A confession to the MFP Police

Iron_Feline

Thank you for being REAL about it! Wish more people had the same wonderful attitude as you, and not the the Exercise/Calorie Nazi's that we have all had to endure! Good on ya! And a huge congrats on your success!

One day I'll meet one of these exercise/calorie natzi's that everyone claims prowls the boards saying if you're not perfect you won't succeed :noway:

FlaxMilk

Hey now. I'm not being mean.

Just a little trolly.

Well, it is Friday, and some of us are stuck at home, bored and sick, so you are serving up some entertainment value. Troll + non-mean = useful and appreciated.

(Covering the bases.)

:smokin:

Achrya

Thank you for being REAL about it! Wish more people had the same wonderful attitude as you, and not the the Exercise/Calorie Nazi's that we have all had to endure! Good on ya! And a huge congrats on your success!

Nazis?

Harsh

marleniap

I agree with both comments. We are here to support one another not judge. There is a difference between saying something to help and saying something to make a person feel small (mind wise). Just as it was stated, we've all been there at one time or another otherwise we wouldn't be on this site.

marleniap

JenniferTSmit Selector
Joined Apr 2012
Posts: 258
September 06, 2013 2:41 pm
QUOTE:

I have no problem with people making suggestions. I know myself, that I didn't start to see weight loss until I logged what I ate. If I suggest a person log if they are not, and that makes me the MFP police, so be it.

Congrats on your success!


Thank you! I also have no problems giving and taking suggestions. Taking suggestions and learning different things is how I lost the weight. I am referring to people that are just mean and rude and make fun of other people because they do not know everything or they are trying and doing it all wrong. That's all. There are some mean people on here. And I am positive that you are not one of them!






I agree with both comments. We are here to support one another not judge. There is a difference between saying something to help and saying something to make a person feel small (mind wise). Just as it was stated, we've all been there at one time or another otherwise we wouldn't be on this site.

VorJoshigan

Seriously though, I get on here everyday and I see people getting beat up on by the MFP police.

Where are these MFP police? I've been here a while and visit the boards with some frequency, and I have seen precious few people "beating up" others.

I hardly ever see anybody giving advice unless an OP is coming to the boards for help. In which case, how is giving advice in any beating them up?

One thing I have seen is an OP whining that they are stuck and can't achieve their goals for whatever reasons who proceed to argue with the people giving advice. I'll never understand that, but even that isn't "beating up".

I forgot - I did see somebody whining that she was tired of seeing people put "walking dog 15 min" down as exercise. As I recall, more people disagreed with her than agreed.

toutmonpossible

1. I do not log every single little thing that goes into my stomach. I have a little creamer in my coffee every morning.... I don't log the coffee or the creamer. I also have a jar of sugar free hard candies on my desk..... I eat probably 6 of those a day. Oh, and I just had a chocolate and I have no intention on logging that either.

--Fine, as long as you're losing weight...

2. I did not even know or understand what TDEE was until I googled it a couple months ago. Now I get it and I still have no intention on using it.

--I know what it is, but I don't calculate it or follow it.

3. Some days I do not eat my exercise calories back.

--I never routinely do this. For one thing, I'm afraid I'll have overestimated my exercise calories.

4. Some days I am in starvation mode. Sometimes this will last for more than a day.

--You have never been in starvation mode. Not eating for a couple days does not put you there.

5. I do not drink enough water. I am lucky if I make it to 6 cups in a day.

--As long as you're losing weight...

6. I do not use a HRM. I use the calories burned MFP says. If I am on a treadmill, I will use that amount. Occasionally I will get curious and google "calories burned

---

" just to see what that says.

--I use a HRM only to see how hard my heart is working and how quickly it recovers from cardio. It's not a calorie calculation tool.

7. I do not weigh or measure my food. I never have. I follow the hand guidelines that I have seen and heard many times.

--As long as you're losing weight... I don't do it all the time, but I find that using a digital scale is helpful.

