What do women really want in a guy?
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Fly on the wall waiting to see how many women actually are honest.....
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Then I'll explain my cat and yarn theory.0 -
There are women in the world who will not date men who don't have money. But what is your definition of "having money?" If you're talking about millions of dollars, I'm sorry, but an overwhelming majority of women do not care about that. Would they like it? Yeah. Is it a deal-breaker? Absolutely not. If by "having money," you mean he has a real job, can afford his own place to live, and has reliable transportation, then yeah, that's pretty much non-negotiable with me, and I don't think that's too much to ask. I can't marry a man who can't provide financially for his family, so I'm certainly not going to waste my time dating one like that. And it's not about me being lazy, either. I'm well-educated and quite successful, especially for someone my age. I don't need any help paying my bills, so that's not what I'm after. It's about knowing that if I lost my job, our kids aren't going to starve, and the bank isn't going to take our house away from us.0
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OP, that's an age old question and I think women want just a few things. To be cherished, protected and lusted after! Not necessarily in that order.
Personally, I couldn't care less about money. I have been on my own for quite a long time and am used to and *prefer* to take care of myself, financially anyway.
But the above holds true for me as well.. very simple but very true!
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I have to say that I had long forgotten this thread,was posted at a time where I didn`t like myself very much and was overall kind of dark.
Thankfully due to time and friends here as well as in real life over the last few months that isn`t as much so anymore.
I don`t believe for a moment that all woman just want someone with money,have found many amazing friends on here that take me for what and who I am and show love everyday even though will never meet in person.
You truly are the best. Luvs you Carl baby!
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There are women in the world who will not date men who don't have money. But what is your definition of "having money?" If you're talking about millions of dollars, I'm sorry, but an overwhelming majority of women do not care about that. Would they like it? Yeah. Is it a deal-breaker? Absolutely not. If by "having money," you mean he has a real job, can afford his own place to live, and has reliable transportation, then yeah, that's pretty much non-negotiable with me, and I don't think that's too much to ask. I can't marry a man who can't provide financially for his family, so I'm certainly not going to waste my time dating one like that. And it's not about me being lazy, either. I'm well-educated and quite successful, especially for someone my age. I don't need any help paying my bills, so that's not what I'm after. It's about knowing that if I lost my job, our kids aren't going to starve, and the bank isn't going to take our house away from us.
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Maybe you would find this helpful:
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/learn-the-languages/the-five-love-languages
I agree that all women are different in what they want and some woman want a healthy, mature relationship and some do not (even if they won't admit to it).
I think age plays a big factor also.
When I was in my late teens and early twenties, I would have said I wanted a nice, reliable guy but I was too selfish and into myself and my partying to return in kind or even be able to function well with a nice, responsible guy.
One divorce and twenty+ years later, I think it's safe to say I've grown up a bit.
I can tell you what I really appreciate about my second husband.
First of all, he puts God first (and if you think that's all bunk-if He puts God first, he is going to do an amazing job loving his wife 2nd).
He is loyal, responsible, a hard worker/good provider, loves our kids and spends a lot of time with them, has a great sense of humor, is honest, compassionate and loving.
I think he's handsome but it has more to do with his heart than his looks.
He's romantic but I don't look for flowers every day, just a smile and warm hug.
Find a woman who wants (really wants) what you have to give.
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i personally care less about money..i want a man to love me for who i am....
i want someone who will readily take walks along the lake and go hiking, in return i will try new things that he enjoys in life as well...MONEY IS NOT EVERYTHING!!!!!!! Being rich means having someone in your life who believes the sun and the moon revolve around you!! and you feel the same about them.....im not forgetting that i also want someone who is my best friend and will put my children first and treat them as their own.0 -
Asking what women want ... it's a bit like the question about whether men prefer skinny chicks or thicker chicks. Everyone is different. There is no universal ideal that all women are attracted to, physically OR emotionally speaking.
