My Doctor Suggested Weight Loss Surgery

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  • I am a serial starter. I have been lying to myself for many years. I diet a bit, then I feel sorry for myself and think about all the food I cannot have anymore (which is stupid) and before I know it I start a pity party. After a few days, I tell myself all is lost. I stop weighing in and take a vacation in denial land.

    Today is my 58th birthday and I will be da...ned if I can't fulfill my greatest wish. I am an overeater, an overindulger and I need to get to the core of that. I started a blog today, I will write instead of eating. I have emotions, some regrets, have mistakes in the past. So much was out of my control, maybe that's why I am out of control when it comes to food.

    I am not a moron. I have about 150 pounds to lose. Scary amount but I suppose it doesn't matter how much I have to lose, as long as I stay on track most of the time. Weight loss surgery doesn't solve the problem. I watched a friend go through it. The result was great, she started drinking instead. Switched one addiction for the next.

    I would l like to find like-minded, crazy, sweet, moody people of all ages on my journey. It's more fun if we are not alone.

    I need to start make myself accountable. I need to stop looking at myself as a failure and I need to stop pretending that I don't mind being obese (fat) because I do. I am beautiful inside, time to adjust my outside.

  • callsitlikeiseeit
    callsitlikeiseeit Posts: 8,626 Member
    coblujay wrote: »
    Four month update: It's crazy how quickly time flies and as this year has really passed by, I'm so grateful to have prioritized my health. While I still have quite a bit of weight to lose, I find myself walking taller, gaining more confidence and getting stronger. I did change my starting weight on MFP to 264.1 which is what I weighed on May 11th of this year. I didn't officially start logging my meals until June 3rd.

    As of today:
    • Lost 48.5 pounds.
    • Continuing my exercise plan and have improved my swim times so I can complete 1300 yards in an hour, with the majority using the freestyle stroke. My hiking times per mile are also improving. My sister and I hiked 6.26 miles this morning with an elevation gain of almost 1,000 feet.
    • I love the feeling of my pants being loose in the thigh and bum area when before they were always so tight. It seems like I'm losing more inches off those areas and my waist is staying the same. While I'd like to be down another size or two, I'm still thrilled that my body is becoming a bit more balanced in proportion.
    • Logged for 158 straight days
    • Successfully managed a week long maintenance break a few weeks ago.
    • Still donating clothes to Goodwill as they get too big and adding some smaller sizes to my closet anticipating the next size or two down. It's amazing how many more nice clothes I can find on the racks when I'm looking at smaller sizes. What a treat!

      What's next?
      • I still plan to find a trainer to work with me on weight-lifting for the upcoming year.
      • The holidays are almost here and I'm a bit nervous, but working to make a plan I can live with while still enjoying some of the usual holiday trimmings.
      • My next big goal is to be under 200#. While I was hoping to be there this year, it looks like it will probably be early next year, which isn't so far away.
      • Next summer, I want to learn to paddleboard and add other unusual activities into my schedule that I've been afraid of in the past. I can't wait to see what I can do with the new improved me.

        I wouldn't be where I am without all the support of this amazing community. Thank you all. I'll be reporting back again in about two months!

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    YOU ARE DOING AMAZING! Keep it up chickie!!!!!
  • callsitlikeiseeit
    callsitlikeiseeit Posts: 8,626 Member

    I would l like to find like-minded, crazy, sweet, moody people of all ages on my journey. It's more fun if we are not alone.

    im crazy, sweet, moody, and foul mouthed.

    does that count?
  • AnnPT77
    AnnPT77 Posts: 34,598 Member
    coblujay wrote: »
    Four month update: It's crazy how quickly time flies and as this year has really passed by, I'm so grateful to have prioritized my health. While I still have quite a bit of weight to lose, I find myself walking taller, gaining more confidence and getting stronger. I did change my starting weight on MFP to 264.1 which is what I weighed on May 11th of this year. I didn't officially start logging my meals until June 3rd.

