The dumb(est) reasons someone disliked you
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Kinda has one thinking about the term friendship doesn't it? SMH
I did have somebody complain about me at my last out-of-the-home job. I was 9 and a million months pregnant; someone offered to help me carry a milk crate filled with milk and someone else complained.
People can be cruel, selfish, entitled, petty, thoughtless, on and on. BTW I told that kind person, no thanks I got it. One of the reasons I detested working outside the home, so much 2-faced BiT@hery went on. 5 -
Too tall4
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I’m still really annoying2
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I used to have a Dallas Cowboys car flag and people would call me all sorts of mean names. Over a car flag!? This was back when I went to college in the Philly area.5
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chuckle_bunny wrote: »I used to have a Dallas Cowboys car flag and people would call me all sorts of mean names. Over a car flag!? This was back when I went to college in the Philly area.
deserved.
amiright?2 -
I dunno, I reckon that everyone who has hated me has had a pretty good reason (or two).3
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I have lots of people not like me because I hate talking on the phone.1
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I've been more disliked online than in real life I'm not sure why. I'm nice to everyone 🤷♀️6
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I said Hi3
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No one dislikes me. I am a *kitten* delight!
(Dislikes coming in 3...2...)4 -
One time somebody said I talk too much. Which is insane. And I don’t even know why somebody would think that. Ever. I mean, really.One time somebody said I talk too much. Which is insane. And I don’t even know why somebody would think that. Ever. I mean, really.
Whaaaaaaaaaaaaatt I find that hard to believe
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A girl took a dislike because a guy she had a crush on asked me out. I turned him down but still it was somehow my fault that he asked me. 😒6
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Deadman_Diggingup wrote: »No one dislikes me. I am a *kitten* delight!
(Dislikes coming in 3...2...)
I see no disagrees yet. Must be wrong!2 -
Because I...existed, I guess? Had the audacity to have a boyfriend while fat?
Junior year of college, roommate had a friend from high school come visit. OK, that's fine. I'm in the room because, uh, I also live there, and I'm trying to make polite conversation and she just finds a way to shut down every comment I make. We're talking about pets, I mention my dad has parrots, she says "I hate birds." That kind of thing. I did a semester abroad and while I was away she attempted to steal my then-boyfriend (now husband, so, you can guess how that worked out for her), started a bunch of nasty rumors about who and what I did while abroad, and got me kicked out of roommate's wedding party. I literally don't know what I said or did wrong to make her hate me so much.2 -
goal06082021 wrote: »Because I...existed, I guess? Had the audacity to have a boyfriend while fat?
Junior year of college, roommate had a friend from high school come visit. OK, that's fine. I'm in the room because, uh, I also live there, and I'm trying to make polite conversation and she just finds a way to shut down every comment I make. We're talking about pets, I mention my dad has parrots, she says "I hate birds." That kind of thing. I did a semester abroad and while I was away she attempted to steal my then-boyfriend (now husband, so, you can guess how that worked out for her), started a bunch of nasty rumors about who and what I did while abroad, and got me kicked out of roommate's wedding party. I literally don't know what I said or did wrong to make her hate me so much.
Wow. That's totally random nasty0 -
goal06082021 wrote: »Because I...existed, I guess? Had the audacity to have a boyfriend while fat?
Junior year of college, roommate had a friend from high school come visit. OK, that's fine. I'm in the room because, uh, I also live there, and I'm trying to make polite conversation and she just finds a way to shut down every comment I make. We're talking about pets, I mention my dad has parrots, she says "I hate birds." That kind of thing. I did a semester abroad and while I was away she attempted to steal my then-boyfriend (now husband, so, you can guess how that worked out for her), started a bunch of nasty rumors about who and what I did while abroad, and got me kicked out of roommate's wedding party. I literally don't know what I said or did wrong to make her hate me so much.
Wow...thank the stars that wasn't your actual friend. If she did that to you and you weren't even her friend what kind of crap does she do behind her friends back...can't wrap my mind at how someone can be so conniving.2 -
Because I am ambitious. I kid you not. They didn't like that I had goals. I am editing to elaborate on this - they were ex in-laws and they absolutely hated that I wanted a career simply because I am a woman.
