Do older guys care less about looks and weight?
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it's so cute when women say men only care about certain looks and then turn around and say how dreamy chatum tanning, johnny depp or whoever else
i have news for you. everyone has a specific something they are looking for. it is not like you can see personality when you first glance at someone. you look at someone and judge them on their looks. some may fine the eyes attractive, others the smile, others the honkers on her chest or the rips in his abs.
but every single person when looking for a mate has to be attracted to the person they want. its that simple
i have fallen for women who most would find average at best but have had killer personalities and i have known some incredibly hot women who as soon as they opened their mouth you realize that they fell down the annoying tree and hit every branch. it is up to you as the individual to figure out the balance between looks and personality and what you will settle for0 -
Y'all!! There's breaking news!!! Apparently everyone is different and likes different things!!!! I'm so shocked right now!0
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Not to be crude but how reciently divorced? I'm not an old man but I imagine its a pretty universal thing that he might just be on the hunt for some strange and not a relationship after leaving a long commitment. Which I guess could be a good or bad thing depending on how you look at it.
Oh and as another poster said, a lot of men like curvy women but to be honest a mans definition of curvy is often extremely different than a women's definition of curvy.0 -
Speaking as an older gentleman...
I'm not an older gentleman.
In my fantasies you are0 -
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Plus, he's the shy type so I don't see him ever making a move...it's gonna have to be me.
If he knows you're interested and he doesn't make a move, it's not because he's shy. You'd be surprised what a shy man can summon himself to do when motivated.
I disagree. If a woman is attracted to a man, she should make a move. After all, usually one person or another is more motivated at first. If you always wait for the man to make a move, the ones who do will probably be more interested in you than you are in them. Bottom line, the initial interest is fairly irrelevant - the relationship develops, or it doesn't after two people get together.
I agree. I would make the first move if you're interested. And from experience I know it sometimes has to be a very direct move, like asking him out. Some guys just don't get the point when women do what we perceive as obvious flirting.
Good luck!0 -
I'm a 52 yo woman. My experience is men are boys, oops, I mean men are men at any age. Some care about looks more than others, some care about weight more than others. Some would find a size 2 as replusive as others would find a size 22. It's a big world. Lot's of different likes and dislikes out there.
^^^^^ This is what I have found also0 -
Every man has standards.
Some are lower than others.
Some are.... much. Lower.
So if a woman was heavy and a man liked her, his standards are low?
It isn't about standards, it's about preference.0 -
It's okay to be a little crazy, like fun crazy. But you just don't understand the level of crazy she is.
He knew what she was like but still chose to marry her....what's that got to do with anything anyway?!
She could have turned pyscho right after they got married
my first husband was deeply insane. there were some hints before we got married but nothing really flat out. it started asserting itself more and more over the years until it was undeniable. it's not something you necessarily know about at first. I'd known him for three years before marriage. it wasn't until the very end 7 years later when I divorced him because it had just gotten too weird and out of hand.. So.. imho it's very assumptive to think he knew what he was getting into.0 -
I don't think it has anything to do with age, it's preference. I think the factor with age is there are limited options the older you get (excluding being a Clooney type). I do have to say that when my boyfriend and I started dating I was roughly 45lb heavier than him. He's a skinny guy so I STILL weigh more than him but whatever, he loves me and I love him. It's all on preference. There men who LOVE big, beautiful women. Everyone's different! Go for it! What's the worst that can happen? I'll tell you, he'll say he's not interested. Then move on the next if that happens. All the best of luck though! You have to make YOU happy!0
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By the way, why do you care? You should want to look good and be fit for you. Not some damn man - old or young. Don't care what some man wants. Care what you want. Damn a man.
Personality ladies and gentlemen.
Age 69-70 = this lady was 20 in 1963. She's had different life experiences.
She's working out. She's in a bikini in her pic. She's living large & in charge & that is awesome.
