I ate a piece of cake! ☹😥
naguilar1021
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So it has been almost 3 months since I started my journey. I was at 200lbs, bodyfat at 33% when I started. Today, I am at 188lbs, 23% bodyfat. I have not had a single piece of candy, sweets, nothing. Not a single cheat meal since I started. My caloric intake is 1700 daily. But today, today I had a piece of cake! I knew there was going to be a chance I would eat over my daily calories being Fathers Day and all. After inputting all my meals, I went over my calories by 200, carbs by 85g and now I feel guiltier than ever. I shouldn't of had a piece of cake. Have you guys had any similar experiences and how did you cope? Am I overreacting?
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Enjoy it, log it, and move on.11
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Yes, you are overreacting. Log it and move on. Food is neither good or bad and it takes a lot of energy to be guilty over something as simple as cake.8
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Yep.. advice as above.
It happened.. move on.3 -
Thank you guys. I don't think I'll be doing that again. 😉.0
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Was it tasty? If you ate it and it tasted awful, probably a problem. If it was yummy and you didn't eat the entire cake...big deal. If you can fit it into your calories, you could have cake every day. Not esp nutritious, but it won't kill you (unless you're diabetic).3
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What kind of cake? Asking for a friend6
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naguilar1021 wrote: »Thank you guys. I don't think I'll be doing that again. 😉.
Now if you ate a piece of cake and it was supposed to be my piece of cake... then there's be trouble
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Are you going to go the rest of your life never eating cake? I'm not!
I've been on my weight loss journey about 14 months now. I've had cake once for my son's birthday. Not a big deal. I still had a calorie deficit for the week. I had a few cookies at Christmas and we had donuts for my birthday. Still had a deficit those weeks. Those sweets are a rare treat now but I'm not planning to never eat them again. I want to learn how to fit them in while I'm losing and in the future when I'm maintaining.
Don't feel guilty. Going over your planned calories by 200 likely still has you at a deficit for the day and most certainly for the week. Plan for the treats, enjoy them, and move on. It's part of life!
Congrats on your loss!9 -
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slimgirljo15 wrote: »naguilar1021 wrote: »Thank you guys. I don't think I'll be doing that again. 😉.
Now if you ate a piece of cake and it was supposed to be my piece of cake... then there's be trouble
😆 good point.2 -
Are you going to go the rest of your life never eating cake? I'm not!
I've been on my weight loss journey about 14 months now. I've had cake once for my son's birthday. Not a big deal. I still had a calorie deficit for the week. I had a few cookies at Christmas and we had donuts for my birthday. Still had a deficit those weeks. Those sweets are a rare treat now but I'm not planning to never eat them again. I want to learn how to fit them in while I'm losing and in the future when I'm maintaining.
Don't feel guilty. Going over your planned calories by 200 likely still has you at a deficit for the day and most certainly for the week. Plan for the treats, enjoy them, and move on. It's part of life!
Congrats on your loss!
Thank you. Great advice and you are right. I used to eat without any care. The old me would of had 3-4 pieces of cake, I had 1 slice. I am just afraid of derailing. Losing my focus. But I have to stay on track.1 -
melaniedscott wrote: »Was it tasty? If you ate it and it tasted awful, probably a problem. If it was yummy and you didn't eat the entire cake...big deal. If you can fit it into your calories, you could have cake every day. Not esp nutritious, but it won't kill you (unless you're diabetic).
It was delicious my friend. Taking everyone's advice and moving on. Staying focused.5 -
@naguilar1021 I totally understand the fear of derailing. I deal with that too. In the past, I felt like it had to be all or nothing. I'm trying to learn that having something that's not part of my usual way of eating doesn't mean I've failed. I'm trying to eat the way I want to for the rest of my life, just currently a bit fewer calories. My plan needs to include the ability to enjoy the occasional celebrations in life. Good job on eating 1 slice. I know past me would have had more than one as well!4
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naguilar1021 wrote: »So it has been almost 3 months since I started my journey. I was at 200lbs, bodyfat at 33% when I started. Today, I am at 188lbs, 23% bodyfat. I have not had a single piece of candy, sweets, nothing. Not a single cheat meal since I started. My caloric intake is 1700 daily. But today, today I had a piece of cake! I knew there was going to be a chance I would eat over my daily calories being Fathers Day and all. After inputting all my meals, I went over my calories by 200, carbs by 85g and now I feel guiltier than ever. I shouldn't of had a piece of cake. Have you guys had any similar experiences and how did you cope? Am I overreacting?
