WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JANUARY 2023

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  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,709 Member
    edited January 2023
    Hi all,
    I don't normally do the lists, but I had to jump in on the song lyrics!
    Of course, there are so MANY!
    But just recently I've had some random lines from the song, 'We Can Do Hard Things' going round my head.
    It fits with my word for the year, FREE.

    "I continued to believe
    That I'm the one for me"

    "We stopped asking directions
    To places they've never been"

    "I continued to believe
    The best people are free"

    I went running this morning as the sky was blue, but I hit the WIND coming home!
    I tried to take a photo of the moon and a windsurfer, but my efforts were so bad, I deleted them all.

    DH got himself into a snit with me last night . Not sure what about, but it was something to do with the gutter man coming on Friday. When he feels upset about something he stops talking. He's OK this morning. Unfortunately he was so upset, that he left the salted caramel icecream in the fridge, instead of putting it in the freezer. I bought it for Bea, but she didn't have time for dessert before her father came to get her for swimming. Of course, we couldn't resist having some with our stewed plums.

    Still thinking about my blurb for the book. Will have a ponder next. This afternoon is painting.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx





  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,610 Member
    grandmallie wrote: »
    Heather- your such a good grandma!!
    Rosemarie- i just suggested a couple of series of books to a dear friend of mine don't know if you read either
    James Herriot series ,starting with all creatures great and small
    And then C.S. Lewis ,Chronicles of Narnia ,my mom read my brother and I the whole series before bed nightly it was wonderful
    Miles down for his 2nd nap.. all quiet in the house..Tracy should be home in about 1/2 hr and then have to pick up the pups and run to UPS

    I've read the Chronicles of Narnia many times, most recently in 2018. :)

    Good choice!

    Machka in Oz
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    minicooper452 wrote: »
    No way, Heather! You can keep black pudding, thank you very much!

    Awe Allies... sleepy babies are the bestest! (aside from smiley babies) Sorry you couldn't be with him, but you got pictures.

    Bitta, welcome! We're almost neighbors! Margaret and I are in MN! (Rita too, part time)

    Sorry Michele, you may have read that wrong, "To each his own, Heather. You go for it. Can't stand haggis and I have tried it. Don't know what black pudding is, but ewe??? Just the name?" As far as being banned in the US, you're taking quite a leap assuming that I've never been out of the US!

    I LOVE that your favorite teacher was your father Machka! Was he actually a teacher? One of my best friends, in middle school, had a father who taught there. THAT was interesting.

    7 Slow down and savor one meal today... had the best spaghetti and meatballs, made by our dear friends, who regularly just send food home with Freddy sometimes. SUCH a blessing!
    8 Who was your favorite teacher... toss up, in elementary school it was my 3rd grade teacher, Mrs Frizzly. We just hit it off from the start and her family ran this supper club up by our cabin, so once in awhile we got all dressed up and got to go see them during the summer! BIG treat. In HS, it was Ms. Kelly, my French teacher. She was amazing and somehow totally got me. Even to the point of not excusing me, but believing in me enough to rat me out to my parents when I skipped too many of her classes to pass, but allowing me to make them up in order to actually pass. Then she sponsored me to go to France after graduation. LOVED that woman!
    Love and Blessings, Carla, in MN
    9 Create something today...
    10 What is your favorite lyric from a song...
    11 Send a card/note to someone today...
    12 What are you looking forward to in 2023?...
    13 Tell a random person they look "good" today...
    14 Tell us three amazing things that happened recently (you decide what "recently" means...lol)...
    15 Call or text someone you haven't talked to in at least a week...
    16 What made you smile today...
    17 Take a photo of something you're grateful for...
    18 What material comforts are you most thankful for? You can make your list as long as you like...
    19 Write a positive review for a company for goods or services you've received recently...
    20 Write down five things you like about yourself...
    21 Pay it forward in some way...
    22 What do you most desire in your life right now?...
    23 Go an entire day without complaining...
    24 What about you makes you special?...
    25 Spend time with a loved one...
    26 When was the last time you felt pure joy?...
    27 Hold the door for a stranger... or a friend...
    28 What fear have you overcome?...
    29 Engage in a random act of kindness of your own choice...
    30 When was the last time you laughed so hard you almost peed?...
    31 Now try to "meditate" (sit in silence) for ten minutes...

