Guys/Girls: What is your real opinion on..
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Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »r3d_butt3rfly_ wrote: »Girls,
How would you handle jealousy in a friendship with a girl?
With some self depreciating humor and humility to make them feel better if I value their friendship...
Although jealous people sometimes will see this as an opportunity to make you less so they can be more...
I'd probably end up distancing myself honestly...
Same, distancing myself1 -
Girls:
A guy you meet seems to be great in every way so far. He’s employed, uses an appropriate amountof hair gel, calls his mom, and has a car. One fiiiine *kitten* package
But the first time you get him out of his pants, you see every woman’s worst nightmare:
Elephant ear tattoos on either side of his long dong silver
And he’s proud of them. The tattoos and the.. doobledydoo
Next move?
Kill the lights and carry on. Maybe even fake a power failure if he seems like he might be overly sensitive about it.2 -
r3d_butt3rfly_ wrote: »Girls,
How would you handle jealousy in a friendship with a girl?
I find myself envious of other girls, not usually jealous tho.
Like I want what they have (so I think) but I don't begrudge anyone anything they have that I don't
I do get jealous on rare occasion and its a horrible, low, shame-filled feeling.
...only ever have about men I really like (guess its an insecurity or fear?)
I recognize it as a "me problem" (after getting a bit ragey and cry-ey)
To actually answer your question, I have a work friend that has showed ugly jealous feelings towards me on one occasion, really bad - she was drinking. Sadly I realized her bf was antagonizing her and making her feel insecure (I don't entirely know how I fit into the situation).
I ignored it. It hurt me to see her so upset and petty. Ultimately I felt sorry for her (she is not a person to pity, she is strong and smart and kind)
She still has a competitive thing going on with me, I ignore it.
I like her and I respect her, she has many other awesome qualities, and I want her in my life.
Feeling jealousy is a horrible enough emotion - and its something you have to come to terms with in your own head.
Feeling "less than" (desirable, intelligent, fortunate - whatever) or that someone (or something? can you be jealous of things) you value deeply may be taken away from you is a mind *kitten* you need to work through on your own - no one else can truly help you (I dont think)
Sorry for derailing question a bit
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PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »GymGoddessGoals wrote: »Girls:
A guy you meet seems to be great in every way so far. He’s employed, uses an appropriate amountof hair gel, calls his mom, and has a car. One fiiiine *kitten* package
But the first time you get him out of his pants, you see every woman’s worst nightmare:
Elephant ear tattoos on either side of his long dong silver
And he’s proud of them. The tattoos and the.. doobledydoo
Next move?
Sorry just trying to decide on cinnamon & sugar or powdered sugar.
I don’t even want to admit how long this took me to understand
I mean its ALWAYS cinn & sug
I've read it several times 😬still lost
I find you adorable!
And I relate - we are the girls who "need the joke 'splained'" before we "get it" sometimes
...I'll just put out my guestimation?
"elephant ears" are like the (same) as funnel cakes and Beaver Tails...I think
...and if you were kidding - I didn't get it!
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r3d_butt3rfly_ wrote: »Girls,
How would you handle jealousy in a friendship with a girl?
I find myself envious of other girls, not usually jealous tho.
Like I want what they have (so I think) but I don't begrudge anyone anything they have that I don't
I do get jealous on rare occasion and its a horrible, low, shame-filled feeling.
...only ever have about men I really like (guess its an insecurity or fear?)
I recognize it as a "me problem" (after getting a bit ragey and cry-ey)
To actually answer your question, I have a work friend that has showed ugly jealous feelings towards me on one occasion, really bad - she was drinking. Sadly I realized her bf was antagonizing her and making her feel insecure (I don't entirely know how I fit into the situation).
I ignored it. It hurt me to see her so upset and petty. Ultimately I felt sorry for her (she is not a person to pity, she is strong and smart and kind)
She still has a competitive thing going on with me, I ignore it.
I like her and I respect her, she has many other awesome qualities, and I want her in my life.
Feeling jealousy is a horrible enough emotion - and its something you have to come to terms with in your own head.
