WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MARCH 2023

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  • 1948CWB
    1948CWB Posts: 1,574 Member
    o:)
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,067 Member
    Rosemarie- rainy and in the low 40s during the day and low 30s at night for Boston this weekend.. I'm in Connecticut, about an hour and a 1/2 south of there.safe travels..
    Horrible nights sleep..i took one melatonin at midnight but to much running through my mind..
    Miles has a cold so he didn't sleep ,he is napping now.
    I will go home after taking care of Homer and maybe taking a snooze.
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,246 Member
    Debbie when I have 4 spots frozen off with Nitrogen a few months ago I used an aloe gel with some a drop or two of lavender essential oil to put on as they healed. Instead of two weeks it only took a week and you cannot see where the spots were. I learned this trick long ago from an article about a woman who suffered burns on her face and used lavender with a lotion on her burns and she had no scarring. I use a high quality essential oil.
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,634 Member
    Happy Monday ladies!

    Rosemarie - you have been on my mind a LOT these past few days. Not sure what was up with your friend, who knows. It may take some time to let things settle. ;) In all areas. <3 (((HUGS))) <3

    I'm sure your life is a whirlwind, and will be until things are done with your DH's memorial service, but eventually you'll come back to a quiet home. I'm not the person who posted the meme about self-pity but thank you, it's quite good. :)

    We are here for you. I so much appreciate the gals here who listened to me and let me babble about all kinds of things. As mentioned there are many widows here now, some of us lost DH's after an extended stint of caregiving and watching them decline. Others of us lost our guys rapidly.

    I made a deal with myself early on to count my many blessings as often as I could and I'd save regrets for another day. That's the way I'm wired, and so far it's worked out well. You will find your path and what works for you. <3

    Have a safe flight, keep us in your pocket. <3

    Weight gain - I've gained around 8# since DH died last May. I can still fit in my favorite jeans, but need to stop that trend. The fat in my middle is making my belly button hurt (scar tissue). I had been packing in a big supper so I wouldn't get hungry at night since I wanted to quit eating at least 2 hours before I go to bed. That's why the "how much food does a stomach hold" intrigued me. I did OK last night with after supper (I eat at 3) with a snack of peanut butter on a couple Triscuits, a piece of cheese, and some dried fruit. It was long enough after supper that my tummy wasn't stretched beyond a liter, lol. Trying very hard to put at least 12 hours between supper and breakfast and it's been hard the past few weeks for some reason. :#

    Annie - I pulled out my copy of SWSY and I'm again inspired to pick up that strength training, and I'm starting back at beginner level. I looked up in my notes - when I started the program in 2017, I actually was using 1# dumbbells and 1# wrist weights as ankle weights! Of course they seemed light as a feather but as the author says, I used the time to get it right. This time I have 2# dumbbells and 2.5# around my ankles. Hoping that by taking it real slow again, my cranky knees and shoulders and elbows won't derail me.

    Enjoy the meditation & humming! I've heard of humming for therapy and I recall it helped with calming. Also - here's another weird fact I picked up someplace - humming produces nitric oxide in the nose which helps kill pathogens. When I get more downtime I need to re-read "Breath". And remember to breathe through my nose when it's not plugged up. :D

    Ginny - I was wondering how you'd like the new mattress. :) Sounds like it will be fine. Sorry about the sinuses.

    If it's not too showery I'll get a walk in today, I'll check to see if my neighbor wants to join me. I've been doing a lot of "solo" walks lately, getting in a quick mile and just enjoying the scenery and reflecting on changes I see in the neighborhood. When I'm walking with her, I don't see anything - my attention is on our feet so I don't walk into her (she kind of weaves) or turning my head to look at her face. Which is OK sometimes but not the same as walking as fast as my longer legs will let me and getting my heart rate up a little.

    OK ladies, that's a wrap. Make it a super week! <3

    Lanette B)
    SW WA State





  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    I had breakfast this morning & have a grumpy tummy. I wish I had a good book to read while in the bathroom. 😳
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,677 Member
    Annie - I'm already heavy on iron in the liver. :/ I eat loads of foods containing magnesium. :*

    Machka - Last night I was in three different beds. No difference. It's not a joint thing.

