Guys/Girls: What is your real opinion on..
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PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Ok people whats you thoughts on mfp meet ups...good idea or nah...on one hand could make a friend for life on the other could be a huge disappointment
I've met 2 people so far. One was sort of awkward mostly because I didn't really know her but she was in my area. She was nice and I met her family. We're not fitness friends on here anymore. The other one I met here not an active member anymore but we've been friends for 5 years and it was just time. One of the best decisions I've ever made and I plan on having them in my life for a very long time. I have future plans on meeting one my favorite people on here but that will have to wait till the summer time other than her, I have no other realistic plans on meeting anyone else.3 -
_sw33tp3a_11 wrote: »PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Ok people whats you thoughts on mfp meet ups...good idea or nah...on one hand could make a friend for life on the other could be a huge disappointment
I've met 2 people so far. One was sort of awkward mostly because I didn't really know her but she was in my area. She was nice and I met her family. We're not fitness friends on here anymore. The other one I met here not an active member anymore but we've been friends for 5 years and it was just time. One of the best decisions I've ever made and I plan on having them in my life for a very long time. I have future plans on meeting one my favorite people on here but that will have to wait till the summer time other than her, I have no other realistic plans on meeting anyone else.
'cept me because you love me!2 -
GymGoddessGoals wrote: »_sw33tp3a_11 wrote: »PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Ok people whats you thoughts on mfp meet ups...good idea or nah...on one hand could make a friend for life on the other could be a huge disappointment
I've met 2 people so far. One was sort of awkward mostly because I didn't really know her but she was in my area. She was nice and I met her family. We're not fitness friends on here anymore. The other one I met here not an active member anymore but we've been friends for 5 years and it was just time. One of the best decisions I've ever made and I plan on having them in my life for a very long time. I have future plans on meeting one my favorite people on here but that will have to wait till the summer time other than her, I have no other realistic plans on meeting anyone else.
'cept me because you love me!
I do 🥰1 -
Guys/girls opinion on dates and who pays? When should it be split? Do you expect the lady will not pay on the first few dates? Ladies do you expect to be doted on for couple months, "courted"?
I'm curious about this as I've generally always assumed its split,1 -
PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls opinion on dates and who pays? When should it be split? Do you expect the lady will not pay on the first few dates? Ladies do you expect to be doted on for couple months, "courted"?
I'm curious about this as I've generally always assumed its split,
The person who asks for the date pays unless you have agreed upon other arrangements upfront.4 -
PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls opinion on dates and who pays? When should it be split? Do you expect the lady will not pay on the first few dates? Ladies do you expect to be doted on for couple months, "courted"?
I'm curious about this as I've generally always assumed its split,
Let's see.... in my experience, the lady pays for things like haircare, make-up, clothes etc. etc.
The guy, just shows up, hopefully looking respectable, but no great shakes, no big expense.
Guys should break-off a credit card and pay for the date, because the dollars work out in the end.
Ladies, if a fella buys you a meal, please enjoy it rather than pushing it around on your plate with a fork while talking about yourself and flipping your hair.4 -
Motorsheen wrote: »PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls opinion on dates and who pays? When should it be split? Do you expect the lady will not pay on the first few dates? Ladies do you expect to be doted on for couple months, "courted"?
I'm curious about this as I've generally always assumed its split,
Let's see.... in my experience, the lady pays for things like haircare, make-up, clothes etc. etc.
The guy, just shows up, hopefully looking respectable, but no great shakes, no big expense.
Guys should break-off a credit card and pay for the date, because the dollars work out in the end.
Ladies, if a fella buys you a meal, please enjoy it rather than pushing it around on your plate with a fork while talking about yourself and flipping your hair.
What about the therapy costs for venturing into public?3 -
Motorsheen wrote: »PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls opinion on dates and who pays? When should it be split? Do you expect the lady will not pay on the first few dates? Ladies do you expect to be doted on for couple months, "courted"?
I'm curious about this as I've generally always assumed its split,
Let's see.... in my experience, the lady pays for things like haircare, make-up, clothes etc. etc.
The guy, just shows up, hopefully looking respectable, but no great shakes, no big expense.
