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  • slessofme
    slessofme Posts: 7,740 Member
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    Find physically attractive, yes. Romantic feelings, no.
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    In my experience, no. It's never turned out well. Unless it's an f buddy, but then is that actual romantic feelings or just lust 🤷‍♀️

    I never mix romantic feelings with a f buddy. It's a recipe for disaster and why so many people say f buddies don't work. Boundaries - physical, emotional, mental - are key.
  • twitchandshout
    twitchandshout Posts: 1,591 Member
    slessofme wrote: »
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    Find physically attractive, yes. Romantic feelings, no.
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    In my experience, no. It's never turned out well. Unless it's an f buddy, but then is that actual romantic feelings or just lust 🤷‍♀️

    I never mix romantic feelings with a f buddy. It's a recipe for disaster and why so many people say f buddies don't work. Boundaries - physical, emotional, mental - are key.

    I can’t separate the two. 😢 I wish I could
  • Yoshiboobs
    Yoshiboobs Posts: 1,090 Member
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    It really all depends. I have one freind that I always had feelings for since I was 14 and at that time I'd get crazy jealous. Over the years and coming to the conclusion that he didn't feel the same I stopped feeling jealous but still had romantic feelings. 🤷🏻‍♀️ So it's possible but I agree unlikely. Maybe it worked because he never opened that door for things to get complicated.

    I think if both are mutually interested it might be impossible in the long run.
  • slessofme
    slessofme Posts: 7,740 Member
    slessofme wrote: »
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    Find physically attractive, yes. Romantic feelings, no.
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    In my experience, no. It's never turned out well. Unless it's an f buddy, but then is that actual romantic feelings or just lust 🤷‍♀️

    I never mix romantic feelings with a f buddy. It's a recipe for disaster and why so many people say f buddies don't work. Boundaries - physical, emotional, mental - are key.

    I can’t separate the two. 😢 I wish I could

    I'm a bit jealous - I find it really hard to develop romantic feelings. I really want a full relationship, but... the vulnerability. Your ability is powerful in relationships.
  • twitchandshout
    twitchandshout Posts: 1,591 Member
    slessofme wrote: »
    slessofme wrote: »
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    Find physically attractive, yes. Romantic feelings, no.
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    In my experience, no. It's never turned out well. Unless it's an f buddy, but then is that actual romantic feelings or just lust 🤷‍♀️

    I never mix romantic feelings with a f buddy. It's a recipe for disaster and why so many people say f buddies don't work. Boundaries - physical, emotional, mental - are key.

    I can’t separate the two. 😢 I wish I could

    I'm a bit jealous - I find it really hard to develop romantic feelings. I really want a full relationship, but... the vulnerability. Your ability is powerful in relationships.

    I hadn’t thought of it that way
  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,669 Member
    Oh my gosh mfp is dumb
  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,669 Member
    Won't let me upload a pic


    Apparently new trend for women...ridiculous baggy jeans.. in my mind super comfy...in reality...I look like a clown...

    Thoughts?
  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
    Women, Which is more loathsome - an unsolicited d pic or unsolicited advice in the gym?

    I find both equally annoying and loathsome, but seeing as how I get more unsolicited d* pics than unsolicited advice, I'll go with the d* pics.

    Your eggplant isn't as cute or sexy as you think it is. :neutral:
  • twitchandshout
    twitchandshout Posts: 1,591 Member
    Women, Which is more loathsome - an unsolicited d pic or unsolicited advice in the gym?

    I find both equally annoying and loathsome, but seeing as how I get more unsolicited d* pics than unsolicited advice, I'll go with the d* pics.

    Your eggplant isn't as cute or sexy as you think it is. :neutral:

    Should I be insulted that I get neither?
  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
    Avast, m’hearties!

    Are you more open with your friends or your lovers? With whom do you share more of your heart? With whom are you more honest?

    Neither. I have been burned so many times by both friends and lovers that I keep my secrets. I no longer open up to others outside of stories others know or that I hold no negative emotions or personal hangups over.
  • twitchandshout
    twitchandshout Posts: 1,591 Member
    Won't let me upload a pic


    Apparently new trend for women...ridiculous baggy jeans.. in my mind super comfy...in reality...I look like a clown...

    Thoughts?

