WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JULY 2021
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RvRita--Sending prayers and Hugs. Not easy but you can do this and are worth taking care of yourself.
Allie--Why would she think you would even want to help pay for anything. DO NOT let them talk you into helping them, not with the way they treat you.
Welcome Diane- This is a great group for support and fellowship. Come often and join in. Together we can do this One Day at a time.
Tracey--The pay here is above average and I think it is the hours, nights 6p-6a. We are as 24\7 department so someone has to be here. I agree about Allie's SIL, what a Kitten.
Rori--Sounds like the trip went well. Hugs and prayers
KJ--I agree about letting kids be kids and not putting labels on them so young. Interesting about your brother and his house.
I made it to Friday, wasn't sure a couple times, so when I get off this afternoon I am off until Monday. Not a lot going on. Not teaching Sunday school this week. Be so glad when the 4th is over and fireworks go away. My poor furbabies are not having a good week. The important thing is not to give up and take it one thing at a time.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND NE
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I promise, I'm reading everything. I'm just not much for commenting and my brain doesn't retain what it used to.
Believe me, I'm sending prayers to all who need them and congrats and love to everyone.
I've spent the last several days with my mom, who just got home from surgery. She had a TAVR procedure. Pretty, danged slick, if ya ask me! Dang what they've done in medicine! She was in and out in 36 hours, just needed someone with her for a couple days to make sure she was recovering well... and she is.7 -
Happy Friday all! Yesterday was meh. I didn't get any official exercise in as I had to work in my office. I did do a few minutes of practicing martial arts forms, but not enough to really count as exercise. Stayed within my calorie/food goals at least. And I had an Alcohol Free (AF) day as planned. Today will walk and might also go to Kuk Sool class. Debating class. Technically I only pay for 2 a week, and I've already done 2, but my teacher won't care if I show up. I don't want to take advantage though.
Middle daughter (17) called me in a panic as she'd had her first car accident. Pretty minor - she backed out of her friend's driveway into a parked construction pickup truck. I don't think anyone was even in the truck. But the other driver had to call in a police report since it was a company owned vehicle. She freaked. I drove over as she had no idea what to do.
Oldest daughter (21) is off visiting a friend in PA before her summer session starts. She's in pharmacy school, and has to retake a class this summer. She'd dropped off some of her things in her dorm last week, and it was... interesting. The roommate she will have for the month of July she doesn't know, but has heard not so good rumors about. When we got to the dorm (this girl been there all summer I think) the place was trashed. Mattress in the living room, bins of dirty clothes in the bathroom that will be my kid's bathroom. (dorm is a mini apartment that usually sleeps 4, living room, kitchenette, then two bedrooms and a bath on each end). Door was propped open and a candle burning on kitchen counter. TV in living room on a screen saver. I shouted out, but nobody answered. We had no idea if anyone was there or not. Put daughter's things in her room, and moved bins of laundry out to living room. My kid went to put her silverware in a drawer in the kitchen, but it was full of condoms and KY. We were dying! I told her just to put her kitchen things in her room and wait to unpack them on Monday when she actually moves in. She left a note with her name and phone number, but had no way to contact the roommate directly. When we left we blew out the candle so as not to burn the building to the ground. Kid was so anxious/nervous about this possible party girl roommate. Finally yesterday - like four days later - she gets a text from the roommate saying she was excited to be getting a roomie, and apologizing for state of apartment - said her boyfriend and some of her girl friends were staying while waiting for their own housing to be ready, and promising to put the mattress back in her room. Will be an interesting month for the kid!
Youngest daughter (11) was thankfully uneventful for the day.5 -
You cant keep letting people suck the life out of you if you keep handing them the straw...
My motto ,especially with my SIL. Her father left her with quite a burden saying not to put there mother in a nursing home, he left a very large trust fund so that wouldnt happen,she lost one brother 12 yrs ago and the other has mental health issues so she has to deal with a mom with Alzheimer's ,pay all the bills and take care of all the trust paperwork,so yes she is under alot of stress ,but she is also mean and a bully..so like I said distancing myself from her for my well being is the best I can do3 -
Lost a pound since last week! Yay! And that's without walking. The wet carpet is now on the back porch, smelling hideous, like some chemical off gassing. Walking barefoot on concrete is not gonna happen, so I guess I need shoes. I put it off long enough!