Today I also had a piece of cake, but I ended the day 95 calories below my limit. Cake isn't going to undo all your hard work. Just log it as accurately as possible like any other food.3 -
While losing weight, you should, in my opinion, eat in a way that you can imagine eating the rest of your life (with a lower calorie level to be in a deficit of course). That way you can build sustainable habits that will help you keep the weight off after you've lost it, instead of gaining it back when you 'go back to old habits'.
Not having any treats at all doesn't sound like a plan that will work long-term, you might as well learn to integrate treats now, and not wait for maintenance to create those habits 10 -
While losing weight, you should, in my opinion, eat in a way that you can imagine eating the rest of your life (with a lower calorie level to be in a deficit of course). That way you can build sustainable habits that will help you keep the weight off after you've lost it, instead of gaining it back when you 'go back to old habits'.
Not having any treats at all doesn't sound like a plan that will work long-term, you might as well learn to integrate treats now, and not wait for maintenance to create those habits
This.
Every time in the past (and there have been a lot) that I restricted myself I always put weight back on when my diet was over.
What worked successfully for me was improving the health and nutrient value of my diet slowly and keeping the calories lower but eating in a way I could happily eat for the rest of my life. I maintained for a couple of years before becoming pregnant. I'm on the road again and if someone said to me sorry you have to eat at your current calorie value forever I'd be fine with it and could easily fit treats in.5 -
Going off plan should be part of your plan. If that makes any sense
You gotta learn how to eat appropriately long term. Beating yourself up over one bit of cake is not helpful. Don’t be too restrictive on the way down. For many of us over restriction leads to a *kitten* it mentality of rebound over eating.
Diet breaks where you eat at maintenance for at least two weeks are worth considering.especially if you have a lot to lose. They are good practice for the long term when you have lost the weight you want to lose.6 -
naguilar1021 wrote: »
That sounds like flipping good cake. Also, if it was part of a general nice, celebratory, Fathers day do, what else were you going to do?
I *know* that life isn't all about treats, but it has never once occurred to me that I would make a salad bowl for my Dad as a present
As it was I made him peanut butter brownies. I may have had a couple for quality control purposes, they were very good
The difference now for me, is that I will immediately just go back to eating what I normally do. Rather than spending the next few weeks eating everything I can get my hands on because it's all ruined now anyway. What makes the biggest difference is what you do most of the time.6 -
Most importantly- congratulations!! You lost 12 pounds and 10% body fat in 12-13 weeks!!! You are rocking this! I hope you feel great- your health has to be way better.
As far as one slice of cake- oh well you are human! You will not and cannot be perfect but you can be great and it sounds like you are. I try to really relish the treats and it sounds like you did. Great job
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littlegreenparrot1 wrote: »naguilar1021 wrote: »
That sounds like flipping good cake. Also, if it was part of a general nice, celebratory, Fathers day do, what else were you going to do?
I *know* that life isn't all about treats, but it has never once occurred to me that I would make a salad bowl for my Dad as a present
As it was I made him peanut butter brownies. I may have had a couple for quality control purposes, they were very good
The difference now for me, is that I will immediately just go back to eating what I normally do. Rather than spending the next few weeks eating everything I can get my hands on because it's all ruined now anyway. What makes the biggest difference is what you do most of the time.
We had hot fudge brownie sundaes! They were delicious.3 -
I don't feel guilty about food. There are some regrets - sure - but for me its a situation of making choices. There are times I have something then later decide the enjoyment was not 'worth' what it cost me in terms of calories, but for the most part I just take it in stride.
Put into perspective... If you ate 200 calories over your goal, so what? If your goal is to lose 1 pound per week, that means you had a 300 deficit that day instead of 500. 200 calories on one day does not make or break you. The habits you have formed and continue to form: those are what really matter.
I had a couple of alcoholic drinks on Saturday, for which the best I could do was approximate the calories. And with other foods I chose to eat, estimate I went over my maintenance calories by 1000 and over my goal by 1250. My goal is to lose at the rate of .5 pounds per week (250 deficit per day) so that means the choices I made on Saturday put me 5 days behind schedule. I plan to be on this earth - fingers crossed - for a lot longer than that. So what if it takes me 21 weeks instead of 20 weeks to meet my goal?9 -
Your guilt is more likely from thinking that this is a slippery slope rather than the actual overage, which was so tiny that it's possible you didn't actually eat over, depending on how the cake was prepared, frosting/cake ratio, etc. It's not a slippery slope if you don't allow it to happen. All you have to do (simple, but not easy) is give yourself permission to move on and continue as normal.
