diet sadness
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No, I said I didnt understand because I thought she was saying she cant have these things at all anymore, but she was eating them, then I realized it was just the portion sizes she was getting accustomed to, so i came back to tell her good....
you know what - who cares, you cant win for losing on here.
Good job OP. Sorry for those who want to derail your thread by trying to find conflict anywhere they can. I wish you all the best.
Fair point. I know I confront people over stuff. But be aware that passive-aggressive behaviour can also lead to conflict.
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No, I said I didnt understand because I thought she was saying she cant have these things at all anymore, but she was eating them, then I realized it was just the portion sizes she was getting accustomed to, so i came back to tell her good....
you know what - who cares, you cant win for losing on here.
Good job OP. Sorry for those who want to derail your thread by trying to find conflict anywhere they can. I wish you all the best.
Fair point. I know I confront people over stuff. But be aware that passive-aggressive behaviour can also lead to conflict.
Im the most directly aggressive girl you will ever encounter and i dont appreciate your continuual public judgment, references to my behavior and blatant thread derailment. Im putting you on ignore so we never have to deal with each other again here.
OP - my apologies a 5th time.0 -
I know what you mean. I get the same thing with cookie dough. I still eat some, but not as much, and although I'm happy I dont feel sick after making cookies (I mean...eating the dough and making a cookie), I still geel grumpy and pout for a while because I force myself to stop.0
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I know what you mean. I get the same thing with cookie dough. I still eat some, but not as much, and although I'm happy I dont feel sick after making cookies (I mean...eating the dough and making a cookie), I still geel grumpy and pout for a while because I force myself to stop.
ha ha I mope all the time about food
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It makes me happy that I CAN eat what I want. And when I do the right thing by sticking to a reasonable sized portion, it makes me happy AND proud.
We went out for breakfast yesterday, and I ordered an omelette, as it listed how many eggs were used, and all the ingredients, so I could track what I was eating. It showed up on a thick piece of beautifully buttered white toast. I ate half the toast, and left the other half with no regrets.
I do get what you're saying, but after so many failed diet attempts which restricted everything fun, I'm happy to be doing things the better way.
^^^What she said. It's a victory to me that I can ENJOY a few cookies or piece of cake ect and know when to stop!! I feel empowered and happy!0 -
I don't think it's about whether they can eat as much as they want. Take a good look at they. Should they be eating as much as they want?
Also, some of them may be actually counting/watching what they eat. When I go to parties or events with lots of yummy foods, I may not pull out MFP and log every item I pick up before I eat it, but you'd better believe that I'm keep mental tabs of what I am eating. Someone who doesn't know me would see me put food on my plate and might think "he's so lucky he can eat whatever he wants and not care" because there is no outward signs that I am caring.0 -
Wow - as the originator of this post, I didn't expect so much conflict. Thank you to those of you who offered support and understanding. I knew when writing this that everyone wouldn't "get" it. It's ok. It's all good. BTW - I do eat what I want in moderation...it's dealing with not being able to wolf down the rest that gets to me. The only thing that bothered me out of this huge thread was the person who implied I have a psychological problem. Yikes. But I'm just going to let it go. Good luck to all!!!0
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I want to put my face in this, but instead, I weigh it. The good thing is, it lasts longer when you don't scarf it all down in one sitting!
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Sometimes I do, because let's just admit it, mcdonalds fries are DELICIOUS and baked fries really do not taste the same haha :P
But I'm happy to have 'cheat' meals and keep the rest of my week very clean and healthy. Also, for the banana bread, have you thought about making an alterative healthy version?
I found a recipe on blogilates.com.
The base is just quick cooking oatmeal & mashed bananas
You can add cinnamon, some stevia, maybe some walnuts? But it's a much healthier alternative and I'm sure you can have more than one slice to satisfy your cravings 0 -
Sometime I wished I could eat without thinking about calories like 99% of the population.0
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For me, this has a lot to do with habits. 2 years ago, i would have thought the idea of eating only 1-2 cookies totally ridiculous, unless i was following the cookies with ice cream lol. These days, 2 cookies seems like a reasonable portion that I am able to enjoy without grieving over not being able to eat cookies number 3-20. That doesn't mean I never want the extra slice of pizza, the additional ice cream, the whole bag of chips, it's just a lot easier for me now to make the choice to stop sooner.
