EVERYONE IS NOT HAPPY FOR ME

shabrick00

So this is my second encounter with a friend/co-worker trying to put a damper on my success...I shared this pic with a co worker and I asked did she notice a difference she said "yes but i think its because of the way you were positioned". I was blown away by her comment...Tell me what you think.
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Rai007

u look beautiful in first pic!!

shabrick00

u look beautiful in first pic!!

Thank you!

jwdieter

A lot of people respond poorly to obvious fishing for compliments.

Congratulations on your weight loss.

teamAmelia

Normally, I'm thrown off when ppl post their "after" pic to the left of their "before" pic, but I can clearly tell which one is your after pic. :flowerforyou: I don't think that the position that you're sitting in would affect the fat that I no longer see on your neck. Your face looks smaller. Your coworker is a hater. I, um, hate that word and rarely use it bc I'm fortunate enough to not know a lot of ppl like that. But, yep, she's a true hater. I wouldn't consider her a friend. Just call her a coworker.

A lot of people respond poorly to obvious fishing for compliments.

Wow. That was rude, even though you followed it up w a compliment. You sound like her coworker...She may have not been fishing for compliments. She probably just wanted to know if others could tell that she lost the weight. How many posts do you see from ppl who say that they've lost weight, but they just don't see the results?

bloominheck

Big difference. By the way, you are looking really great. Well done!

FrauHaas2013

Hey, Shabrick --

Even if the angle is slightly up in one and down in the other, you can CLEARLY see that your face is thinner!!! Sounds like your co-worker likes things the way they are and doesn't look forward to a more confident, radiant you!!!

Ignore her and just keep doin' what you're doin'...some people can only make themselves feel better by putting others down.

teamAmelia

Hey, Shabrick --

Even if the angle is slightly up in one and down in the other, you can CLEARLY see that your face is thinner!!! Sounds like your co-worker likes things the way they are and doesn't look forward to a more confident, radiant you!!!

Ignore her and just keep doin' what you're doin'...some people can only make themselves feel better by putting others down.

All of this.

shabrick00

A lot of people respond poorly to obvious fishing for compliments.

Congratulations on your weight loss.

wow that was really rude.....but to address your ignorance (lack of knowledge) I only showed her the pictures to encourage her as she is looking to lose weight as well...I dont need anyone to tell me anything because my measurements and the numbers on my scale are going in the right direction.

ninerbuff

I'd say that not everyone is going to be happy for you because many don't like to feel one upped, especially when you're achieving what they want to also achieve.
I've always gone by not really personally taking what other think because it's gonna be subjective. Accept her view, thank her and move on.

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shabrick00

Hey, Shabrick --

Even if the angle is slightly up in one and down in the other, you can CLEARLY see that your face is thinner!!! Sounds like your co-worker likes things the way they are and doesn't look forward to a more confident, radiant you!!!

Ignore her and just keep doin' what you're doin'...some people can only make themselves feel better by putting others down.

Obviously not!
I live by this "some people can only make themselves feel better by putting others down. " But you wouldnt want to think these thoughts of someone you considered a friend...

qtgonewild

not everyone can tell after 13 pounds. on myself, i still cant tell. im thinking maybe 50 pounds.

Nikoruo

you do look prettier and healthier and such but the before picture wasn't the nicest of before pictures in the first place.

because

after:
makeup
better lighting
better angle
hair done
(amongst being healthier and thinner looking)

Before:
Make-upless
Poor lighting
The dreadful under chin angle (flatters no one)
Hair just average
(without the lustre of healthier skin and hair and such)

So i would say I'm happy for you and your loss but also that when comparing two pictures it's best to have them both have as close to the same circumstances as possible. If you are looking your best at the time in the before, you should in the after. If you are looking laid back and average in the before, you should do the same for the after. with the same angles of course. It just makes it easier to actually compare your differences (and successes) between the two rather than just the differences between the pictures... if you understand?

(coming from someone who took photography courses and knows that there are lighting, angles and tricks one can do (or accidentally do) to make themselves look better or worse in a picture.)

seltzermint555

Ok. Honest opinion here.

You look beautiful before AND after. Like I think you're a super beautiful lady - and I commend you on a job well done!!

But honestly, one of my personal pet peeves is when people (in weight loss ads, TV, MFP, anywhere) have a before photo where they are clearly not looking their absolute best. No makeup, maybe not the cutest hairstyle or outfit they own...stuff like that...and then the after photo is of them at their best, with perfect hair/makeup and so on.

