What screams "I'm very insecure"?

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  • nooshi713
    nooshi713 Posts: 4,877 Member
    nooshi713 wrote: »
    When a person is uncomfortable looking you in the eye when they speak.. sometimes they are just shy or might even be telling a lie but sometimes to me it feels like there is something about their face they are insecure about.

    I agree with this for the most part.

    But, sometimes I have trouble making prolonged eye contact sometimes but not always because I feel insecure. Sometimes, a look can transfer energy that’s very intense, and I’m sensitive to that......that’s all.

    Not sure if that makes sense to anyone.

    I know where you are coming from..

    I kinda meant though when people make almost no eye contact with me.. looking everywhere but my face, I generally feel it's evasive in some way.
    Honestly , I don't think I have an intense gaze.. but , maybe I do 🤔😁


    I figured that’s what you meant. Agreed, that it can come across as evasive.

    Unless, you’re a sensitive type and don’t want people seeing your soul. 🦄
  • Tinydancer106
    Tinydancer106 Posts: 3,678 Member
    @nooshi713 wrote: »
    nooshi713 wrote: »
    When a person is uncomfortable looking you in the eye when they speak.. sometimes they are just shy or might even be telling a lie but sometimes to me it feels like there is something about their face they are insecure about.

    I agree with this for the most part.

    But, sometimes I have trouble making prolonged eye contact sometimes but not always because I feel insecure. Sometimes, a look can transfer energy that’s very intense, and I’m sensitive to that......that’s all.

    Not sure if that makes sense to anyone.

    I know where you are coming from..

    I kinda meant though when people make almost no eye contact with me.. looking everywhere but my face, I generally feel it's evasive in some way.
    Honestly , I don't think I have an intense gaze.. but , maybe I do 🤔😁


    I figured that’s what you meant. Agreed, that it can come across as evasive.

    Unless, you’re a sensitive type and don’t want people seeing your soul. 🦄

    Or stealing it🤤.....note...wear dark sunglasses around jo...better to see her anyway!😎😍

    Nooshi... yours would be a sweet soul for sure....keep it safe lovely girl!🤗😍
  • ythannah
    ythannah Posts: 4,371 Member
    When a person is uncomfortable looking you in the eye when they speak.. sometimes they are just shy or might even be telling a lie but sometimes to me it feels like there is something about their face they are insecure about.

    I've noticed since I started developing cataracts that I have difficulty maintaining eye contact with people at work because there is usually too much light at their head level from our LED ceiling fixtures. So there could be a physical reason as well.
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    I have to go with the overuse of filters. (And I don't say that to judge anybody who does use a filter or when we have fun using the silly filters) I just feel like I'm looking at a picture of a person who isn't comfortable in her own skin and it makes me sad. And then below it to read all the comments from guys "wow, you look great" which just reinforces the use of blurry glamour filters. It kind of makes me want to punch somebody.

    I have mixed feelings about it. I understand the desire to hide wrinkles, uneven skin tone, dark circles. I wear makeup. I get it.

    And the men gushing. Are they being nice? Trying to ingratiate themselves? Fooled? Are they disappointed if they meet in person?

    I agree, I am always afraid to post some filtered weird photo that doesn't look like me because I'd rather look the same in photos and real life. Also, all the filters that have things like longer eyelashes or cat ears...yikes
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  • your_future_ex_wife
    your_future_ex_wife Posts: 4,278 Member
    I have to go with the overuse of filters. (And I don't say that to judge anybody who does use a filter or when we have fun using the silly filters) I just feel like I'm looking at a picture of a person who isn't comfortable in her own skin and it makes me sad. And then below it to read all the comments from guys "wow, you look great" which just reinforces the use of blurry glamour filters. It kind of makes me want to punch somebody.

    I have mixed feelings about it. I understand the desire to hide wrinkles, uneven skin tone, dark circles. I wear makeup. I get it.

    And the men gushing. Are they being nice? Trying to ingratiate themselves? Fooled? Are they disappointed if they meet in person?

    I agree, I am always afraid to post some filtered weird photo that doesn't look like me because I'd rather look the same in photos and real life. Also, all the filters that have things like longer eyelashes or cat ears...yikes

    I like the devil ones as they more accurately describe my personality. 😉
  • nooshi713
    nooshi713 Posts: 4,877 Member
    @nooshi713 wrote: »
    nooshi713 wrote: »
    When a person is uncomfortable looking you in the eye when they speak.. sometimes they are just shy or might even be telling a lie but sometimes to me it feels like there is something about their face they are insecure about.

    I agree with this for the most part.

    But, sometimes I have trouble making prolonged eye contact sometimes but not always because I feel insecure. Sometimes, a look can transfer energy that’s very intense, and I’m sensitive to that......that’s all.