    ___

    Mrs. Frizzly! That sounds like a fictional character, perhaps a mystery solver or a character in a Miss Marple book. Love it!

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,610 Member
    1 Sit in silence for three minutes... it's harder than you think. Does silently working in the garden count? Done! I sat silently for 7 minutes and prayed.

    2 List 5 things using each of your senses. Right now? I can see my Christmas decorations, I can hear Christmas songs, I can taste my coffee, I can smell my coffee, and I can feel a comfortable temperature in the room.

    3 Let go of at least 5 items in your house. I'm not in a downsizing or reducing mode so I've taken some lunch things to work, I will take an item to be mailed and another to be given to the people at work.

    4 What was your favorite Christmas gift? (this year or ever). I can't tell you what my favourite Christmas gift this year is yet. It's a secret.

    5 Move for at least 30 minutes today. Absolutely. It's a very rare day that I don't.

    6 Share a goal you achieved last year. We completed the longest bicycle ride since my husband's accident and the fastest.

    7 Slow down and savor one meal today. Mmmm ... pizza!

    8 Who was your favorite teacher. My father. :):) But I've had quite a few good teachers, in addition to him, over the years.

    9 Create something today. I finished creating my first work-related project plan today.

    10 What is your favorite lyric from a song. Difficult one given that I like so much music. But let's go with: "A thrill of hope the weary world rejoices"

    11 Send a card/note to someone today. Do emails count?
    12 What are you looking forward to in 2023?
    13 Tell a random person they look "good" today
    14 Tell us three amazing things that happened recently (you decide what "recently" means...lol)
    15 Call or text someone you haven't talked to in at least a week
    16 What made you smile today
    17 Take a photo of something you're grateful for
    18 What material comforts are you most thankful for? You can make your list as long as you like...
    19 Write a positive review for a company for goods or services you've received recently
    20 Write down five things you like about yourself
    21 Pay it forward in some way
    22 What do you most desire in your life right now?
    23 Go an entire day without complaining
    24 What about you makes you special?
    25 Spend time with a loved one
    26 When was the last time you felt pure joy?
    27 Hold the door for a stranger... or a friend
    28 What fear have you overcome?
    29 Engage in a random act of kindness of your own choice
    30 When was the last time you laughed so hard you almost peed?
    31 Now try to "meditate" (sit in silence) for ten minutes...


    Weird days.
    One day I'll tell you all about them.


    Machka in Oz


  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,610 Member
    Today:

    All this walking plus another 1.1 km:
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    And then we went for a bicycle ride:
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    Machka in Oz
  • kymarai
    kymarai Posts: 3,702 Member
    Good Wednesday!

    Tracey I am lucky that my DH loves breakfast for dinner. I do add eggs when we have pancakes or french toast as his syrup will screw with the blood sugar. The eggs slow that down. I don't use syrup, but prefer applesauce or fruit or powdered sugar.

    Annie Hugs for your upcoming difficult journey. Please remember we are here for you.

    Laundry- I remember frozen jeans! I also think line drying was why so many women ironed clothes. Ironing helped soften things back up. I am surprised that so many communities don't allow drying clothes outside. Isn't that more energy efficient? SMH

    Evelyn Congratulations on your loss!

    Karen WOW! 40 pounds is a huge loss! My granddaughter has always been a slow eater. Maybe that is why she is so skinny still ;)

    <3
    Kylia in Ohio

  • auntiebk
    auntiebk Posts: 2,614 Member
    8 Who was your favorite teacher Bob? who taught Windows NT at New Horizons Meridian.
    7 Slow down and savor one meal today really enjoyed yoghurt apples and walnuts sweetened with a little brown sugar and cinnamon.

    Just when I thought I could catch up, internet went out, so after typing this update will go start sorting paper. Don’t need internet for that :P Power’s still on. Tumble is growling at the thunder. Joe’s curled up in bed with Shadow. Storm’s forecast to last throughout the evening so bailed on line dance class. Thinking of Debbie, Kim, pip and all in the flood warning area.

