WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR FEBRUARY 2023
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Long walk - check!
Favourite song loud - that would be good.
Good workout - looking forward to hauling more rocks this weekend.
Escape into a story - tonight!
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Recent Totals
Machka in Oz
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Morning ladies
Im here with Miles,Carmine is not well,he doesn't eat right at all and is skipping classes and failing all her classes.. Tracy is going out of her mind trying to deal with it all..Im here for moral support..
Same thing happened to me my freshman year I ended up having mono..
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Good Friday,
We broke record high on Wednesday-71f! Was wonderful! MachkaI am looking forward to summer! Today we are almost at our high of 31f plus cloudy.
The train accident is too far from me to make much difference at this time, but feel so badly for all the people it is affecting!
It has been a hard week. Migraine all week which means I am less tolerant of people in my space.My tolerance for people is also really BAD! For example, I haven't been home since before covid. I am going home to surprise my brother for his birthday on March 8th. Yes, it is in the middle of the week. Yes, I am taking it off through Saturday. DH is unsure as to if he wants to go. I DON'T CARE! He can come with or not. I am going home. My sister wants to come visit me in Ohio. She hasn't been to my home since 2009 and I haven't seen her in over 5 years! My sister in law says "I think you are taking too much time off!" REALLY!!??!! For my sister's visit I might take part of a Friday off and a Saturday. D****** I deserve to have time with my family! My DH has been rearranging things at work in a way that makes no sense to me. These are things that I deal with daily, why is he messing with them?!!?? RRRR! Lazy adults are pissing me off too. DH made some comment about why I was washing mowers. My reply was that apparently no one else knows how to take pride in their work. I am tired of being embarrassed to take mowers around that don't even look like they got washed. Also tired of having to double check the mechanics work! The music in the truck isn't right, the temperature in the truck isn't right, the papers aren't filed right.......Like I said, it has been a hard week.So I disconnected my phone from the truck, he can listen to the d*** radio at work and in the truck. I found my earbuds and put one in and can listen to what I want. I put it in my left ear which is my good ear this makes the rest just background noise. Maybe I am just being overly sensitive, but I really do know how to do my job, how to work on mowers, how to organize things, how to take care of our home.
Anyway, that is why I have been quiet on here. I still have Echo (which isn't up yet) and Stihl training to get done. All of the rest are done even ahead of deadlines. Paperwork caught up to yesterday morning. I tried to start on that this morning, but couldn't concentrate. Will have to do at work. DH and I have to go to a lawyer this morning for will reading for our recently passed friend.
HUGS!
SAFE travels!
Lots of LOVE and APPRECIATION for EACH and EVERYONE of You!!!
Kylia
In Ohio being a little witchy7 -
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My Week
4 days at work - Monday was a public holiday.
Tuesday was Valentines but we don't really celebrate that here. Friends of my parents are visiting Tasmania and we showed them around our place and then went out to dinner at our favourite Indian restaurant. That was really nice. I vaguely remember them and was a bit nervous about reconnecting but it went very well. We talked and ate for about 3 hours - they're really lovely people.
Kind of made me miss my parents.
Wednesday my husband had his stitches out from his biopsy and removal. He does not have skin cancer, thank goodness. We went to our favourite fish and chip place in Hobart for lunch.
Wednesday afternoon I got an email from our lawyer wanting a pile more documents so I put those together Wednesday evening. That took up pretty much the whole evening. After a restless night's sleep Wednesday night, I sent another email off to her as soon as I got to work in the morning with some calculations and more details.
Thursday and Friday were pretty normal but I am frantically busy at work. I finished the most recent version of my Project Plan, held my weekly Project Plan meeting, did up a 35 page Recommendations document, researching and recommending database output options, wrote an email outlining the plan for database input ... and then followed up with several more emails as my difficult work colleague had a fit, and I am nearly finished gathering all the fields to recreate the database. My difficult work colleague is having a fit about that too. I had a 4-day weekend last weekend and got about 40 emails from her. Of course, I didn't bother reading them till today.
Fortunately, she's not yelling at me anymore or saying rude things loudly. It's all done very quietly now.
I didn't sleep particularly well on last night (Thursday night) thinking about everything I needed to do on Friday (today).