Today is Teddy's vet visit. He's getting older so I'm nervous as to what might show up. But he seems happy and healthy to me.
I have two lunches in the next week that haven't settled on a date. And a possible trip to the airport. Time to get definite, people!
And Machka yes there was an awful high rise condo collapse outside Miami. Over a hundred people are still missing, presumably crushed by falling floors of concrete. Now they are going back over the building inspection reports and finding known structural damage. It's truly horrible.
Prayers for the survivors and rescuers. It really puts my little wet carpet in perspective.
Annie in Delaware4 -
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((Need to go across the river this morning to Fort Smith and pick up a few bottles of wine. We're a dry county on this side of the river, no alcohol sales except in restaurants. ))
Lisa, I used to work at Fort Smith Lumber many, many moons ago...I was pregnant with my son when we moved to Lavaca, AR. I quit the lumber yard about a week before the tornado hit and blew the whole thing away.
So glad it's Friday! Hope everyone has a fun and safe holiday this weekend. Will chat more this evening
Candy LA
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Jenn - Two pounds lost is not shameful, it is progress. :flowerforyou:
Candy in LA - It has been unusually hot but today we have cooler temperatures and overcast skies. It is still early, but a cooler day will be welcome.
Rori - I am glad that you were able to enjoy your time in CA and scatter a small tin of DH’s remains from Stearns Wharf. It seems fitting for him and I’m sure he’d approve. Kayaking with your niece sounds like fun for both of you.
Pip - “Proudly serving whatever you brought” is witty and fun. Nice gift! :bigsmile:
Penny - Change your signature if you wish. I would keep it if I was in your situation. :flowerforyou:
Vicki – Our sweet old dog was terrified of fireworks, so we went out of town and camped in a county park where no fireworks are allowed. It was good for him and for us. He has passed away and I still miss him. :ohwell:
Today is a busy day for us DH has a doctor’s appointment this morning and our new microwave and oven combination is to be delivered today. The old one wore out after 25 years of use. The new appliance is supposed to arrive between 2 pm and 6 pm today. We will be home in plenty of time. A local business will haul away the old microwave/oven set and install the new one. The old one died a few weeks ago after 25 years of service.
Katla in NW Oregon
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I forgot to mention a major NSV I had yesterday. While running around packing and getting the luggage checked in, I noticed my pants gliding down my hips. It got to the point where I could slip them off with just a tiny tug.
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I just checked in for the first time yesterday and I will figure out how to respond to folks but I am so enjoying reading your post and learning about your interesting lives with a few challenges thrown in! I'm grateful for a three day weekend coming up. We currently have no plans but I have no doubt something will come along.
Diane in TN4 -
Beautiful view Machka!!!!
Heather, That's a HUGE ship!! We love cruising too, currently have 2 scheduled for next year and so ready to get back on a ship after 2 years. They are my favorite because once we're on the boat, my DH doesn't have to drive for 7 days and therefore I don't have to worry about his road rage Ha Ha.
And those of you with horses, cherish them and know i'm very jealous! I grew up barrel racing and trail riding but just don't have the place for them where we live now and can't justify the cost of boarding. Looking forward to retirement though when we are in a place to have them in our back yard again.
I'm still catching up on the thread a little at a time when I have a slow moment at work....Monday will be quiet so I'll get more reading in then.
Candy LA
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Fortunately I do not need to park my car in the garage. It is the prespective of selling that I am pushing the issue. Their behavior coud hurt the value of this home. I have lived through difficult neighbors before. Fortunately there is the alley in between. I am only there in the afternoon to tend my garden and do maintenance. It is nice for Drew to have a fenced in yard. Even though they are blocking me in they make the arguement they moved enough to let me out and the van is in their small driveway even if it crosses their driveway and block me out of my garage. I suppose I could try it but at risk to my car and hitting their junker. No thanks.