    I saved a pair of my fat fat fat pants. I still wear them. With a tight tank it looks hot. And don’t try to convince me otherwise😂
  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    No. It NEVER works. And I say that from MULTIPLE failed attempts. Better to decide which you want: a friend, or a potential romantic partner. Something in the dynamic ultimately changes at some point and either one or both of the people involved get fed up.
  • slessofme
    slessofme Posts: 7,740 Member
    slessofme wrote: »
    slessofme wrote: »
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    Find physically attractive, yes. Romantic feelings, no.
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    In my experience, no. It's never turned out well. Unless it's an f buddy, but then is that actual romantic feelings or just lust 🤷‍♀️

    I never mix romantic feelings with a f buddy. It's a recipe for disaster and why so many people say f buddies don't work. Boundaries - physical, emotional, mental - are key.

    I can’t separate the two. 😢 I wish I could

    I'm a bit jealous - I find it really hard to develop romantic feelings. I really want a full relationship, but... the vulnerability. Your ability is powerful in relationships.

    I hadn’t thought of it that way

    Brene Brown is slowly working on me. I'm able to recognize the strength in others, but struggle to develop that it in myself.
  • twitchandshout
    twitchandshout Posts: 1,591 Member
    slessofme wrote: »
    slessofme wrote: »
    slessofme wrote: »
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    Find physically attractive, yes. Romantic feelings, no.
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    In my experience, no. It's never turned out well. Unless it's an f buddy, but then is that actual romantic feelings or just lust 🤷‍♀️

    I never mix romantic feelings with a f buddy. It's a recipe for disaster and why so many people say f buddies don't work. Boundaries - physical, emotional, mental - are key.

    I can’t separate the two. 😢 I wish I could

    I'm a bit jealous - I find it really hard to develop romantic feelings. I really want a full relationship, but... the vulnerability. Your ability is powerful in relationships.

    I hadn’t thought of it that way

    Brene Brown is slowly working on me. I'm able to recognize the strength in others, but struggle to develop that it in myself.
    I’m in the arena too ❤️
  • twitchandshout
    twitchandshout Posts: 1,591 Member
    Avast, m’hearties!

    Are you more open with your friends or your lovers? With whom do you share more of your heart? With whom are you more honest?

    Neither. I have been burned so many times by both friends and lovers that I keep my secrets. I no longer open up to others outside of stories others know or that I hold no negative emotions or personal hangups over.

    I’ve noticed a number of people saying the same. 😕
  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,669 Member
    Won't let me upload a pic


    Apparently new trend for women...ridiculous baggy jeans.. in my mind super comfy...in reality...I look like a clown...

    Thoughts?

    I saved a pair of my fat fat fat pants. I still wear them. With a tight tank it looks hot. And don’t try to convince me otherwise😂

    Need pic...maybe it'll convince me
  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
    Won't let me upload a pic


    Apparently new trend for women...ridiculous baggy jeans.. in my mind super comfy...in reality...I look like a clown...

    Thoughts?

    If I can wear dumb stuff like this with no shame, then any woman can wear super baggy pants that may or may not act like a parachute and carry her away on a windy day.

    My "baggy pants" are akin to the baggy fabric pants you see pirate types wearing at Renaissance festivals. :joy:

  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
    Women, Which is more loathsome - an unsolicited d pic or unsolicited advice in the gym?

    I find both equally annoying and loathsome, but seeing as how I get more unsolicited d* pics than unsolicited advice, I'll go with the d* pics.

    Your eggplant isn't as cute or sexy as you think it is. :neutral:

    Should I be insulted that I get neither?

    No. I much prefer life now with less of both than when I was more conventionally attractive (IE. thinner, younger) and got both ALL THE *kitten* TIME. And that was even in the days when cellphones weren't prevalent and photos took a ton of data to send.
  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,669 Member
    Won't let me upload a pic


    Apparently new trend for women...ridiculous baggy jeans.. in my mind super comfy...in reality...I look like a clown...

    Thoughts?

    If I can wear dumb stuff like this with no shame, then any woman can wear super baggy pants that may or may not act like a parachute and carry her away on a windy day.

    My "baggy pants" are akin to the baggy fabric pants you see pirate types wearing at Renaissance festivals. :joy:

    Well, welcome to 2021...you are in style 😁maybe I shall try the baggy look
  • ReenieHJ
    ReenieHJ Posts: 9,724 Member
    Won't let me upload a pic


    Apparently new trend for women...ridiculous baggy jeans.. in my mind super comfy...in reality...I look like a clown...

    Thoughts?

    If I can wear dumb stuff like this with no shame, then any woman can wear super baggy pants that may or may not act like a parachute and carry her away on a windy day.

