Guys/Girls: What is your real opinion on..
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Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Everyone - not so much an opinion. How do you use chit chat? When you first enter do you click on the first thread? Go to a certain thread? Lurk to see who's in here? Do you only interact with certain people?
ETA: What exactly does "insightful" mean to you.
I ignore most of chit-chat... whatever the "cool" factor is in this group, I don't have it. I prefer conversational threads and the every so rear serious/thoughtful post. I catch up on wholesome memes a couple of times per month.
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I don't necessarily see a "cool factor" in here as much as I see a bunch of regulars having a good time. I've seen this said iften around here and it makes me cringe.
Time doesn't always allow me to say more than a few sentences at a time, work is first. Conversational threads are very time consuming and almost too personal at times. I feel like I'm reading someone's diary.
I come here to get a good laugh and to have fun...I don't necessarily think I'm "cool." If anything, I'm probably annoying to many 😂
That may well be the case. To me, it feels like high school, where all the cool kids are in threads laughing and having a good time, and I'm over in the corner not getting the joke but desperately wanting to be accepted into your group.
To be clear, I don't use the word "cool" as any sort of judgement or evaluation. But like you said, there is a group or regulars that get each other and are generally the ones that drive many of the threads. I routinely feel like an outsider (uncool) in those threads.
I've got news for you - I was one of those people that felt exactly like you do when I first stepped foot in here. This place felt very intimidating to me. I felt like I was being judged by everything I said, was often overlooked and ignored. Everything I'd post would get the disagreers going, it wasn't a very welcoming feeling.
I just kept putting myself out there again and again. Eventually I got one person to like me...now I have three.
Work your way in here, it can be fun. 🤗
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Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Everyone - not so much an opinion. How do you use chit chat? When you first enter do you click on the first thread? Go to a certain thread? Lurk to see who's in here? Do you only interact with certain people?
ETA: What exactly does "insightful" mean to you.
I ignore most of chit-chat... whatever the "cool" factor is in this group, I don't have it. I prefer conversational threads and the every so rear serious/thoughtful post. I catch up on wholesome memes a couple of times per month.
Let's talk -
I don't necessarily see a "cool factor" in here as much as I see a bunch of regulars having a good time. I've seen this said iften around here and it makes me cringe.
Time doesn't always allow me to say more than a few sentences at a time, work is first. Conversational threads are very time consuming and almost too personal at times. I feel like I'm reading someone's diary.
I come here to get a good laugh and to have fun...I don't necessarily think I'm "cool." If anything, I'm probably annoying to many 😂
That may well be the case. To me, it feels like high school, where all the cool kids are in threads laughing and having a good time, and I'm over in the corner not getting the joke but desperately wanting to be accepted into your group.
To be clear, I don't use the word "cool" as any sort of judgement or evaluation. But like you said, there is a group or regulars that get each other and are generally the ones that drive many of the threads. I routinely feel like an outsider (uncool) in those threads.
Ha. I know this may not be helpful at all but be that as it may.. i’ve always been a little intimidated by you. Never would’ve guessed you felt that way in the slightest. And by intimidated I mean that you don’t suffer fools (of which i am king) and you’re a tough nut to crack
All of this might be because you drove the entire revolution that started the Hank nickname though. Maybe it was pure happenstance and you were simply in the right place at the right time but I always felt like that took off because of you 😄
Anyway.. not trying to discredit how you feel. I’m just surprised
I assume most of it is my own insecurities... I feel like an outsider in 90% of my life. Simply going by math/averages, the issue has to be me, not 90% of the world.4 -
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Guys/girls: how do you respond to someone who tries to dissuade you from liking someone just because they don’t get along with them?
[Long pause to contemplate my nicest response which is...] "Is this elementary school?"
I don't do cliques. I like who I like for the time and reasons that I like them. We will all survive.
This goes both ways, as I can fully appreciate how someone I know can be enamored with someone with whom I am not 🤷🏿♀️3 -
Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Everyone - not so much an opinion. How do you use chit chat? When you first enter do you click on the first thread? Go to a certain thread? Lurk to see who's in here? Do you only interact with certain people?
ETA: What exactly does "insightful" mean to you.
I ignore most of chit-chat... whatever the "cool" factor is in this group, I don't have it. I prefer conversational threads and the every so rear serious/thoughtful post. I catch up on wholesome memes a couple of times per month.