8. Some weeks I only weigh myself once, some weeks I will weigh myself 7 times. Sometimes I weigh myself more than once in a single day. It depends on how obsessive I am and wether or not I weighed myself and shortly before I had a good poop. Honestly, you can loose a whole pound just by going to the bathroom somedays.

--As long as you're losing weight... I try to weigh myself at least a couple of times a week.

9. There are weeks when I am lazy all week and the only thing that will make me happy are pop tarts. 400 calories of toaster pastry goodness. And on those days, I do not log my pop tarts because I do not want to see what I did.

--As long as you're losing weight. If you log, however, you get better results by being consistent.

10. I used to be fat..... just like you.

--I've never been fat. I figured out what worked for me a long time ago.


There are no rules, ordinances, or laws. The things you've listed are merely GUIDES. Some people don't have the independence to treat them as such.

sushpandey

thanks for writing your confession, its really make my journey a bit easier.
take care.

aldale

GREAT POST! I love my friends who cheer me on. I makes me boil when someone who does not walk in my shoes gives me advice that I have not asked for.

PikaKnight

Thank you for being REAL about it! Wish more people had the same wonderful attitude as you, and not the the Exercise/Calorie Nazi's that we have all had to endure! Good on ya! And a huge congrats on your success!

Nazis?

Harsh

Yeah. Sometimes I wonder the liberal use of terms that represent horrific events in history..but eh

Cranquistador

whatever.

JulieAnn1109

You mean we have rules? :laugh:

Just kidding.......................love this!! Sounds alot like my story, except I am far from being skinny, still workin on that!

msneave

8. Some weeks I only weigh myself once, some weeks I will weigh myself 7 times. Sometimes I weigh myself more than once in a single day. It depends on how obsessive I am and wether or not I weighed myself and shortly before I had a good poop. Honestly, you can loose a whole pound just by going to the bathroom somedays.

Great post. Was laughing out loud at #8. But seriously sometimes people need the police. I used to get hassled over at about.com and bellaonline forums about my food cheats but some days I really needed that tough love to get off a weightloss plateau self pity junk food rampage. I think sometimes people post their unhealthy behaviors because they need/want to get a beatdown.

There should be a site just for this called health cheaters anonymous where you can go post your healthy lifestyle sins anonymously like I cheated on my cardio workout with a greasy burrito and a six pack of beer or I skipped my weekly 90 min. of flow yoga and rewarded myself with a venti mocha latte and a pastry. Then a person can get the tough love they need no consequences or hard feelings for anybody involved. :drinker: :sad: :laugh:

PetulantOne

Well done!

I do have to confess that weight loss isn't even my goal.

(*GASP*)

My goal is to still be able to move under my own power when I'm 95 (if I'm around that long).

I will credit MFP for helping me crystallize that goal by helping me fall in love with barbell training and a general idea of what my intake ought to be while at the same time connecting me with some fabulous ladies who are smashing all the prejudices one heavy squat at a time.

I was under the impression that this is MyFitnessPal and not MyWeightLossPal ?

I don't need support to lose weight. I've lost metric craptons of weight over the years and put it back on again because I was focused on the wrong things for the wrong reasons. I need support to get and stay fit, because that's a new thing for me and uncharted territory. But I'm finding my inner fit person now, and she's awesome. :drinker:

I do think people end up talking past each other because in reality they have different goals but assume everyone is here for the same reasons. When that's just not the case.

spoiledpuppies

It's kind of funny because in this string, I think I can identify the two camps: the supportive people and the snarky condescending people. Too bad the latter don't seem to recognize themselves. It would be nice if they kept to their own forum.

Thank you, OP, for your great post.

ryry_

It's kind of funny because in this string, I think I can identify the two camps: the supportive people and the snarky condescending people. Too bad the latter don't seem to recognize themselves. It would be nice if they kept to their own forum.