I don't know that person but judging based on nothing other than the posts in this thread, she doesn't sound like a truly happy person. Bikini or not, she sounds like someone carrying a lot of hurt and anger over a past relationship.0 -
LOL go for it,you have nothing to loose,I agree with you in a sense.Beauty is in the eye of the beholder I really believe this I know alot of guys in their 50s who have a "shallow Hal" thing going on and I think is great!
Just keep your sense of humour and be relaxed most guys I know dont like head strong women so let him lead when hes ready.
Me personally love mature women,since im 42 I draw the line under 40 I love the women that know their own bodies and are confident to want to loose weight for their health,there are plenty of women here that are defiantly in my catagory and you maybe surprised which I find attractive,at the end of the day a women has to be womanly imo
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Speaking as an older gentleman...
I'm not an older gentleman.
In my fantasies you are
I get this all the time. Must be the 'stache.0 -
Not to be crude but how reciently divorced? I'm not an old man but I imagine its a pretty universal thing that he might just be on the hunt for some strange and not a relationship after leaving a long commitment.
I was totally out for strange after my first wife left me. Until I met my current wife three months later. Honestly, I was kinda hoping to play the field a little longer, but I went and fell in love.0 -
Plus, he's the shy type so I don't see him ever making a move...it's gonna have to be me.
If he knows you're interested and he doesn't make a move, it's not because he's shy. You'd be surprised what a shy man can summon himself to do when motivated.
Not always.
Personally If - I - don't make the move I am not likely to be interested. Everyone has their own preferences. Some men would not care at all for a woman who made the first move either.i have news for you. everyone has a specific something they are looking for. it is not like you can see personality when you first glance at someone. you look at someone and judge them on their looks. some may fine the eyes attractive, others the smile, others the honkers on her chest or the rips in his abs.
but every single person when looking for a mate has to be attracted to the person they want. its that simple
Exactly.. there has to be 'something' about you that would make the other person interested enough to at least say hi back to you. The best you can do is just say hi to him, strike up a conversation and go from there. I wouldn't ask him out right away. First talk to him, figure out if he has any brains at all (if you go for that) see if there are any capabilities. Sometimes a guy may not think he would like you (or visa versa) and then once you get to talking minds are changed and maybe you (or they) might be interesting after all. Also, just going up and asking someone out right away might be perceived as 'desperate' - you don't need that label.0 -
what does this guy look like? is he a big sexy beast or is he on the heavy side? if he's bigger he might like bigger girls.0
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Speaking as an older gentleman...
I'm not an older gentleman.
In my fantasies you are
I get this all the time. Must be the 'stache.
And the way you scratch your balls, when watching women's beach volleyball0 -
:huh:what does this guy look like? is he a big sexy beast or is he on the heavy side? if he's bigger he might like bigger girls.
Is this because only 'bigger guys' might like bigger girls? Seriously?
Everyone has a type, or certain things they're attracted to....and its often the complete opposite of their own pysical appearance. There are all kinds of couples that appear to be an odd match at a glance....you never know what someone finds attractive.0 -
Are you kidding? Old men think they're gods and they love thin and very young women. No, all men hate fat. Oh, I'm sure they are exceptions. But honey, I'll be 70 in a few months and I know a little about men. They think they can look pretty much any way and get any woman they want --- especially if they have a buck or two. But they want young chicks and skinny chicks. Truth be told, most of them are lucky to get a woman at all.
OP...I located the crazy size-2 ex-wife...you didn't mention she was older!! :laugh:
Geez...bitter much?
And OP...I say go for it. The worst that can happen is that he says he's not interested. Otherwise...you'll always wonder "what if"0 -
:huh:what does this guy look like? is he a big sexy beast or is he on the heavy side? if he's bigger he might like bigger girls.
Is this because only 'bigger guys' might like bigger girls? Seriously?