Feeling "less than" (desirable, intelligent, fortunate - whatever) or that someone (or something? can you be jealous of things) you value deeply may be taken away from you is a mind *kitten* you need to work through on your own - no one else can truly help you (I dont think)
Sorry for derailing question a bit
*kitten* i didnt even think about men
if i get jealous about a guy its bc i know he not really that into me or he not committed to me and i prolly want that but dont know how to get it
the girl is just secondary and i prolly hate myself for not liking her
then i get like overwhelmed feeling worthless, like trash without any value at all
i know its stupid as hell to make your value based on that but i’m working on it ♥️5 -
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r3d_butt3rfly_ wrote: »Girls,
How would you handle jealousy in a friendship with a girl?
I find myself envious of other girls, not usually jealous tho.
Like I want what they have (so I think) but I don't begrudge anyone anything they have that I don't
I do get jealous on rare occasion and its a horrible, low, shame-filled feeling.
...only ever have about men I really like (guess its an insecurity or fear?)
I recognize it as a "me problem" (after getting a bit ragey and cry-ey)
To actually answer your question, I have a work friend that has showed ugly jealous feelings towards me on one occasion, really bad - she was drinking. Sadly I realized her bf was antagonizing her and making her feel insecure (I don't entirely know how I fit into the situation).
I ignored it. It hurt me to see her so upset and petty. Ultimately I felt sorry for her (she is not a person to pity, she is strong and smart and kind)
She still has a competitive thing going on with me, I ignore it.
I like her and I respect her, she has many other awesome qualities, and I want her in my life.
Feeling jealousy is a horrible enough emotion - and its something you have to come to terms with in your own head.
Feeling "less than" (desirable, intelligent, fortunate - whatever) or that someone (or something? can you be jealous of things) you value deeply may be taken away from you is a mind *kitten* you need to work through on your own - no one else can truly help you (I dont think)
Sorry for derailing question a bit
Thank you for this heartfelt post! I found it very inspiring! When I get jealous of other women (and I don't think I really get jealous of men, unless it's the fact they build muscle more easily and usually have a higher calorie allotment. . . )it's usually because I am jealous of their happiness and sense of direction (whether it's real or just a show). Like I feel jealous because they seem to know what they want, and I never know what I want (one of those emotionless girls as mentioned in another one of the questions). And your post made me recognize this is a ME thing. I wouldn't stop talking with a women I am jealous of though, I'd actually probably try to figure out what makes her that way and/or attempt to humanize her more so I can see that life isn't one big Instagram filter. But I agree, jealous is a low feeling. I am glad it is something that we can improve within ourselves.
And I dunno if anyone has ever been jealous of me. In all honestly, I think I am bit naive. Also definitely related to the cry-ey bit, that's how I process my emotions I don't understand. A good old fashioned wail usually sorts it out temporarily.3 -
Girls:
A guy you meet seems to be great in every way so far. He’s employed, uses an appropriate amountof hair gel, calls his mom, and has a car. One fiiiine *kitten* package
But the first time you get him out of his pants, you see every woman’s worst nightmare:
Elephant ear tattoos on either side of his long dong silver
And he’s proud of them. The tattoos and the.. doobledydoo
Next move?
^ already got me running the other direction 🤷🏼♀️5 -
_DisasterDoll_ wrote: »Girls:
A guy you meet seems to be great in every way so far. He’s employed, uses an appropriate amountof hair gel, calls his mom, and has a car. One fiiiine *kitten* package
But the first time you get him out of his pants, you see every woman’s worst nightmare:
Elephant ear tattoos on either side of his long dong silver
And he’s proud of them. The tattoos and the.. doobledydoo
Next move?
^ already got me running the other direction 🤷🏼♀️
We've never met but I feel like I know you2 -
r3d_butt3rfly_ wrote: »Girls,
How would you handle jealousy in a friendship with a girl?
