Less Alcohol ~ NOVEMBER 2021 ~ One Day At A Time

dawnbgethealthy

@globalhiker

I am in Cranbrook.
Are you going to Banff first for the marathon?

I am not familiar with the border crossing that you mentioned.
I would say that if you are going to Banff first it would be better to fly into Calgary and rent your car there.
From Spokane Banff is probably about an 8 hour drive. You would cross at Kingsgate (Eastport) if you are coming that way, maybe 3 hours to the border.
Kalispel airport is about 45 minutes to the border, but many hours from there up to Banff and circuitous.

If you are visiting me prior to the marathon then the route from Spokane would be a lovely drive.

dblirondog

I just celebrated 2 years sober a couple of days ago. I did it before my little girl was born. I want to be the best dad I can be for her.

ahoy_m8

dawnbgethealthy wrote: »

@ahoy_m8

Impressive cake!!! How did it taste?
The Symphony of the Kootenays was probably only 50-60 musicians, but included Timpani : - )

Come to think of it, the local symphony where I live made many pandemic adjustments to keep musicians safe, including expanding the stage to occupy 1/3 or the orchestra seating & instrumentation for fewer instruments. But still, 50-60 artists working together is still pretty inspirational! It takes me out of my head, anyway. Love, love timpani.

Kransekake is made with 3 ingredients - egg whites, almond (flour or ground) and an insane amount of confectioners sugar. So how can you go wrong with taste? When baked properly, crisp on the outside and chewy on the inside. I had a few challenges, so my execution was not perfect. If I ever do it again, I hope to learn from my mistakes.

ahoy_m8

globalhiker wrote: »

Wow @ahoy_m8 your cake looks too pretty to eat. I would love to make a Christmas holiday cake like that and if I can find a gluten-free way to do it, I will. What inspiration!

I logged 5 AF days this past week and it was a holiday week too!! If I can do it, everyone can. Just focus on the next 24 hours and keep distracted and busy.

@dawnbgethealthy -Are you in Cranbrook or Creston? Is the best way from the US driving through Rykerts border crossing? Tentatively looking at June 9th or 10th and right now taking a short flight to Spokane in a small plane looks like the least Covid-complicated option.

Kransekake is totally gluten free!

Marmelade75689

Sorry, I haven't been checking in daily as I intended. The new update messed up some of my resolutions. Anyways, my bf broke up with me because of my binge drinking. I promised him I wouldn't go overboard, and I kept my promise for more than 3 months... But I had a relapse and he saw it and got disgusted by me. I feel bad about it. I don't know if staying sober every day would have made our relationship stronger. Or if it was just a disaster waiting to happen. I would like to believe that if he really loved me, he would accept my flaws and encourage me to get stronger/better. But at the 1st mistake, he bails...Who does that?

Lilylady3k

dawnbgethealthy wrote: »

Sunday November 28 - AF - Hit my 20 - planning on 22AF days this month. Top loading really helped me this time around. This was the day that I joined this thread 3 years ago : - ) It has helped keep me on track. Thank you @MissMay : - )

Rolling total: 20AF days out of 28 days.

@dawnbgethealthy

Lilylady3k

11/29 - @ Fishing Camp 🎣 2 bourbon & diet coke

Dawn made me look back at my own notes ...
Dec 28, 2018 (FIRST AF day in 2018) when I decided to be accountable and not just drink mindlessly & excessively. I'm definitely not perfect but I'm now able to control my # of drinks (most days) and even rack up some AF days each month. Baby steps.

ahoy_m8

@Marmelade75689 That really hurts. I don't know the answer to any of the questions you pose, but I do know what a break up feels like. It stinks. A wise friend once told me sometimes you just have to go through what you have to go through. Hang in there. Feel what needs to be felt. Use the pain like fuel to move you forward to another place with other options and opportunities. Believe in yourself and that it will hurt less in the future. Ask for support when you need it. Sending you hugs. Check in whenever it works FOR YOU.