As for the whole "why do women say they want a good guy and then go for the bad ones?" thing, men do the same thing, so if you can figure out why you guys do it, then maybe you can understand why women do it. I can't even count the number of male friends I had in college who complained constantly about not being able to find a woman they actually enjoyed spending time with, and my response was usually "Hello, it's because you're always in bed with some random skank."
For the most part, it's emotional immaturity. It takes some people a long time to grasp the concept that successful relationships are not just about physical attraction. Once you grow up and come to realize what actually makes you happy and emotionally fulfilled, then you stop wasting your time with bad boys/bad girls. Unfortunately, this never happens for some people, and once you reach a certain age, you have to nip it in the bud very early if you find yourself dating someone who appears to be an emotional toddler. People like this do not get better with age; they actually just become more psychotic.0 -
I got six dollars.. anybody wanna split a burger?0
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super independant here as i have been since 17 which as been 10 years now. always taken care of myself. with that being said i go by the saying that i would rather live in a cardboard box and be in love then in a mansion and be miserable. qualities i like in a man..
-loyal, which exludes about 97% of men
-honest, which exludes about 95% of men
-protector, most men have no problem with that
-and just to be genuinly loved.
since no man meets any of these... i again go with... ill be happy with a man who has a ginormous weiner!0 -
I got six dollars.. anybody wanna split a burger?
****Pulls up in drive way beeps horn*** come on lets go !0 -
Women dont know what they want.0
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I don't care what women want in a man. I'm glad my wife wants a man like me.0
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I don't care what women want in a man. I'm glad my wife wants a man like me.
awww that is sweet!!!
I can't lie..money is important
but, I feel... if it's so important to you (as a lady)..go make your own...LOL
BUT yes.... it would be nice if the man I am with was financially comfortable...I think more than the money though.. intelligence and strive or ambition/passion is attractive0 -
I don't care what women want in a man. I'm glad my wife wants a man like me.
Yeah, that pretty much sums it up. 0 -
I got six dollars.. anybody wanna split a burger?
Would it be inappropriate to say that I would if I weren't a married vegetarian?? (Please don't offer a veggie burger, it will only complicate things!)0 -
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Everyone has to be different right? Like we are all individuals with out own ideals of what we want, deserve or need. Then there are those that don't know what they want, then there are those that want what they think they should want, an impression of what society may have them believe.
It's all different ... thank god though because not all men are created equal ;o)0 -
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super independant here as i have been since 17 which as been 10 years now. always taken care of myself. with that being said i go by the saying that i would rather live in a cardboard box and be in love then in a mansion and be miserable. qualities i like in a man..
-loyal, which exludes about 97% of men
-honest, which exludes about 95% of men
-protector, most men have no problem with that
-and just to be genuinly loved.
since no man meets any of these... i again go with... ill be happy with a man who has a ginormous weiner!
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Fly on the wall waiting to see how many women actually are honest.....
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Then I'll explain my cat and yarn theory.
*pulls up a chair and waits for the Tao of Cee*0 -
Does any one know the answer here? No? Nobody? Kinda what I figured. It's like asking what color is the rainbow...0
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Money....plain and simple, all women want the guy to have money. Ladies, don't argue or disagree, because you all know it's true. If you liked two guys, both were identical twin brothers, and both were trash collectors, and being identical twins, they had the same personalities, the same likes and dislikes, and were basically the same person, and they both wanted to marry you. You love them both and can't decide which one to marry....then, one of them hits the lottery for $200 million. Which one would you marry? If any woman who says she'd marry the brother who didn't hit the lottery, she is lying. We all know that women go after the money.
Ha. This is a ridiculous hypothetical. Just like asking anyone if there were two free cherry suckers to choose from. They were exactly the same way in every way and happened to be your favorite, one was wrapped up in a $100 bill. Which one would you take? What this doesnt take into account is any emotional bonds between a man and a woman.
It is very hard as a woman to say what you want and what you dont want and it be the rule. Besides just making up your own mind, there are pressures from family, friends, and society about what you should want. Its only experience that shows what does and doesnt work for you. No two women are the same, and the same person varies greatly between phases in her life.