as someone else also mentioned...the first bites are the best. after a while it's just mindless eating.0 -
Nothing is going to taste as good and skinny is going to feel0
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Does it ever make you SAD that you can't eat whatever you want??? Like tonight - I made banana bread and had one slice - and I'm SO SAD because I just want to eat the entire thing!!! I won't because I'm working on changing those bad habits...but it makes me sad. It makes me sad that I can't wolf down a handful of Reeses PB cups like I used to every Halloween. I miss being able to eat some of these things! Don't get me wrong - I don't miss the pounds and I am feeling better (physically and mentally) but I do really miss eating crap and it makes me sad sometimes. Maybe it's just me. lol
I think its very sad that people get emotional attachements to food... i also find it sad that more people dont do IIFYM so they can eat cake and reeses sometimes...
THIS!!!! ^^^ :drinker:
I eat whatever I want, in moderation. :happy:0 -
I struggle to eat 2000 kcal every day. I have forgotten what hunger feels like.0
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It makes me happy that I CAN eat what I want. And when I do the right thing by sticking to a reasonable sized portion, it makes me happy AND proud.
We went out for breakfast yesterday, and I ordered an omelette, as it listed how many eggs were used, and all the ingredients, so I could track what I was eating. It showed up on a thick piece of beautifully buttered white toast. I ate half the toast, and left the other half with no regrets.
I do get what you're saying, but after so many failed diet attempts which restricted everything fun, I'm happy to be doing things the better way.
This is me too! I'm so proud that I can fit in my cheezies or desserts or rum when I feel like it! I bought some girl guide cookies today from a neighbour girl and was so happy that I knew I wouldn't have to disappoint the kids tomorrow because I'd eaten them all. I'm going to send a couple in their lunches, have another couple myself tomorrow and enjoy them every day until they're gone. 0 -
I eat whatever I want, in the quantities that fit in my macros and overall goals. It doesn't make me sad to only have a reasonably portion of something - if I want more, there is always tomorrow and a new chance to make it fit. It's never the last whatever in the world.
Same here...:) Tomorrow I'm making red velvet cupcakes with cream cheese frosting. I'm going to keep 3 for myself and the rest will be shared with work because there's no way cupcakes would last past 3 days and I live alone. Everything in moderation!0 -
I hope I learn to feel that way..........For me, this has a lot to do with habits. 2 years ago, i would have thought the idea of eating only 1-2 cookies totally ridiculous, unless i was following the cookies with ice cream lol. These days, 2 cookies seems like a reasonable portion that I am able to enjoy without grieving over not being able to eat cookies number 3-20. That doesn't mean I never want the extra slice of pizza, the additional ice cream, the whole bag of chips, it's just a lot easier for me now to make the choice to stop sooner.
as someone else also mentioned...the first bites are the best. after a while it's just mindless eating.0 -
I totally get it. It seems like the people saying they can eat whatever they want aren't understanding that you WANT more banana bread, so you aren't able to eat all you want. It's one thing to eat whatever you want and another to get to eat it in the portion that you want. If I my husband is eating a lot of something while I enjoy my little portion that fits in my calories, it can be pretty sad to eat mine sooooo sloooowly to "savor" it, so I don't finish a ton sooner than him and feel completely jealous!
Same here. I'm glad so many people seem to have cured themselves from wanting to eat all the food but I would be lying if I said I didn't want to just eat.
It pisses me off to have to stop at 1 cookie or have a little teeny tiny piece of cake because eating the whole slice is more calories than I have in a day. I WANT to be able to go to a Chinese buffet and pig out if I feel like it. As it is right now I'm on TDEE. I have 1800 calories.. makes no difference what I do. I could go work out for hours and still have 1800 calories..I need to eat breakfast & lunch and I can't eat shi# at a Chinese buffet for 700 calories.. I'm glad everyone else can but sometimes I just want to eat food without having to give a carp about how many calories I have.