    Ah! Internet’s back on. Skimmin’

    Very belated Welcome to @LeighaAnn7777
    Katla ((hugs)) Hard choice, know you’ll miss your Oregon neighbors, friends and hummingbirds, but the right one for your DH and you to be close to your DD.
    Lisa “… bigger nuts…” LOL!
    Pip congratulations Lucy and Chispas!
    Tracey saved your powerful prayer to my desktop for easy reference.
    Machka that English is weird meme made me laugh out loud!
    Kylia con VERY gratulations on your free-from-nicotine decision. IMHO Nicotine is more addictive (and more detrimental?) than heroin, cocaine, even alcohol. ((hugs))
    Kay while Joe’s of the opinion that I should leave other people’s “property” alone, I firmly believe that keeping found pets safe, and posting notices everywhere is the right thing to do. I’d feel differently if someone wanted a “reward” for my found pet, that would be like ransom.

    Done:
    01/08: Move: 2 sets PT, walk in place while watching church, dogs to powerline active mins:164 steps:4463
    Fuel: plants running count for week so far=11: almond, apple, beans-kidney, carrots, cucumber, Kashi, olive oil, popcorn, radish, romaine, tomato sauce. CI<CO=165
    Live: Joe, readings, BP, remote church and budget committee. Wt:136.0
    01/07: Move: undecorated tree and packed up ornaments. active mins:364 steps:4403
    Fuel: plants running count for week so far=33: almonds, apple, basil, beans-green, beans-kidney, bell pepper-orange, carrots, cashews, chili peppers-red, cinnamon, coconut milk powder, corn chips, cucumber, garlic, ginger, jicama, mandarins, onions, peanut butter, pecans, peppers-orange/red/yellow, potatoes, radish, rice-brown, romaine, snap peas, tea, tomato concentrate, walnuts, wheat-pasta. CI<CO=930
    Live: Joe, readings, BP, laundry Wt:137.6
    01/06: Move:2 sets PT, active mins:233 steps:6258
    Fuel: plants running count for week so far=30: almonds, apple, basil, beans-green, beans-kidney, bell pepper-orange, carrots, cashews, chili peppers-red, cinnamon, coconut milk powder, corn chips, cucumber, garlic, ginger, jicama, mandarins, onions, peanut butter, pecans, potatoes, radish, rice-brown, romaine, snap peas, tea, tomato concentrate, walnuts, wheat-pasta. CI<CO=637
    Live: Joe, readings, BP Wt:137.1
    That’s enough sitting even though only through pg 19.

    Later, lighter, lovelies!
    Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD x8zcp1ya37k1.gif
    2023: Be of good cheer.
    January: Move more, fuel better, live NOW.
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,657 Member
    It's Wednesday ladies! At least at my house. :D

    Karen in VA - 40 lbs lost! Wow! I found at least 5 of them in the past 6 months, you can have them back. :)

    Regarding clotheslines - Our HOA also forbids them, although at least one of my neighbors has one behind the house - we all have large lots and are pretty relaxed about what goes on in people's back yards. So I'm thinking of putting one up if I can figure out where to put it, our Kim has a good one. But in the meantime, I use the wooden drying rack in the house with the cold wet weather and clothing on hangers on the shower curtain rod to get most of the moisture out for a day. Then, ten minutes in the dryer gets them softened and doesn't run up the electricity bill. ;) Putting items on the drying rack gives me a chance to move, bend, lift. Anything to keep me more flexible these days. :)

    I too remember frozen jeans and overalls when I was a kid in Indiana. And clothing strung on lines in the living room where the heater was to finish drying.

    Regarding power rates[/b] - so far, ours are stable. My bill is a lot less than it was a year ago when we had to keep the house warmer for DH, plus the new HVAC is much more energy efficient. Our rate is $.06819 per KWH in my area of WA.

    Regarding protein and strength[/b] - I've been concerned about my waning strength, and ran across more research about seniors eating protein to keep their muscles. For a while I logged how much I was getting - not nearly enough, I should be getting 70 to 80 grams per day minimum, so I've been concentrating on adding more. 20 grams per meal plus a snack isn't hard if I pre-plan. A small can of tuna has around 20 right there, 1/2 cup cottage cheese also over 20 gm.

    I think today will be strength training. Two or three times a week is advised in SWSY with a day off in between.

    Make it a beautiful day! <3

    Lanette B)
    SW WA State

  • minicooper452
    minicooper452 Posts: 645 Member
    You know, Tracey, I had the most wonderful auntie who would send cards to everyone for their birthday every year. EVERY year, even if she was out of town, which became more frequent for my birthday because it was February and they started going to Hawaii every year. As she got older, her signature got harder to read, but she still sent the cards and they got more precious to receive. We lost Auntie Sally a couple years ago and Uncle Leigh just last year. I still have some of the last couple cards that she sent to me.