You are special and different and the key to attracting someone who thinks you are the bee's knees is to be yourself and be confident in who you are. Yeah, so maybe it wont be the hot temp you've been drooling over for months, but maybe it will be someone who loves you and gets you and makes you feel great just being yourself.0 -
I've been married for 23 years... my most favorite of his attributes:
He makes me laugh
He's absolutely honest
He's ambitious
He puts 100% effort into me, our marriage & family 0 -
When I find him I will let you know. I don't like an overly emotional guy, nor a bad guy, but both.... as in manly but can show his emotions when he needs to.0
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How did you know Bulldog? :flowerforyou:0 -
I don't care what women want in a man. I'm glad my wife wants a man like me.
I feel the same way, ...and on a bad day, as long as she puts up with me and she is sorta happy, ...then I too am happy! 0 -
Fly on the wall waiting to see how many women actually are honest.....
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Then I'll explain my cat and yarn theory.
*pulls up a chair and waits for the Tao of Cee*
Aiight..... Cat and yarn theory.
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The short and sweet version. If you place a piece of yarn on a table high enough where a cat can only reach it by jumping, the cat will play with that piece of yarn for God knows how long.
If you take that same piece of yarn down and give it to the cat the fun is gone....the cat will no longer play with it and will be bored with the yarn.
Same thing applies to women (theoretically). If you make yourself readily available and always, ALWAYS available everytime she wants to play, she will eventually get bored and you will be considered the piece of yarn that is lying on the floor. If you limit your availability and demonstrate that you have a life outside of her, you are considered the piece of yarn just out of reach and her interest will stay high and you can continue to move forward.
I know folks are going to try and shoot holes in this and women will say that this is not them....... Whatever. I've researched it and did a wonderful college project on it for a social psychology class. It is a subconcious thing that is internal in humans (men or women).
So fire away and keep it clean so this thread doesn't get locked.....0 -
Aside from a few details, I think the findings are fairly true. I think at the basic level we are driven to chose a mate that is strong and healthy and can help support a life you want to share....but then evolution takes over and we no longer need a hunter/gatherer b/c women can hunt and gather for themselves so some just want a partner, an equal. Obviously there are women who only want a man with money, or only want a sexy man, etc. But for a TRUE relationship those things are meaningless in the long term.
For me, I think the basic message of the study was that women look for a parter that wants to connect on an emotional level above all else. No matter how much money a man has or how good looking he is, if he's "dead behind the eyes" then he's not going to sustain a loving and healthy relationship.
I married my husband b/c he was kind, hard working, sincere, family oriented, honest, faithful, genuinely interested in me and what I think and feel and willing to share his thoughts and feelings with me, to the best of his ability. At times, I do wish money wasn't such an elusive *kitten*, but I don't blame my husband or feel that I would be better off with someone with more money. Only b/c money gives one a little more freedom in this culture (trips, gifts, etc), but in and of itself means nothing to the relationship. My husband has never given me gifts or brought me flowers, and although I wish he did sometimes, its not something about the relationship I feel is necessary for the love to sustain.0 -
I will be honest............... I need a man with a sense of humor life is too short not to laugh ! I dont need someone who has a rock hard body I like a little meat on my man and the romance is a MUST , I am a hopeless romantic and I think you need to be able to communicate WELL with one another , If you cant talk about anything and everything what will you have when your older? I see couples out to dinner and never say one word to each other and I think thats sad, I never want to be in that place in my relationships.
Laughter Is Key and intimacy is at least 60 percent of the relationship !!!! I want someone who has a back bone and will stand up for him self as well as me, someone who makes you feel safe.
All the talk about Money I think is a little over the top I mean of course we all want a man who works hard and who can take care of his responsabilities but he doesnt need to be rich ! ( Im sure that could be an added bonus and any female who says different well I question that) Dont get that comment wrong I said ITS NOT Needed but it could always be helpful most couples fight over money and the stress just trying to get by !
I like a man who hunts, fishes, likes the outdoors who can fix things when needed but doesnt mind dressing up to hit the town with his woman ! AND DO NOT BE AFRAID TO EXPLORE in other areas !!!! winking:)0
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