Push gift

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  • Carlyannabelle
    Carlyannabelle Posts: 621 Member
    I think the notion of women expecting a gift for having a child is ridiculous, and greedy. The only push gifts I recieved or ever wanted were my three beautiful and healthy children that I delivered into this world. I can't imagine a woman thinking they deserve anything more for doing something that is a natural thing in life.

    However, if you feel you would like to be nice, I think flowers or something small is very sweet and more than fitting.

    And I forgot to add, congratulations by the way!! Being a parent is amazing!
  • BlueBombers
    BlueBombers Posts: 4,064 Member
    I got a teddy bear from my newborn son but it was Mother's Day.

    But really, he brought me food which made me more than happy. That hospital food is brutal.
  • TheSlorax
    TheSlorax Posts: 2,401 Member
    I don't plan on having a natural birth EVER.

    I didn't plan that craziness either :wink: I had my last baby at home on my bed after being sent home from the hospital. Still no push gift! Well, the paramedics were hot, so there's that.... :smile:


    damn girl you are bad *kitten*. I changed my answer. I only want a pre-push gift and that is an epidural. hot paramedics would be acceptable as well, as long as they stay by my head.
  • runningvegan
    runningvegan Posts: 65
    I didn't expect a gift when either of my children were born and didn't get one. I think it is kind of ridiculous. The moment should be about the special new baby coming into the family and not, "what am I going to get?"

    For my first Mother's Day as a mom, I did get a special necklace - just a simple diamond stone on a chain. No gift was expected. It was just a nice surprise.
  • michellechawner
    michellechawner Posts: 892
    I've never heard of a push gift - honestly think it's a way to get more presents I guess... like valentines day was created for card makers and candy makers. My advice is just be supportive when she needs you during the deliver and after - after all, it does take two people to create the miracle :)
  • DeltaZero
    DeltaZero Posts: 1,197 Member
    Both of ours were c-sections. The gift was that the kids were healthy.
  • MinnieInMaine
    MinnieInMaine Posts: 6,400 Member
    Here's the real question... Now that you're aware of it and thinking about it - could you NOT get her something? Personally I'd feel bad if she were expecting a gift and didn't get anything. No need to go crazy and spend a bunch of money though, especially with all the expenses you have now and in the near future, but just a little something to let her know you think she's awesome.

    A charm, bracelet or necklace for mother/child or as somenoe else mentioned, something with the baby's birthstone - October is opal or tourmaline. Or even just a simple flower bouquet. You know her better than we do, I'm sure you could come up with something.

    Or maybe I just watch too many sitcoms.. :)
  • umekanzah
    umekanzah Posts: 94 Member
    Wow@ all the answers. We have two kids and I got jewelry from my husband after both births.
  • Linli_Anne
    Linli_Anne Posts: 1,360 Member
    My hubby brought me a donut and some Tim Horton's coffee the next morning. I wouldn't call it a push present, but I was ravenous after delivery, and it was very thoughtful of him!
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    oh great now I know of another thing to be dissapointed about when i deliver.

    I'd get her a lovely piece of jewelry or just a really sweet well thought out hand written card.
  • sillygoosie
    sillygoosie Posts: 1,109 Member
    Just be a good husband and father. What an awesome gift!

    Honestly, I think this is a ridiculous concept. My push gift was a daughter.
  • AprilMae1975
    AprilMae1975 Posts: 726
    I didn't even get flowers when I had my kids. I don't think I would have even noticed if I got a push gift or anything else because the only thing that had my attention was that beautiful baby. It's a sweet idea but I don't think it's necessary. I'd rather have a back or foot rub when I got out of the hospital
  • A_nonymous2
    A_nonymous2 Posts: 366 Member
    Yep. I got one for each kid.

    Priorities changed as did the gift from kid 1 to kid 2 and it wasn't anything that put us in debt.

    They were both something I'd have gotten anyway, but now we have fun stories to go along with the items.

    If money isn't an issue, you can get her something nice but if it is, then just take everyone else's advice here and just be a good hubby/dad. The birth is only the start of the hard stuff.

    Good luck and congrats.
  • bigphatcat
    bigphatcat Posts: 7,843 Member
    My wife told me about the idea of a push gift, because I had never heard of it before....I am a pretty clueless and at the time I was against it. Then I thought about it. In the end I decided that if it was going to make her feel special at that time then I would get her one. I got her a ruby (birthstone of our son) pendant on a small necklace. It really wasn't expensive and she really liked it.

    Wait until I spring it on her that I am going to reshingle the roof next spring and I expect a "roofing gift".....LOL
  • WeepingAngel81
    WeepingAngel81 Posts: 2,232 Member
    oh great now I know of another thing to be dissapointed about when i deliver.

    I'd get her a lovely piece of jewelry or just a really sweet well thought out hand written card.