Guys should break-off a credit card and pay for the date, because the dollars work out in the end.
Ladies, if a fella buys you a meal, please enjoy it rather than pushing it around on your plate with a fork while talking about yourself and flipping your hair.
I respect that other people do things differently, but this has been my preference.1 -
Motorsheen wrote: »PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls opinion on dates and who pays? When should it be split? Do you expect the lady will not pay on the first few dates? Ladies do you expect to be doted on for couple months, "courted"?
I'm curious about this as I've generally always assumed its split,
Let's see.... in my experience, the lady pays for things like haircare, make-up, clothes etc. etc.
The guy, just shows up, hopefully looking respectable, but no great shakes, no big expense.
Guys should break-off a credit card and pay for the date, because the dollars work out in the end.
Ladies, if a fella buys you a meal, please enjoy it rather than pushing it around on your plate with a fork while talking about yourself and flipping your hair.
What about the therapy costs for venturing into public?
it kinda balances out with the bail money and attorney's fees0 -
Motorsheen wrote: »PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls opinion on dates and who pays? When should it be split? Do you expect the lady will not pay on the first few dates? Ladies do you expect to be doted on for couple months, "courted"?
I'm curious about this as I've generally always assumed its split,
Let's see.... in my experience, the lady pays for things like haircare, make-up, clothes etc. etc.
The guy, just shows up, hopefully looking respectable, but no great shakes, no big expense.
Guys should break-off a credit card and pay for the date, because the dollars work out in the end.
Ladies, if a fella buys you a meal, please enjoy it rather than pushing it around on your plate with a fork while talking about yourself and flipping your hair.
What about the therapy costs for venturing into public?
Good point0 -
twitchandshout wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls opinion on dates and who pays? When should it be split? Do you expect the lady will not pay on the first few dates? Ladies do you expect to be doted on for couple months, "courted"?
I'm curious about this as I've generally always assumed its split,
Let's see.... in my experience, the lady pays for things like haircare, make-up, clothes etc. etc.
The guy, just shows up, hopefully looking respectable, but no great shakes, no big expense.
Guys should break-off a credit card and pay for the date, because the dollars work out in the end.
Ladies, if a fella buys you a meal, please enjoy it rather than pushing it around on your plate with a fork while talking about yourself and flipping your hair.
I respect that other people do things differently, but this has been my preference.
I always feel, I dont know the word🤔 like its unfair or unbalanced to say the man always pays. In some cases the guy has insisted, and I accept. In others I insisted we go half because I knew I had no intention of seeing him again. But in general I feel most comfortable splitting...I feel it takes expectations and pressure off the date and just let's it be.2 -
PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »twitchandshout wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls opinion on dates and who pays? When should it be split? Do you expect the lady will not pay on the first few dates? Ladies do you expect to be doted on for couple months, "courted"?
I'm curious about this as I've generally always assumed its split,
Let's see.... in my experience, the lady pays for things like haircare, make-up, clothes etc. etc.
The guy, just shows up, hopefully looking respectable, but no great shakes, no big expense.
Guys should break-off a credit card and pay for the date, because the dollars work out in the end.
Ladies, if a fella buys you a meal, please enjoy it rather than pushing it around on your plate with a fork while talking about yourself and flipping your hair.
I respect that other people do things differently, but this has been my preference.
I always feel, I dont know the word🤔 like its unfair or unbalanced to say the man always pays. In some cases the guy has insisted, and I accept. In others I insisted we go half because I knew I had no intention of seeing him again. But in general I feel most comfortable splitting...I feel it takes expectations and pressure off the date and just let's it be.
Makes sense. I don’t do it that way.1 -
GymGoddessGoals wrote: »PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls opinion on dates and who pays? When should it be split? Do you expect the lady will not pay on the first few dates? Ladies do you expect to be doted on for couple months, "courted"?
I'm curious about this as I've generally always assumed its split,
The person who asks for the date pays unless you have agreed upon other arrangements upfront.