I will just focus on my garden and if they do anything like the fireworks again I will just call it in. They have more to lose than I do the are renters and are at the mercy of their landlord and they know I have no qualms about reporting them. Because of how the yard is stituated they would have to work hard to get into my yard. They do not strike me as anyone who wants to put much effort into anything. It is sad but I will just chose to ignore them best I can. I have many other neighbors there that do have my back so I will be grateful for that.
I learned long ago there are those who will have your back, those who will live and let live, and those who will make your life difficult. I just try to minimize those that make it difficult. Margaret
Thanks for letting me vent... Margaret 6 -
Candy - Actually it's a 'boutique' ship, only 999 passengers. We haven't been on it yet. It's newish. We had three cruises on one with 400 and one on a ship with 600. All with Saga, for the over 50s. Our trips next year will be 18 and 15 days,
We have been to the Arctic to visit Penny at the Pole as well as Scandinavian trips and the Baltic. St Petersburgh. Yes, no driving, no organising, no worries. Every whim catered for. Plus I actually love just being on a ship. I'm often in tears at the amazingness of it all, leaving and entering ports. It also suits my OCD and perfectionism, because the time keeping is immaculate.
We had an amazing time at Fatto a Mano. They really threw the boat out for us, with the best very professional, welcoming waiter, extra plates of olives and fries, and they turned the music down when I asked. We had drinks and ice creams and coffees. The whole thing for free.
Now I will write them a good review.
DH and I walked to the school to pick the kids up, then to their house, then to Fatto's and then home. Phew! About 90 mins fast walking in all.
I will post a photo from my phone.
A good day.
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Here we all are.
Heather UK xxxxxx
Edie kept asking, "How did we get all this for free?"
I said "Ssshh, I'll tell you afterwards.Granny is magic!"
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Tracey in Edmonton, yes my middle son was wise in handling it all, and sought help when he needed it. He went to a therapist for a bit, but he said it was really expensive, but he did say he learned a lot of coping mechanisms. I need to talk to him about going every so often, to kind of reset mentally. I had told him to factor in him going like every other bill. Its not something I want to text him about though.
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Well I got little Teddy through his vet visit, despite his wiggling and panting and general discomfort. I feel like I've been through the wringer just watching him. It was expensive, and he still needs a canine dental visit. What can I do, he deserves the best care possible.
I am tempted by the bottle of wine in the fridge. But I know it's more the imagined feeling of relaxing I want than the actual result of drinking.
Annie in Delaware3 -
Stats for the day-
Walk w/family- 2hrs 36min 15sec, 157elev, 83ahr, 1504mhr, 3.07ap, 8.08mi= 753c
Strava app = 979c
Zwift home spin bike- 16.47min, 131elev, 123ahr, 153mhr, 18.09arpm, 5.06mi= 163c
Zwift app- 113c
Walk to gym- 10.53min, .53mi= 52c
Strava app- 65c
Rowing machine- 20min, 45aw, 124ahr, 157mhr, 3036meters= 166c
Walk gym to store then home- 29.45min, 1.58mi= 179c
Strava app = 192c
Total cal 13041 -
Barbie ... thank you for July's thread!
Welcome ... to the new ladies!
Margaret ... the miracle grow has helped the zucchini and now some much needed rain will certainly add some acid.
Michele ... your work ethic, sadly, does not fit in with today's workers. I'm pretty certain your willingness to be a team player and get things done, only annoyed those who want to slide by with doing nothing. Sad state of affairs in my opinion.
Ended June 2.5 pounds lighter than I started. I'll take it! Jenn ... consider two pounds lost two pounds you don't have to face this month! My goal is to lose .5 to 1 pound a week ... or 26 to 52 pounds in a year.
Beth near Buffalo
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This is what I wrote to the owners of the property of the problem tenants...