Today, I walked a lot. I needed that.
Thursday & Friday evening I've been feeling like I should be doing something productive, but I feel too tired so I've been colouring, reading and chipping away at small productive things.
I've also been feeling rather bloated, but I know it's just water retention: salty dinners + heat and humidity.
I've also taken to listening to music at my desk at work with both ear buds in. The minute I take one out my difficult work colleague wants to talk to me, and it is rarely just a normal conversation. I listen to ABC Classic FM at work and in the car (when I drive somewhere on the weekends). The music helps me focus and helps keep me sane!
Tomorrow (Saturday), I'm going to haul rock. That'll help too.
From our garden ...
Machka in Oz14 -
Machka, Your rose is extraordinary. Is it aromatic? Thanks for sharing it.
Karen in Virginia2 -
(((hugs))) to those who need them.
Karen, I'm so sorry that your son wouldn't allow you ex to be there to set him straight and back you up. Do you think, perhaps in some way he knows that his father would set him straight and he's happy blaming you too?
I have another friend who's been suffering from migraines all week too, Kylia. I'm so sorry. Wonder if it's something in the weather? So glad you're away from the derailment. It's such a horrible disaster. Praying for everyone there and beyond.
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minicooper452 wrote: »(((hugs))) to those who need them.
Karen, I'm so sorry that your son wouldn't allow you ex to be there to set him straight and back you up. Do you think, perhaps in some way he knows that his father would set him straight and he's happy blaming you too?
I have another friend who's been suffering from migraines all week too, Kylia. I'm so sorry. Wonder if it's something in the weather? So glad you're away from the derailment. It's such a horrible disaster. Praying for everyone there and beyond.
17-Offer a helping hand to someone, such as holding a door for a
stranger... whenever I can
He’s been happy enough for me to be the scapegoat for over 30 years, but I think he’s ambivalent about it now. I believe there is a worm escaping from his psyche can, and he’s avoiding looking at it. Or maybe more accurately he is peeking at it through his fingers. It’s hard to let go of anger one has carefully kept alive & contained for decades. It will take time and probably severals blunderous attempts before he succeeds, but honestly, I have faith in him despite his history with me. I’m his mother. I can’t help it.
Karen in Virginia5 -
I watched a wonderful movie based on a true story last night. I Am Somebody's Child: The Regina Louise Story
Karen in Virginia3 -
Heather, Gosh, you and Johnny and your grandchildren are wonderful artists. Don’t underestimate yourselves in any way. The work all of you are doing is truly outstanding. Well done.
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OK, I’m off for a wonderful day. The dogs have had their first walk of the day and each produced a healthy poop. I promised myself I wouldn’t talk about poop when I got old, but here I am. Then 2 Aqua exercise classes, ZOOMing with my Nebraska girlfriends of 50+ years, work at our other house for a couple of hours, then back here for chair yoga. Tonight we will go to a band performance here at the old fogey’s home. Looking forward to a satisfying day. It’s 60 degrees F and sprinkling. All is well.
Karen in Virginia5 -
Happy Friday!
Machka - I'll be shopping for a few more containers for gardening. Hadn't thought of plastic rubbish bins. Thank you! Was going to pick up another large one to set under the downspout by the shop (near where I plan to have the containers) to catch rainwater.
Michele - so how long does it typically take you and Vince to drive to the condo including stops? Half a day?
Carol - praying your husband's polyp isn't cancerous. So glad he had it checked out, now is the time to catch anything troublesome. Sending hugs to both of you!
Karen - I looked up that "I am Somebody's Child - the Regina Louise Story," and it looks very good. I'll keep an eye out for it. When I was younger, one of my girlfriends was complaining about her dad and said his life is all about what's to eat and medicines/aches and pains. Probably poop too, but he was the reserved type. Food, what hurts, and the bathroom. Some days, that sums it up!
I was going to join in a Zoom talk about the brain last night. When I opened the Zoom link, I was expecting the presenter and instead there was an old lady in poor lighting. IT WAS ME! YIKES! For a minute I thought it was my mom!
I've never had that happen before. I need to read up on this Zoom. In the meantime I put tape over the camera, lol. If I do start zooming with me showing, I'm definitely going to have to fluff my hair and put on some makeup.
