Less Alcohol - OCTOBER 2020 - One Day at a Time (Try a Sober October)

MissMay

~THIS IS A MONTHLY CONTINUING THREAD THAT HAS BEEN ACTIVE SINCE AS FAR BACK AS 2017. ALL WELCOME ~

MissMay

LESS ALCOHOL?

MissMay

Maybe a SOBER OCTOBER?

MissMay

Welcome to our October thread.

If you are checking us out, than we are sure you would like less alcohol taking up your precious time.
If it is one bottle less a month, or one drink less a week we are here on this journey with you.
Doing our own thing, traveling our own path to curbing our drinking habits.

We can go down this road together.

LoveyChar

I'd like to have a Sober October 2020! Good luck to all and have a fantastic month!

@MissMay Thanks for being you!

FeelinFooFoo

Love the new look thread @MissMay !

I was on my journey on the alcohol free thread, shooting for being totally AF. I had my holiday to Turkey for X2 weeks in September, all inclusive 5* resort so the drinks were good, of good quality and they were free flowing. I didn't manage AF but what I did manage to do was really curb my drinking to the point my partner & brother said I was like a 'new me' I even managed some AF days too and stayed sober during times I would totally have normally been drinking. So, something has changed. I found that I was, to mine and everyone surprise, able to regulate my drinking. I even danced sober ! I also found that I think I do enjoy the social element of a few drinks, too much to give it up. At least for now, anyway. So I'm back here and I'm gona try and keep alcohol in my life, but at levels that I'm comfortable with, and that doesn't cause me any negative outcomes. I have a list of 'non negotiables' that I'm determined to stick with, but I will also stay open minded and up for flexibility but I'm pretty sure this list should cover a lotta bases and help me keep my drinking reduced and under control. Tis the plan anyhoo! Good luck to us all for October, I'm shooting for sober October. I had 19 AF days in September, I'm currently on a 12 day AF streak. I think I might crave a drink during October but I want to prove to myself I can do a month AF. plus, I'm trying to lose weight so it will help. Thank you for having me back 😘

List of non negotiables ~
1. Never drinking until I am sick

2. Never having a hangover at work

3. Only drink on holidays / annual leave

4. Only drink nights out

5. Always include water / AF drinks

6. Always have 3 AF months

7. Never drink on an empty stomach

8. Always have takeout food ordered if going on night out (added motivation to come home)

9. Always continue reading and learning

10. Always have agreed time to come home when you will be picked up at train station if on night out

11. Always drink a pint of water before bed

12. Always have a plan if having AF night in

🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞😊😊🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞

lilann1961

Thank you as always @MissMay! Here is to a great October!!

Lilylady3k

October is going to challenge me more than even my usual struggles with DH not sustaining and us hanging out at the fishing camp.

Goal: AF days 4 per week / 16 per month; limit 1-2 glasses per day

Doxmum

Doxmum touching base. First, Happy B-Days to our Fearless Moderator @MissMay and to my political ally & sarcasm buddy (if only sarcasm burned calories ) @forestdweller1. Second, DH and I closed on the new house, moved out/in, and so far we are still married - so far. Stay tuned. I am not even trying to drink in moderation in order to remain married. DH doesn't drink but he has his own special brand of "being a d*ck." We do not work well together. We settled on him taking the day shift and I would take the afternoon/evening shift. May have saved the marriage.

I plan on tightening things up in October in anticipation of ski season. Bought the season pass yesterday!!

Ruth Bader Ginsburg is going to be replaced by a woman who walked through every door that Ginsburg opened, so she can promptly use her position to shut them for all those behind her.

VOTE like the country depends on it. Because it does.

Doxmum out

MissMay

GOOD MORNING to everyone posting or lurking (in New England, we call you leaf peepers)

Great month ahead, looking forward to focus on why we are checking in on a regular basis TO DRINK LESS what ever that amount is for our own personal wellbeing.

@forestdweller1 Happy Happy Birthday🎂 to you. You are such a huge rock to this group. You fly in low under the wire and release all kinds of interesting bomb shells on us just to disappear into the unknown. We love you dearly. 🎉

🍁leaving this afternoon for my 2 day get a way. Hubs was already planning on bringing a huge selection of booze with us.
??????? Why??????? I can see him passed out at home, why pay for a hotel room just to repeat a bad habit?????
Deep breath and I will keep chanting moderate ~moderate~ moderate.

imgwendolyn2015

October 1st is a great day to start a new habit. I have been drinking more lately due to stress and sometimes feeling like, "I worked hard so I deserve this" Deserve to feel like crap the next day? Deserve to feel bloated and lethargic? No, not this month. It will be a tough one. Lots of birthdays happening this month and the 3 year anniversary of my step-sons death. It will be a challenge, but I am up for it. Hubby's birthday party tomorrow. I will plan to drink more water in between alcoholic beverages and keep my focus on wanting to feel good on Saturday to take the dogs for a nice long walk in a new park.

LoveyChar

@Doxmum Sorry your husband is difficult. I have an arrogant for no reason A hole of one too, glad to know I'm not alone.

@imgwendolyn2015 Good incentive to stay strong, a long walk with dogs sounds nice! You have a heavy load on your mind, good place here to unload. Supportive bunch ❤️!

LoveyChar

Oh and happy October, everyone 🍁🧡🍂!

AR10at50

Thank you @MissMay ! And HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! I really appreciate this group.

You gals are not alone with a difficult husband, mine is 90% of the reason I drink.

forestdweller1

"O, would some power the gift give to us , to see ourselves as others see us ! It would from many a blunder free us, and foolish notion... " Robert Burns (Ode to a Louse)
(Ode to a Difficult Partner)
Here's to a Sober October, or at least a Moderate Month !
>>>>> ✈

LoveyChar

@MissMay Happy happy birthday 🏵️🌕🧡🥧🍁, and oh it's a full moon tonight!

MTW70

October Goals
Strive for 4 days AF per week
Try not to drink multiple nights in a row
Do not drink to excess when drinking (whole bottle of wine)
Make sure drinks fit into available calories & no snacking after drinking

Lilylady3k

@MTW70 - I totally agree with your plan!

My primary concern is not so much the number of times I drink but not drinking to excess!!
If I can keep it to 1-2 drinks each time I do drink I'll be happier than if I make my 4 AF days per week / 16 AF days per month!

No all-or-nothing mentality. If not perfect and not have an AF day then that doesn't give me permission to just go overboard and drink as much as I want. That whole deal ... if you've fallen off the wagon might as well go full blown and get it out of your system ... is not an option.

factgirl67

I'm in and welcome this positive challenge.

MissMay

Oh gee.....6th floor at the Hilton Garden overlooking the river. Got to be a good girl , REPEAT, got to be a good girl. 🙄

cfgreear

Im in, i'm half Scottish and the drink of everyone in my family is either scotch or whiskey. I never got a taste for the lighter stuff like beer or wine. I have a very addictive personality A few years ago I would go through a 1.75L bottle of scotch in 2 days by myself whenever I got depressed. Fast forward to this year ive had 3 bottles that size throughout the whole year. Improvement but not perfect. This month I want to get through without any alcohol or soda at. My wife has been patient with the smell it comes with but she deserves better so yup, here I am.