Let's talk -
I don't necessarily see a "cool factor" in here as much as I see a bunch of regulars having a good time. I've seen this said iften around here and it makes me cringe.
Time doesn't always allow me to say more than a few sentences at a time, work is first. Conversational threads are very time consuming and almost too personal at times. I feel like I'm reading someone's diary.
I come here to get a good laugh and to have fun...I don't necessarily think I'm "cool." If anything, I'm probably annoying to many 😂
That may well be the case. To me, it feels like high school, where all the cool kids are in threads laughing and having a good time, and I'm over in the corner not getting the joke but desperately wanting to be accepted into your group.
To be clear, I don't use the word "cool" as any sort of judgement or evaluation. But like you said, there is a group or regulars that get each other and are generally the ones that drive many of the threads. I routinely feel like an outsider (uncool) in those threads.
I've got news for you - I was one of those people that felt exactly like you do when I first stepped foot in here. This place felt very intimidating to me. I felt like I was being judged by everything I said, was often overlooked and ignored. Everything I'd post would get the disagreers going, it wasn't a very welcoming feeling.
I just kept putting myself out there again and again. Eventually I got one person to like me...now I have three.
Work your way in here, it can be fun. 🤗
When i first came around no one talked to me at all. Back then though it was way busier and everyone seemed thick as thieves. If not for the one single solitary person who responded to me that entire first day, I would’ve bailed. I think of that often. I think my mind skips over names I don’t recognize just because they aren’t as familiar but I try to remember what that felt like and consciously not do it4 -
Guys/girls: how do you respond to someone who tries to dissuade you from liking someone just because they don’t get along with them?
I don't let other people influence the way I think when it comes to other people. I make my own conclusions about who they are just by simply observing their behavior, actions and following my own intuition. I do know this, people show different sides of themselves to different people. To some people they may be amazing to others they are the worst. I am guarded by nature so I question everyone's character until I make my own conclusions on what kind of person they are. If you are influenced easily by word of mouth, in my mind you're a weak human being for not having a mind of your own.6 -
Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Everyone - not so much an opinion. How do you use chit chat? When you first enter do you click on the first thread? Go to a certain thread? Lurk to see who's in here? Do you only interact with certain people?
ETA: What exactly does "insightful" mean to you.
I open my book marks and look for @CacoEther threads 😂... Or the weakness thread... Sometimes I just lurk, sometimes I comment... Idk tbh I just do 🤷🏽♂️5 -
Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Everyone - not so much an opinion. How do you use chit chat? When you first enter do you click on the first thread? Go to a certain thread? Lurk to see who's in here? Do you only interact with certain people?
ETA: What exactly does "insightful" mean to you.
I ignore most of chit-chat... whatever the "cool" factor is in this group, I don't have it. I prefer conversational threads and the every so rear serious/thoughtful post. I catch up on wholesome memes a couple of times per month.
Let's talk -
I don't necessarily see a "cool factor" in here as much as I see a bunch of regulars having a good time. I've seen this said iften around here and it makes me cringe.
Time doesn't always allow me to say more than a few sentences at a time, work is first. Conversational threads are very time consuming and almost too personal at times. I feel like I'm reading someone's diary.
I come here to get a good laugh and to have fun...I don't necessarily think I'm "cool." If anything, I'm probably annoying to many 😂
Yep me too.. a laugh and some fun. 😃1 -
Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Everyone - not so much an opinion. How do you use chit chat? When you first enter do you click on the first thread? Go to a certain thread? Lurk to see who's in here? Do you only interact with certain people?
ETA: What exactly does "insightful" mean to you.
I open my book marks and look for @CacoEther threads 😂... Or the weakness thread... Sometimes I just lurk, sometimes I comment... Idk tbh I just do 🤷🏽♂️
This is the nicest thing you’ve ever hollered in my general direction 😁2 -
Guys/girls: how do you respond to someone who tries to dissuade you from liking someone just because they don’t get along with them?
Usually I laugh it off but based on the many past experiences and influences in my life, it they persist I will often 👻... Not intentionally it just kinda happens naturally 🤷🏽♂️1 -
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It seems strange to read many of you felt alone or like an outsider when you joined.. I remember most of you when you joined and you sure covered any insecurities with a lot of bravado and jokes, you sure looked comfy.. .. I guess it really does show you don't know whats going on behind the keyboard.
Im really am surprised.. 🤷♀️
I really try my best to catch those who look lost in here..
