminds me a little of both Vancouver Island and Hokkaido (Japan) too. So maybe it's because they're all islands with a similar sort of climate. :)


    M in Oz

  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,564 Member
    Did a strength training DVD with bands and then a Circuits in 6 DVD. The plan for tomorrow is to do the Body By Bethany DVD

    Beth – good strategy wearing too tight pants to remind yourself not to overeat. I’ve done that, too.

    Allie – congrats on the sale of the house. Finally! I’m so sorry about your daughter, hope things work out for her

    Karen in VA – OK, can I squeeze Olivia and Phoenix now?????? Thanks for sharing the pics

    Yvonne – I remember when I took a belly dance class. Will this be your first? How I wish they had it around here at a time that would work for me. One of the things I was very impressed with is that the women were VERY comfortable with their bodies. And let me tell you, there were some BIG ladies in that class. Yet, they didn’t have a problem wearing the skimpy tops. Another thing that impressed me was the comradery. Everyone really and truly cared about one another

    Lisa – The Newcomers directory is in Wordpress. I’m like you, I’d learn enough just to get me in trouble. I really wish we could find someone who was knowledgeable about programming and Wordpress. This other guy really got the directory screwed up (at least to me, lots of things don’t make any sense at all). I many times prefer to make my own food, too, for the exact same reasons you state – I know what’s in it (and what’s not like preservatives) plus I can monitor the sodium. It’s just interesting that now that I modify the sodium to be less, I am more and more sensitive to it when I go out.

    Shadow, Bonnie and Clyde were just staring at each other last night. Shadow moved around. But then Bonnie and her got into it, so I broke it up. Clyde just walked away. Can’t wait until Shadow finally figures out that she just needs to walk on the other side of the room to get past our cats. She so badly wants to explore, but she doesn’t like the cats being there.

    KJ – Joaquin is just screaming for a hug, it’s he?????? And I’d be happy to oblige. What a lady killer he’s going to be when he gets a little older!

    Heather – I hear ya about how men just don’t feel urgency. Here it is, one week before we have our Christmas, and Vince is still decorating, which means that I have to wait to vacuum. I’ve tried cleaning as much as I can. He doesn’t seem to be concerned about the gifts, yet it’s him who is concerned about there being lots and lots (which I think is stupid). It’s me who is saying “we need to make a list of what we need” “let’s decorate outside today” “why not put the Christmas fence up right after we take down the Halloween fence”. There are other things he seems to want to do so things get pushed back, and then when push comes to shove, it’s “well, we’re going to have to scale back” – except on the presents. Frustrates me. I try to have things that I can prepare ahead of time and then freeze. But I can’t do that with everything. Now Jess just called to say that she doesn’t have any winter clothes, they’re all in storage. I guess I can forgive her, at her age thinking ahead isn’t exactly high on the priority list. But now we’ll need to go to the storage unit, find the box, open it and possibly bring it back.

    KJ – So sorry about your MIL

    Lanette – I was wondering why boredom wasn’t in the HALT. I know that’s my problem. I never sign in anywhere with facebook. If they want me to sign in, then I will. But not with facebook.

    Pip – beautiful room

    Barbie – you look so good

    Went to go see TSO. You know, after their founder, Paul O’Neill, passed, I was afraid that they’d have a hard time keeping up with what the band usually did. Boy, I’m impressed. Lots of new and innovative pyro, lasers, special effects, etc. Had a good time. Stopped at this place for dinner because Ken said that he needed something to eat to take his pain meds. Lynette said she thought he wanted to go home. I think in reality SHE wanted to go home “before the snow came”. I predict that we don’t get much if any at all mainly because people are prepared. Supposedly it starts tomorrow or late tonight. I am planning to make a cake for Christmas and I’m going to try making a small apple pie to see if what I’m thinking is the problem it being too juicy can be solved. Vince thinks Lynette has gained more weight. To me, you can't tell. It's really not the fact that she eats a lot, it's more WHAT she eats. Like I saw her at the buffet. I had spinach, tomatoes, onions, chicken (grilled) on mine. She immediately went to the mac & cheese.

    Michele in NC
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    Michele Trans-Siberian Orchestra. I've seen them once. I sat through the whole concert only because it was a gift to my step-daughter & her husband. Phenomenal special effects...but way too intense for me. And waaaaaay too loud. I was really glad when it was over. It was an assault on my senses, LOL! I'm a delicate flower.

    Karen in Virginia
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    edited December 2018
    Photo of my friend holding one of our little dogs today...
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    My friend is a superb amateur photographer, among other accomplishments. Here is one she took of the Taj Mahal:
    https://www.annfulcherphotography.com/Wildlife/India-2018/i-B3qqJBQ/A
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