I’ve been the jealous ‘friend’. It was impossible for me to be an actual friend to her though. Nope, it was a steady diet of pettiness and resentment and oh my god, the schadenfreude
Sad thing is, she really saw me as a good friend. She didn’t know that her confessions of failure and self-doubt were things I craved rather than had empathy for. I hate that I was ever that person even as I understand why I was that person.
So.. I don’t think it’s really possible to call it a friendship at all if there’s jealousy, honestly5 -
sweet_ermengarde wrote: »Guys....what’s your real opinion on confidence in women? Like, I hear that if she’s super confident in her body it can “make up” for what some might think of as flaws.
To simplify it for some of you.....same woman, same body, same in bed...they are identical in every way. Except one is insecure about her “flaws” and it shows. The other one has a huge idgaf attitude over the same “flaws” and doesn’t care what anyone thinks about them. She still thinks she’s sexy as hell. And it shows. How much does that change the way you see her?
Again....one is not PHYSICALLY hotter than the other. They are exactly the same in bed.
i have major insecurity in how i look and sometimes even hate my body and have been told like * a lot * that its a major turn off and i can def see why bc confident people are more attractive. i basically have just learned to fake confidence sometimes but that *kitten* wears me out so mostly i avoid it all
Who are these people telling you it’s a turn-off, my god talk about kicking someone when they’re down. “I have flaws that I worry are a turn-off” “ew don‘t talk about them that’s a turn-off”
seriously wth6 -
Guys....what’s your real opinion on confidence in women? Like, I hear that if she’s super confident in her body it can “make up” for what some might think of as flaws.
To simplify it for some of you.....same woman, same body, same in bed...they are identical in every way. Except one is insecure about her “flaws” and it shows. The other one has a huge idgaf attitude over the same “flaws” and doesn’t care what anyone thinks about them. She still thinks she’s sexy as hell. And it shows. How much does that change the way you see her?
Again....one is not PHYSICALLY hotter than the other. They are exactly the same in bed.
I have a lot of "flaws" but figured out at a young age its probably better to not draw people's attention to them, like don't say "I hate my *kitten*", then other people may look at your *kitten* any think " she's right, her *kitten* sucks". Dosen't mean I'm confident tho.
Learned this from hearing my friends critiquing themselves, like I never payed attention to Kelly's big thighs or Angie's nose especially, until they pointed it out.
I was ridiculously self-conscious as a teen. I had horrible horrible acne. Like small kids asked why my face looked like pizza and *kitten* like that
Honestly I was probably no more self-conscious than anyone else though really.
Anyway, one of my favorite comments came from my best friend’s mom one night. She was very no-nonsense and pragmatic. When she overheard us feeling embarrassed about how we looked or something, she just said “pshh, nobody’s looking at you anyway”. We looked at her in complete shock and she laughed at how bad it had come out. We still laugh about it every time we’re together, but what she meant was that EVERYONE is self-conscious, therefore no one is fixating on you like you are. I found it to be SO SO reassuring. It literally became a mantra of sorts whenever I was feeling super self-conscious.5 -
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Ladies...
A guy who pushes you to do more and improve, or a guy who accepts you just as you are and can careless about pushing you?
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What I'm saying is... Never ever give up on yourself...
If he is meant to be around, he'll learn to accept you for the way you are 💕[/quote]
The guy who pushes me to do more is a person I would very soon get annoyed with. The guy who accepts me as I am is the one. Bonus points if, like Whatsisface, he occasionally acknowledges my hard work and dedication where he sees it.1 -
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sweet_ermengarde wrote: »guys/girls
whats the best thing anyone ever given u as a gift
A set of ceramic mixing bowls. They're pretty in a neutral way, but functional. Like me.
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Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »If ladies can say they like beards 🙄...
Then what's wrong with a guy saying he prefers little to no makeup? 🤷🏽♂️...
*ducks*
I can have that preference, he can do as he pleases.
Whatsisface doesn't care what he looks like, so sometimes I express a preference, and he either does or doesn't do it. Over quarantine, he gets very shaggy, gets tired of it, then buzzes his hair and shaves.0 -
Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »
I've got the answer! They do it because they're looking at bewbs. Or the peach. You know.1 -
Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Who would you rather be?