    When my cleaner arrived just now, I had a brainwave! I asked her to witness my Advance Decision to Refuse Treatment. So that's done. I just have to make sure DH understands (he doesn't have to agree) and it can be distributed to the relative parties.

    Going to phone L at 4 for a chat. She read a eulogy at her ex's funeral last Friday.. Divorced in the 70s. I'm curious to hear how it all went.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,557 Member
    Katla49 wrote: »
    I had breakfast this morning & have a grumpy tummy. I wish I had a good book to read while in the bathroom. 😳

    I hope you are seeing a doctor about that! It has been going on a long time.

  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,282 Member
    March, 2023 Action for happiness.org

    Word of the year: Appreciate : today I appreciate spring weather.
    Exercise goals added
    Yoga 10 mins 3 times a week 2/15-(100%,100%)
    Walk 7,000 every day 4/31– (84%,86%,)
    Arm weights twice a week 2/10 (100%, 60%hurt my elbow,)
    Meditation: daily. 4/31 (82%(started Feb))

    1. cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week. 4/8–(100%,100%)
    2. Average 7,000 steps a week. (7,700,100%-9851,100%
    3. Update budget every 2 weeks 1/2 —(100%,100%)
    4. Contact close family every week (4x) 5/16 —(100%,100%)
    5. Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)24/64–(100%,100%)
    6. Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140. Start at 178.6,176,174.2—(100%,100%)
    7. Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week. 4/20– -(100%,88%)
    8. Read 12 books at least this year. 7/12 (100%,100%)
    9. Pay off credit card debt by January 2024 by making monthly payments to NDR——3/12—(100%.100%,100%)
    10. Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)$25+$25+$71(100%,100%,100)
    Decided that if I do more than stated I will not grade higher than 100% 2/5/23

    January Met —100%
    February met —-90%
    March met met
    April met
    May met
    June met
    July met — met
    August met
    September met
    October met —
    November met—
    December met—



    1. Set an intention to live with awareness and kindness. I intend to live with more awareness and kindness every day.
    2. Notice three things you find beautiful in the outside world. The blue water of Lea Lake, Snow on the mountains at a distance, walking a nature trail. All at Bottomless Lakes State Park.
    3. Start today by appreciating your body and that you are alive. I am healthy and above ground. I can walk,talk,hear, see, taste, and smell (mostly). I appreciate that I alive and have a healthy body.
    4. Notice how you speak to yourself and choose to use kind words. I will try…
    5. Bring to mind people you care about and send love to them. I sent texts to my long distance friends to send them love.
    6. Have a ‘no plans’ day and notice how that feels. Most days are like that for me. So much less stress!
    7. Take three calm breaths at regular intervals during your day.
    8. Eat mindfully. Appreciate the taste, texture and email of your food.
    9. Take a full breath in and out before you reply to others.
    10. Get outside and notice how the weather feels on your face.
    11. Stay fully present while drinking your cup of tea or coffee.
    12. Listen deeply to someone and really hear what they are saying.
    13. Pause to watch the sky or clouds for a few minutes today.
    14. Find ways to enjoy any chores or tasks that you do.
    15. Stop. Breathe. Notice. Repeat regularly.
    16. Get really absorbed with an interesting or creative activity.
    17. Look around and spot three thing you find unusual or pleasant.
    18. If you find yourself rushing, make an effort to slow down.
    19. Appreciate nature around you wherever you are.
    20. Focus on what makes you and others happy today.
    21. Listen to a piece of music without doing anything else.
    22. Notice something that is going well, even if today feels difficult.
    23. Tune into your feelings, without judging or trying to change them.
    24. Appreciate your hands and all the things they enable you to do.
    25. Focus your attention on the good things you take for granted.
    26. Choose too spend less times looking at screens today.
    27. Cultivate a feeling of loving-kindness towards others today.
    28. Notice when you are tired and take a break as soon as possible.
    29. Choose a different route today and see what you notice.
    30. Mentally scan your body and notice what you are feeling.
    31. Discover the joy in the simple things of life.
    Barbie's Happiness Commandments

    Be Barbie
    Lighten up
    Do it now
    Dance more
    Choose strategy over willpower
    Cultivate an attitude of gratitude
    Come from a place of love
    Stay in the moment
    Act the way you want to feel
    Don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good
    Don't expect praise or recognition
    It is what it is
    Don't take things personally
    Treat yourself like a toddler
    What's fun for other people may not be fun for you, and vice versa
    You can choose what you do, but you can't choose what you like
    Be kind, no exceptions
    Ask always, how could my life be better with less?