In case anyone hasn't had their fill of ultra processed food info, here's a link that popped up on "The Sugar Movement" FB page this morning:
Strangely, now I'm now craving a McD's Filet of Fish and fries!
Heading out in a few to beat the crowd at Wally World and see if Tractor Supply has any chicken coops. I'm months away but need to get started and at least see if I want to go through the hassle. Talk about decision fatigue, lol.
Make it a wonderful day!
Lanette
SW WA State
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SophieRosieMom wrote: »Happy Friday!
Machka - I'll be shopping for a few more containers for gardening. Hadn't thought of plastic rubbish bins. Thank you! Was going to pick up another large one to set under the downspout by the shop (near where I plan to have the containers) to catch rainwater.
Michele - so how long does it typically take you and Vince to drive to the condo including stops? Half a day?
Karen - I looked up that "I am Somebody's Child - the Regina Louise Story," and it looks very good. I'll keep an eye out for it. When I was younger, one of my girlfriends was complaining about her dad and said his life is all about what's to eat and medicines/aches and pains. Probably poop too, but he was the reserved type. Food, what hurts, and the bathroom. Some days, that sums it up!
I was going to join in a Zoom talk about the brain last night. When I opened the Zoom link, I was expecting the presenter and instead there was an old lady in poor lighting. IT WAS ME! YIKES! For a minute I thought it was my mom!
I've never had that happen before. I need to read up on this Zoom. In the meantime I put tape over the camera, lol. If I do start zooming with me showing, I'm definitely going to have to fluff my hair and put on some makeup.
In case anyone hasn't had their fill of ultra processed food info, here's a link that popped up on "The Sugar Movement" FB page this morning:
Strangely, now I'm now craving a McD's Filet of Fish and fries!
Heading out in a few to beat the crowd at Wally World and see if Tractor Supply has any chicken coops. I'm months away but need to get started and at least see if I want to go through the hassle. Talk about decision fatigue, lol.
Make it a wonderful day!
Lanette
SW WA State
Click the button to turn the camera off.
I've got mine set so that there is no camera and it is on mute when I "enter" Zoom.
M in Oz1 -
Tracey - I think children today, if they are lucky enough to be born into an encouraging family, have a lot of opportunities and exposure to things. But a lot of it is just encouraging their own personalities to flower. Max is here today, and he couldn't be more different to either girl. We spent the morning trying to emulate the Ancient Greeks and work out the area of a circle before pi. DH had lost his compass, so we used two pencils, string, and a ruler! Along the way we googled ancient maths and methods and units of measuring. I checked all the results with my calculator, and we were way out! Great fun and I learnt a lot.
They went out for fish and chips on their own, while I went food and drink shopping. Bought some pink Cava for our guests aperitif tomorrow evening.
I made beds, found and folded towels, cleaned the bathroom they will use etc. Will titivate the downstairs tomorrow morning. DH to sweep the front garden and porch. And clean the kitchen tonight. I think they won't be staying for Sunday lunch. Part of me hopes they won't, as I do get so exhausted with guests, but I have enough food if they do. She wants to get back to study for her viva on Tuesday, about counselling adoptive parents.
Now for a short nap!
Love Heather UK xxxxxx
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Breakfast didn’t sit well this morning. I’m putting tangerines on the do not eat list—
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Good morning ladies!
I lost 1.2 pounds last week Yay! I'm particularly happy because I had three neutral calorie deficit days, Sunday, Monday because I forgot my calendar, and Wednesday because of the Valentine's Day chocolate. So I wasn't expecting much.
I've been thinking about tossing the rest of the chocolates. I don't really want them. But throwing out food! Especially a delicacy! Hmm. I know I have your permission to toss them. Or maybe I
should freeze them. Hmm.
I have taxes to do, which is the perfect reason to have a personal yoga festival. I wonder how much yoga I can do in one day. The videos are cheerful for a rainy day.
So sad about the train mess in Ohio.
Karen good luck with your son. You are doing better than I did. My daughter won't talk to me at all.