Your tenant in St. Paul MN_____ is effecting the value of my property ______ and hence the value of yours at ______Perhaps if you raise their rent to cover the cost of the problem they might start to listen. They do not seem to care that they keep allowing the numerous peolple that visit them during the the day to park in such a manner that I who live across the alley cannot access my garage without risking the hitting of their car. They have four places to park . Although one of the spots is taken up with a boat. I have called the parking police three times nothing has changed. They continue to park directly across from my garage blocking me out. There is also on street parking available on Earl and Cypress which they choose not to use. Thank you for your consideration...my name
Holding those accoutable with their pocket book might make a change. I did eliminate the addresses in my sharing here for privacy purposes.
I was going to leave it today and then another car was also parked blocking me in and was parked on another neighbors property. They were not happy. I told them I would call it in. Calling it in gives me documentation and also gives the property owners documention that their tenant is uncooperative.
I am calming down because now I am taking action that might get this problem solved and it does need to be solved whether I keep the property or sell it.
I also put some heavy rocks on steps leading up to my property. Again they would be too lazy to remove them to come and bother me.
Allie taking these actions was my way of taking back the straw. Margaret 5 -
Beth I am using pine needles for mulch for my Zuchanni in pots. Still getting some yellow leaves. I think it is because it is so hot this year. I noitce I am getting less drooping of leaves using the mulch. I am glad fertilizer is helping.1
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Margaret - I like to use Alaska fish fertilizer, and my plants thrive, with one exception this year. Several extreme heat days together managed to damage the hanging fuchsia that I enjoyed. Now it is trying to survive & I have worries that it won’t recover. Dried leaves are plentiful but there are a few leaves and blossoms that are getting by. 🥺3
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Heather, now that I'm counting the life boats.... the picture made it look huge though, lol.
We want to do more cruising once we retire but so far an 8 day will be our longest. We live an 1-1/2 away from one port and about 5 hours from one of the others so it's always somewhere in the Caribbean because of the convenience but would love to venture farther out.
Candy in LA3 -
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Did 30 min of HIIT today then since it’s raining just used the elliptical to burn more calories. The plan for tomorrow is to do a Cathe Friedrich Upper Body Pryamid DVD.
Rori – (((BIG HUG))) I know how hard it was for me to spread my father’s ashes, I can’t even begin to imagine spreading your husband’s. The one thing that helped me, and I’m sure it’ll help you, is knowing that he’s someplace he loved.
Pip – what did you get Kirby for his b-day? Have you ever had paver’s before?
Penny – so glad you made it safely. A trip to the shore is a great thing to do for yourself. What a wonderful NSV you had!
Carol – best of luck on your surgery
Went to Food Lion since the soda is on sale today. It stopped raining so I just came back from my walk around the block. It’s humid so need to cool off. Suggested to Vince that we blow up the inflatables for the pool, or at least some of them Update: done
KJ – I agree with Vicki, let kids be kids. I am not a fan of the kids having nothing but their phone or tablet and spending hours playing video games. Nor am I a fan of them watching TV all day. Hate to say it, but when I was watching PJ, he always wanted the TV on. Denise would have him watch this one show (a kids show, I even forget the name of it) all the time. To me, if you at least had a DVD player, they could watch a series of Einstein-type shows, Sesame Street, etc. But it’s not my child.
Vicki – if the job is 6-6, I know that I don’t want to work more than 4-5 hours/day. Does it have to be 6-6 or could it be like 6-10, 10-2, 2-6?
Tried to download my paycheck stubs from Jan. I thought I’d do it at home so I can do it doublesided. Food Lion has the weirdest website. Even Vince complained about it. When I log into the HR website, my Bitdefender won’t let me go in. Any other way I’ve tried, it keeps telling me that my password has expired but I changed it less than an hour ago! Well, I guess they’re just going to have to print them out from the store. Update: I got 8 of them printed out, but it won’t let me print any more
Diane TN – welcome! We don’t have plans, either. It’s supposed to be nice so I’ll probably be in the pool
Heather – you are something else!
Went for my evening walk and then played mahjongg while I had my feet in the pool. That seems to be my nightly routine when it isn’t raining.