MissMay

Hi everyone, ok I hope I was able to create a new month here for December. It was a bit tricky but let's see.

I am ending November with
7 days A
23 days AF
More than I anticipated. But still not bad by any measure toy past.

https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10850091/less-alcohol-december-2021-one-day-at-a-time#latest

Lilylady3k

Had 2 bourbon & diet cokes but really really wanted more. DH said nope to fixing a 3rd which was good for me to have that message.

November accountability: 12/30 days AF
Alcohol: 18 days (40 drinks)
Goal: Limit 1-2 glasses per day; 12-16 AF days per month. Aim to drink no more than 2 nights in a row.

11/01 - 3 wine
11/02 - AF
11/03 - 2 wine
11/04 - 2 wine
11/05 - 3 wine
11/06 - 👩‍🍼☔️ 💜😊💜 AF
11/07 - 2 wine

11/08 - AF
11/09 - 🍓 AF
11/10 - AF
11/11 - Torchy’s Tini
11/12 - 2 wine
11/13 - 2 drinks 💜😊💜 (1 wine + 1 blackberry liqueur & soda water)
11/14 - 1 wine

11/15 - 📚 AF
11/16 - 3 wine
11/17 - 📚 AF
11/18 - 🍓 AF
11/19 - 🍾🥂2 wine
11/20 - 3 wine 💜😊💜
11/21 - 2 wine

11/22 - AF
11/23 - AF
11/24 - 2 glasses wine
11/25 - 🦃 3 wine
11/26 - 🎣 AF
11/27 - 🎣 3 drinks 💜😊💜 1 wine + 2 bourbon & diet coke
11/28 - 🎣 AF

11/29 - 🎣 2 bourbon & diet coke
11/30 - 🎣 2 bourbon & diet coke

dawnbgethealthy

Marmelade75689 wrote: »

Sorry, I haven't been checking in daily as I intended. The new update messed up some of my resolutions. Anyways, my bf broke up with me because of my binge drinking. I promised him I wouldn't go overboard, and I kept my promise for more than 3 months... But I had a relapse and he saw it and got disgusted by me. I feel bad about it. I don't know if staying sober every day would have made our relationship stronger. Or if it was just a disaster waiting to happen. I would like to believe that if he really loved me, he would accept my flaws and encourage me to get stronger/better. But at the 1st mistake, he bails...Who does that?

So sorry!
But, yes, his loss totally. I agree that he should accept and help, not just bail.
Many of us have been through heartbreak. It stings so bad. Some day you will be glad that you didn't remain with someone who didn't support you.

New beginning for you, you are the author of your own story. Create your life the way that you want it to be.

Huge hugs.

dawnbgethealthy

I ended with 16AF days for October. My ongoing goal is 16-20 AF days.
November 28th 2018 was when I started on this thread. My late Dad's birthday.
I have learned to drink less over the past 3 years, although it was very tough at first weaning myself off of being a daily drinker.

Diary style is how I roll and keep track.

Thursday November 25 - Drinks. Unplanned. I was stressed out, but really try to save drinks hours for happy times, not stress times. Planned drinks Saturday night with friends that I am going to the Symphony with. Pretty sure that I will get to 20AF days for this month.
Friday November 26 - AF - Tomorrow and Sunday off : - ) I had a violinist and double bass player in the restaurant today that are playing the Symphony show that I am going to tomorrow night. I didn't find out until they were paying, and then I totally fan girled out
Saturday November 27 - Drinks - One at a restaurant before the concert, and 2 afterwards. Really fabulous show, I got absolutely lost in it : - )
Sunday November 28 - AF - Hit my 20 - planning on 22AF days this month. Top loading really helped me this time around. This was the day that I joined this thread 3 years ago : - ) It has helped keep me on track. Thank you @MissMay : - )
Monday November 29 - AF
Tuesday November 30 - About to have a couple of drinks.


Rolling total: 21AF days out of 30 days.