Annie in Delaware4 -
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Word of the year: APPRECIATE; today I appreciate electricity.#2 Practice fairness today by putting yourself in someone else’s shoes: I did this with a camper who I received complaints about. I put myself in his shoes when speaking with him. He was a very lonely man who only had his dogs (one barking, one loose) and the people he meets at campgrounds. Made me more compassionate when talking to him about the dogs.#15. If you are waiting in line today, let someone get in front of you. May not be today, but i did do it on Sunday!
#3 Watch a movie that reminds you of kindness. I watched the Adam Project.
#4 Take a picture of 3 things that make you happy. Send them to a friend. Done!
#5 Be kind to yourself. Self-compassion is equally important. Will do today.
#6 Start a conversation with someone new. I do this every day with the campers!
#7 Consider a current struggle. Write down 2 thoughts that give you comfort. My dog Brownie’s heart trouble. Her spells are getting worse and there is nothing the vet can do. Comforting thoughts—She lived a good life with us. She brought us many days of comfort and enjoyment with her loving attitude.
#8. Consider and celebrate diversity today. I am a white girl living among darker Mexicans and native Americans. Campers come from around the world and love to hear the accents and learn about the different cultures i come into contact with. Do this every day!
#9. Identify a role model who embodies perseverance. Can you find two ways to emulate them? My 30 year old autistic nephew. He never gives up no matter what health challenge he faces. I can emulate him by not complaining about every little ache and pain, and by doing what needs to be done to get through any health issues that may come up.
#10. Check an item off your to-do list this weekend. Working on my taxes.
#11. Make twice as much for dinner and either invite guests or deliver the meal to a friend. We give food to people all the time. My DH cooks and we give food to different campers and workers here at the park almost every day!
#12. Make a list for the week ahead so you stay focused. Done
#13. Consider a recent disagreement. Did you extend forgiveness? After I bough myself a Sonic blast to ‘cool down’.
#14. Express creativity by making art or cooking a new meal. I write in a journal that has writing prompts I have to make up stories for. Yesterday I wrote a short story about a dog leash!
#16. The next time someone does something you appreciate, be sure to let them know. Will do! Didn’t have the opportunity but will watch for a chance today!
17. Offer a helping hand to someone, such as holding a door for a stranger. I may have a chance today.#18. Share about a recent book you read and what you learned.Rita
#19. Show sincere appreciation when someone serves you food or drink.
#20. Complement someone today. Ideas include recognizing a great smile or earrings.
#21. When you recognize someone is struggling, offer words of support.
#22. Ask for help. That’s a simple way to express bravery.
#23. Encourage your teammates to utilize their unique strengths.
#24. Reflect on the steps you have taken to achieve your past goals.
#25. Express gratitude today by thanking someone.
#26. Think about the upcoming work week. How can you apply teamwork?
#27. Send or leave a handwritten thank you note to someone.
#28. Giving constructive feedback is one way to ignite honesty.1 -
I have an elbow brace and have been using that plus Bio-Freeze twice a day. I am almost sure I messed up my elbow by upping my weights to 3 pounds and trying to do 3 reps of 10. I felt it. So back to 2 lbs and 1 set for now. Did that yesterday (with the brace on) and elbow is not so bad today. So back to basics!
My knee however is another issue. I bought a patella support-type brace. It goes just below the knee. It is a strap and helps a lot. I don’t have arthritis in my knees but tendinitis. This band helps that too.
Funny since I mentioned telling the doctor about my “pains” I have gotten better doing home repair! LOL
Gotta get ready to go.
Laters lovely ladies!
Rita4 -
Good Friday,
We broke record high on Wednesday-71f! Was wonderful! MachkaI am looking forward to summer! Today we are almost at our high of 31f plus cloudy.
The train accident is too far from me to make much difference at this time, but feel so badly for all the people it is affecting!