Another because I didn't text back fast enough. Unless we are in love or you are bringing me food please wait 3-5 business days geez ✋
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Politics.
I hate how nowadays it's our job to hate everyone who disagrees with us politically and shout them down or cut them out of our lives. And I really hate how people think that yammering on about politics is somehow helping to solve the problem, and if you're not all that interested, it's because you're either too stupid to understand things or you're a heartless jerk.10 -
Someone in high school decided to hate me and tried to bully me...because I was a big guy. A lot bigger than him. I ignored it for as long as I could, but it finally got to me. So I threw him across the room and told him to go pick on someone his own size. That was the end.3
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because I kissed him first1
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Because they assumed things without talking to me first. Some people dislike me for good reason, I haven't always been in the good place I'm in now (mentally) I wish I could redo certain things. Not being hard on myself because of it. Life is a learning process. It's never too late to make yourself better and be kind to others.6
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Someone in high school decided to hate me and tried to bully me...because I was a big guy. A lot bigger than him. I ignored it for as long as I could, but it finally got to me. So I threw him across the room and told him to go pick on someone his own size. That was the end.
Big guys are often targets because if you beat them, you look cool, but if you lose, you can just claim they were picking on you and people will believe it because the big guy is always the bully who needs a comeuppance. And if it's a woman, people will think it's funny and cute to watch her scream at and/or hit the big guy.3 -
HerNameIsMischief wrote: »Someone in high school decided to hate me and tried to bully me...because I was a big guy. A lot bigger than him. I ignored it for as long as I could, but it finally got to me. So I threw him across the room and told him to go pick on someone his own size. That was the end.
Big guys are often targets because if you beat them, you look cool, but if you lose, you can just claim they were picking on you and people will believe it because the big guy is always the bully who needs a comeuppance. And if it's a woman, people will think it's funny and cute to watch her scream at and/or hit the big guy.
I don't know how he decided I would be a good person to bully. I mean, like why pick someone big...I was known for being very nice, and had had no interactions with this guy except back when we were much younger kids. And none of it was negative. I guess he thought I would just take it forever...I understand in retrospect that he was going through a tough time at home, and that probably lead to his behavior. But everyone has a breaking point and can't be bullied forever, especially if they can exercise an option not to be bullied.4 -
It's a myth that people are afraid of big guys. Most of the time they're hoping you swing on them because it's an easy lawsuit. I have a few friends who are criminal defense attorneys. One said the first thing he'd do in court is ask me my height and weight. The other said the sight of me in an orange jumpsuit (I'm 6'3", 275, and bald) would probably be enough to convict me even if I wasn't the aggressor. And people wonder why I hate my appearance so much I've never dated.6
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The one difference is that as a woman, if you talk about your size, people take you seriously. If you're a guy who hates being big/tall, you're laughed at and seen as crazy or stupid. Even my family think it's ridiculous for me to resent the rude comments I get from people about my size, about how I look like a football player and whatnot.
Most of the women I've dated (okay, "never dated" was an exaggeration, but I've never had a LTR by choice) were bigger and I hated that they noticed/liked my size. Hearing "Wow, finally I get to be the small one!" hurt. I still remember carrying my 6'1", 200 (?) lb girlfriend into my place and she said she always wanted someone to be able to do that and was glad I was BIG enough to do it, which made me feel bad even though I wisely kept my mouth shut. I hate the idea that someone would see me and think "he's my type" because of my size.3 -
I decided that ALL of the reasons anyone might dislike me are dumb. That said, I'm sure there are people who dislike what I have to say because I don't always sugar coat the truth, or I disagree with their opinion especially if their opinion is petty and hurtful to others, or because I will not be manipulated by users and posers. I have also decided that I don't care if they dislike me or not, it's their choice, and it won't change who I am. When I was younger I was more concerned about other's opinion of me, but it's one of the liberating perks of aging that I just don't give a r@t's @ss anymore. Like me or not. My true friends and family have my back.5
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HerNameIsMischief wrote: »The one difference is that as a woman, if you talk about your size, people take you seriously. If you're a guy who hates being big/tall, you're laughed at and seen as crazy or stupid. Even my family think it's ridiculous for me to resent the rude comments I get from people about my size, about how I look like a football player and whatnot.