I do understand that for a lot of people it just has more impact that way. That is why advertisers tend to go that route. And I get it that sometimes if a person has gained a lot of weight they may not be at their best mentally/emotionally and therefore dress less carefully etc. Then when they lose weight and confidence builds, some people are more likely to take more pride in their style and their appearance in general.

BUT...I love it when people show before/after that has them the "same way" heavier & thinner. Whether natural and casual, or dolled up. To me personally it just has more impact that way and the change seems even more obvious.

tdh1991

not everyone can tell after 13 pounds. on myself, i still cant tell. im thinking maybe 50 pounds.

Until I lost about 20lbs most people did not notice. Hang in there and do it for yourself.

willdob3

You look beautiful! There is a big difference. Very noticeable.

Don't give a thought to her comment. Honestly, we need to lose and be at our best for ourselves. No one else. While it is great to hear praise from others our own feelings about our bodies are the only ones that really count.

PrettyPearl88

So this is my second encounter with a friend/co-worker trying to put a damper on my success...I shared this pic with a co worker and I asked did she notice a difference she said "yes but i think its because of the way you were positioned". I was blown away by her comment...Tell me what you think.
[img]http://i872.photobucket.com/albums/ab286/shabrick00/mfp pics/d9d7c8c8-2a57-4005-9204-81ed897cab4f_zpse8b4fa10.jpg[/img]

I can see a definite difference in your face! You look great! Congrats!

Munchkin73113

Great work! Keep it up, and you look wonderful! Don't worry about others, it's not their journey! ; )

shabrick00

Big difference. By the way, you are looking really great. Well done!

Thanks so much!

lithezebra

You look like two different people - good work! That first picture was taken from an angle that looks unflattering on almost everyone, so I'd give your coworker/friend the benefit of the doubt. Other people don't always notice our achievements.

seltzermint555

you do look prettier and healthier and such but the before picture wasn't the nicest of before pictures in the first place.

because

after:
makeup
better lighting
better angle
hair done
(amongst being healthier and thinner looking)

Before:
Make-upless
Poor lighting
The dreadful under chin angle (flatters no one)
Hair just average
(without the lustre of healthier skin and hair and such)

So i would say I'm happy for you and your loss but also that when comparing two pictures it's best to have them both have as close to the same circumstances as possible. If you are looking your best at the time in the before, you should in the after. If you are looking laid back and average in the before, you should do the same for the after. with the same angles of course. It just makes it easier to actually compare your differences (and successes) between the two rather than just the differences between the pictures... if you understand?

(coming from someone who took photography courses and knows that there are lighting, angles and tricks one can do (or accidentally do) to make themselves look better or worse in a picture.)

Exactly!!

I have a selfie on my computer of me 5 years ago when I weighed 89 lb more than I do right now. I look thinner, and honestly prettier, in that photo!!! It was a selfie in the car with some kind of magical lighting. But I also have photos taken around the same time that show how rough I looked then, too. Photos are seriously tricky that way.

vtotheicky

Shabrick, there's a notable difference in the after pic and you look fab! Ignore your so called friend, he/she is ill-mannered and mean spirited. I agree with wildob3- be your own best friend

chardawn187key

Beautiful! There is a difference! Some peoples kids tho!! Ur co worker needs some manners.

shabrick00

Ok. Honest opinion here.

You look beautiful before AND after. Like I think you're a super beautiful lady - and I commend you on a job well done!!

But honestly, one of my personal pet peeves is when people (in weight loss ads, TV, MFP, anywhere) have a before photo where they are clearly not looking their absolute best. No makeup, maybe not the cutest hairstyle or outfit they own...stuff like that...and then the after photo is of them at their best, with perfect hair/makeup and so on.

I do understand that for a lot of people it just has more impact that way. That is why advertisers tend to go that route. And I get it that sometimes if a person has gained a lot of weight they may not be at their best mentally/emotionally and therefore dress less carefully etc. Then when they lose weight and confidence builds, some people are more likely to take more pride in their style and their appearance in general.

BUT...I love it when people show before/after that has them the "same way" heavier & thinner. Whether natural and casual, or dolled up. To me personally it just has more impact that way and the change seems even more obvious.

Thank you for your compliment. I do not understand what difference make up makes...it cant make you thinner or thicker. And my intention was not to show a horrible picture to make the other look any better....with or without make up if you thinner you do, if you dont you dont.... I didnt even purposely take these pictures to compare....i take a hell of a lot of pictures of myself even before ever trying to lose weight so this really doesnt apply to everyone

ellis222

There's an obvious difference- your face and neck look much thinner in the first picture. You look great!
Maybe your friend is so use to seeing you that she hasn't noticed the gradual change?