    Hehehe sorry, Machka, emails don't count. That's the point... LOL!

    OMGosh, Karen, that is one of my favorite songs... Thank you for reminding me. <3

    11 Send a card/note to someone today... easy peasy again, I've got them ready to go.
    Love and Blessings, Carla, in MN
    12 What are you looking forward to in 2023?...
    13 Tell a random person they look "good" today...
    14 Tell us three amazing things that happened recently (you decide what "recently" means...lol)...
    15 Call or text someone you haven't talked to in at least a week...
    16 What made you smile today...
    17 Take a photo of something you're grateful for...
    18 What material comforts are you most thankful for? You can make your list as long as you like...
    19 Write a positive review for a company for goods or services you've received recently...
    20 Write down five things you like about yourself...
    21 Pay it forward in some way...
    22 What do you most desire in your life right now?...
    23 Go an entire day without complaining...
    24 What about you makes you special?...
    25 Spend time with a loved one...
    26 When was the last time you felt pure joy?...
    27 Hold the door for a stranger... or a friend...
    28 What fear have you overcome?...
    29 Engage in a random act of kindness of your own choice...
    30 When was the last time you laughed so hard you almost peed?...
    31 Now try to "meditate" (sit in silence) for ten minutes...
  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,891 Member
    Karen - Wow on the 40 pounds lost! With you on the "rather do it a different way, thank you very much."

    Tracey - Ditto for me on the cards. I sent all my family cards on their birthdays, and holidays and never, ever got one back. One year I stopped, and I'm pretty sure no one noticed. My best friend and I send each other birthday cards each year, and I'm pretty sure it's the only card either of us sends anymore.

    Lanette - The doc that did my gastric bypass tattooed on my brain that I have to get at least 65 grams of protein a day to keep my body from cannibalizing my muscles to supply its overall needs. Then he noted that the heart is a muscle. It stuck, and I still try very hard to get at least that much protein every day. You noted cottage cheese as a way to get protein, and I take that serving of cottage cheese and add about 3 oz of reheated taco meat, made with 85-15 beef. The combination is 40 grams of protein, and yummy, too. I also need the heme iron from the beef, so it's really a win for me.

    Machka - My decisionmaking abilities, or current lack thereof, sound much like your "I don't know" phase.

    Annie - I'm so sorry. Even when you know something's coming, seeing it in black and white can be devastating. You are such a strong person, and I hope you can get the help you need to get through these next few years. Having that diagnosis may well open community doors and support for you and your mom. Margaret gave some great suggestions. You can do this!

    Love to all of you,
    Lisa in AR
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,264 Member
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  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,709 Member
    "And to be loved we need to be known" - that's another line from the song. Allie - why not spend the time in McDonald's really listening to Carmine? No judgement. We all need someone's full attention, to be really listened to and understood. DH is so good at that with the kids. He pays full attention to Bea talking non -stop. She is in seventh heaven.
    Withholding privileges when they don't even know why, doesn't seem very helpful.

    I haven't got the gift of patience that DH has, :o:p but I hope we can provide a place where the kids do not feel judged. 'Unconditional positive regard'
    I feel teenagehood coming on before we know it. Max is 12 in five months. I'm sure he will withdraw and be less keen on coming round, but DH and he have a special bond that I hope we can sustain.

    Love to all, Heather UK xxxxxxxx


  • 1948CWB
    1948CWB Posts: 1,604 Member
    Happy Wednesday! :)

    Carol in GA
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,189 Member
    Tracey- Just the mention of that album and I can see it in my mind. One of my favorites I am pretty sure is on that is "Kiss an Angel Goodmorning" Mom and dad had that and a lot more. I am pretty sure she still has it. All the old country music. Maybe a record player would be a great gift for her for her birthday so she could play them again.
    LOVED all the 45's they had.
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,189 Member
    Machka9 wrote: »
    dlfk202000 wrote: »
    I guess I am one of the few that don't like line dried clothes. I remember as a kid having all the clothes drying on the line- I HATED the feel of them, so much I was in tears with some of them. I have always been VERY picky about my clothes, they HAVE to be super soft and no tags in them. If I wore a sweater, I had to wear a long sleeve soft cotton shirt under it. My favorite clothes are fleece/cotton/sherpa/etc. I feel clothes first before anything else. I rarely buy clothes online because of that. They look like they will be soft but get them and they feel terrible.