    A hand written card is a really sweet idea! It would be cool to have a little memento that shows how much you appreciate everything she did to carry the baby and deliver him/her. It's not an easy task, and sometimes acknowledgment that you still think your woman is beautiful and strong is enough.
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    oh great now I know of another thing to be dissapointed about when i deliver.

    I'd get her a lovely piece of jewelry or just a really sweet well thought out hand written card.

    A hand written card is a really sweet idea! It would be cool to have a little memento that shows how much you appreciate everything she did to carry the baby and deliver him/her. It's not an easy task, and sometimes acknowledgment that you still think your woman is beautiful and strong is enough.

    My first thought was sarcasm, but as I was thinking more on it this would all I'd really want just something expressing our love, happiness over the baby, and just his feelings. That would mean more to me than anything.
  • suziepoo1984
    suziepoo1984 Posts: 915 Member
    I don't think gifts should be given because you are "supposed to". Give it to her if you think it would make her happy. Just some flowers, or chocolates etc. I did not get anything and i have no complaints. My hubby took care of the baby the entire time i recovered, even now he stays up many times to take care of her. I would give up all my gifts just for that :heart:
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    Wait and see if the baby looks like you.
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    i never heard of this, but it doesn't surprise me. over the years, we've made up plenty of days/reasons to give/receive gifts. Some more valid than others, in my opinion...
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    I have never heard of this custom.

    LOL!

    If she asked for a gift, though, you better get her something...

    Labor could get ugly if you don't. :laugh:
  • Factory_Reset
    Factory_Reset Posts: 1,651 Member
    I gave birth four times. I got no gifts. Ever.

    I feel bitter now

    Thanks OP, thanks a lot.

    *seriously: I really just appreciated my husband not passing out and going later to pick the outfit our kids would have their hospital photo taken in and then come home in. I thought that was way better than any of the flowers and stuff I got*

    Congrats and good luck :flowerforyou:
  • AnninStPaul
    AnninStPaul Posts: 1,372 Member
    A push gift for me would be me pushing him out of bed to get the crying baby at night.... just saying.


    ^^THIS. I'm not a jewelry person (never even had my ears pierced), but others are into earrings etc. More importantly, let her nap on your days off from work. Let her sleep through the night when you aren't working the next day.

    When friends/family offer to do something to help, take them up on it and give them this list: Stock the fridge/freezer with heat and eat meals. Clean the kitchen, clean the bathrooms, change the sheets, mow the lawn. Do a load or two of laundry.
  • bethanytowell
    bethanytowell Posts: 256 Member
    Now that the idea of a Push Present has been brought to your attention, why wouldnt you gift her something? Whether it be her favorite snack & a card or jewelry or flowers...

    Most Men are oblivious to things like push presents therefore they are let off the hook, so to speak.....but you know about it so why not do something out of the ordinary for her?
  • sullus
    sullus Posts: 2,839 Member
    Now that the idea of a Push Present has been brought to your attention, why wouldnt you gift her something? Whether it be her favorite snack & a card or jewelry or flowers...

    Most Men are oblivious to things like push presents therefore they are let off the hook, so to speak.....but you know about it so why not do something out of the ordinary for her?

    Well .. I'd want her to do something out of the ordinary for me first ....

    The only way I'd give an emphatic "no" to this idea is if she informed me that she *expected* one ....
  • katztwins
    katztwins Posts: 13
    I got one for the birth of twin girls years ago in my defense it was also our 5th wedding anniversary and I had been through hell to conceive. It was a wedding band I always wanted and I wear it daily.
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    I've seen men bring their wives flowers when the baby is born (not mine, but others).

    Is this considered a "push" gift?
  • Ivey05131980
    Ivey05131980 Posts: 1,118 Member
    a push gift? really? Didn't you already give her a push gift when said child was conceived?

    Bwhahahaha, best answer ever.
  • KnitSewSpin
    KnitSewSpin Posts: 147 Member
    I've never heard of the term push gift. My husband did get me a wonderful mothers gold necklace with four engraved gold medallions on it (one for each kid) after the birth of our son. But he was number four and our last. I got flowers with all the other kids.
  • LauraMacNCheese
    LauraMacNCheese Posts: 7,173 Member
    A “push gift”? Da *kitten*?!?!…all I got both times were: an incredibly painful vagina (and a special thank you on that the 2nd time around to my 9lb 6.5oz son with his 13” cranium and broad shoulder that got stuck and required 2 nurses pushing on my abdomen to get it out), a pair of mesh underwear, a maxi pad that went from my nose to the back of my head and was approximately a foot thick, and Tucks medicated pads. Ok…so the medicated pads did become my new best friend for a week or so.


    Oh wait, does McDonald’s count?
  • teresamwhite
    teresamwhite Posts: 947 Member
    I just heard about this last week for the first time...I've had two and didn't get anything, nor did I think to ask for anything. Anywho, a soldier hhere I work asked me to make a week's worth of meals for his wife as a "push gift"...breakfast, lunch, dinner and snacks for 7 days post partum is a pretty awesome gift...especially when prepared by moi! :wink:

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