Do you let your partner tell you what to wear?

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  • Hauntinglyfit
    Hauntinglyfit Posts: 5,537 Member
    Listen, Woman. If a boyfriend/husband/etc. tells a woman not to wear something, it's probably b/c it makes her look like a slut/hooker/street-walker/etc. If that's not the case, then the man's a controlling ****... That's what I've said the whole post.

    "Listen, Woman."? :))
    Please keep telling me how it is, you all-knowing Man.
    It makes my lady bits all tingly.
  • paperpudding
    paperpudding Posts: 9,279 Member
    But even if it does make her look like a hooker (in his opinion) it is still her choice whether to wear it or not.

    I am ok with a man giving the opinion that the outfit looks like a hooker, I am not ok with him telling her she is not allowed to wear it.
  • Mutant13
    Mutant13 Posts: 2,485 Member
    Well I'll have to give in to your obvious expertise regarding what prostitutes wear, I personally don't spend much time around them.
  • Clameater
    Clameater Posts: 317
    Listen, Woman. If a boyfriend/husband/etc. tells a woman not to wear something, it's probably b/c it makes her look like a slut/hooker/street-walker/etc. If that's not the case, then the man's a controlling ****... That's what I've said the whole post.

    "Listen, Woman."? :))
    Please keep telling me how it is, you all-knowing Man.
    It makes my lady bits all tingly.

    LAWL ;)
  • Clameater
    Clameater Posts: 317
    Well I'll have to give in to your obvious expertise regarding what prostitutes wear, I personally don't spend much time around them.

    ROFL... silly girl
  • Clameater
    Clameater Posts: 317
    But even if it does make her look like a hooker (in his opinion) it is still her choice whether to wear it or not.

    I am ok with a man giving the opinion that the outfit looks like a hooker, I am not ok with him telling her she is not allowed to wear it.

    This lady is smart.
  • Mutant13
    Mutant13 Posts: 2,485 Member
    I think we are done feeding you now.

    It's ok Clameater. You'll learn how to be funny one day.
  • Naomi0504
    Naomi0504 Posts: 964 Member
    Well I'll have to give in to your obvious expertise regarding what prostitutes wear, I personally don't spend much time around them.

    LOL, girl :smile: :wink:
  • paperpudding
    paperpudding Posts: 9,279 Member
    You are just posting stupid rubbish clam eater - I agree , let's stop feeding him and get back to an adult discussion.
  • taiyola
    taiyola Posts: 964 Member
    I dress for myself, and no one else.

    I wouldn't be with someone who was controlling.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Ok, so without going into too much detail- my partner attempted to tell me I couldn't/shouldn't wear something because he was concerned I might get too much attention.

    He got a total and utter verbal beat down. I'm a grown adult and I can dress myself, I'm not stupid and can make my own decisions about appropriate clothing.

    It made me wonder though, is it ever ok for your partner to tell you what to wear? Has it happened to you?
    My SO has made a comment here and there. I still wear what I want. I didn't give him "a total verbal beat down" for it, though. I don't think that's necessary.
  • michellemybelll
    michellemybelll Posts: 2,228 Member
    Heck no! My SO is a bit more clever in that department, though. He works on positive reinforcement.
    I'll wear a dress or an outfit and he'll mention off-the-cuff "I love that colour" or "That dress looks great on you"... So I'll make a mental note to buy/wear more stuff in that colour/style because he likes it and so do I!

    If we have something special lined up like a party etc, I will ask him what level of "fancy" we need to be (I am a jeans and teeshirt type of girl by default, and he lives in Hawaii so most of the time even that gets downgraded to "shorts and vest) before we go out.

    I like him to find me attractive, but he's not so insecure that he would tell me not to wear something for fear of attracting attention from other men.

    yes, i like this answer, and is how i lean too. :flowerforyou:
  • sarahertzberger
    sarahertzberger Posts: 534 Member
    Yes, if my husband saw me in something that he felt was too revealing, I would have enough love and respect for him to change or at least somehow make the outfit cover up a bit more ex. tank top under shirt that's too low cut, I love my husband more than I love clothes, and I don't want to be attracting other people or giving them parts of my body to look at that would make them think thoughts about me they shouldn't and of course I know people can think thoughts about you no matter what you are wearing, but at least I'm not the one guilty of doing that. It's a total love and respect thing
  • SutapaMukherji
    SutapaMukherji Posts: 244 Member
    No. My boyfriend is really good at only giving his opinion when asked, when it comes to my appearance. I am grateful that he is honest too for when I do ask.