Michele NC4 -
Happy July!
I missed the whole heat wave. I was at a work conference in Ft. Worth, where it was about 25-30 degrees cooler than in Oregon. Weird. But kind of nice to have missed it.
Health update:Stage 3 invasive ductal carcinoma, estrogen +, for sure. Still waiting on body CT and bone scan to eliminate the possibility that it has metastasized, which would move it to stage 4. My oncologist and gynecologist are neither entertaining my concerns for stage 4 seriously. They have both given me about 1-2 minutes to talk about it. I am not so confident because of the lesion on my rib, but the oncologist said that could be a half a dozen non serious things and not to fret. My blood pressure at the first oncology appointment was 199/111 and I thought, "Wouldn't that be a plot twist? Diagnosed with cancer and then die of a stroke or heart attack." I thought she might admit me immediately. Lol She just kindly offered me anxiety medication, which I declined. I have it back under control, taking my bp medicine, and I subscribed to headspace, so I've been doing lots of meditation. Sleeping much better, and I took advantage of a quick 10 minute yoga practice this afternoon. I am also quickly ramping up to 10,000 steps a day, so I think I can do this. At least on an anxiety level.
We told our boys last night at dinner. Jayson, the 14 year old, was really the only one who fell apart. Everyone else stayed very brave and upbeat, including me and my husband. We decided to tell them last night because we had all five together -- not a common occurrence because of my oldest boys' working schedule, and my oldest son's girlfriend (who basically lives with us half the time now --insert rolling eyes) was out having dinner with a friend.
We also decided we were running out of time to tell them. I will have my port installed on July 12 -- hopefully -- with chemo starting either the 13th or 14th. My calendar for the next ten days is quickly filling, including the torso CT next Sunday morning at 7:00 am. (!!!!) Bone scan this Wednesday. I will also meet with the geneticist on Wednesday. There is an US/echo of my heart on Thursday. If I remain stage 3, they will only do a double mastectomy if I have one of the BRCA gene mutations (which my father had). If either of the CT or bone scans come back showing spread outside of the breast, they likely won't do a mastectomy at all. Just chemo and plan for the end, I guess. Like I said, they won't really go there with me for any length of time.
If Stage 3 -- four months of chemo, two cycles, two different mixtures. Then mastectomy, either just left or both, depending on genetic outcome, and removal of one lymph node which has "scattered isolated tumors," then back to either chemo or radiation -- can't remember that part right now. After treatments, removal of ovaries, even though I am post menopausal. I will then be on estrogen suppressing hormones for life. But I don't really know where else estrogen could be coming from. I never took A&P.
Hard to believe I will be bald in a matter of weeks. Apparently it will happen quickly. So sometime before the 13th, I will get my hair cut very, very short.
Still not telling my mother or anyone at work. I have decided that I will need to sit down with my boss in the next few days, but really, I won't have time until the week I start chemo. I really wanted to wait to tell him once I know the stage because that will impact him and my job quite a bit. All he knows right now is that I have been diagnosed with a "serious illness" and that I'm undergoing a lot of testing and procedures.
The nurse navigator with the cancer institute has been wonderful. Checking in with me every few days. I will also be assigned a peer navigator. The nurse navigator and the oncologist both encouraged me to keep working as much as I can. We will try to schedule chemo to be on Thursdays -- once I get started -- so that I will have the weekend to recover before I get back to work. I will need full leave if I end up with the mastectomy and then later, after all treatment is through, for reconstruction.
It's a lot to process. I'll be honest, but I know I'm not special. I'm not angry, and so many people have it so much worse than I do. I'm not really in pain. I am uncomfortable on the left side (which makes me fear spread), but it is more than tolerable.
I will be checking in and reading, but it is going to be a little crazy around here for a while. I'm probably being naive, but I feel like life might actually get to a new normal and somewhat stable once chemo starts.
Flea
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Flea ... I will be praying that your cancer is stage 3 and that all you've described will completely remove the cancer and allow you to heal quickly. Hugs...1
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