Most of the women I've dated (okay, "never dated" was an exaggeration, but I've never had a LTR by choice) were bigger and I hated that they noticed/liked my size. Hearing "Wow, finally I get to be the small one!" hurt. I still remember carrying my 6'1", 200 (?) lb girlfriend into my place and she said she always wanted someone to be able to do that and was glad I was BIG enough to do it, which made me feel bad even though I wisely kept my mouth shut. I hate the idea that someone would see me and think "he's my type" because of my size.
People will always make first impressions and will be drawn to others that appeal to them first visually. I, too, am tall. I'm 6'1". And I have gotten thousands of comments about my height.
Sometimes I have hated feeling like a freak... Like when a tiny girl comes up to me at a bar and exclaims "holy *kitten*, you're tall". (note, if you say the reverse back, it makes you a b!tch, go figure). Or a man in an elevator feels it necessary to ask me whether I REALLY needed to wear heels.
I have dated men shorter than me, taller than me, thinner than me, fatter than me, weaker than me and stronger than me. I thought I had a type, until a kind loving man came into my life that adjusted my "type". My first priority is what is in their heart. Are they kind, caring, polite, respectful? The last man I dated was 6" shorter than me and quite a bit overweight. But he laughed so easily and so often, and he had kind eyes... And I fell hard.
What I am saying is twofold... People will always judge (you're doing it too). And who you are inside really does count to any woman worth her salt.
Would I love a man who is taller and stronger than I? Yes. Why? ....And because I have been hurt (horribly) by men shorter than me because my height made them feel somehow less of a man. But is it a requirement? No.
The heart and character is what really works for me. Show me that, and there's a chance.11 -
My complaint wasn't so much about people judging me based on appearances. Believe me, I notice as much as anyone else, and physical attraction is important. I'm more angry at myself when people notice, because while I think they should knew enough to keep their mouth shut, I also look at my height and weight and tell myself that I am probably big enough to merit their remarks.
I totally understand a taller/bigger woman wanting to feel smaller with a bigger guy. Once again, I can't really blame them for their remarks because of my height/weight and because when you date, you want to be able to tell your partner what you find attractive about them. That's part of why I haven't dated much; because I know my feelings about my size (and a few other things) would kill the relationship quick, and I don't think it's fair to expect someone to not notice extremely obvious things like how big i am and to not compliment me physically, at least not about my body.
I want to date once I lose weight. A lot more women would reject me now (at least partially) because they're not into fat guys, and I don't blame them. I can't fix my height or build or baldness, but I can do the best with what I have.7 -
HerNameIsMischief wrote: »My complaint wasn't so much about people judging me based on appearances. Believe me, I notice as much as anyone else, and physical attraction is important. I'm more angry at myself when people notice, because while I think they should knew enough to keep their mouth shut, I also look at my height and weight and tell myself that I am probably big enough to merit their remarks.
I totally understand a taller/bigger woman wanting to feel smaller with a bigger guy. Once again, I can't really blame them for their remarks because of my height/weight and because when you date, you want to be able to tell your partner what you find attractive about them. That's part of why I haven't dated much; because I know my feelings about my size (and a few other things) would kill the relationship quick, and I don't think it's fair to expect someone to not notice extremely obvious things like how big i am and to not compliment me physically, at least not about my body.
I want to date once I lose weight. A lot more women would reject me now (at least partially) because they're not into fat guys, and I don't blame them. I can't fix my height or build or baldness, but I can do the best with what I have.
My fiancé was both fat, bald and shorter than me. He also had no problem finding girlfriends.
He ended the relationship, not the other way around. Short term relationships may work on physical attraction. The worthwhile ones...have to be based on more than that.
Fixing my body really did nothing for my self esteem.5
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