Bond or Sherlock Holmes...
Who would you rather date?
Bond or Sherlock Holmes... 😬
Be Sherlock Holmes, date Bond. Mostly because Sherlock doesn't seem like he ever has the time for me, otherwise Sherlock because brainy is sexy.0 -
Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Ladies and Gents...
If she gives you the old "I don't get jealous" routine...
There's a high probability that this is a trap wrapped in a dare.... Ain't it? 😬
Please click below for the list of Disclaimers and Disclosures...This ain't about any of you guys "😂"
People: "I don't get jealous."
Narrator Voice: "90% chance they are jealous RIGHT NOW"1 -
Guys/girls: what do you feel when someone of the opposite sex treats you like a buddy? Like he/she calls you “bro” or “dude” or something similar. Is it endearing or offputting? What does it make you feel?
Guys/girls: what are you communicating to a member of the opposite sex when you treat them like a buddy? Like you call them “bro” or “dude” or something similar. What does it mean?
Depends. If there's a romantic history already, it's fun. Whatsisface and I do it.
Me: *something outrageous*
Whatsisface: Bro
Me: BRO
Whatsisface: BrO
When I do it to people I do not have a romantic history with, I am either pissed at them or annoyed with them.
Them: *something frat boy stupid*
Me: "Chill bro"
Them: *something politically stupid*
Me: "That is not how this works my dude"1 -
sweet_ermengarde wrote: »guys/girls
describe a guy/girl u think is physically perfect
pics okay but beware mods 👀
Physically: strong forearms, wide shoulders, tall, lanky. Geeky.
That said, I do not only go for this type.0 -
ladies-
you like him a lot.
but he's not even 40 and he's balding, horribly.
and- he rocks the worlds worst combover
but he is CONFIDENT he looks good with it, especially when using extra hair gel to hold it down.
what ya'll doin?
I'm torn. I'd want to shave his head, but also eh. I'd just watch a lot of The Rock and express my preferences.1 -
Girls:
A guy you meet seems to be great in every way so far. He’s employed, uses an appropriate amountof hair gel, calls his mom, and has a car. One fiiiine *kitten* package
But the first time you get him out of his pants, you see every woman’s worst nightmare:
Elephant ear tattoos on either side of his long dong silver
And he’s proud of them. The tattoos and the.. doobledydoo
Next move?
BYEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE0 -
r3d_butt3rfly_ wrote: »Girls,
How would you handle jealousy in a friendship with a girl?
Not a friend. Meme person only.0 -
Guys: she drives a mini van but definitely hot
Or
This one drives a (insert sports car) but is more mature in her looks
OR a combo...mini van with a nice mature attractivnesa
***asking for a friend😬1 -
PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys: she drives a mini van but definitely hot
Or
This one drives a (insert sports car) but is more mature in her looks
OR a combo...mini van with a nice mature attractivnesa
***asking for a friend😬
Which ones better in bed?3 -
PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys: she drives a mini van but definitely hot
Or
This one drives a (insert sports car) but is more mature in her looks
OR a combo...mini van with a nice mature attractivnesa
***asking for a friend😬
I feel like this is akin to the hot/crazy chick matrix.0 -
Guys/Girls: Real Opinion
Belly button piercings?
Claw like fake nails?
*DISCLAIMER* I have neither of these things.2 -
GymGoddessGoals wrote: »Guys/Girls: Real Opinion
Belly button piercings?
Claw like fake nails?
*DISCLAIMER* I have neither of these things.
as long as she keeps the piercing clean its good but tbf i haven't actually seen one of those in like, a decade now i think. do girls even get them anymore?
claws are good.4 -
GymGoddessGoals wrote: »Guys/Girls: Real Opinion
Belly button piercings?
Claw like fake nails?
*DISCLAIMER* I have neither of these things.
I mean they're not dealbreakers perse...
But the belly button thing is a turnoff at my age...
The claws just seem kinda ghetto... 🤷🏽♂️3
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