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darkertyn

I am new here my name is Tineyjo I am a mother of 4 two at home I am looking for friends to help me get and stay motivated. I need to lose about 100 pounds I just cant find my get up and go anymore. I struggle with my food habits even though I did not think I was doing that bad but I guess I was wrong. Need friends to help me stay accountable.

Sarahxnicole97

Hi! I have just decided it’s time to make changes. I have about 130 lbs I need to lose. Single mom of a 12 year old. I am looking for someone to help motivate and hold me accountable too.

callsitlikeiseeit

The key in losing weight, and take this from someone who has lost 230 pounds, is to make small, SUSTAINABLE changes. this is a long term effort. not a sprint. you will not lose weight fast. you will not lose weight every week. you will have weeks on end with NO weight loss. its normal. trust the process.

my main tips:

learn how to weigh (on a food scale) your food properly and find ACCURATE database entries now. I don't know what your starting weight is, but at first you may have a lot of room for error. but as you have less to lose, you don't. If you learn how to do things properly from the beginning, it means you don' have to RE-LEARN how to do it later.

Find an activity you ENJOY. You don't have to be a runner (ew- though I have begun. and i hate it. I much prefer other cardio). You don't have to work out at all to lose weight (weight loss happens in the kitchen). BUT... physical activity does have a LOT of benefits. Both mental and physical. It can be as simple as a leisurely stroll a few times a week. And as you lose weight, you may find (I did), that you WANT to do more. Simple, little things like parking a bit further out in parking lots. Taking stairs instead of elevators. walking to your mailbox instead of pulling up to it in your car as you are pulling in your driveway. Small things. Every bit counts.

Understand that you do not have to give up your favorite foods or any food groups to lose weight. You DO need to learn how MUCH you can eat. Portion control. This goes back to my first point. For the most part, I eat the same things I always have. Just less of them. I eat burgers and pizza and chips and cookies. Just ... not all in the same day well, I might could get away with it if I planned it out REALLY well. And stuck to the plan with NO deviation. Maybe. LOL

You will have 'bad' days. Whether its a holiday or just a ... bad day. Life happens. you will go over. It is NOT the end of the world. You will not ruin your deficit with one bad day. The problems come in when that one bad day becomes two, becomes 3, becomes a week, and goes on....

You've got this. Take it one day at a time, and each day, try to do a little bit better. Don't try to do everything all at once. Don't try to make 1000 changes all at once. Most people who burn out, do so because they try to do too much, too soon. start small. build from there. You did not gain the weight quickly. You will not lose it quickly. Better to lose it slowly, and KEEP IT OFF, then lose it quick, and gain it all back and more!

I've been at this a long time. It becomes a part of your life, and like any other habit, you don't think about it much, really. Your eating habits slowly change. You weigh and log your food. Your activity levels (usually) change, at least to some degree. You become more mindful of what you are putting in your shopping cart and body. My one (or two) words of caution is to make these changes slowly. Most people who go 'All in' head first and full steam, burn out quick. Your first couple of weeks, maybe even first month, most people will lose a fair amount fairly quickly, but most of it is water weight (usually from a natural, not intentional, reduction in carbs). It does slow down, as your body adjusts. It's normal, and is SUPPOSED to happen, so don't get discouraged. Also, don't set your calories too low. The fastest rate of loss (1200 for women and 1500 for men) is not the best rate of loss. Although very tempting to set it to lose faster, it will make it harder for you to maintain and stick to your calorie goals because you will be ... well, hungry. Be kind to yourself, give yourself a few more calories, and you will still lose weight and be less likely to deviate from your plan and therefore more likely to succeed.

Useful Links
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1234699/logging-accurately-step-by-step-guide/p1
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1296011/calorie-counting-101/p1

and basically ... all of these

https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10300319/most-helpful-posts-general-health-fitness-and-diet-must-reads#latest

Make small changes. dont try to change everything overnight. little changes can lead to giant ones, if you give it enough time.

I dont care if you add me, but I will warn you, I am not the friend for everyone. I am very supportive, and off and on all day, so see most things, but I swear like a sailor and ramble incessantly about my life, and not just about diet and weight crap. I have an awesome group of friends who are pretty much the same. You are welcome to board to crazy train and hop off if you so choose. https://www.myfitnesspal.com/profile/callsitlikeiseeit

fattyratty94

Hey there 👋 I've never been or had an accountability buddy ha But I am in a similar boat, 100+ lbs to lose healthily and would be very happy to chat with folks with similar goals! Idk, to share our experiences and useful recipes we might find, give each other a pep talk now and then, whatever! Feel free to add me if you'd like (: And anyone else with similar goals in mind is welcome to add me too!

drollings2019

@callsitlikeiseeit that is probably the best advise I have seen in any of these discussions! Thank you for that! I have been one that went all in and fizzled out just as quick as I started. I am starting again and just focusing on a few things at a time. I probably need to be better at weighing my food instead of just judging by looks!

callsitlikeiseeit

drollings2019 wrote: »

@callsitlikeiseeit that is probably the best advise I have seen in any of these discussions! Thank you for that! I have been one that went all in and fizzled out just as quick as I started. I am starting again and just focusing on a few things at a time. I probably need to be better at weighing my food instead of just judging by looks!

judging by looks can work for awhile, depending on how much you have to lose and what kind of a deficit that creates. Long term, for MOST people, it doesn't work. When I am maintaining, I can eyeball portion sizes (keeping in mind, I've done this for a long time now), but I have to work out regularly. If I do NOT work out, I need to at least weigh calorie dense items to keep portion 'creep' from setting in.

portion creep is real. LOL