This makes sense to me. Whoever is asking should pay, it’s a gift in a way. Unless of course there’s another agreement.4 -
twitchandshout wrote: »PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »twitchandshout wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls opinion on dates and who pays? When should it be split? Do you expect the lady will not pay on the first few dates? Ladies do you expect to be doted on for couple months, "courted"?
I'm curious about this as I've generally always assumed its split,
Let's see.... in my experience, the lady pays for things like haircare, make-up, clothes etc. etc.
The guy, just shows up, hopefully looking respectable, but no great shakes, no big expense.
Guys should break-off a credit card and pay for the date, because the dollars work out in the end.
Ladies, if a fella buys you a meal, please enjoy it rather than pushing it around on your plate with a fork while talking about yourself and flipping your hair.
I respect that other people do things differently, but this has been my preference.
I always feel, I dont know the word🤔 like its unfair or unbalanced to say the man always pays. In some cases the guy has insisted, and I accept. In others I insisted we go half because I knew I had no intention of seeing him again. But in general I feel most comfortable splitting...I feel it takes expectations and pressure off the date and just let's it be.
Makes sense. I don’t do it that way.
Technically I'm not doing that anymore 🤷 but!
next time I'm getting my free dinners2 -
😂PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »twitchandshout wrote: »PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »twitchandshout wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls opinion on dates and who pays? When should it be split? Do you expect the lady will not pay on the first few dates? Ladies do you expect to be doted on for couple months, "courted"?
I'm curious about this as I've generally always assumed its split,
Let's see.... in my experience, the lady pays for things like haircare, make-up, clothes etc. etc.
The guy, just shows up, hopefully looking respectable, but no great shakes, no big expense.
Guys should break-off a credit card and pay for the date, because the dollars work out in the end.
Ladies, if a fella buys you a meal, please enjoy it rather than pushing it around on your plate with a fork while talking about yourself and flipping your hair.
I respect that other people do things differently, but this has been my preference.
I always feel, I dont know the word🤔 like its unfair or unbalanced to say the man always pays. In some cases the guy has insisted, and I accept. In others I insisted we go half because I knew I had no intention of seeing him again. But in general I feel most comfortable splitting...I feel it takes expectations and pressure off the date and just let's it be.
Makes sense. I don’t do it that way.
Technically I'm not doing that anymore 🤷 but!
next time I'm getting my free dinners
When I date I don’t do the asking. I make it clear that I’m interested but that’s it. If a date happens I reach for my wallet but I expect to be stopped.
If he is cheap, I will supplement the tip but there won’t be a second date.
On subsequent dates, I will ask and be glad to pay.
There have been exceptions, for example a forgotten wallet. In that case, I believe in grace.
This is how I conduct myself but I don’t believe they are universal rules that everyone must follow.
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twitchandshout wrote: »
😂PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »twitchandshout wrote: »PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »twitchandshout wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls opinion on dates and who pays? When should it be split? Do you expect the lady will not pay on the first few dates? Ladies do you expect to be doted on for couple months, "courted"?
I'm curious about this as I've generally always assumed its split,
Let's see.... in my experience, the lady pays for things like haircare, make-up, clothes etc. etc.
The guy, just shows up, hopefully looking respectable, but no great shakes, no big expense.
Guys should break-off a credit card and pay for the date, because the dollars work out in the end.
Ladies, if a fella buys you a meal, please enjoy it rather than pushing it around on your plate with a fork while talking about yourself and flipping your hair.
I respect that other people do things differently, but this has been my preference.
I always feel, I dont know the word🤔 like its unfair or unbalanced to say the man always pays. In some cases the guy has insisted, and I accept. In others I insisted we go half because I knew I had no intention of seeing him again. But in general I feel most comfortable splitting...I feel it takes expectations and pressure off the date and just let's it be.
Makes sense. I don’t do it that way.
Technically I'm not doing that anymore 🤷 but!
next time I'm getting my free dinners
When I date I don’t do the asking. I make it clear that I’m interested but that’s it. If a date happens I reach for my wallet but I expect to be stopped.
If he is cheap, I will supplement the tip but there won’t be a second date.
On subsequent dates, I will ask and be glad to pay.
There have been exceptions, for example a forgotten wallet. In that case, I believe in grace.
