What’s a red flag for you?

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  • Cutemesoon
    Cutemesoon Posts: 2,646 Member
    ghudson92 wrote: »
    Cutemesoon wrote: »
    ghudson92 wrote: »
    This has been one of my favourite threads to read through. For me, when ready to get back out there, I will certainly watch out for:
    1) An unwillingness to accept responsibility or to apologise.
    2) Any attempts to isolate me from friends and family.
    3) Anger issues.
    4) Lack of empathy.

    5) Expecting me to put in all of the effort.
    6) Disappears without an explanation.
    7) Demands updates on where I am and who I'm with every half hour - and getting unnecessarily angry if it doesn't happen.
    8) Wants to be top priority but I'm not even in their top 5 🤷‍♀️
    9) Makes up things I supposedly did in the past and holds them against me.
    10) Accuses me of being manipulative or controlling when my point of view is different to theirs.

    Excellent observations! I used to deal with someone who has the traits in bold. It was HORRIBLE!

    Not fun to deal with! Glad you got away from that person

    So am I! He was incorrigible. 😤
  • happimess01
    happimess01 Posts: 9,074 Member
    Having too many red flags ;)
  • lx1x
    lx1x Posts: 38,330 Member
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  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    lx1x wrote: »
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    I like her hat.

    I could overlook a red flag for a girl wearing a hat like that.
  • lx1x
    lx1x Posts: 38,330 Member
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    lx1x wrote: »
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    I like her hat.

    I could overlook a red flag for a girl wearing a hat like that.

    How about the gas mask she wearing? Lol
  • honeybee__12
    honeybee__12 Posts: 15,688 Member
    “Ah,,,, let me call you because my phone is screwy and I normally don’t hear it.”
  • bourbon_n_barbells
    bourbon_n_barbells Posts: 425 Member
    seems angry
  • s131951
    s131951 Posts: 3,776 Member
    Is a misogynistic pompous *kitten* who thinks when women don't meet his ridiculous standards of a 50's housewife it's a personality flaw.

    For a moment I thought this was a 'the person above you. . ' thread. Whew.
  • Reckoner68
    Reckoner68 Posts: 2,139 Member
    s131951 wrote: »
    Is a misogynistic pompous *kitten* who thinks when women don't meet his ridiculous standards of a 50's housewife it's a personality flaw.

    For a moment I thought this was a 'the person above you. . ' thread. Whew.

    The criteria has been laid out, now it could be *any* of us!!!! That's actually a good point about this thread, come to think of it...I could turn myself into the most unwanted person in the entire world of internet if I took the time to write all this stuff down
  • GymGoddessGoals
    GymGoddessGoals Posts: 2,146 Member
    s131951 wrote: »
    Is a misogynistic pompous *kitten* who thinks when women don't meet his ridiculous standards of a 50's housewife it's a personality flaw.

    For a moment I thought this was a 'the person above you. . ' thread. Whew.

    LOL
    No one should take it personal. I mean unless they have a the personality flaw of being a misogynistic pompous *kitten*.
  • iMago
    iMago Posts: 8,714 Member
    Is a misogynistic pompous *kitten* who thinks when women don't meet his ridiculous standards of a 50's housewife it's a personality flaw.

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  • s131951
    s131951 Posts: 3,776 Member
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    s131951 wrote: »
    Is a misogynistic pompous *kitten* who thinks when women don't meet his ridiculous standards of a 50's housewife it's a personality flaw.

    For a moment I thought this was a 'the person above you. . ' thread. Whew.

    The criteria has been laid out, now it could be *any* of us!!!! That's actually a good point about this thread, come to think of it...I could turn myself into the most unwanted person in the entire world of internet if I took the time to write all this stuff down

    You do have a record of it.
  • s131951
    s131951 Posts: 3,776 Member
    s131951 wrote: »
    Is a misogynistic pompous *kitten* who thinks when women don't meet his ridiculous standards of a 50's housewife it's a personality flaw.

    For a moment I thought this was a 'the person above you. . ' thread. Whew.

    LOL
    No one should take it personal. I mean unless they have a the personality flaw of being a misogynistic pompous *kitten*.

    I thought it was about honeybee_12 for a moment. It had me perplexed.
  • Reckoner68
    Reckoner68 Posts: 2,139 Member
    s131951 wrote: »
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    s131951 wrote: »
    Is a misogynistic pompous *kitten* who thinks when women don't meet his ridiculous standards of a 50's housewife it's a personality flaw.

    For a moment I thought this was a 'the person above you. . ' thread. Whew.