    My "baggy pants" are akin to the baggy fabric pants you see pirate types wearing at Renaissance festivals. :joy:

    Did you see them modeled on the Disco video? Some of those looked fun but if you tell anyone I said that I'm gonna lie through my teeth.
  • Deadman_Diggingup
    Deadman_Diggingup Posts: 3,082 Member
    slessofme wrote: »
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    Find physically attractive, yes. Romantic feelings, no.
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    In my experience, no. It's never turned out well. Unless it's an f buddy, but then is that actual romantic feelings or just lust 🤷‍♀️

    I never mix romantic feelings with a f buddy. It's a recipe for disaster and why so many people say f buddies don't work. Boundaries - physical, emotional, mental - are key.

    I can’t separate the two. 😢 I wish I could

    Me either.... I had a good deal of one nighters and FWB back in the day, but it was never me that wanted it that way.

    “Looking for love in all the wrong places” comes to mind. 😔
  • twitchandshout
    twitchandshout Posts: 1,591 Member
    slessofme wrote: »
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    Find physically attractive, yes. Romantic feelings, no.
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    In my experience, no. It's never turned out well. Unless it's an f buddy, but then is that actual romantic feelings or just lust 🤷‍♀️

    I never mix romantic feelings with a f buddy. It's a recipe for disaster and why so many people say f buddies don't work. Boundaries - physical, emotional, mental - are key.

    I can’t separate the two. 😢 I wish I could

    Me either.... I had a good deal of one nighters and FWB back in the day, but it was never me that wanted it that way.

    “Looking for love in all the wrong places” comes to mind. 😔
    For me it doesn’t have to be forever love and commitment but there are definitely feeeeeeeeelings
  • Deadman_Diggingup
    Deadman_Diggingup Posts: 3,082 Member
    slessofme wrote: »
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    Find physically attractive, yes. Romantic feelings, no.
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    In my experience, no. It's never turned out well. Unless it's an f buddy, but then is that actual romantic feelings or just lust 🤷‍♀️

    I never mix romantic feelings with a f buddy. It's a recipe for disaster and why so many people say f buddies don't work. Boundaries - physical, emotional, mental - are key.

    I can’t separate the two. 😢 I wish I could

    Me either.... I had a good deal of one nighters and FWB back in the day, but it was never me that wanted it that way.

    “Looking for love in all the wrong places” comes to mind. 😔
    For me it doesn’t have to be forever love and commitment but there are definitely feeeeeeeeelings

    Every. Time. The feels.
  • 5ofseven
    5ofseven Posts: 791 Member
    slessofme wrote: »
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    Find physically attractive, yes. Romantic feelings, no.
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    In my experience, no. It's never turned out well. Unless it's an f buddy, but then is that actual romantic feelings or just lust 🤷‍♀️

    I never mix romantic feelings with a f buddy. It's a recipe for disaster and why so many people say f buddies don't work. Boundaries - physical, emotional, mental - are key.

    I can’t separate the two. 😢 I wish I could

    Me either.... I had a good deal of one nighters and FWB back in the day, but it was never me that wanted it that way.

    “Looking for love in all the wrong places” comes to mind. 😔

    oohohhh, wookinpanub 🎶

    I can't just be friends with someone I find truly and terrifically attractive. Either we are going places or I'm going to stop going the places I see them.

    Eff buddies are just a bad idea all the long way around.
  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
    Won't let me upload a pic


    Apparently new trend for women...ridiculous baggy jeans.. in my mind super comfy...in reality...I look like a clown...

    Thoughts?

    If I can wear dumb stuff like this with no shame, then any woman can wear super baggy pants that may or may not act like a parachute and carry her away on a windy day.

    My "baggy pants" are akin to the baggy fabric pants you see pirate types wearing at Renaissance festivals. :joy:

    Well, welcome to 2021...you are in style 😁maybe I shall try the baggy look

    Ah, excellent. Let pajama time chic rule the decade then!
  • jjpptt2
    jjpptt2 Posts: 5,650 Member
    Avast, m’hearties!

    Are you more open with your friends or your lovers? With whom do you share more of your heart? With whom are you more honest?

    Neither. I have been burned so many times by both friends and lovers that I keep my secrets. I no longer open up to others outside of stories others know or that I hold no negative emotions or personal hangups over.