Everyone has a type, or certain things they're attracted to....and its often the complete opposite of their own pysical appearance. There are all kinds of couples that appear to be an odd match at a glance....you never know what someone finds attractive.
I know a fair few couples who are like 'Jack Sprat' (could eat no fat) and his wife (could eat no lean) ... so maybe that nursery rhyme was based on experience?0 -
i have news for you. everyone has a specific something they are looking for. it is not like you can see personality when you first glance at someone. you look at someone and judge them on their looks. some may fine the eyes attractive, others the smile, others the honkers on her chest or the rips in his abs.
but every single person when looking for a mate has to be attracted to the person they want. its that simple
Not always. I wasn't looking for anything when I met my husband. I was perfectly happy on my own. He is quite attractive but I can't say I really even noticed because we worked together. It was over a year before we met outside work in a social setting and something just clicked.0 -
It was over a year before we met outside work in a social setting and something just clicked.
Bow chicka bow wow.....0 -
I think, for me, were my wife to allow me to date again...
I'd probably care more about weight and fitness than looks as we get older.
Not directly, but as a future health and lifestyle indicator.0 -
It was over a year before we met outside work in a social setting and something just clicked.
Bow chicka bow wow.....
Yeah, something like that.0 -
These things have never stopped mattering to me and I doubt they ever will.
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I don't think its an age thing. I think its a preference thing.0
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As a general rule:
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Just want some opinions...In general, do you think men care less about what women look like and what their weight is as they get older? I like this guy SO much and I think he likes me...I'm pretty sure of it. He's divorced and she was crazy, but was also like a size 2. I'm very insecure about my weight so that's why I have such a hard time believing he could like me. Plus, he's the shy type so I don't see him ever making a move...it's gonna have to be me. Would an older guy, say 50ish care so much about looks or is he into personality more?
Age is not the question - depends on the type of man and what his priorities are.
Also, every man will tell you his ex was crazy. Heaven forbid he admit he had faults, too!!!
True, true, true!! I was a "crazy ex" before my ex-husband even left me. (He told the girl he was getting involved with that we were separating, but he hadn't told me yet.) Then he married her, cheated on her a million times, then left her. So who's the crazy one now, hmmm? :laugh:
Also OP, just ask him out. If he is interested, he will say yes. Being direct is the most important thing...life is too short to play "does he like me?" guessing games past the age of 25.0 -
age=desperation for both sexes
Hmm, I think often it's just the opposite. Often, you are more financially secure, more confident and independant, done with having children, etc. I think older people are more likely to be happy on their own than younger people who are looking to build a family and security. Sure having a soul mate is wonderful, but having someone around just to not be alone is more a young persons game in my experience.
Possibly if the person is secure and confident, but in general we know that unless you are extremely attractive or have good resources/ power as you age your appeal to potential suitors decreases. A 70 year old pensioner is going to have a harder time convincing a thin attractive young lady that he is a good partner when she is being pursued by more attractive secure and financially viable prospects. It would be easier to attract the obese woman who has few suitors...IF the pensioner didnt want to be alone and was desperate for a partner.
It goes with the rating system that one other poster made humans are shallow creatures they will partner up or down depending on the resources they can offer.
I don't know...my dad is 71 years old, married to my mom for almost 50 years, definitely not wealthy or "in great shape" but still gets hit on (or at least friendly signals) from women his own age and even women my age because he is devilishly charming and funny. So I think it really depends on confidence, regardless of age. If you are happy with your life and secure in yourself, you attract people.0 -
Some men mature and realize when they are 50, that they will be dating women that are also 50 (or at least older than 20 something), and I think most men are smart enough to not expect a 50 year old women to look like a 20 year old or a teenager. So, yeah, they do still care about it, but if they are mature and reasonable then they are also realistic and respectful of women and aging (and their own aging), and would still like to be with someone that is at their level in terms of age, maturity, life experiences, interests and things in common and being able to relate and being in the same place in terms of their life and future together. I would think.0
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