People can be cruel

twinketta

Some of you will argue that you're offering "tough love". There's a difference between giving someone an honest opinion and making them feel worthless.

Here's the thing: some of the people who are on here aren't ready to really commit to a lifestyle change. And that's great, fine. We all get to our goals at different paces and different times.

However, you're also dealing with people who probably have a lot of self-esteem issues and who are used to be coddled and NOT taking accountability for their actions and just trying to get validated. Where has that sort of behavior gotten people? At some point you have to stop making excuses for yourself and own up to the idea that YOU are the one that got you were you are and YOU are the only one who can get yourself out. No one else can do this for you.

Now, if you're so overly sensitive that you cannot handle the idea of an alternative or opposing viewpoint, then you probably need more help with things beyond weight loss. Disagreeing does not equal bulling or making people feel worthless. It's just not all rainbows and unicorns and calorie-less-chocolate-sprinkled-covered-glittering donuts.

good job 7 for you

Fullsterkur_woman

"Kids can be so cruel."
-- "We can? Thanks, Mom!"

Serah87

Hi Jazzie!

I posted about the 15 calories I went over in my food diary (just wondering how to make up for it) and I was told that "maybe I shouldn't worry about it". People will be rude. Just ignore them sweetie! That's what I do!

Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!ii!!!

:laugh: You need to look up the word rude, by no means was that advice rude!!!

twinketta

Yay for the butthurt!

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skinnyinnotime

Hi Jazzie!

I posted about the 15 calories I went over in my food diary (just wondering how to make up for it) and I was told that "maybe I shouldn't worry about it". People will be rude. Just ignore them sweetie! That's what I do!

Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!ii!!!

That's not rude, that's good advice!

It was the way they wrote it. You had to have been there.

Been there? I am here, it's the internet.

Maybe it's the way you read it? You know how it is, depending on what frame of mind you're in you'll take the same written words completely different. We all do it.

twinketta

WHAT?

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hilts1969

Hi Jazzie!

I posted about the 15 calories I went over in my food diary (just wondering how to make up for it) and I was told that "maybe I shouldn't worry about it". People will be rude. Just ignore them sweetie! That's what I do!

Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!ii!!!

That's not rude, that's good advice!

It was the way they wrote it. You had to have been there.

Must have been pretty traumatic for you i would have thought, they obviously didn't realise the seriousness of the situation, we are talking 15 calories here, just ignore all the nasty nasty people, i have lit a candle for you

Rosannajo88

OH MY GOD!!! Are you serious? People have been mean?! On the internet!!!?


Pretty sure some people were dropped in glue and rolled in cotton wool as children.

stumblinthrulife

BeachIron

I need another drink.

Be supportive and grab me a beer while you're up hunting for tissues, mmmmkay?

delicious_cocktail

Hey, OP, you're pretty!

And other than that, I don't really have very much to say about this thread.

stumblinthrulife

For what it's worth, I see very little shaming on the MFP boards, and very few genuine attacks.

What I do see, and what is often interpreted as meanness, is people correcting others who are preaching incorrect beliefs, and people defending their choices after they have already been attacked.

Kevalicious99

Honestly .. this site is TAME compared to another site I belong to. If you want to see haters .. have I got a site for you. I have been bullied lately ... and it was not a pretty thing. I know why teenagers that are cyber bullied commit suicide from all the crap. It can be pretty bad.

Sorry to see that you don't find the people here to be supportive. I personally have found just the opposite and I for one really like not having to put up with the bullying here.

_HeartsOnFire_

Oh let me be clear, no one has been rude to me. I've just seen it many times and when I reached out to the person who was hurting, they were very upset by it. I knew I was going to get bombarded with rude comments and unfunny gifs but it was worth it because of the many people who are thanking me via msg. The good people far outweigh the rude ones on this site, it's just that they don't post anything from fear of retaliation. Just letting other people know that there is kindness out there..even if it is behind the shield of a computer screen.

iamanadult

Hi Jazzie!

I posted about the 15 calories I went over in my food diary (just wondering how to make up for it) and I was told that "maybe I shouldn't worry about it". People will be rude. Just ignore them sweetie! That's what I do!

Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!ii!!!

That's not rude, that's good advice!

It was the way they wrote it. You had to have been there.

Must have been pretty traumatic for you i would have thought, they obviously didn't realise the seriousness of the situation, we are talking 15 calories here, just ignore all the nasty nasty people, i have lit a candle for you

Thank you for your kind words!

LBNOakland

Hi Jazzie!

I posted about the 15 calories I went over in my food diary (just wondering how to make up for it) and I was told that "maybe I shouldn't worry about it". People will be rude. Just ignore them sweetie! That's what I do!

Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!ii!!!

You burned the 15 calories starting the thread!!!!!

Serah87

Oh let me be clear, no one has been rude to me. I've just seen it many times and when I reached out to the person who was hurting, they were very upset by it. I knew I was going to get bombarded with rude comments and unfunny gifs but it was worth it because of the many people who are thanking me via msg. The good people far outweigh the rude ones on this site, it's just that they don't post anything from fear of retaliation. Just letting other people know that there is kindness out there..even if it is behind the shield of a computer screen.

again, links? please.

if you are going to make accusations, there should be some evidence supporting your accusation.

Agree. Waiting...

hilts1969

OH MY GOD!!! Are you serious? People have been mean?! On the internet!!!?


Pretty sure some people were dropped in glue and rolled in cotton wool as children.

I don't know how they manage to get out of bed without a sponsor's support. if they can't find their keys they call Oprah

delicious_cocktail

Someone has their granny panties in a wad.

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This is substantially less interesting and funny than the things you normally post. Which, please believe me, says a lot.

firstsip

Honestly .. this site is TAME compared to another site I belong to. If you want to see haters .. have I got a site for you. I have been bullied lately ... and it was not a pretty thing. I know why teenagers that are cyber bullied commit suicide from all the crap. It can be pretty bad.

Sorry to see that you don't find the people here to be supportive. I personally have found just the opposite and I for one really like not having to put up with the bullying here.

Well?