VeganAmandaJ

I'm not sure that it is fishing for compliments when it comes to asking if there is a difference seen. I know for me, if I do that, I'm simply confirming that it isn't just my own eyes! haha

And congrats on the loss and keep going and working hard, focus on how it feels and keep working towards feeling better.

Also, there is a difference, and in a few months you'll see a bigger difference.
;D

A lot of people respond poorly to obvious fishing for compliments.

Congratulations on your weight loss.

shabrick00

you do look prettier and healthier and such but the before picture wasn't the nicest of before pictures in the first place.

because

after:
makeup
better lighting
better angle
hair done
(amongst being healthier and thinner looking)

Before:
Make-upless
Poor lighting
The dreadful under chin angle (flatters no one)
Hair just average
(without the lustre of healthier skin and hair and such)

So i would say I'm happy for you and your loss but also that when comparing two pictures it's best to have them both have as close to the same circumstances as possible. If you are looking your best at the time in the before, you should in the after. If you are looking laid back and average in the before, you should do the same for the after. with the same angles of course. It just makes it easier to actually compare your differences (and successes) between the two rather than just the differences between the pictures... if you understand?

(coming from someone who took photography courses and knows that there are lighting, angles and tricks one can do (or accidentally do) to make themselves look better or worse in a picture.)

that is understandable however I did not take these pics to compare. as i mentioned before I always take pictures of myself...now being at a specific angle i understand make up or not if you are thinner you are if you are not you are not....and thats just my opinion....my comparison pictures will not be of my face it will be of my body

VeganAmandaJ

I second this totally!

you do look prettier and healthier and such but the before picture wasn't the nicest of before pictures in the first place.

because

after:
makeup
better lighting
better angle
hair done
(amongst being healthier and thinner looking)

Before:
Make-upless
Poor lighting
The dreadful under chin angle (flatters no one)
Hair just average
(without the lustre of healthier skin and hair and such)

So i would say I'm happy for you and your loss but also that when comparing two pictures it's best to have them both have as close to the same circumstances as possible. If you are looking your best at the time in the before, you should in the after. If you are looking laid back and average in the before, you should do the same for the after. with the same angles of course. It just makes it easier to actually compare your differences (and successes) between the two rather than just the differences between the pictures... if you understand?

(coming from someone who took photography courses and knows that there are lighting, angles and tricks one can do (or accidentally do) to make themselves look better or worse in a picture.)

She_Hulk

I can absolutely see a difference! Your friend may not want to see it (sometimes people see what they want to see). It happens, I hate to say. But please don't dwell on her. You look so beautiful! You should be proud of yourself. Keep going! :happy:

shabrick00

So this is my second encounter with a friend/co-worker trying to put a damper on my success...I shared this pic with a co worker and I asked did she notice a difference she said "yes but i think its because of the way you were positioned". I was blown away by her comment...Tell me what you think.
[img]http://i872.photobucket.com/albums/ab286/shabrick00/mfp pics/d9d7c8c8-2a57-4005-9204-81ed897cab4f_zpse8b4fa10.jpg[/img]

I can see a definite difference in your face! You look great! Congrats!

thank you!

gmallan

Ok. Honest opinion here.

You look beautiful before AND after. Like I think you're a super beautiful lady - and I commend you on a job well done!!

But honestly, one of my personal pet peeves is when people (in weight loss ads, TV, MFP, anywhere) have a before photo where they are clearly not looking their absolute best. No makeup, maybe not the cutest hairstyle or outfit they own...stuff like that...and then the after photo is of them at their best, with perfect hair/makeup and so on.

I do understand that for a lot of people it just has more impact that way. That is why advertisers tend to go that route. And I get it that sometimes if a person has gained a lot of weight they may not be at their best mentally/emotionally and therefore dress less carefully etc. Then when they lose weight and confidence builds, some people are more likely to take more pride in their style and their appearance in general.

BUT...I love it when people show before/after that has them the "same way" heavier & thinner. Whether natural and casual, or dolled up. To me personally it just has more impact that way and the change seems even more obvious.

Thank you for your compliment. I do not understand what difference make up makes...it cant make you thinner or thicker. And my intention was not to show a horrible picture to make the other look any better....with or without make up if you thinner you do, if you dont you dont.... I didnt even purposely take these pictures to compare....i take a hell of a lot of pictures of myself even before ever trying to lose weight so this really doesnt apply to everyone

Makeup done a certain way can definitely make your face look thinner (contouring and shading). Having said that you definitely can tell that you've lost weight. I will agree though that when you are taking photos for the purpose of comparison it does help to keep them as similar as possible to each other. It makes it much easier to spot actual changes as opposed to changes that are just optical illusions.