Things people say when you lose weight

SteveStedge1

1BlueAurora wrote: »

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Weirdest: "You've lost weight. Is that intentional?"

Believe it or not I've had the same one and I don't know why it bothered me so much. I am certainly not starving and I'm not a little dude. Do I look like I'm dying of some terrible disease I'm pretty sure I don't .. I guess in my town men being in shape is a pretty rare thing.

Dianedoessmiles1

"do you have cancer?" Not sure if they hoping yes or not. LOL

AnnPT77

Speaking as someone who's actually had cancer, think this through: Someone tells you how great you look having lost weight, and you tell them that actually, you have cancer. No one is going to feel good, not even a little good, on either side of that conversation.

I can completely see why no one wants to make that mistake.

(Yes, one doesn't necessarily look as sick as you would think, when they have cancer. Some do, some don't. Trust me on this.)

Hollis300

AnnPT77, thank you for the thoughtful response, reminding people to consider both sides of this comment. I'm also glad your health is better.

I'm the spouse of a man who dealt with cancer for years and also hiked every day and looked fit most of the time. A few years ago, I lost 35 pounds with the help of MFP and a neighbor asked me if I was seriously ill -- and it really rattled me. I said no, I'd been obese and lost the weight to be healthier.

I believe one reason people think illness when they see someone undergo major weight loss is because so many are obese today, which makes it seem normal.

We can't control what other people say, not most of the time.

My weight loss gave me "turkey neck" which I really don't like. Plus now I get called "Miss ---" (as in Miss Annie, Miss Betty, Miss Linda, etc.) instead of my real name. It makes me furious. The Miss Somebody is how people address old women in my area. I tell people not to call me that and to call me by my real name, but it's a losing battle.

Chef_Barbell

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Some lady at the gym whom I see semi regularly and say hi to in the locker room, one day decided to say, "You're lucky that you lost your boobs with your weight, I'm stuck with these *gesturing to her chest* no matter what"... I looked at her up and down, laughed and walked out, leaving a silent protein fart in my wake... @AnnPT77 has it right... no one should live rent free in your head but she was lucky I can't afford a felony right now :laugh:

Your right no one should live in your head I'm sorry you were offended by that remark, yet have you thought of just how uncomfortable it is to have breasts that are simply too large, as we age they cause all kinds of back problems, we can never buy a dress without altering it. Believe me it is no fun to wear a size 10 bottom and a size 16 top.

Yet she didn't need to comment to me about it with a comparison about mine... so eff off with that 🙄

Having been there, ultimately with size K that hung to my waistline, she is probably as absorbed in her boobs as you might be with your weight.

Mine dictated how I stood (scoliosis from hunching trying to hide them after seeing a dear friend felt up in 6th grade), feeling like everyone was staring (they often were), having male customers who would “visit my boobs” as a coworker put it, feeling like my nipples were laser pointers. Going out the door with that baggage was a trial, and has affected my social skills over the years.

Getting a reduction was the greatest thing ever, even better than the weight loss.

I now just throw on last nights pajamas after an aquafit class, and leave the gym commando. I does not care about the nipplrs, and in fact am inspired by some idiot thing I read about “Free the Nipples”.

I still have dents and dark marks on my belly from where my boobs rested all those years, even following substantial weight loss.

We all take things people say as based on our own perception, but I can guarantee you that woman’s boobs are a burden to her for her to say something like that.

I don’t think she meant harm, and I know exactly where she was coming from. Longing for less.

Hugs to everyone involved.

It saddens me that it took major changes like weight loss and surgery to me to make myself happy with my body, but damn, am I happy to be here. Finally. Six decades later.

The lady didn't even have big boobs... so there's that. ✌️