It has been a hard week. Migraine all week which means I am less tolerant of people in my space.My tolerance for people is also really BAD! For example, I haven't been home since before covid. I am going home to surprise my brother for his birthday on March 8th. Yes, it is in the middle of the week. Yes, I am taking it off through Saturday. DH is unsure as to if he wants to go. I DON'T CARE! He can come with or not. I am going home. My sister wants to come visit me in Ohio. She hasn't been to my home since 2009 and I haven't seen her in over 5 years! My sister in law says "I think you are taking too much time off!" REALLY!!??!! For my sister's visit I might take part of a Friday off and a Saturday. D****** I deserve to have time with my family! My DH has been rearranging things at work in a way that makes no sense to me. These are things that I deal with daily, why is he messing with them?!!?? RRRR! Lazy adults are pissing me off too. DH made some comment about why I was washing mowers. My reply was that apparently no one else knows how to take pride in their work. I am tired of being embarrassed to take mowers around that don't even look like they got washed. Also tired of having to double check the mechanics work! The music in the truck isn't right, the temperature in the truck isn't right, the papers aren't filed right.......Like I said, it has been a hard week.So I disconnected my phone from the truck, he can listen to the d*** radio at work and in the truck. I found my earbuds and put one in and can listen to what I want. I put it in my left ear which is my good ear this makes the rest just background noise. Maybe I am just being overly sensitive, but I really do know how to do my job, how to work on mowers, how to organize things, how to take care of our home.
Anyway, that is why I have been quiet on here. I still have Echo (which isn't up yet) and Stihl training to get done. All of the rest are done even ahead of deadlines. Paperwork caught up to yesterday morning. I tried to start on that this morning, but couldn't concentrate. Will have to do at work. DH and I have to go to a lawyer this morning for will reading for our recently passed friend.
HUGS!
SAFE travels!
Lots of LOVE and APPRECIATION for EACH and EVERYONE of You!!!
Kylia
In Ohio being a little witchy
Maybe you should take a couple of weeks off and go see your brother and your sister. Let your hub and his sister run their business without you.
Of course, the downside of this is you would come back to a complete and utter mess.
Hugs friend!
Okie in the TX Hill Country
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My Week
I've also taken to listening to music at my desk at work with both ear buds in. The minute I take one out my difficult work colleague wants to talk to me, and it is rarely just a normal conversation. I listen to ABC Classic FM at work and in the car (when I drive somewhere on the weekends). The music helps me focus and helps keep me sane!
Tomorrow (Saturday), I'm going to haul rock. That'll help too.
From our garden ...
Machka in Oz
MANY years ago I tagged along on my hubs business trip to Taiwan. I was sitting at a desk by our friend working. I had both earbuds in and was listening to music to drown out all the noise. My hair covered the earbuds so you couldn't tell I had them in. Lunchtime came and apparently my friend asked me if I wanted to go to lunch several times and thought I was just being rude ignoring him. He was going to leave me. He tried again and waved a hand in front of me and I took out an earbud and asked what was up.......he laughed when he realized I hadn't heard him and said come on, let's go to lunch. We still laugh about it when we see each other and that was almost 20 years ago.
Okie in the TX Hill Country
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Betsy: Enjoy the cruise
Heather: Enjoyed the cards you made!
Michele: I am on Prolia. There has been some improvement. Sacral area is still pretty weak.
Allie/Carol: I just got a dental appliance to take the place of CPAP. Its pretty fragile. Hope I don't break it.
Tracey: I am into leggings and softer materials also.
Katla: Hope you have a good visit with your son.
Debbie: Do you think your MIL has any dementia that is causing meanness. You mentioned she wanted to be put in a home. Maybe a personal care home rather than a nursing home would work out for her. She might get more attention as they tend to be smaller.
Beth: I hope your hearing issues are resolved.
Barbara: I eat a lot of shrimp. Maybe I shouldn't cook it when I am alone.
Rebecca: The shrimp, avocado, cucumber, rice roll sounds delicious!
Machka: Sad about the cyclone Gabrielle. I didn't hear too much about it. The media has been focused on the earthquake in Turkey,
Margaret: I hope you are okay from your fall.
Terri: Do you study Latin as a hobby? I try and do Mandarin and have a course I watch on Udemy. I like the calligraphy.
Rita: Thank you for posting about the Cleveland Diet. Great about being able to control your A1C. So 50 grams of carbs and 90 grams of protein. Avocado as the only fruit. No milk and no yogurt. I have substituted a protein drink with blueberries and banana with protein and milk for coca-cola. I am going to see if my insulin resistance will tolerate this. The protein drink is satisfying. I will eat no other fruit or drink no other milk.