    Similar for me. I have a line... things/topics on the safe side of that line I'll discuss with anyone (assuming I can stand being around them long enough to have the conversation). Subjects on the wrong side of that line I don't typically discuss with anyone.
  • Deadman_Diggingup
    Deadman_Diggingup Posts: 3,082 Member
    5ofseven wrote: »
    slessofme wrote: »
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    Find physically attractive, yes. Romantic feelings, no.
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    In my experience, no. It's never turned out well. Unless it's an f buddy, but then is that actual romantic feelings or just lust 🤷‍♀️

    I never mix romantic feelings with a f buddy. It's a recipe for disaster and why so many people say f buddies don't work. Boundaries - physical, emotional, mental - are key.

    I can’t separate the two. 😢 I wish I could

    Me either.... I had a good deal of one nighters and FWB back in the day, but it was never me that wanted it that way.

    “Looking for love in all the wrong places” comes to mind. 😔

    oohohhh, wookinpanub 🎶

    I can't just be friends with someone I find truly and terrifically attractive. Either we are going places or I'm going to stop going the places I see them.

    Eff buddies are just a bad idea all the long way around.

    Agreed.
  • twitchandshout
    twitchandshout Posts: 1,591 Member
    5ofseven wrote: »
    slessofme wrote: »
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    Find physically attractive, yes. Romantic feelings, no.
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    In my experience, no. It's never turned out well. Unless it's an f buddy, but then is that actual romantic feelings or just lust 🤷‍♀️

    I never mix romantic feelings with a f buddy. It's a recipe for disaster and why so many people say f buddies don't work. Boundaries - physical, emotional, mental - are key.

    I can’t separate the two. 😢 I wish I could

    Me either.... I had a good deal of one nighters and FWB back in the day, but it was never me that wanted it that way.

    “Looking for love in all the wrong places” comes to mind. 😔

    oohohhh, wookinpanub 🎶

    I can't just be friends with someone I find truly and terrifically attractive. Either we are going places or I'm going to stop going the places I see them.

    Eff buddies are just a bad idea all the long way around.

    Agreed.

    I feel like I could handle a fuddy as long as he adored me and he wasn’t also fuddying anyone I know.
  • KickassAmazon76
    KickassAmazon76 Posts: 4,677 Member
    5ofseven wrote: »
    slessofme wrote: »
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    Find physically attractive, yes. Romantic feelings, no.
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    In my experience, no. It's never turned out well. Unless it's an f buddy, but then is that actual romantic feelings or just lust 🤷‍♀️

    I never mix romantic feelings with a f buddy. It's a recipe for disaster and why so many people say f buddies don't work. Boundaries - physical, emotional, mental - are key.

    I can’t separate the two. 😢 I wish I could

    Me either.... I had a good deal of one nighters and FWB back in the day, but it was never me that wanted it that way.

    “Looking for love in all the wrong places” comes to mind. 😔

    oohohhh, wookinpanub 🎶

    I can't just be friends with someone I find truly and terrifically attractive. Either we are going places or I'm going to stop going the places I see them.

    Eff buddies are just a bad idea all the long way around.

    Agreed.

    I cant do fwb. Some days I REALLY wish I could 😂. But, I can't. Sigh.

    This stupid "need to be in a relationship" thing is so not working for me. 😁
  • Deadman_Diggingup
    Deadman_Diggingup Posts: 3,082 Member
    5ofseven wrote: »
    slessofme wrote: »
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    Find physically attractive, yes. Romantic feelings, no.
    Ladies and gentlemen,

    Is it possible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for?

    In my experience, no. It's never turned out well. Unless it's an f buddy, but then is that actual romantic feelings or just lust 🤷‍♀️

    I never mix romantic feelings with a f buddy. It's a recipe for disaster and why so many people say f buddies don't work. Boundaries - physical, emotional, mental - are key.

    I can’t separate the two. 😢 I wish I could

    Me either.... I had a good deal of one nighters and FWB back in the day, but it was never me that wanted it that way.

    “Looking for love in all the wrong places” comes to mind. 😔

    oohohhh, wookinpanub 🎶

    I can't just be friends with someone I find truly and terrifically attractive. Either we are going places or I'm going to stop going the places I see them.

    Eff buddies are just a bad idea all the long way around.

    Agreed.

    I feel like I could handle a fuddy as long as he adored me and he wasn’t also fuddying anyone I know.

    Would that adoration not cause feelings to flourish anyway? I feel like there’s really no win with a “in it for the fun” arrangement, but that’s just me. My downfall has always been being too sensitive.