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Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Everyone - not so much an opinion. How do you use chit chat? When you first enter do you click on the first thread? Go to a certain thread? Lurk to see who's in here? Do you only interact with certain people?
ETA: What exactly does "insightful" mean to you.
I open my book marks and look for @CacoEther threads 😂... Or the weakness thread... Sometimes I just lurk, sometimes I comment... Idk tbh I just do 🤷🏽♂️
This is the nicest thing you’ve ever hollered in my general direction 😁
Sometimes I search your id so I can see where you are 😬...Kidding 😂3 -
slimgirljo15 wrote: »It seems strange to read many of you felt alone or like an outsider when you joined.. I remember most of you when you joined and you sure covered any insecurities with a lot of bravado and jokes, you sure looked comfy.. .. I guess it really does show you don't know whats going on behind the keyboard.
Im really am surprised.. 🤷♀️
I really try my best to catch those who look lost in here and take them downstairs.
FIFY
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slimgirljo15 wrote: »It seems strange to read many of you felt alone or like an outsider when you joined.. I remember most of you when you joined and you sure covered any insecurities with a lot of bravado and jokes, you sure looked comfy.. .. I guess it really does show you don't know whats going on behind the keyboard.
Im really am surprised.. 🤷♀️
I really try my best to catch those who look lost in here..
Really? You’re like the most welcoming person here 😅
Also.. can confirm the bravado and jokes. Fake it til you Make it Generation, repreSENT5 -
Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Everyone - not so much an opinion. How do you use chit chat? When you first enter do you click on the first thread? Go to a certain thread? Lurk to see who's in here? Do you only interact with certain people?
ETA: What exactly does "insightful" mean to you.
I open my book marks and look for @CacoEther threads 😂... Or the weakness thread... Sometimes I just lurk, sometimes I comment... Idk tbh I just do 🤷🏽♂️
This is the nicest thing you’ve ever hollered in my general direction 😁
Sometimes I search your id so I can see where you are 😬...Kidding 😂
I have no idea what this means but I LIKE IT2 -
Kashmir_314_ wrote: »slimgirljo15 wrote: »It seems strange to read many of you felt alone or like an outsider when you joined.. I remember most of you when you joined and you sure covered any insecurities with a lot of bravado and jokes, you sure looked comfy.. .. I guess it really does show you don't know whats going on behind the keyboard.
Im really am surprised.. 🤷♀️
I really try my best to catch those who look lost in here..
This was me the first few months I was in here.
Aww nooo 🥺4 -
happimess01 wrote: »slimgirljo15 wrote: »It seems strange to read many of you felt alone or like an outsider when you joined.. I remember most of you when you joined and you sure covered any insecurities with a lot of bravado and jokes, you sure looked comfy.. .. I guess it really does show you don't know whats going on behind the keyboard.
Im really am surprised.. 🤷♀️
I really try my best to catch those who look lost in here and take them downstairs.
FIFY
😆 thanks .. can always count on you1 -
PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls:
Whats your reaction to ex reaching out to you months to year or longer after break up?
1. Curious and wanna catch up
2. Don't ever contact me again
3. Curious and may wanna grab drinks or more
4. Restraining order
5. Name your own ...
5. No, I still won't "lend" you money. *kitten* off.3 -
guys/girls-
not so much opinion, but a question i guess
how many pairs of shoes do you own?
and how do you store them when you're not using them; like do you just huck em in the closet and forget about them, or do you keep them on a specific shelf in there, or do you keep them in the boxes until you wear them again?
I'm really not the best person to answer this but around 300 pairs. They kinda have their own room.
They're all in their boxes with tissue paper and dessicant, labelled. Although the labelling system has gotten a little vague and I may have to move to a picture label.4 -
slimgirljo15 wrote: »It seems strange to read many of you felt alone or like an outsider when you joined.. I remember most of you when you joined and you sure covered any insecurities with a lot of bravado and jokes, you sure looked comfy.. .. I guess it really does show you don't know whats going on behind the keyboard.
Im really am surprised.. 🤷♀️
I really try my best to catch those who look lost in here..
Really? You’re like the most welcoming person here 😅
Also.. can confirm the bravado and jokes. Fake it til you Make it Generation, repreSENT
You're flirting with me again.. arent you 😉2 -
Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Everyone - not so much an opinion. How do you use chit chat? When you first enter do you click on the first thread? Go to a certain thread? Lurk to see who's in here? Do you only interact with certain people?