Not much happening here. Caregiving. We brought a planter into the house and I ordered some Wildflower seeds. The sun pours into our dining room and maybe we can grow some Wildflowers. I am increasing the hours of the caregivers. I hate to do this, but I am getting worn down.
Best,
Rosemarie from Georgia
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dlfk202000 wrote: »got a lot of pruning done- 6 of the 12 roses are done, the nectarine is done and sprayed plus some of the wine barrel planters are weeded. Both yard waste containers are full with another pile to go in(dh pruned one of the ornamental trees, really pruned it, that is ok, not a fan of it anyways). I will finish the roses Saturday and hopefully repot my dwarf lemon tree. The wine barrel it is in is falling apart and dries out too fast during the summer because of it. Neighbor gave me the drum from inside of their old washer. I can put the drum over the lemon tree without disturbing the roots.
Almost an hour and a half. Could finish but then I would have to move the prunings twice.
Time for a little break then get dinner started
Debbie
We use large plastic rubbish bins for our orchard including our dwarf lemon.
M in Oz
Living in wine country, wine barrels are pretty easy to get and not too expensive and look nice, at least for about 10 yrs then start to fall apart. The only reason I am using the tub/barrel from the washer is because there isn't a bottom so I can just put it right over the tree and not disturb the roots.
I will need to get some more soil to fill it up.
In my garden, everything is planted in the large pots from the nursery that trees come in. I do have two large raised beds my parents built me for my birthday. Would love more of them but will just use what I have for now.
Do you have a picture of yours? Maybe a new option for me. I have used a few of the plastic totes that the lids cracked on so just drilled some holes and filled them with soil
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Got a huge surprise- dh came in from work and wanted to know what time I was planning on leaving to walk, before getting Ezie from school- I told him, wondering why. SURPRISE- he said he wants to go with me- that is a FIRST- said he needs something different to clear his head. I am thrilled. Now, if we can have a nice walk without him complaining about his mom, work, the neighbor.... That will be amazing.
Won't do the whole walk and will slow down my pace . Don't think he will be up to the five miles in just over an hour.
Debbie5 -
Good Friday,
We broke record high on Wednesday-71f! Was wonderful! MachkaI am looking forward to summer! Today we are almost at our high of 31f plus cloudy.
The train accident is too far from me to make much difference at this time, but feel so badly for all the people it is affecting!
It has been a hard week. Migraine all week which means I am less tolerant of people in my space.My tolerance for people is also really BAD! For example, I haven't been home since before covid. I am going home to surprise my brother for his birthday on March 8th. Yes, it is in the middle of the week. Yes, I am taking it off through Saturday. DH is unsure as to if he wants to go. I DON'T CARE! He can come with or not. I am going home. My sister wants to come visit me in Ohio. She hasn't been to my home since 2009 and I haven't seen her in over 5 years! My sister in law says "I think you are taking too much time off!" REALLY!!??!! For my sister's visit I might take part of a Friday off and a Saturday. D****** I deserve to have time with my family! My DH has been rearranging things at work in a way that makes no sense to me. These are things that I deal with daily, why is he messing with them?!!?? RRRR! Lazy adults are pissing me off too. DH made some comment about why I was washing mowers. My reply was that apparently no one else knows how to take pride in their work. I am tired of being embarrassed to take mowers around that don't even look like they got washed. Also tired of having to double check the mechanics work! The music in the truck isn't right, the temperature in the truck isn't right, the papers aren't filed right.......Like I said, it has been a hard week.So I disconnected my phone from the truck, he can listen to the d*** radio at work and in the truck. I found my earbuds and put one in and can listen to what I want. I put it in my left ear which is my good ear this makes the rest just background noise. Maybe I am just being overly sensitive, but I really do know how to do my job, how to work on mowers, how to organize things, how to take care of our home.
Anyway, that is why I have been quiet on here. I still have Echo (which isn't up yet) and Stihl training to get done. All of the rest are done even ahead of deadlines. Paperwork caught up to yesterday morning. I tried to start on that this morning, but couldn't concentrate. Will have to do at work. DH and I have to go to a lawyer this morning for will reading for our recently passed friend.
HUGS!
SAFE travels!
Lots of LOVE and APPRECIATION for EACH and EVERYONE of You!!!
