Getting Called Out In Public - "You Are Fat"

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  • MzScarlet
    MzScarlet Posts: 8 Member
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    Usually when someone insults me in public, I have found that looking them up and down and then busting out laughing, and shaking my head while walking away does wonders. It drives them nuts not knowing what you were laughing at and makes them self conscious :laugh: .
  • cherryd69
    cherryd69 Posts: 340
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    I had it the other night on a facebook page Corsa c UK, its part of their online forum.

    iv been on it for a few weeks an the whole group is full of chavvy little twist, but they have some nicely modified cars.

    Id posted a pick of my car and was talkin about what mods i wanted to do, getting advice and what not, id mentioned that i didnt want it lowered, i had a kn*b jokey reply with 'it'l be lowered everytime you sit in it love'

    Although it upset me, my instant reply was 'wow your nice, careful i may eat you'


    It really affected my mood for the night, i was upset.

    Yes, i know im overweight, i really didnt need it to be pointed out to me, but whilst im tryin to better myself by losing weight, he cant change being a complete c*nt.




    Dont let it get you down, forget about it.... they really arnt worth the effort.
  • MisterDerpington
    MisterDerpington Posts: 604 Member
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    "And you're a c***."
  • _Resolve_
    _Resolve_ Posts: 735 Member
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    Option A - Call them a bigot and ask what went so terribly wrong with their life to make them act they way they do.
    Option B - A smack across the mouth usually makes people stop talking.
  • jwdieter
    jwdieter Posts: 2,582 Member
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    Making up fantasy responses and replaying the moment over and over is pointless. Keep moving forward.
  • trackmyday1973
    trackmyday1973 Posts: 393 Member
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    Option A - Call them a bigot and ask what went so terribly wrong with their life to make them act they way they do.
    Option B - A smack across the mouth usually makes people stop talking.

    Option B crossed my mind but I don't want jail time LOL it would have been the ultimate satisfaction
  • kmorales_4
    kmorales_4 Posts: 208 Member
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    Any advice on how to overcome this public humiliation?

    Thanks

    Without skippin a beat just answer "That's right, I got me a little cushion for the pushin" then turn around and leave.

    Nasty people like that don't deserve your dignity. You are a really beautiful woman, gorgeous rather, who happens to be plus sized but that's not all there is to you. Show them how much smarter and wittier than they are by smaking down their stupid remarks then walking away with pride while they look like an *kitten*.
  • MyaPapaya75
    MyaPapaya75 Posts: 3,143 Member
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    Personally I think the girl who said that is rather lonely, having to announce that she hates fat people..who would really care? I would shrug it off. She is using the only words in her simple mind that would be hurtful. Give her attention and she has won.
  • kmorales_4
    kmorales_4 Posts: 208 Member
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    Well some have asked....it wasn't a kid it was a grown woman in her 40-50's

    Regardless, you are all correct. When I wrote this post...it just happened and instead of binging I turned to this thread.

    I am glad I did.

    I am over it now. I HAVE WON - WHY???? BECAUSE I AM FOCUSED AND DIDN'T TURN TO FOOD BINGING.

    In the end..... I won :)

    Thanks to each and every one of you who posted here and all my MFP friends. You are all the reason why MFP works.

    Thank you,

    The show must go on :)

    Happy Calorie Tracking Day Everyone :)

    You most certainly did win. Good on ya girl.
  • CollegiateGrief
    CollegiateGrief Posts: 552 Member
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    What bothered me even more was the fact that she said "I hate all you fat people"

    OMG she just offended so many people all at once without knowing us.... based just on weight she "hates" us.

    Society has come to this?

    Proper response: "It's okay sweetie, we all hate you too."
  • CollegiateGrief
    CollegiateGrief Posts: 552 Member
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    Usually when someone insults me in public, I have found that looking them up and down and then busting out laughing, and shaking my head while walking away does wonders. It drives them nuts not knowing what you were laughing at and makes them self conscious :laugh: .

    Also nice!
  • fitmomhappymom
    fitmomhappymom Posts: 171 Member
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    Just say "and you are rude. Goodbye."
  • lesteidel
    lesteidel Posts: 229 Member
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    Let it go.


    Keep in mind you don't know what happened in that persons day.


    In my experience, almost everybody has something about their body they are really insecure about.

    Responding with like usually breeds an awful cycle. We bigger girls tend to make snarky comments to thinner girls without realizing we are doing the same thing they do to us. "Do you eat?" "I hate you for being skinny" "men like women with curves" "bones are for dogs" etc and so on, and we forget how hurtful that is. We as women are creating a cycle of insulting each other. The smaller insult the bigger and the bigger insult the smaller. Half the time we don't even realize we are doing it.

    I asked the last girl who insulted my weight why she did it. No reaction, other than "why would you say such a thing." And she broke down and told me about how she gets insulted so many times by bigger girls that she now just immediately attacks them before they can attack her so she doesn't end up the one crying. And I've known bigger girls that do this to smaller girls. We ALL have our insecurities. Pointing out another's is unkind, but try to think before y judge her too harshly. Have you said something unkind about someone's appearance? Have you ever been guilty of bashing a smaller girl for being smaller? If we are being honest, most of us have. I know, I have been guilty of stick comments. Those are just as hurtful. The more we do this to each other, the more the cycle will go on.


    So try not to let it bother you when someone does this, you never know where they are coming from or what hurt made them like that. People rarely lash out at others because they are extremely happy with themselves. If we treat these kinds of comments with kindness, and caring, instead of hurt, insecurity, and or retaliation, maybe we can stop the cycle of shaming each other for our bodies. And if it absolutely cannot be met with kindness, at the very least, just ignore it.
  • AndyTwoSlow
    AndyTwoSlow Posts: 34
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    to borrow a phrase I've used in a different situation:

    "I can lose weight, but you'll still be a *****."
  • caramelgyrlk
    caramelgyrlk Posts: 1,112 Member
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    I would fart in her general direction.

    I almost fell out of my chair laughing.
  • diodelcibo
    diodelcibo Posts: 2,564 Member
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    Probably best to just ignore it , if you're hateful back or get physically aggressive then you've just lost.
  • Brige2269
    Brige2269 Posts: 354 Member
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    I take the sarcastic route. A little boy told me I was fat. I just said thank you, I had no idea. His mom just laughed. Another time, I said, to a guy that said geez, you're big. 'I know!! It was much worse, though. Can you imagine?!?!" Then I just walk away shaking my head. Hasn't happened to me in a long time. But I see people's eyes drop to my body as I walk past them.
  • rowrunyoga
    rowrunyoga Posts: 65 Member
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    Surely the response is "And you are rude. I'm losing weight, what are you doing to improve yourself?"

    I LOVE this response.
  • rowrunyoga
    rowrunyoga Posts: 65 Member
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    I would fart in her general direction.

    YES!!!!!!!
  • ajewellmom
    ajewellmom Posts: 186 Member
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    Funny you should mention this. I think I was called fat last night, but I can't be sure because it was a crazy little old Indian woman who was speaking punjabi or something to me. She was rambling away all happy smiles and then pointed at my fat arms (and yes, they are fat, but it's not like I don't know that) and said the words "huge" and "gordo". Okay, so gordo is a Spanish word, but I'm guessing it means the same thing to this crazy ol' bat.

    At any rate, I kept on walking (burn those calories) and ignored her . . . . but I did return on the other side of the street.

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