This is how I conduct myself but I don’t believe they are universal rules that everyone must follow.
I see a Red Lobster 'Shrimp Fest' in your future.2 -
Motorsheen wrote: »twitchandshout wrote: »
😂PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »twitchandshout wrote: »PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »twitchandshout wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls opinion on dates and who pays? When should it be split? Do you expect the lady will not pay on the first few dates? Ladies do you expect to be doted on for couple months, "courted"?
I'm curious about this as I've generally always assumed its split,
Let's see.... in my experience, the lady pays for things like haircare, make-up, clothes etc. etc.
The guy, just shows up, hopefully looking respectable, but no great shakes, no big expense.
Guys should break-off a credit card and pay for the date, because the dollars work out in the end.
Ladies, if a fella buys you a meal, please enjoy it rather than pushing it around on your plate with a fork while talking about yourself and flipping your hair.
I respect that other people do things differently, but this has been my preference.
I always feel, I dont know the word🤔 like its unfair or unbalanced to say the man always pays. In some cases the guy has insisted, and I accept. In others I insisted we go half because I knew I had no intention of seeing him again. But in general I feel most comfortable splitting...I feel it takes expectations and pressure off the date and just let's it be.
Makes sense. I don’t do it that way.
Technically I'm not doing that anymore 🤷 but!
next time I'm getting my free dinners
When I date I don’t do the asking. I make it clear that I’m interested but that’s it. If a date happens I reach for my wallet but I expect to be stopped.
If he is cheap, I will supplement the tip but there won’t be a second date.
On subsequent dates, I will ask and be glad to pay.
There have been exceptions, for example a forgotten wallet. In that case, I believe in grace.
This is how I conduct myself but I don’t believe they are universal rules that everyone must follow.
I see a Red Lobster 'Shrimp Fest' in your future.
I’m interested2 -
GymGoddessGoals wrote: »PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls opinion on dates and who pays? When should it be split? Do you expect the lady will not pay on the first few dates? Ladies do you expect to be doted on for couple months, "courted"?
I'm curious about this as I've generally always assumed its split,
The person who asks for the date pays unless you have agreed upon other arrangements upfront.
This. Although assuming I want to continue to hang out with the person, I pick up the tab on the next one. Or do a share thing where if one has shelled out for tickets to something, the other pays for dinner.2 -
PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls opinion on dates and who pays? When should it be split? Do you expect the lady will not pay on the first few dates? Ladies do you expect to be doted on for couple months, "courted"?
I'm curious about this as I've generally always assumed its split,
Couple of thoughts, because nothing is ever simple with me...
If one is traveling a meaningful distance, then the one who didn't travel pays.
The one who asked/invited pays.
If there a second part to the date (tickets, dessert, etc), the one pays for dinner, the other for the entertainment.
I like chivalry, so I always pay. I don't think I've ever divvied up the bill based on who ordered what.1 -
PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls opinion on dates and who pays? When should it be split? Do you expect the lady will not pay on the first few dates? Ladies do you expect to be doted on for couple months, "courted"?
I'm curious about this as I've generally always assumed its split,
This is easy, i pay, period. There are no other what ifs to me. Call me old fashioned, call me misogynstic, whatever. If i go on a date, i pay for it. I appreciate if my date offers, but i dont expect it and will not accept. In todays social climate and with everybody's sensitivities on high alert, i can see why this question could actually arise, but i dont buy into making this a debateable issue. I will open the car door for my date, i will open the restaurant door, and i will pay. That may be offensive to some women but its not meant to be, and if it is, its highly unlikely we will hit it off anyway.10 -
Dating? What's that?2
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GymGoddessGoals wrote: »PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls opinion on dates and who pays? When should it be split? Do you expect the lady will not pay on the first few dates? Ladies do you expect to be doted on for couple months, "courted"?
I'm curious about this as I've generally always assumed its split,
The person who asks for the date pays unless you have agreed upon other arrangements upfront.