    As of today:
    • Lost 48.5 pounds.
    • Continuing my exercise plan and have improved my swim times so I can complete 1300 yards in an hour, with the majority using the freestyle stroke. My hiking times per mile are also improving. My sister and I hiked 6.26 miles this morning with an elevation gain of almost 1,000 feet.
    • I love the feeling of my pants being loose in the thigh and bum area when before they were always so tight. It seems like I'm losing more inches off those areas and my waist is staying the same. While I'd like to be down another size or two, I'm still thrilled that my body is becoming a bit more balanced in proportion.
    • Logged for 158 straight days
    • Successfully managed a week long maintenance break a few weeks ago.
    • Still donating clothes to Goodwill as they get too big and adding some smaller sizes to my closet anticipating the next size or two down. It's amazing how many more nice clothes I can find on the racks when I'm looking at smaller sizes. What a treat!

      What's next?
      • I still plan to find a trainer to work with me on weight-lifting for the upcoming year.
      • The holidays are almost here and I'm a bit nervous, but working to make a plan I can live with while still enjoying some of the usual holiday trimmings.
      • My next big goal is to be under 200#. While I was hoping to be there this year, it looks like it will probably be early next year, which isn't so far away.
      • Next summer, I want to learn to paddleboard and add other unusual activities into my schedule that I've been afraid of in the past. I can't wait to see what I can do with the new improved me.

        I wouldn't be where I am without all the support of this amazing community. Thank you all. I'll be reporting back again in about two months!

        1xbtk1rneh3m.jpg

    Wow, wow, wow. That's a swoon-y fabulous result, and you look fitter and healthier in your more recent photo besides: Good show!

    I think you'll find a good route through the holidays. For me, it helped to reframe it from basically a two month food-fest starting with a November birthday, then US Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, to just those few actual holidays days, with normal days in between (maybe slightly more days at/near maintenance than usual, vs. at a regular deficit, while in the losing phase). It was pretty achievable to moderate, even with some seasonal parties, bake sales, happy hours - more doable than I would've thought, once committed to it.

    Great plan for the upcoming months, too. I share your paddleboarding goal, but I'd prefer to find an instructional session someplace. There wasn't much of that available during the pandemic, though there had been in the past.

    Wishing you continuing success, and looking forward to your next update!
  • AnnPT77
    AnnPT77 Posts: 34,598 Member
    I am a serial starter. I have been lying to myself for many years. I diet a bit, then I feel sorry for myself and think about all the food I cannot have anymore (which is stupid) and before I know it I start a pity party. After a few days, I tell myself all is lost. I stop weighing in and take a vacation in denial land.

    Today is my 58th birthday and I will be da...ned if I can't fulfill my greatest wish. I am an overeater, an overindulger and I need to get to the core of that. I started a blog today, I will write instead of eating. I have emotions, some regrets, have mistakes in the past. So much was out of my control, maybe that's why I am out of control when it comes to food.

    I am not a moron. I have about 150 pounds to lose. Scary amount but I suppose it doesn't matter how much I have to lose, as long as I stay on track most of the time. Weight loss surgery doesn't solve the problem. I watched a friend go through it. The result was great, she started drinking instead. Switched one addiction for the next.

    I would l like to find like-minded, crazy, sweet, moody people of all ages on my journey. It's more fun if we are not alone.

    I need to start make myself accountable. I need to stop looking at myself as a failure and I need to stop pretending that I don't mind being obese (fat) because I do. I am beautiful inside, time to adjust my outside.

    You can do this, and it sounds like you have some solid plans.

    It's not the right route for everyone, but it helped me to think of the process as experimenting and finding some new enjoyable (or at least readily tolerable) habits I could pair with a sensibly moderate calorie deficit for long enough to lose meaningful weight (not a short time for anyone), then continue indefinitely afterwards while eating maintenance level calories. As you say, extremes of denying oneself desired foods is likely to backfire, maybe better to figure out how to integrate reasonable portions of at least some of them into regular life, maybe just a little less frequently or something.