    Not sure if that makes sense to anyone.

    I know where you are coming from..

    I kinda meant though when people make almost no eye contact with me.. looking everywhere but my face, I generally feel it's evasive in some way.
    Honestly , I don't think I have an intense gaze.. but , maybe I do 🤔😁


    I figured that’s what you meant. Agreed, that it can come across as evasive.

    Unless, you’re a sensitive type and don’t want people seeing your soul. 🦄

    Or stealing it🤤.....note...wear dark sunglasses around jo...better to see her anyway!😎😍

    Nooshi... yours would be a sweet soul for sure....keep it safe lovely girl!🤗😍

    Awwww. Yeah I’m soft so I gotta be wary. 🥰🤗

  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member
    edited October 2019
    When a person is uncomfortable looking you in the eye when they speak.. sometimes they are just shy or might even be telling a lie but sometimes to me it feels like there is something about their face they are insecure about.

    Hmmmm..

    I didn't know that came off as insecure to some people. I'm one of those people that doesn't make much eye contact, but it's because it feels awkward. It's tricky finding the right balance.

    I think I'm being misunderstood. I can tell the difference when someone breaks eye contact in normal conversing that is just like a normal pause.
    I was talking about those that kinda hide behind their hair etc..
    I'll give example.. My old neighbour has a daughter with severe acne, she would not look at anyone except for the odd glance, she is extremely insecure about her skin.. I understand that and lots of people have insecurities about facial features.
    Also, depending on what is being discussed I can tell when they are being evasive by the way they look.

    I think Nooshi was right in that some have an intense gaze that is awkward to hold.
    But that's not me I hope 😁
  • Tinydancer106
    Tinydancer106 Posts: 3,678 Member
    When a person is uncomfortable looking you in the eye when they speak.. sometimes they are just shy or might even be telling a lie but sometimes to me it feels like there is something about their face they are insecure about.

    Hmmmm..

    I didn't know that came off as insecure to some people. I'm one of those people that doesn't make much eye contact, but it's because it feels awkward. It's tricky finding the right balance.

    I think I'm being misunderstood. I can tell the difference when someone breaks eye contact in normal conversing that is just like a normal pause.
    I was talking about those that kinda hide behind their hair etc..
    I'll give example.. My old neighbour has a daughter with severe acne, she would not look at anyone except for the odd glance, she is extremely insecure about her skin.. I understand that and lots of people have insecurities about facial features.
    Also, depending on what is being discussed I can tell when they are being evasive by the way they look.

    I think Nooshi was right in that some have an intense gaze that is awkward to hold.
    But that's not me I hope 😁

    You're one of the sweetest people here girl...it is so not you!!! 😍💗💗💗.....now stop looking at me!!!🙈😅🙌😎🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗💗💗💗💗
  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member
    When a person is uncomfortable looking you in the eye when they speak.. sometimes they are just shy or might even be telling a lie but sometimes to me it feels like there is something about their face they are insecure about.

    Hmmmm..

    I didn't know that came off as insecure to some people. I'm one of those people that doesn't make much eye contact, but it's because it feels awkward. It's tricky finding the right balance.

    I think I'm being misunderstood. I can tell the difference when someone breaks eye contact in normal conversing that is just like a normal pause.
    I was talking about those that kinda hide behind their hair etc..
    I'll give example.. My old neighbour has a daughter with severe acne, she would not look at anyone except for the odd glance, she is extremely insecure about her skin.. I understand that and lots of people have insecurities about facial features.
    Also, depending on what is being discussed I can tell when they are being evasive by the way they look.

    I think Nooshi was right in that some have an intense gaze that is awkward to hold.
    But that's not me I hope 😁

    You're one of the sweetest people here girl...it is so not you!!! 😍💗💗💗.....now stop looking at me!!!🙈😅🙌😎🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗💗💗💗💗

    :laugh: 🤗🤗🤗❤❤❤❤
  • _sw33tp3a_11
    _sw33tp3a_11 Posts: 4,692 Member
    When a person is uncomfortable looking you in the eye when they speak.. sometimes they are just shy or might even be telling a lie but sometimes to me it feels like there is something about their face they are insecure about.

    I do this often. Mostly because I'm shy and my introvert tendencies make me feel vulnerable and most days I don't like my face so you are absolutely right about this.
  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member
    When a person is uncomfortable looking you in the eye when they speak.. sometimes they are just shy or might even be telling a lie but sometimes to me it feels like there is something about their face they are insecure about.

    I do this often. Mostly because I'm shy and my introvert tendencies make me feel vulnerable and most days I don't like my face so you are absolutely right about this.