After 65+ lbs, sometimes I just do it..and I don't feel the least bit guilty about it either :P I'm happy for everyone who is happy to just have 1 portion of something but I am not and probably never will be. Personally I feel like I'm starving all the time, I feel deprived and annoyed when the special occasions come around that I have to 'count'. I do everything in moderation but its the moderation that I wish I didn't need :P0 -
YES! I stuggle with that all the time. Sometimes I just want to eat without worrying about calories or portions!0
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One of my big breakthroughs (mentally) was realizing that I had allowed eating to become a hobby. It is so fun to eat -- eat ALL the things! This was why restricting calories was so disheartening for me -- I was asking myself to give up one of my favorite hobbies! It's not fair! But I've been a good girl!
I don't know if you're the same way, but what helped me was to really amp up the focus on all my other hobbies -- to have more fun so I don't feel like I'm being punished. The other side of the coin is, when I DO eat, it better be the tastiest, best quality food I can find, so I can really enjoy it.
It's taken me months to change this mindset of food-as-hobby, but I do much better now, and the feelings of extreme longing have diminished. I hope you can find some relief, because (I know it sounds strange but) it is torture not to be able to give in to those cravings. Good luck!
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Nothing is going to taste as good and skinny is going to feel
Back up to my comment on page 3 (I believe) for reference on this quote.0 -
Nothing is going to taste as good and skinny is going to feel
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It was a hobby for me too. It was often my greatest pleasure. It was comfort and love. It was a reward. It was relaxing. It was always available when I wanted/needed it. And I DID NOT want to ever give it up.One of my big breakthroughs (mentally) was realizing that I had allowed eating to become a hobby. It is so fun to eat -- eat ALL the things! This was why restricting calories was so disheartening for me -- I was asking myself to give up one of my favorite hobbies! It's not fair! But I've been a good girl!
I don't know if you're the same way, but what helped me was to really amp up the focus on all my other hobbies -- to have more fun so I don't feel like I'm being punished. The other side of the coin is, when I DO eat, it better be the tastiest, best quality food I can find, so I can really enjoy it.
It's taken me months to change this mindset of food-as-hobby, but I do much better now, and the feelings of extreme longing have diminished. I hope you can find some relief, because (I know it sounds strange but) it is torture not to be able to give in to those cravings. Good luck!0 -
No way. Im glad i know i cant eat whatever I want. Its what drives me to burn 1000 calories everyday, so I CAN eat whatever I want, or atleast not feel guilty about eating it.0
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What I want to do
What I really do (98% of the time) is take my time eating, so I know when I'm getting full, and I pre-log so I know how much I have room for in my day. I could put away almost a whole large pizza from Ledo's back in my gorge-myself-silly days. When I'm conscious of what I'm putting in my mouth, it helps me stay on track, and still eat the things I like.0 -
Just wondering how you can burn 1,000 calories in a day?No way. Im glad i know i cant eat whatever I want. Its what drives me to burn 1000 calories everyday, so I CAN eat whatever I want, or atleast not feel guilty about eating it.0
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When you reach your goal, or even before, you will be able to eat all the peanut butter cups and maintain. You just can't do it every day:)0
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I eat whatever I want, in the quantities that fit in my macros and overall goals. It doesn't make me sad to only have a reasonably portion of something - if I want more, there is always tomorrow and a new chance to make it fit. It's never the last whatever in the world.
agree! LOVE this. I try not to deprive myself (hate the word diet because that is what i associate with sadness and depriving and have been on horrible diets since grade school) and so i tell myself that within moderation everything is okay.0 -
Yep. I do miss wolfing down seven or eight servings of things. When I have ice cream now, I get out my half a cup measuring cup and sit down and slowly eat my one serving. And I enjoy it. But there are times I want to just stand in the kitchen with carton and spoon and have at it. I know there are people who eat like crap and manage to stay relatively slim. Sometimes I get to thinking it's not fair that I have to eat reasonably to stop getting fatter. (I recognize how ridiculous of a thought that is lol.) So yeah, I hear you! For the most part I have been able to manage to tell my inner fat kid to shut the hell up since February when I started this healthier lifestyle. haha!0
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I definitely know how you feel since I've cut out a lot of junk foods in my diet too.
All snacks now have to be planned to fit into my daily calorie allowance which eliminates them most days.
I don't know if sad is the best word, yup, I'm bummed sometimes, but I try to build the banana bread into the day, it certainly means eliminating other stuff, and I certainly don't do it often,,, but I do have days when I eat a little bit more than I should, just not very often,, I like being healthier and the only way is to eat healthier ,, stay strong0
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