    The criteria has been laid out, now it could be *any* of us!!!! That's actually a good point about this thread, come to think of it...I could turn myself into the most unwanted person in the entire world of internet if I took the time to write all this stuff down

    You do have a record of it.

    I swore a blood oath never to check past pages of the forums; any time previous pages are on the screen, I have to close my eyes.

    It's not my fault, it's just how the world works sometimes
  • s131951
    s131951 Posts: 3,776 Member
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    s131951 wrote: »
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    s131951 wrote: »
    Is a misogynistic pompous *kitten* who thinks when women don't meet his ridiculous standards of a 50's housewife it's a personality flaw.

    For a moment I thought this was a 'the person above you. . ' thread. Whew.

    The criteria has been laid out, now it could be *any* of us!!!! That's actually a good point about this thread, come to think of it...I could turn myself into the most unwanted person in the entire world of internet if I took the time to write all this stuff down

    You do have a record of it.

    I swore a blood oath never to check past pages of the forums; any time previous pages are on the screen, I have to close my eyes.

    It's not my fault, it's just how the world works sometimes

    You could delegate to a familiar, though.
  • GymGoddessGoals
    GymGoddessGoals Posts: 2,146 Member
    s131951 wrote: »
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    s131951 wrote: »
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    s131951 wrote: »
    Is a misogynistic pompous *kitten* who thinks when women don't meet his ridiculous standards of a 50's housewife it's a personality flaw.

    For a moment I thought this was a 'the person above you. . ' thread. Whew.

    The criteria has been laid out, now it could be *any* of us!!!! That's actually a good point about this thread, come to think of it...I could turn myself into the most unwanted person in the entire world of internet if I took the time to write all this stuff down

    You do have a record of it.

    I swore a blood oath never to check past pages of the forums; any time previous pages are on the screen, I have to close my eyes.

    It's not my fault, it's just how the world works sometimes

    You could delegate to a familiar, though.

    Only if they have a bar code tattooed on the back of their neck.
  • s131951
    s131951 Posts: 3,776 Member
    s131951 wrote: »
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    s131951 wrote: »
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    s131951 wrote: »
    Is a misogynistic pompous *kitten* who thinks when women don't meet his ridiculous standards of a 50's housewife it's a personality flaw.

    For a moment I thought this was a 'the person above you. . ' thread. Whew.

    The criteria has been laid out, now it could be *any* of us!!!! That's actually a good point about this thread, come to think of it...I could turn myself into the most unwanted person in the entire world of internet if I took the time to write all this stuff down

    You do have a record of it.

    I swore a blood oath never to check past pages of the forums; any time previous pages are on the screen, I have to close my eyes.

    It's not my fault, it's just how the world works sometimes

    You could delegate to a familiar, though.

    Only if they have a bar code tattooed on the back of their neck.

    Have you checked yourself lately?
  • GymGoddessGoals
    GymGoddessGoals Posts: 2,146 Member
    s131951 wrote: »
    s131951 wrote: »
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    s131951 wrote: »
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    s131951 wrote: »
    Is a misogynistic pompous *kitten* who thinks when women don't meet his ridiculous standards of a 50's housewife it's a personality flaw.

    For a moment I thought this was a 'the person above you. . ' thread. Whew.

    The criteria has been laid out, now it could be *any* of us!!!! That's actually a good point about this thread, come to think of it...I could turn myself into the most unwanted person in the entire world of internet if I took the time to write all this stuff down

    You do have a record of it.

    I swore a blood oath never to check past pages of the forums; any time previous pages are on the screen, I have to close my eyes.

    It's not my fault, it's just how the world works sometimes

    You could delegate to a familiar, though.

    Only if they have a bar code tattooed on the back of their neck.

    Have you checked yourself lately?

    I did a breast exam just this morning. No lumps. Yay me!
  • bourbon_n_barbells
    bourbon_n_barbells Posts: 425 Member
    doesn't like dogs
  • s131951
    s131951 Posts: 3,776 Member
    s131951 wrote: »
    s131951 wrote: »
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    s131951 wrote: »
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    s131951 wrote: »
    Is a misogynistic pompous *kitten* who thinks when women don't meet his ridiculous standards of a 50's housewife it's a personality flaw.

    For a moment I thought this was a 'the person above you. . ' thread. Whew.

    The criteria has been laid out, now it could be *any* of us!!!! That's actually a good point about this thread, come to think of it...I could turn myself into the most unwanted person in the entire world of internet if I took the time to write all this stuff down

    You do have a record of it.

    I swore a blood oath never to check past pages of the forums; any time previous pages are on the screen, I have to close my eyes.

    It's not my fault, it's just how the world works sometimes

    You could delegate to a familiar, though.