Also, it might help to allow yourself some more treats to normalize it so it doesn't become this forbidden symbol of a slippery slope.2 -
Lots of good advice here. I can tell you no matter the diet, nutrition plan and/or goals, there should always, and I mean always be room for a piece of cake or a cookie (my vice)...here and there. Save it for special occasions, make it part of your refeed program, fit in in however you must, but know that it won’t end your progress. Consistency of nutrition and exercise out weighs any little indulgence you might have. For you, since you’re not at your goal weight, I understand your concern. Just know from a guy who’s been there, it won’t throw you the slightest bit off your long term track, as long as you fit it in and save those sweets for special occasions. I wouldn’t be trying to eat cake daily, in other words 😀. But I refuse to miss out on a birthday celebration or holiday treat. That would be a plain boring life IMO.
Best of luck and stay consistent! It will pay off, even if you have a piece of cake once in a while. Don’t feel guilt!0 -
I had 2 pieces of home made chocolate cake with vanilla buttercream icing yesterday, put myself over by nearly 1000 calories, and I still weigh exactly the same today.
It doesn't matter. 200 calories is nothing. Do you really want to live a life where you feel this awful about cake? I wouldn't.2 -
naguilar1021 wrote: »
Oh, man, that sounds delicious! Don't cancel out the delicious by feeling bad about it. It's food, not mortal sin.
Unless you're going to give up cake (etc.) forever, then IMO this is the time to start figuring out how to work it in, while keeping calorie intake reasonable, on an overall basis. Most of us want not only to lose weight, but then to stay at a healthy weight permanently, right?
The weight loss process is just maintenance practice, with a bit of a calorie deficit that makes it easier to accept the occasional learning experience. And by "learning experience", I don't mean "eating more than goal calories".
Sometimes eating more than goal calories is worth it. By "learning experience", I mean those cases where I eat over goal calories, and decide it really wasn't worth it, that something different would've made me happier, on balance. Mango cake with mango chunks and buttercream on fathers' day . . . that sounds worth it, to me. Poor quality grocery store yellow cake with heaps of goopy shortening frosting at somebody's office party? Not worth it. Four slices of the mango cake at once? Also probably not worth it, as the pleasure tends to decline with successive pieces. (Your relative values may differ.
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Weight loss and (especially) maintenance are about balance: Over the long haul, balancing calories, nutrition, gustatory pleasure, satiation, social connection via food, and more, to achieve and maintain a healthy body weight happily and pretty easily, plus keep good odds of continuing good health.
Repeating: Weight loss is maintenance practice.
Best wishes!7 -
We can learn the practice of moderation.
We can't bawl and cry over a donut. There's no crying in baseball and there's certainly no crying over eating a piece of cake. Throw all that old dieting mind warp out the window.
I know someone who plays with their food like it's a badge of honor. They wait and see how long they can hold out. Why they even take a donut to bed just to see if it will still be there when the dawn comes to light. Everything within my being rebels fairly quickly when I edge up against someone obsessing over eating or not eating a food item. I can't go there with that.
Let your freedom ring. Do everything on your own terms. Don't follow restrictive food rules and regulations.
You can moderate yourself with food. It's your brain that's telling you that you can't. Override it. Flip the switch.
Size matters. It's only the size of your portions that matters. You can have your cake and eat it, too.
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This was a great thread. We have to be able to enjoy food and not obsess over it. Thanks for sharing and I agree that we have to find sustainable ways of eating and healthy habits. Let us eat cake!3
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No sweat....I eat something sweet every day outside of my more nutritionally balanced diet. I also exercise every day and burn over 1000 extra calories. Stay within your deficit or maintenance and enjoy life.
BTW, I used to punish myself all the time for eating so called UNHEALTHY treats. No more!4 -
Thank you guys for all your support and insight. I am glad to be a part of this community that lifts you up.3
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naguilar1021 wrote: »Thank you guys for all your support and insight. I am glad to be a part of this community that lifts you up.
I don't think you over reacted tbh! I think if I hadn't had a single treat for that amount of time I would have felt the guilt too!! Most of us incorparate little treats in but for you to go cold turkey for so long I can see why it made you feel as bad as you did!!
But you've learned something well, a few things.
1) You realised that eating the cake didn't make you happy OR want to binge further!
2) A little treat snack isn't going to completely derail you
3) You are determined AF to last that long without treats and you've made amazing progress and it honestly is impressive!!
I would see it as your little bit of victory cake for how well you've done so far!
Now keep at it and good luck 1
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