Kylia
In Ohio being a little witchy
You more than deserve that time with your family and more. Maybe there will be a snow storm and you get snowed in with them and have to have a little more time off with your family.
Happy birthday to your brother- that is my birthday too.
Debbie
Napa Valley,Ca
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Rosemarie2972 wrote: »Betsy: Enjoy the cruise
Debbie: Do you think your MIL has any dementia that is causing meanness. You mentioned she wanted to be put in a home. Maybe a personal care home rather than a nursing home would work out for her. She might get more attention as they tend to be smaller.
Not much happening here. Caregiving. We brought a planter into the house and I ordered some Wildflower seeds. The sun pours into our dining room and maybe we can grow some Wildflowers. I am increasing the hours of the caregivers. I hate to do this, but I am getting worn down.
Best,
Rosemarie from Georgia
She has always been mean- FIL said the worst thing he ever did was marrying her and bringing her to the US.(she is from Okinawa and they met while she was in Tokyo) She was always mean to him and he put up with it. She treats everyone like this and wonders why she has no friends. She only has one brother who will not have anything to do with her and a niece who is in Osaka- She thinks she can move there and Otsiko will take care of her. I don't think that will happen after MIL accused her niece of stealing her jewelry when they came to visit almost 20 yrs ago.
She is more than capable of still doing things for herself but doesn't want to. She wants people to wait on her every minute. To just sit there and listen to her complain. She doesn't want to be alone. She is the one that made it that way.No one wants to be around that all the time. Dh is and it is driving him crazy. He is even more bitter and angry after all this than he was before, and it was bad before this.
There is a good chance if we put her in a care home, after the newness wears off, they will kick her out. They will not cater to her every whim like she thinks. She does not deserve that type of care.
I am usually not this negative but after so many years of putting up with her treating me the way she has and having to put up with dh acting the way he does because of her, I am just so tired of all of it.
A few months ago, there was one "friend" that came over(she showed up right after bil died, she was a coworker of his, pretty much with her hand out-still is). She stayed with Fumiko so dh and I went out to get groceries for her. When we walked back in the house, dh went first then I came in behind him. Without thinking, Fumiko looked at the friend and said "G** D*** IT- SHE'S here too!!!" The friend was shocked because usually MIL doesn't say that in front of others. Doesn't want witnesses to her meanness- she wants every one to thing dh and I are the bad/mean ones and she is perfect/innocent.
For most of our marriage, dh has told me to not say anything back, to bite my tongue because it would make it harder for HIM if I did. I walked away with a bloody tongue a few times from biting it. So, for my sanity, I stay away as much as possible. After her fall, that wasn't an option and he needed my help with her. When she really needed the help and was almost nice and appreciative, it was fine but when she was able to do things for herself and I wouldn't do them for her, she got nasty again. She was able to get up on her own to use the comode chair. She would get up every hour. After the first several hours, I was too exhausted and slept so she got mad. I had worked all day the day before and had to work again in the morning but she didn't care. Dh did get up every time with her and was totally mentally and physically exhausted and got to beyond a breaking point- when he was talking about getting his gun out.
Sorry for the rambling- I would be so happy if we could put her in a home and for her to see that what dh has been doing for her every day, she will not get at the home. She doesn't appreciate anything he does, just demands more.
Debbie6 -
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Rosemarie take care of yourself! When you need more help, it's only responsible to get more help, instead of risking the whole system breaking down.
Well the personal yoga festival sounded like great fun until I remembered my limits. My knee and elbow will give out if I do too much. So I did an hour and quit. Seems good so far Yay!
There's still aerobic walking to do.
Annie in Delaware4 -
Kylia--I hope you just go and enjoy the time with your family. You need to do this for you.
I am so glad it is Friday. I just feel burnt out. Have to do some serious thinking.
Sounds like we will be replacing the refrigerator and the floor under it. DH was looking last night and said it is a mess. We went and looked at a couple now have to make sure they will fit though the doors. We have 28 inch doors. Then bookkeeping placed called and DH employer for some reason changed his federal with holding and now we owe $1700. Because it's done direct deposit DH doesn't look at his paystubs. So I am looking forward to the weekend of just not dealing with anything.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND, NE8
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