Thank you, OP, for your great post.

yup

cmriverside

It's kind of funny because in this string, I think I can identify the two camps: the supportive people and the snarky condescending people. Too bad the latter don't seem to recognize themselves. It would be nice if they kept to their own forum.

Thank you, OP, for your great post.

yup

whoa. Are you saying there's a snarky condescending Forum? Nobody tells me anything.



For the record, I don't do anything diet-wise by the rules. I'm not even sure there are rules anymore.

PikaKnight

It's kind of funny because in this string, I think I can identify the two camps: the supportive people and the snarky condescending people. Too bad the latter don't seem to recognize themselves. It would be nice if they kept to their own forum.

Thank you, OP, for your great post.

yup

whoa. Are you saying there's a snarky condescending Forum? Nobody tells me anything.



For the record, I don't do anything diet-wise by the rules. I'm not even sure there are rules anymore.

Achrya

It's kind of funny because in this string, I think I can identify the two camps: the supportive people and the snarky condescending people. Too bad the latter don't seem to recognize themselves. It would be nice if they kept to their own forum.

Thank you, OP, for your great post.

What makes you think they don't recognize themselves? Snarky and condescending isn't the same as being the MFP police, is it?

ryry_

It's kind of funny because in this string, I think I can identify the two camps: the supportive people and the snarky condescending people. Too bad the latter don't seem to recognize themselves. It would be nice if they kept to their own forum.

Thank you, OP, for your great post.

What makes you think they don't recognize themselves? Snarky and condescending isn't the same as being the MFP police, is it?

I for one found her post telling people to keep their own forum a little snarky and condescending myself. I don't think she realized it though.

And yea, what makes you think I don't realize I'm snarky and condescending?

DavPul

It's kind of funny because in this string, I think I can identify the two camps: the supportive people and the snarky condescending people. Too bad the latter don't seem to recognize themselves. It would be nice if they kept to their own forum.

Thank you, OP, for your great post.

What makes you think they don't recognize themselves? Snarky and condescending isn't the same as being the MFP police, is it?

Anything that isn't sunshine, rainbows and lollipops is the MFP police.

And look, yet another poster with less than 200 total posts complaining about the manner in which people that *actually give advice* give that advice. I wish they start the own forum. It would be polite but only one question would get answered a day. And no matter how bad the plan is, the answer would always be "Yes, it sounds like a great plan to me, go for it!"

At least they would all be there for the same things.

cmriverside

It's kind of funny because in this string, I think I can identify the two camps: the supportive people and the snarky condescending people. Too bad the latter don't seem to recognize themselves. It would be nice if they kept to their own forum.

Thank you, OP, for your great post.

yup

whoa. Are you saying there's a snarky condescending Forum? Nobody tells me anything.



For the record, I don't do anything diet-wise by the rules. I'm not even sure there are rules anymore.

he heh. My edit was because my original reply was "I don't do anything by the rules" and I was afraid that would be misconstrued somehow by the victims.

4homer

what! the police on here to...damn damn damn..gotta hide my stash man!

StephanieMM2013

This is awesome

crunchybubblez

Sometimes, at the end of the day when I've eaten all my calories
and I just can't say no to the pizza (or last nights In n Out)
I log it on the next day.
So, no. I did not have In N Out for breakfast.

Maidofmer

looks like we're gonna have to share a cell lol. still don't know what TDEE means.

Cranquistador

It's kind of funny because in this string, I think I can identify the two camps: the supportive people and the snarky condescending people. Too bad the latter don't seem to recognize themselves. It would be nice if they kept to their own forum.

Thank you, OP, for your great post.

What makes you think they don't recognize themselves? Snarky and condescending isn't the same as being the MFP police, is it?

I for one found her post telling people to keep their own forum a little snarky and condescending myself. I don't think she realized it though.

And yea, what makes you think I don't realize I'm snarky and condescending?

Can I has some of your ice cream?

Hildy_J

You did WHAT!?!!???

*hides under table*

*plans next moves*

MsMimidoll

Love this :-)

doctorsookie

What she said.