    Writing sounds like a really good outlet, and I'm sure you can find other non-food strategies for comfort, stress relief, etc. Clearly, your head's in a good place.

    Wishing you huge success!
  • wunderkindking
    wunderkindking Posts: 1,615 Member
    For what it's worth, while I will always encourage people to find an instructor in any activity-

    Paddleboard is a good workout and physically demanding, but those boards are WAY more stable than they appear to be. Standing up takes some learning about where the center of the board is, and some work at not looking down, but it's probably not as hard as you think. Also very easy to get back on.

    Do know, though, that falling on one will HURT YOU. Fall into the freaking water.
  • coblujay
    coblujay Posts: 688 Member
    @RisingPhoenix1107 If I can do this, you can too. Check out the advice others gave me on the first page of this post. I've tried to follow their lead. I'm not perfect, but most days I stay under my calorie goals and get in some exercise. I've been working at this for about 20+ years and this is finally the time when I'm going to get there. I feel great. I can't wait to follow along as you move forward.
  • coblujay
    coblujay Posts: 688 Member
    @callsitlikeiseeit We're both doing great! I love reading your posts, laughing along the way. :smile:

    @AnnPT77 Thanks Ann. I wish I lived closer to a place where I could learn to row. That sounds like lots of fun. I like the idea of adding a few maintenance days in the mix over the next two months, just to give myself a little leeway. I have company coming into town and they know I'm focused on eating right and exercising, so we are planning some hikes, swims, etc. together and they are going to help me cook for Thanksgiving. I'll be doing paddleboard lessons at first, too. I need all the tips and tricks I can get. I've been so unsteady on my feet for so long, but now I'm seeing improvement. I can't wait!!
  • coblujay
    coblujay Posts: 688 Member
    @wunderkindking Thanks for the great advice! I'll remember to jump off when I'm going to fall. I'll post pictures when that day comes. They should be pretty hysterical. I hope you didn't have too many bruises. I love kayaking and that doesn't seem to hurt too much. :)
  • wunderkindking
    wunderkindking Posts: 1,615 Member
    coblujay wrote: »
    @wunderkindking Thanks for the great advice! I'll remember to jump off when I'm going to fall. I'll post pictures when that day comes. They should be pretty hysterical. I hope you didn't have too many bruises. I love kayaking and that doesn't seem to hurt too much. :)

    It's very similar to a kayak without any sides. So, I think you'll be fine. The balance thing really is just a learning curve but it's not a steep one. Just a matter of figuring out where you need to be. ...bonus: My dogs LOVE it.
  • Arc2Arc
    Arc2Arc Posts: 484 Member
    edited November 2021
    @wunderking I hadn’t been to this thread before and just read through all of it. From your attitude at the beginning, to your acceptance of tough love, to your commitment to learn from your mistakes and from others, to all your hard work, you are a shining example of success. Congratulations and continued wind in your sails. Proud to be here with you.
  • mjglantz
    mjglantz Posts: 508 Member
    Reading your story and progress is just GREAT! You've gotten lots of great advice and support which is wonderful. There is one question you asked months ago about could you make this lifetime commitment so many talk about and the answer is "yes you can!"
    At age 61 after many serial starts on weight loss (lost the weight...kept if off for some time and then gained it back) I woke up one day at least 70 lbs overweight feeling hungover and just bad. Had had way too much to eat the night before and said "enough is enough" and made some decisions. Knew after years that going on a diet didn't work because ultimately I'd off the diet. I knew tracking my for worked and I'd been doing it but not paying attention to staying at my calorie goal. I knew exercise was just plain good for me and wasn't doing anything regularly.

    It was mid October 2011 and I made some decisions: I'd track my food AND stay within my calorie goal of 2,000/day (at 5'8" I figured that was bout 500 cals less/day than I'd been eating). I'd choose to eat healthy most of the time. I'd find ways to move more. I'd forgo the wine during the week and be moderate on Friday & Saturday. And accepted that this was for life and I'd make small sustainable changes. Figured I could do this until the New year.