    Your face is truly beautiful 🙂 js
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    I've known quite a few women over the years who say (and mean) things like, "I hate anyone thinner than me" or "I hate ALL blondes" and so on. Bizarre and definitely insecure.
  • kindalikevelma
    kindalikevelma Posts: 1,337 Member
    kam26001 wrote: »
    Taking a shower with the lights turned off. #psoriasis😑

    I almost always only shower in the dark.
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  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    I've known quite a few women over the years who say (and mean) things like, "I hate anyone thinner than me" or "I hate ALL blondes" and so on. Bizarre and definitely insecure.

    It's silly to single out one particular group of people for any one particular reason, just silly.....





    It's far easier and far more rational just to hate everybody for no particular reason. *shrug

    Equal opportunity discrimination?

    I prefer to call it: "inclusive".
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  • Reckoner68
    Reckoner68 Posts: 2,139 Member
    I have to go with the overuse of filters. (And I don't say that to judge anybody who does use a filter or when we have fun using the silly filters) I just feel like I'm looking at a picture of a person who isn't comfortable in her own skin and it makes me sad. And then below it to read all the comments from guys "wow, you look great" which just reinforces the use of blurry glamour filters. It kind of makes me want to punch somebody.

    I have mixed feelings about it. I understand the desire to hide wrinkles, uneven skin tone, dark circles. I wear makeup. I get it.

    And the men gushing. Are they being nice? Trying to ingratiate themselves? Fooled? Are they disappointed if they meet in person?

    I have trouble with gushing
  • Tinydancer106
    Tinydancer106 Posts: 3,678 Member
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    I have to go with the overuse of filters. (And I don't say that to judge anybody who does use a filter or when we have fun using the silly filters) I just feel like I'm looking at a picture of a person who isn't comfortable in her own skin and it makes me sad. And then below it to read all the comments from guys "wow, you look great" which just reinforces the use of blurry glamour filters. It kind of makes me want to punch somebody.

    I have mixed feelings about it. I understand the desire to hide wrinkles, uneven skin tone, dark circles. I wear makeup. I get it.

    And the men gushing. Are they being nice? Trying to ingratiate themselves? Fooled? Are they disappointed if they meet in person?

    I have trouble with gushing

    Gushing is over rated I prefer
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    But maybe that's just me...🤔🙄
  • laprimaJenny
    laprimaJenny Posts: 1,495 Member
    When someone needs to over explain something and/or justify their behaviour.
  • Analog_Kid
    Analog_Kid Posts: 976 Member
    a SJW at a protest rally
  • nooshi713
    nooshi713 Posts: 4,877 Member
    I've known quite a few women over the years who say (and mean) things like, "I hate anyone thinner than me" or "I hate ALL blondes" and so on. Bizarre and definitely insecure.

    That’s horrible and sad at the same time
  • Reckoner68
    Reckoner68 Posts: 2,139 Member
    What's 800 lbs and screams "I'm very insecure"?
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  • laprimaJenny
    laprimaJenny Posts: 1,495 Member
    My dog, every time I leave the house.
  • Tinydancer106
    Tinydancer106 Posts: 3,678 Member
    My dog, every time I leave the house.

    Awwww....i know 🤗😰....they are sooo happy when we come home though...💗
  • Pandemonium_
    Pandemonium_ Posts: 945 Member
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    Come on ya wuss
  • your_future_ex_wife
    your_future_ex_wife Posts: 4,278 Member
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    Come on ya wuss

    You were supposed to be be doing things today.
  • pizzamyheart
    pizzamyheart Posts: 1,836 Member
    edited October 2019
    I have to go with the overuse of filters. (And I don't say that to judge anybody who does use a filter or when we have fun using the silly filters) I just feel like I'm looking at a picture of a person who isn't comfortable in her own skin and it makes me sad. And then below it to read all the comments from guys "wow, you look great" which just reinforces the use of blurry glamour filters. It kind of makes me want to punch somebody.

    omg there is a lady on the facebook that does this. I really want to post "You look like an alien" but I don't. She's an older middle aged lady and I'm pretty sure she thinks it makes her look pretty. And sometimes, filters can do just that. But she over does it to the point she looks stupid. And i want to tell her, but I'm not gonna. And its just like here where people comment "gorgeous, stunning" etc. It makes me wonder if those people are thinking the same thing I'm thinking...that she looks stupid and insecure and sad. Her unfiltered picture would be very pretty but shes choosing to go with weird and fake and well, just weird looking. The big eyes, smooth face, faded stuff. Just, No. Please, you are so much more than the weird big eyed alien you portray yourself to be. So, I'm a fan of filters...but not unbelievably inhuman but YOU think you look better than reality filters. Those are a no.
    \edit to add....the sad part is that they are attractive but they don't think they are without the crazy weird inhuman looking filters, and that is unfortunate.
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