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Yay for Menopause

krael65krael65 Posts: 228Member Member Posts: 228Member Member
I'm 54 years old. I'm solidly in perimenopause. I've been 11 months without a period - so, 1 month away from official, full-on menopause.

(Interestingly, my 12 year old twins just started menses last month. But I digress! :) )

I've been lamenting the fading of youth: the feeling of being invisible.... of hating my fuller mid-section.... struggling to find (or alter) jeans to fit my larger waist that don't bag in the hips & legs.... the vigilance to maintain or increase my NEAT so as to maintain my weight.... getting off my a$$ to lift the weights when all I wanna do is binge-watch Netflix on the treddy... Of being the grandmother-aged mother of middle school girls. (Seriously. Them other mom's musta birthed when they were 12! And don't get me started on the teachers that look like they're students - amiright?!)

...and where did THAT hair come from?!

I could go on.

However...

It just occurred to me. I'm not "afflicted" with menopause. Oh no. I've reached a wonderful milestone!

I'm 54 years old. I'm pretty darned healthy overall. I've maintained my weight for 3 years now, and am at a lower weight than I was as a teenager. I haven't had an acne outbreak in over a year! (used to suffer major acne issues). I DON'T HAVE A PERIOD ANYMORE. No more "feminine products" or unfortunate accidents! (Now my daughters' bailiwick ;) ) And best of all, I don't have to give a fork what I wear, do, or say - as long as I'm not hurting anybody in the process! You're embarrassed by mommy's singing in public? Too bad!

Peace out.
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  • krael65krael65 Posts: 228Member Member Posts: 228Member Member
    Aw, sending you good vibes, @tcunbeliever. Hormones can be such a *kitten*!
  • lalalacroixlalalacroix Posts: 772Member Member Posts: 772Member Member
    You have a really great outlook!! I've been in peri for about 3 years now. And everytime I get excited because I haven't had a period in months, boom - period from hell. I cannot wait for this to be over.

    Otoh, these hot flashes are a nightmare. I'm noticing also kinds of trends with them as well. I get a hot flash when there's stress and I get one when my husband walks into the room. WTH? And my black cohosh seems to be less effective than the last time.

    Anyways, I also have a 12 year old daughter who will get her period anytime now. It's so interesting for her to be moving into this phase while I'm moving out of it.

    I think one thing we can all be excited about is the day we no longer bleed several days each month. Hooray for menopause!
  • krael65krael65 Posts: 228Member Member Posts: 228Member Member
    @lalalacroix - I went through similar. 4 months w/o a period, then start back up again for several months. This happened a few times over the course of 3 years. But this time I think it's going to stick!

    Fortunately for me, I've yet to have any significant hot flashes. But I can be moody AF at times :). It is interesting to have daughters just beginning while I'm ending this phase. My poor husband!
  • MostlyWaterMostlyWater Posts: 4,082Member Member Posts: 4,082Member Member
    I'm with you - 54 years old here too. Life is good!
  • krael65krael65 Posts: 228Member Member Posts: 228Member Member
    @MostlyWater - life IS good! :)

    @ethelsmommy - Yeah, my husband's look is more "horrified". Perhaps he'll work his way up to "faraway"... once he accepts that this is really happening!
  • JeanCricketJeanCricket Posts: 156Member Member Posts: 156Member Member
    I do NOT miss those painful, inconvenient periods AT ALL!! I do get hot flashes, but I’ll take them anytime over periods :)

    Thanks for the great post!!! Love your perspective.... now what to do about the vag dryness?????
  • michellewale1977michellewale1977 Posts: 12Member Member Posts: 12Member Member
    I’m 41 and have gone through the menopause due to ovarian cancer. I feel better than I have in years! No more tampons, no worries about birth control (I’m married to my childhood sweetheart and we’re both faithful btw) and now hrt has stopped the hot flushes I feel great. Roll on the next chapter of my life 😊
  • _BlahBlah_BlackSheep__BlahBlah_BlackSheep_ Posts: 2,096Member Member Posts: 2,096Member Member
    I'm gonna need someone to send me a postcard or something to give me a heads up that menopause is arriving. I had a uterine ablation 4+ years ago, so I don't get periods anymore. Are hot flashes going to be the first sign? Or something else? I'm 46, so I'm thinking it's not too many years away at this point.
  • colorfulcoquettecolorfulcoquette Posts: 92Member Member Posts: 92Member Member
    I'm gonna need someone to send me a postcard or something to give me a heads up that menopause is arriving. I had a uterine ablation 4+ years ago, so I don't get periods anymore. Are hot flashes going to be the first sign? Or something else? I'm 46, so I'm thinking it's not too many years away at this point.

    I wonder about this too as I have a Mirena IUD and haven't had a period for 3 years. I'm 44 and I still have several more years with the device in place so I feel there's a decent chance of it starting during this time.
  • AnnPT77AnnPT77 Posts: 11,845Member Member Posts: 11,845Member Member
    I'm gonna need someone to send me a postcard or something to give me a heads up that menopause is arriving. I had a uterine ablation 4+ years ago, so I don't get periods anymore. Are hot flashes going to be the first sign? Or something else? I'm 46, so I'm thinking it's not too many years away at this point.

    Maybe ask if your doctor will run the blood tests for it once in a while?
  • spiriteagle99spiriteagle99 Posts: 2,329Member Member Posts: 2,329Member Member
    My last three years I would bleed for one day a year, for about an hour or less. I finally finished at 52. Hot flashes aren't inevitable. I never really had them. At best I'd get an occasional warm flash, where I'd ask, "Is it warm in here?" and then I'd go on with what I was doing and forget about it. My mother also had an easy menopause so I wasn't surprised.
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