    Well I did and I saw progress and recommitted for the next 8 weeks continuing to make small changes. There was no rush and no goal to lose x lbs by some date. Long story short I did lose over 80 lbs and kept it over for over 8 years. One big life event (a heart attack in 2013 after losing 50 lbs) got me to keep losing the weight and make exercise a daily event.

    Over time all the healthy choices I made have become just the way I live my life. You can do this! Yes you can!
  • coblujay
    coblujay Posts: 688 Member
    Thank you so much, MJ. There is nothing like being surrounded by people who are where I'd like to be. All of the vast knowledge and experience here has helped me every step of the way. Congratulations on your success. I plan to follow in your footsteps. :)
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,024 Member
    I'll always bet when people regain it's ALWAYS because they stopped being consistent. It's a given. You seem to have spurts of doing well followed by inconsistency for awhile. So you just gotta ask yourself: How bad do I really want this to happen? Because for just about anyone dedicated enough, it happens.
    Your doctor telling you you should consider weight loss surgery basically states that they don't believe you have the ability to do it on your own. So what you need to do is really assess yourself and figure out how you want to lose your weight. Whatever path you take, it's going to be challenging.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

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  • coblujay
    coblujay Posts: 688 Member
    Thanks @ninerbuff I'm almost halfway there and feeling great. It's been a struggle some days, but I have way more good days than bad. Feeling confident that I can do this.
  • springlering62
    springlering62 Posts: 8,662 Member
    Oh, hell yeah!!!!

    This makes me all teary eyed.

    You are AWESOMENESS personified!!!!!!
  • coblujay
    coblujay Posts: 688 Member
    @springlering62

    You are one of my mentors, Spring!! Thank you my inspirational friend. Now I just need to figure out the ice cream thing. :)
  • fatty2begone
    fatty2begone Posts: 249 Member
    I am following in your footprints. You are an inspiration and soon I hope to join you in all your glory!
    Thank you for posting.
  • coblujay
    coblujay Posts: 688 Member
    @fatty2begone

    You've got this!! You are so welcome. I'm glad it's helpful and can't wait to celebrate with you!!
  • AnnPT77
    AnnPT77 Posts: 34,598 Member
    @coblujay, the utter fabulousness of this update cannot be overstated. Congratulations, and respect!

    I'm another getting a little damp around the eyeballs while reading it, and I'm usually not the woman who goes there. But this: So good!

    I wish you nothing but happiness and more success going forward, and I know you'll achieve those goals, too.

    Wonderful!
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,454 Member
    @coblujay Oh, my gosh. I somehow lost track of this thread, but I recently turned "notifications" back on, and look at how flippety well you are doing!!

    I am so happy for you and thank you so much for the uplifting update!

    Local zoo - Western Lowland Gorilla toddler, "Kitoko" - I just saw him last week and he's a character!

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    Photo by Jeremy Dwyer-Lindgren/Woodland Park Zoo
    https://www.zoo.org/growingupgorilla
  • snowflake954
    snowflake954 Posts: 8,399 Member
    Congratulations!--an inspirational story for sure! There is a lot of life to live. Go!
  • coblujay
    coblujay Posts: 688 Member
    @cmriverside Woohoo! What a cutie! Kitoko is amazing. I'm headed back to Africa soon. No gorillas this time, but plenty of other wildlife. I can't wait! Thank you for all of your support!
  • coblujay
    coblujay Posts: 688 Member
    @snowflake954 Thank you!! Haha! There is alot of life to live and I'm running with it...or swimming...maybe hiking...but definitely moving!!
  • healingmysticmelody
    healingmysticmelody Posts: 58 Member
    First time reader, same starting weight and same strategy but only 11 weeks in. I’m on track with your journey at about 1.5 lbs lost per week. I read every word of this thread and very glad to see the journey through Jean sizes that I have in front of me! :) So nice to think of the extra energy. Thank you for sharing.
  • avatiach
    avatiach Posts: 307 Member
    This is a wonderful thread. The inspiration of the maintainers is just awesome. And you are doing great!!! Please update on your doctor’s visit!