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Have you been both overweight and underweight?



  • an0393naan0393na Posts: 840Member Member Posts: 840Member Member
    Never been underweight, probably never will be
  • Ed_ZillaEd_Zilla Posts: 207Member Member Posts: 207Member Member
    In high school I swam on a swimming team. I was the fastest swimmer on the team to never go to state...or the slowest state meet swimmer there ever was. I weighed 135 lbs. No skinny shaming because I was in the best shape of my life.

    20 years later, at 250 lbs...I heard what you would have expected to hear.

    When I lost 75 pounds in 18 months, using diet (moderation) and exercise (it'll never catch on), and was in the 2nd best shape of my life, I did hear skinny shaming: You look gaunt. You need to beef up. You don't look well...etc. All of this from my heavy friends.

    At the same time my gym buds and thin friends were very supportive: Amazing transformation. You look great. Wow - how did you do it? I bet you feel great! How much did you lose!? etc.
  • fishgutzyfishgutzy Posts: 2,824Member Member Posts: 2,824Member Member
    Not simultaneously.
    But I got down to 155# when I was bulimic. I still thought I was fat even though everyone around me saw a skinny person.

  • BuffMom84BuffMom84 Posts: 162Member Member Posts: 162Member Member
    I was underweight when I was in high school. All my friends would always comment on how skinny I was, they'd roll their eyes and say they wished they were "that skinny". After having two kids, my highest weight was about 160 (I'm 5'3"). No one ever said anything about my weight. When I went to the doctor's office, I weighed in at 163 because of clothes and shoes. So I was about 25 pounds overweight but the doctor said nothing of it. I was so surprised that I went home, logged back onto this website and started tracking everything I ate! Maybe it's more common (in American society at least) to be shamed for being too skinny than being somewhat overweight?
  • Cassandraw3Cassandraw3 Posts: 938Member, Premium Member Posts: 938Member, Premium Member
    I have spent most of my life overweight. The lowest I have been was 120 lbs at 5'4", which isn't technically underweight, but for my build it was very small (I had to wear a belt with size 0 pants). I did get made fun of in middle school for being on the heavier side, but I went to a school which had a bullying problem. Other than that, the only other comments really just came from my mother. Most of her comments on my weight were due to her own insecurities, both overweight and at a lower weight. At one point she accused me of being anorexic (which I was not). For me, comments on being overweight were more hurtful because I was also insecure about my own body at higher weights.

    On the other side of this, I had a friend who is underweight. She was born with an autoimmune disease and finds it incredibly difficult to gain weight. People often commented on her weight and how she should gain more weight, without knowing her details. She would often find it hurtful that people would comment on it.

    As far as what is worse, this will be incredibly individual and will depend on that persons history with their weight. Moral of the story, unless you are the persons doctor, mind your business about everyone else's weight. You don't know what they are going through.
  • Cassandraw3Cassandraw3 Posts: 938Member, Premium Member Posts: 938Member, Premium Member
    smolmaus wrote: »

    On the other side of this, I had a friend who is underweight. She was born with an autoimmune disease and finds it incredibly difficult to gain weight. People often commented on her weight and how she should gain more weight, without knowing her details. She would often find it hurtful that people would comment on it.

    Ceoliac? Because that's me too. As a child I couldn't gain weight if I tried. I used to eat as much as the grown men in the family and be hungry in 90 minutes so my hunger and fullness signals are very very broken.

    Once I was diagnosed and puberty hit I stopped getting the "look at you, you're so skinny" comments which felt like praise since all the women in my family just used to talk about how fat they were. Once that stopped, even though I was at probably a perfect weight, still slim, it made me feel fat, like I used to get praise and now I didn't so I must have gotten too fat. I've had disordered, weird eating habits my whole life basically but nothing dangerous.

    I got to ~150lb (overweight, I'm 5'2") due to depression, comfort eating and alcohol about 6 years ago. Lost that weight down to a slim but healthy 110-115lb and maintained for about 2 years, then went through a breakup, started using weight loss, very strict calorie restriction and the gym to distract myself, and eventually got to 97lb. Could see ribs everywhere, I had no idea I had so many ribs. I was getting the "oh you're so skinny" comments again but they were less positive now! Obviously that wasn't sustainable and eventually the dam broke and I've been struggling to contain a binge eating problem since June.

    That's a lot of words lol

    Hers is an issue with her lungs. I am not quite exactly sure of the details, but she regularly goes to specialists and is in and out of the hospital fairly frequently and has been her whole life. I just know she would eat all the time (college roommate, I saw how much she actually ate) and never gain weight. I believe she was also about 5'1"-5'2" and usually weighed between 90-100 lbs.

    It is unfortunate we are in such a weight obsessed world. People don't realize how harmful their comments can be, as innocent as the intention is. I am in a constant internal struggle with food. I was raised in a house where you eat what you want until you are full and don't waste food. I was never taught moderation or balance and struggle with that now as an adult and I know better.

    ETA: I feel ya on the binge eating struggle. I am struggling with it too right now.
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  • glassyoglassyo Posts: 3,632Member Member Posts: 3,632Member Member
    I'd been overweight most of my life but unintentionally became underweight for a while when sliding into maintenance and *that's* when the weight started to really come off.

    I blame my ulcerative colitis for that, tho.

    I did get some comments. One was from one of our nurse client's who asked if I was sick. My boss, his girl friend at the time, and their neighbor/our client told me I should eat a burrito.

    Truthfully, since I'd been overweight for so long, I took all that as a compliment. :)
  • amorfati601070amorfati601070 Posts: 1,019Member Member Posts: 1,019Member Member
    Too skinny when I weighed like 56kg. I’m 180cm tall btw...they were probably right.
  • OneRatGirlOneRatGirl Posts: 121Member Member Posts: 121Member Member
    I've only been fat.

    But considering the average person in the USA and UK are now overweight, I think people have lost any idea of what healthy is. I know in my family I'll get comments about being too thin while being obese. So the fact skinny people, regardless of healthy or unhealthy weight get shamed too, makes sense.

    I've definitely seen slim friends shamed for it. Struggle to get a PCOS diagnosis believed because "only fat people get PCOS" (a myth btw), I've made a conscious effort to not make the standard jokes as it can be a big issue. And with the whole "real women have curves" things, being rude about slim women, those without bigger hips etc., has become annoyingly acceptable, possibly moreso than fat shaming.

    There's a couple of celebrities who every story is they're too fat or too thin, proving that often in current society, there really is no winning.
  • dippy_duckdippy_duck Posts: 18Member Member Posts: 18Member Member
    I have been both overweight and underweight. I found that people are much quicker to comment if you are underweight- it must be more socially acceptable to mention?
    Both of my weights were self inflicted so at both ends of the scale I knew I had a problem with food. In that sense it wasn’t really offensive when people bought it up because i knew they were trying to help me.

    People definitely pity you more when you’re underweight and feel sorry for you. I think that makes them kinder. Being overweight is so frowned upon that they aren’t as kind at that end of the scale. There’s definitely more judgement for being overweight compared to being underweight.
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