    Only if they have a bar code tattooed on the back of their neck.

    Have you checked yourself lately?

    I did a breast exam just this morning. No lumps. Yay me!

    Second opinion? You know, just to be safe.

    No barcodes either?

    I was hoping you would not wreck yourself.
  • GymGoddessGoals
    GymGoddessGoals Posts: 2,146 Member
    s131951 wrote: »
    s131951 wrote: »
    s131951 wrote: »
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    s131951 wrote: »
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    s131951 wrote: »
    Is a misogynistic pompous *kitten* who thinks when women don't meet his ridiculous standards of a 50's housewife it's a personality flaw.

    For a moment I thought this was a 'the person above you. . ' thread. Whew.

    The criteria has been laid out, now it could be *any* of us!!!! That's actually a good point about this thread, come to think of it...I could turn myself into the most unwanted person in the entire world of internet if I took the time to write all this stuff down

    You do have a record of it.

    I swore a blood oath never to check past pages of the forums; any time previous pages are on the screen, I have to close my eyes.

    It's not my fault, it's just how the world works sometimes

    You could delegate to a familiar, though.

    Only if they have a bar code tattooed on the back of their neck.

    Have you checked yourself lately?

    I did a breast exam just this morning. No lumps. Yay me!

    Second opinion? You know, just to be safe.

    No barcodes either?

    I was hoping you would not wreck yourself.

    I'm definitely not a bar code kind of lady.
  • s131951
    s131951 Posts: 3,776 Member
    s131951 wrote: »
    s131951 wrote: »
    s131951 wrote: »
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    s131951 wrote: »
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    s131951 wrote: »
    Is a misogynistic pompous *kitten* who thinks when women don't meet his ridiculous standards of a 50's housewife it's a personality flaw.

    For a moment I thought this was a 'the person above you. . ' thread. Whew.

    The criteria has been laid out, now it could be *any* of us!!!! That's actually a good point about this thread, come to think of it...I could turn myself into the most unwanted person in the entire world of internet if I took the time to write all this stuff down

    You do have a record of it.

    I swore a blood oath never to check past pages of the forums; any time previous pages are on the screen, I have to close my eyes.

    It's not my fault, it's just how the world works sometimes

    You could delegate to a familiar, though.

    Only if they have a bar code tattooed on the back of their neck.

    Have you checked yourself lately?

    I did a breast exam just this morning. No lumps. Yay me!

    Second opinion? You know, just to be safe.

    No barcodes either?

    I was hoping you would not wreck yourself.

    I'm definitely not a bar code kind of lady.

    Interest is piqued.
  • yelliezx
    yelliezx Posts: 633 Member
    - Anger issues
    - Controlling
    - A mean drunk
    - Too regimented (not willing to go on adventures, too serious about organization)
    - Takes themselves and situations too seriously all the time
  • caco_ethes
    caco_ethes Posts: 11,962 Member
    When he doesn’t like that I don’t like that he doesn’t like coffee
  • bourbon_n_barbells
    bourbon_n_barbells Posts: 425 Member
    yelliezx wrote: »
    - Anger issues
    - Controlling
    - A mean drunk
    - Too regimented (not willing to go on adventures, too serious about organization)
    - Takes themselves and situations too seriously all the time

    definitely red flags.

    You forgot "doesn't like dogs"
  • GymGoddessGoals
    GymGoddessGoals Posts: 2,146 Member
    yelliezx wrote: »
    - Anger issues
    - Controlling
    - A mean drunk
    - Too regimented (not willing to go on adventures, too serious about organization)
    - Takes themselves and situations too seriously all the time

    definitely red flags.

    You forgot "doesn't like dogs"

    Being allergic to dogs and not liking dogs are not the same thing.
  • bourbon_n_barbells
    bourbon_n_barbells Posts: 425 Member
    yelliezx wrote: »
    - Anger issues
    - Controlling
    - A mean drunk
    - Too regimented (not willing to go on adventures, too serious about organization)
    - Takes themselves and situations too seriously all the time

    definitely red flags.

    You forgot "doesn't like dogs"

    Being allergic to dogs and not liking dogs are not the same thing.

    True!
  • Reckoner68
    Reckoner68 Posts: 2,139 Member
    Being allergic to not liking dogs is a huge red flag for me. I put it right up there with constantly cancelling plans so she can wash her hair
  • GymGoddessGoals
    GymGoddessGoals Posts: 2,146 Member
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    Being allergic to not liking dogs is a huge red flag for me. I put it right up there with constantly cancelling plans so she can wash her hair

    Why would you even wanna date a chick with hair that nasty?