    RVRita in Spring-like NM
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,246 Member
    Katie When I have made pancakes using oatmeal I grind the oatmeal in a blender. I use it instead of flour. Did you add baking powder? tThat is what makes pancake light. My recipe is 1/2 cup ground oat meal, 1/2 tsp baking powder, salt to taste, lemon rind, cinnamon to taste, one egg, tsp and half melted better or oil, enough milk to thin the batter. Cook in teflon pan. Real maple syrup heat with blueberries and raspberries . Yum
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,067 Member
    Well im home..
    Got Miles down for a second nap which wasn't to hard..he has a nasty cold.
    Tracy is freaking out because a friend of hers they met out in Ohio is home schooling her 3 yr old and at the age Miles is she was picking out colors and numbers..Tracy wants to home school him,I asked how is she going to do that if she is working part time.
    I really dont want to get roped into schooling him also..
    My cousin im going to visit had 6 kids and home schooled them all.so i will get some info and pointers from her..
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,183 Member
    <3Allie Do your homework about home schooling. It is an art and a calling. People who home school their kids naturally and consistently make every moment a teachable moment. You can add conversations with Miles about your environment to your day as a start. 🌻😻🌞
  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,861 Member
    B)
  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,276 Member
    Barbara, no it's not mold falling from the ceiling. Maybe some sort of sealant from the air ducts is crumbling.

    Annie in Delaware
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,177 Member
    edited March 2023
    Barbara-the soup was a pretty much failure- I used Silk because I had to use it up and after reducing down so much, it left the soup really sweet. I didn't try pureeing the asparagus and straining, Just tossed the ends in and let it simmer then took them out. Didn't give much flavor doing it that way. I did add some diced cooked asparagus to it. Dh said- well, it isn't terrible. Glad I didn't really waste much. Just about .50cents of Silk. I will try a little at lunch- no clue on calories beings it is only about a cup left but started with at least 4 cups of Silk. I am sure none of the calories evaporated out ;).
    If it isn't great when I try it it will get dumped. Not eating something that is so-so.(dh tried it, I didn't as I was stuffed from a big dinner of salmon w/pesto, asparagus and a huge green salad-skipped the rice completely).

    I was really skeptical about going to Zumba the first time. Now I can't wait to go most nights.
    We have our class through the city Parks and Rec. dept. Just $25 a month for two nights a week.
    It is a small class and great teacher.
    It is something I enjoy doing for me- just an hour each class but an hour away from the house to do something just for me.
    With all the rain we are getting, I haven't been out walking so this is great to be back two nights a week after five months of one night(stopped the second one when the time changed and the park was too dark to have class plus it was too cold)
    Maybe see if there is something like that for you to try.

    Debbie
  • KJLaMore
    KJLaMore Posts: 2,847 Member
    <3
  • minicooper452
    minicooper452 Posts: 643 Member
    Welcome newbies and returnees! (((hugs))) to those who need them.

    My grandmother always said that she ate fast because grandpa was a salesman and they always ate fast, nanerkay. So, she made it a point of setting a very nice table for herself, always a placemat, all the silverware, water cup, napkin, everything, like company was coming. Then she sat down and had a conversation with herself about the day. Took very small bites, cut everything, one bite at a time, chewed very carefully, had a sip of water in between every bite. Just made the meal an event.

    I can't see any time being a good time Rosemarie, but it sounds like you have everything in order. God bless you and I hope it all goes well. I'm sorry about the sad visit with your friend. Grief takes on all forms and for some people it makes them hard.

    Breakfast looks delish, Pip. Wish I could share!

    6. Have a ‘no plans’ day and notice how that feels... I WISH, but Mondays don't allow for that. Maybe some other day.
    Love and Blessings, Carla, in MN