    This. Only, mine is not my boyfriend, but my husband :bigsmile: :blushing: :blushing:
  • lebaker310
    lebaker310 Posts: 164 Member
    If I let my boyfriend tell me what to wear, I'd be sporting turtlenecks and sweatpants everyday.
  • donthesitate
    donthesitate Posts: 255 Member
    It seems that boyfriends=husbands in this thread....hmmm:huh:
  • Stump_Likker
    Stump_Likker Posts: 2,059 Member
    If I ask. Otherwise mind your business. Maybe that's why I'm single? Lol
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    It seems that boyfriends=husbands in this thread....hmmm:huh:

    Well the thread is titled "partner".... hmmmmm :huh:
  • MelsAuntie
    MelsAuntie Posts: 2,833 Member
    No. He has never told me what to wear or not wear.. My situation is the other way around; He'll go into town dressed like a homeless bum, with hay all over his (shudder) black velour sweatpants, and wearing purple crocs. He doesn't care how he looks, only that he doesn't have to take the time and effort to change. If he had an Armani silk jacket, he'd wear it to change the hydraulic fluid on the tractor, then say, "Oh, the stains will come out in the washing machine".
  • Stump_Likker
    Stump_Likker Posts: 2,059 Member
    No. He has never told me what to wear or not wear.. My situation is the other way around; He'll go into town dressed like a homeless bum, with hay all over his (shudder) black velour sweatpants, and wearing purple crocs. He doesn't care how he looks, only that he doesn't have to take the time and effort to change. If he had an Armani silk jacket, he'd wear it to change the hydraulic fluid on the tractor, then say, "Oh, the stains will come out in the washing machine".

    I just laughed out loud.
  • BlueBombers
    BlueBombers Posts: 4,064 Member
    No, never. I don't tell him what he should wear and I expect the same.
  • YaGigi
    YaGigi Posts: 817 Member
    It's all about the respect. I respect his will, he respects mine.
    In a perfect world.
    But in reality he's sometimes too vocal and wants me to look perfect all the time, perfect hair, perfect make up, perfect clothes. He wants me to look the best and the hottest but not available. Kind of like everyone would be jealous of him having a hot girlfriend, not a hooker. So I do wear tide dresses but not too much cleavage or short skirts, so it's sexy but classy.
    It is my style but I do want to relax sometimes and just wear pj all weekend long. But not with him around.
  • Trueray
    Trueray Posts: 1,189 Member
    Nope not at all, just my mom because you know what they say "Momma knows best".
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    It seems that boyfriends=husbands in this thread....hmmm:huh:
    My best friend has been married twice. Both her marriages put together didn't last as long as my relationship with him and we live together. Close enough.
  • abheshek
    abheshek Posts: 525 Member
    Nope not at all, just my mom because you know what they say "Momma knows best".

    +1 to the power n ,where n tends to infinity :laugh:
  • arewethereyet
    arewethereyet Posts: 18,702 Member
    :laugh:

    Once, my ex told me I dressed 'old' (of which I am aware) So I asked him along on a business apparel shopping trip. He picked out an outfit, down to the shoes.

    I laughed, brought him home, and pulled out the EXACT outfit from the closet!

    It was interesting to know he even noticed I was wearing clothes at all quite honestly as he looked right through me for years.

    When I get a boyfriend/husband/significant other I will respect his opinion but he will be none of the above if he DEMANDS I not wear it. :flowerforyou:

    ( NOT that I am insinuating you leave!! :noway: just that I am at THAT place in MY life)
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    :laugh:

    Once, my ex told me I dressed 'old' (of which I am aware) So I asked him along on a business apparel shopping trip. He picked out an outfit, down to the shoes.

    I laughed, brought him home, and pulled out the EXACT outfit from the closet!

    It was interesting to know he even noticed I was wearing clothes at all quite honestly as he looked right through me for years.

    When I get a boyfriend/husband/significant other I will respect his opinion but he will be none of the above if he DEMANDS I not wear it. :flowerforyou:

    ( NOT that I am insinuating you leave!! :noway: just that I am at THAT place in MY life)


    My ex husband used to sometimes say I dressed "old" too. He liked me best in a hoodie and jeans, which is funny because I am not a hoodie wearer and detest Converse All-Stars (his fav footwear on me). I feel cuter in a skirt, top, and flats or a dress and leggings and boots. I just feel better dressed up a little bit. My fiance (who is younger) thinks anything i wear looks good. Sometimes I will say "does this look too old?" about some business wear and he laughs at me and says some version of "You're hot, you're 36 years old...and you look younger than that, no matter what you wear...but you don't need to be in a hoodie and sneakers to look younger!" I like that attitude.
  • walleyclan1
    walleyclan1 Posts: 2,784 Member
    Fashion advice no...but I do think your partner should be able to voice his opinion on whether or not he finds your outfit to be too sexy.
  • Alluminati
    Alluminati Posts: 6,208 Member
    He never has. If he did, I would smile and nod, be polite and *kitten*. Then do whatever I wanted anyway.
  • jennpaulson
    jennpaulson Posts: 850 Member
    The only comment I ever got out of him was about my corset I wore when I went to New Orleans last October with friends. And even then all he said was "it doesn't cover up much does it?"

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