ETA: What exactly does "insightful" mean to you.
I'm only in here a couple of times a day so I usually go to the threads I've looked at before that have the most new posts (like this one had 133). I almost never go past page 1. If I'm really procrastinating about whatever it is I'm supposed to be doing, I'll start scanning the thread titles.
"Insightful" to me means I learned something new, or I developed a new appreciation for the poster's perspective.1 -
Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Everyone - not so much an opinion. How do you use chit chat? When you first enter do you click on the first thread? Go to a certain thread? Lurk to see who's in here? Do you only interact with certain people?
ETA: What exactly does "insightful" mean to you.
The times (usually 6am) that I have time to log in I check threads I frequent. If I have down time I check for new threads...I lurk until theres something that interest me, I find funny, or I connect with. I don't really think anything about insightful.0 -
guys/girls-
not so much opinion, but a question i guess
how many pairs of shoes do you own?
and how do you store them when you're not using them; like do you just huck em in the closet and forget about them, or do you keep them on a specific shelf in there, or do you keep them in the boxes until you wear them again?
I own... enough. I recently downsized a my collection, now I only have flats I actually wear. So my "collection" is probably less than 20 pairs now, including flats, snow boots, running shoes, etc.
They are stored neatly on the back of my closet door, a nice row on the bottom of my closet and on a shoe rack downstairs near our front door.1 -
Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Everyone - not so much an opinion. How do you use chit chat? When you first enter do you click on the first thread? Go to a certain thread? Lurk to see who's in here? Do you only interact with certain people?
ETA: What exactly does "insightful" mean to you.
I usually go catch up on threads I participate in and then check out ones I'm interested in.
I use "insightful" when I learn something new and potentially valuable. Either about random *kitten* or an little nugget of interesting information about one of you people here.2 -
Guys/girls: how do you respond to someone who tries to dissuade you from liking someone just because they don’t get along with them?
Uhm... ignore that fool. I make my own decisions about people and I want none of their drama.
I like to usually give people a chance (don't want to judge anyone before I talk to them and get to know them a bit first). It's really hard to resist the urge to judge, but I still make the effort.3 -
Kashmir_314_ wrote: »slimgirljo15 wrote: »It seems strange to read many of you felt alone or like an outsider when you joined.. I remember most of you when you joined and you sure covered any insecurities with a lot of bravado and jokes, you sure looked comfy.. .. I guess it really does show you don't know whats going on behind the keyboard.
Im really am surprised.. 🤷♀️
I really try my best to catch those who look lost in here..
This was me the first few months I was in here.
I understand how this feels. Good to know it got better for you. Thanks for posting.
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Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »slimgirljo15 wrote: »It seems strange to read many of you felt alone or like an outsider when you joined.. I remember most of you when you joined and you sure covered any insecurities with a lot of bravado and jokes, you sure looked comfy.. .. I guess it really does show you don't know whats going on behind the keyboard.
Im really am surprised.. 🤷♀️
I really try my best to catch those who look lost in here..
This was me the first few months I was in here.
I understand how this feels. Good to know if got better for you. Thanks for posting.
I hate to think anyone feels this way.
❤️
Me too. But I feel this way often too. I often wonder where or whether I fit in, or if people secretly feel like I'm an id10t and need to gtfo.4 -
guys/girls-
not so much opinion, but a question i guess
how many pairs of shoes do you own?
and how do you store them when you're not using them; like do you just huck em in the closet and forget about them, or do you keep them on a specific shelf in there, or do you keep them in the boxes until you wear them again?
Is this a trick question? Am I being judged? Interviewed?!
...why do I feel attacked?
...(because you are a shoe hoarder, Vikka)
being asked to model some - that's it!
~50 (which is ridiculous, this year I can count on 2 hands how many pair I've worn) And I'm a "minimalist" (in everything else, except soup...I have a lot of soup)
They are neatly stored on a shoe shelf in the closet (b/c I am a tidy MF and I don't wear most of them, so why not!) My heels and indoor flipflops, running and training shoes are in my bedroom closet, and my "currently worn" 2 pair of boots are on a boot tray by the door. My muddy trail running shoes are in the farthest corner possible, closest to the door (eww, dirty). My new sparkly flats and not worn outside yet (cheaper brand) Uggs are in my living room so I can look at them
('cause that's not at all weird)
eta - *note I also have Crocs ballet flats - intriguing, I'm sure!3
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