Same. I asked someone on a date for this weekend and plan to pay for the activity and dinner. It won't be a big deal if he insists, but I dont expect him to bankroll plans I'm making for us.PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls opinion on dates and who pays? When should it be split? Do you expect the lady will not pay on the first few dates? Ladies do you expect to be doted on for couple months, "courted"?
I'm curious about this as I've generally always assumed its split,
This is easy, i pay, period. There are no other what ifs to me. Call me old fashioned, call me misogynstic, whatever. If i go on a date, i pay for it. I appreciate if my date offers, but i dont expect it and will not accept. In todays social climate and with everybody's sensitivities on high alert, i can see why this question could actually arise, but i dont buy into making this a debateable issue. I will open the car door for my date, i will open the restaurant door, and i will pay. That may be offensive to some women but its not meant to be, and if it is, its highly unlikely we will hit it off anyway.
I'll admit that I like this. I use my manners when a man treats me to dinner, opens doors, etc and thank them verbally. Appreciation doesn't imply subjugation. I have tried to teach my sons to open doors for others and consider the positive comments I have received about that the highest compliments I have ever received.2 -
PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls opinion on dates and who pays? When should it be split? Do you expect the lady will not pay on the first few dates? Ladies do you expect to be doted on for couple months, "courted"?
I'm curious about this as I've generally always assumed its split,
This is easy, i pay, period. There are no other what ifs to me. Call me old fashioned, call me misogynstic, whatever. If i go on a date, i pay for it. I appreciate if my date offers, but i dont expect it and will not accept. In todays social climate and with everybody's sensitivities on high alert, i can see why this question could actually arise, but i dont buy into making this a debateable issue. I will open the car door for my date, i will open the restaurant door, and i will pay. That may be offensive to some women but its not meant to be, and if it is, its highly unlikely we will hit it off anyway.
I'd call you a gentleman, and chivalrous.
However, I think the paying aspect of this dates from a time when women earned significantly less than men did so it sort of made sense. Men just had more ready cash to shell out.
I've been the higher earner in roughly 75% of my relationships and I just don't see it as fair for the man to shoulder the burden of date costs in that situation. Or we'd have spent most of our dating time drinking low-budget coffee, with me feeling bad that I couldn't treat him to a nice dinner out if he couldn't accept the idea of me paying.2 -
Dear People,
How many text conversations can you carry on simultaneously and for how long? Ever mix them up?0 -
twitchandshout wrote: »Dear People,
How many text conversations can you carry on simultaneously and for how long? Ever mix them up?
Three max, probably. Anymore than that and yes, I risk mixing up conversations, some of which I definitely do not want mixed up.
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KosmosKitten wrote: »twitchandshout wrote: »Dear People,
How many text conversations can you carry on simultaneously and for how long? Ever mix them up?
Three max, probably. Anymore than that and yes, I risk mixing up conversations, some of which I definitely do not want mixed up.
🤣 I’m imagining0 -
Kashmir_314_ wrote: »twitchandshout wrote: »Dear People,
How many text conversations can you carry on simultaneously and for how long? Ever mix them up?
One. It's not that I can't multitask, it's that I genuinely suck at texting. My friends and family gives me grief about this all the time.
Me: gets a text, reads it, closes phone
Me: remembers 24 hours later I got said text and responds.
Only people I respond to immediately is my children.
I’m trying to get better at this. Even if it’s just a “let me get back to you.“3 -
twitchandshout wrote: »Dear People,
How many text conversations can you carry on simultaneously and for how long? Ever mix them up?
I really don't enjoy texting. I think I've only meet 1 person in my life that I could text all day and always have something to say but we don't talk anymore. Besides that, I'll only text to check in on friends and see how they're doing.2 -
Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »twitchandshout wrote: »Dear People,
How many text conversations can you carry on simultaneously and for how long? Ever mix them up?
I really don't enjoy texting. I think I've only meet 1 person in my life that I could text all day and always have something to say but we don't talk anymore. Besides that, I'll only text to check in on friends and see how they're doing.
That’s how I am about the telephone.2 -
I should have answered my own question. If I’m actively engaged in a conversation via text, in person, or whatever I try to give that person my attention. Sometimes it’s hard to know if the text is just going to be a little dinglydo or a full blown chat.2
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