    Mine have to be smooth cotton or jersey knit.

    Fortunately line drying those is all right.

    I used to be able to wear anything but not since 2016. Fleece is OK as a jacket over a long sleeve cotton top in the middle of winter but it's too prickly against my skin.

    It's related to how hot I get.

    Even at night I sleep with a very smooth cotton sheet and that's it ... unless it is really cold.

    M in Oz

    My favorite "fabric" now is Sherpa!!! Love the feel. I have quite a few sherpa blankets and then dh got me one of the big jacket/robes that is Sherpa inside and fleece that is super soft. BUT, after a while, when the Sherpa isn't super soft anymore, those blankets become cat blankets
    My newest blanket I ordered and opened after my surgery, so comfy. Used it the whole time I was on the couch and now it is on my side of the bed. I have another just like it that I used when I had Covid. That was the one thing I couldn't wait to open and use when I was finally able to drive home from mom's after being too weak to drive home. Two weeks on the couch with that.

    https://www.kohls.com/product/prd-2758102/eddie-bauer-cabin-plaid-sherpa-throw.jsp?prdPV=13

    https://www.kohls.com/product/prd-1944597/the-big-one-super-soft-plush-throw.jsp?prdPV=5

    Kohl's has these on sale every Black Friday. $19.99 for the Sherpa and $9 for the fleece. I buy extra every year. This year I bought two of the Sherpa ones and had them sent to my former inlaws.

    Debbie


  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,189 Member
    margaretturk wrote: »

    Annie a call out to you to be gentle with yourself too! Had a long talk with my neighbor whose dad has similar problems because of a stroke. He talked about the son hat versus the caregiver hat and the problems of each. Fortunately he does have Power of Attorney for his dad. Does someone in your family have this with your mom? I know it an extra layer but it does make some things easier such as paying her bills and making sure she is not subjected to scammers.

    When she gets into her stubborn mindset give yourself space where you remind yourself it her illness and you do the best you can to deal with it. Getting good sleep, eating well, giving yourself breaks, saying NO to others in your life who add to your stress, finding the things in your life that recharge your batteries.

    Are there things that motivates her? When we finish X then we will do Y (what she likes)

    State things rather than sound like you are giving her a choice. Time to go to podiatrist...we are going to make your toes pretty. After podiatrist we will Y.

    In many ways it is like dealing with a 2-3 year old yet they are an adult. So you use the techniques of dealing with a 2-3 while using the voice and respect of an adult.

    I remember going to a workshop on how to deal with children that have tantrums. You give them the space they need to calm down. Yet you stay nearby and calmly check in on them to let them know you are there for them. If you engage them when they are upset it can get you upset and the situation escalates. Another technique that I have yet to master but am working on it is count to five or more in your head before saying anything.

    Your family is in a marathon not a sprint when dealing with a loved one who has Alzheimer's.

    Humor and cherishing those moments when your mom is doing well helps too. Trying to remember how frustrating and frightening it is for your mom who is losing her ability to think clearly gives some perspective.

    (((Triple hugs)))

    I love your suggestions- both the reward after doing something she doesn't really want to do and also to treat them like you are dealing with the 2-3 yr old.
    I have had to do that with my MIL.
    Lots of prayers before I go into her house also helps- pray for peace and to please don't let her bitterness affect me. They have really helped.
    I need dh to read this and do some of it instead of just getting mad at her. Doesn't do anyone any good.
    Especially the reward part- that will work for her.

    Debbie

  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,264 Member
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  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    edited January 2023
    Heather — “And to be loved we need to be known.” Brilliant! 💖

    Rori— Nice to hear from you. A hair appointment sounds pleasant. I hope you enjoy the basketball game. 🌸

    Rita— “Appreciate” is excellent. ⭐️ I like it. 😊
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,657 Member
    edited January 2023
    Dementia and elder care --

    I ran across this website when dealing with my husband's issues (in addition to the one Rori mentioned <3)

    https://www.agingcare.com/caregiver-forum

    Folks talk about their own experiences in dealing with family members in all stages of dementia and care. You might find it helpful. ;)

    Lanette B)

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