Push gift

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  • MyOwnSunshine
    MyOwnSunshine Posts: 1,312 Member
    ... and just to add to my anti-Pinterest, anti-push present, anti-mama-drama rant:

    I'll bet that Maria Kang with her rock hard abs, super model smile and 3 perfectly dressed and groomed babies (who are probably far ahead of all expected developmental milestones) received at least a carat for each of her perfectly natural, no epidural, three-pushes-and-they're-out births.

    I so don't measure up in this world.

    Best wishes for a safe birth for your wife and new baby, OP. It is the greatest miracle you'll ever witness and truly the best gift you'll receive.
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    I am 100% childfree by choice and my husband had a vasectomy to prevent such a purchase from being on his radar ;-)

    However, I think it's a really sweet idea to give your wife a token gift when she gives birth. Something meaningful, or something just for her that is not baby-related, would be nice.

    I think it's sort of creepy and awful though, that it's referred to as a "push present" (the term I have heard used). Eww.
  • ElliottTN
    ElliottTN Posts: 1,614 Member
    You should get her one. Something she can have immediately there in the hospital. Something to make her feel pretty or nice because **** gets real those few days. I went with a really nice TAG watch I knew she had been eyeing for a long time bc women love jewelry(go figure) and kind of a back meaning with the start of our sons life and time. I'm kind of a sob when it comes to stuff like that. But yeah, something nice and will last for years upon years, just don't skimp out.

    As a side note I didn't know it was a thing until like a week before due date. Funny how her friends made sure to bring it up just in time.
  • ThinLizzie0802
    ThinLizzie0802 Posts: 863 Member
    There is nothing weird or snotty about it and it isn't a new fad or phenomenon.

    If you would like to give your wife a gift to signify the birth of your child, then go for it.

    If you feel it is unnecessary, then don't.

    It's a nice gesture if you do, but you won't be the first or last man who didn't.
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    ... and just to add to my anti-Pinterest, anti-push present, anti-mama-drama rant:

    I'll bet that Maria Kang with her rock hard abs, super model smile and 3 perfectly dressed and groomed babies (who are probably far ahead of all expected developmental milestones) received at least a carat for each of her perfectly natural, no epidural, three-pushes-and-they're-out births.

    I so don't measure up in this world.

    Best wishes for a safe birth for your wife and new baby, OP. It is the greatest miracle you'll ever witness and truly the best gift you'll receive.


    LOL! No there's gotta be something wrong and I bet it's really juicy and filthy.
  • AsellusReborn
    AsellusReborn Posts: 1,112 Member
    My husband gave me a small heart pendant with our first's birthstone and a small pair of birthstone earrings...nothing expensive or extravagant. Yeah, you "gave" her the kid...but let's be brutally honest...her role in this is going to be a lot harder and more painful than yours. Giving her a small token to celebrate the hard work she did is a nice thing. No, you don't have to. -shrugs- But would you want to give birth?
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    Buy her an extra few stitches. Good for both of you.
  • LauraMacNCheese
    LauraMacNCheese Posts: 7,173 Member
    A “push gift”? Da *kitten*?!?!…all I got both times were: an incredibly painful vagina (and a special thank you on that the 2nd time around to my 9lb 6.5oz son with his 13” cranium and broad shoulder that got stuck and required 2 nurses pushing on my abdomen to get it out), a pair of mesh underwear, a maxi pad that went from my nose to the back of my head and was approximately a foot thick, and Tucks medicated pads. Ok…so the medicated pads did become my new best friend for a week or so.


    Oh wait, does McDonald’s count?

    Oh sweet, so I guess I did get a gift, after all. Except I don't recall there being any McDonalds. :grumble:

    I was gonna say...if you didn't get the mesh panties & elephant pad, your hospital was rather stingy...

    I think that was the only time that McDonald's ever tasted like gourmet cuisine...they were planning for an emergency C-section just in case; so I wasn't allowed to eat before I was induced with my son. I was in labor for all of 3 hours...apparently my uterus wanted him to GTFO in a fuqin hurry; so there was no C-section...my vagina still hasn't forgiven me & he'll be 9 in 2 weeks. Anyways, I was in dire need of grubbage by then...so I got hospital breakfast, followed almost immediately by McDonald's lunch. I think I chewed; but I can't be certain...I was in "devour everything edible in sight" mode by then.
  • Blondiegrl11
    Blondiegrl11 Posts: 458 Member
    A push gift? I was lucky to get a ride to the hospital, he was tired and had to find his sammich before we could go :laugh:
  • Mobilemuscle
    Mobilemuscle Posts: 945 Member
    A push gift? I was lucky to get a ride to the hospital, he was tired and had to find his sammich before we could go :laugh:
    Sounds about right... Cant be driving to the hospital sleepy and without a sammich
  • LauraMacNCheese
    LauraMacNCheese Posts: 7,173 Member
    A push gift? I was lucky to get a ride to the hospital, he was tired and had to find his sammich before we could go :laugh:
    Sounds about right... Cant be driving to the hospital sleepy and without a sammich

    I had my son when I was half dead and I didn't have a sammich...
  • Blondiegrl11
    Blondiegrl11 Posts: 458 Member
    A push gift? I was lucky to get a ride to the hospital, he was tired and had to find his sammich before we could go :laugh:
    Sounds about right... Cant be driving to the hospital sleepy and without a sammich


    He tried to make up for it a few months later, handed me the phone number of one of his clients that owned a jewelry store so I could tell her what I wanted....swoon....so romantic :ohwell:
  • Slrajr
    Slrajr Posts: 438 Member
    I think it's some weird competitive Pinterest phenomenon, myself... another way to show everyone what an absolutely perfect life and perfect husband you have... I can just imagine the tweets and facebook updates now.

    Oh, and don't forget to arrange to have a friend with an almost-professional-photography business come to the birth so they can stage a family photo shoot immediately after the baby emerges and right before the cord is cut. You should probably wear an outfit that coordinates with your wife's hospital gown and the nurses' scrubs so the photos will come out perfect.

    I hope your wife has been saving mason jars, toilet paper tubes, corks and burlap sacks since she found out that she's pregnant. I'm sure that she'll want to use her time in between contractions to whip up some wonderful crafts and baby announcements during the downtime.

    After the baby arrives, all your friends can rush into the delivery room with a pot-luck array of semi-homemade treats and cocktails and you can present the push present while everyone oohs and ahhs over your fabulous taste in jewelry. You should probably call ahead to let the nurses know your color-scheme so they can decorate the delivery suite accordingly.

    I'm pretty sure that the doctor will even okay some labor-inducing drugs so you can send out invitations with the correct date and time of your fabulous birth day.

    But, seriously, if you feel in your heart that you should get your wife a gift, by all means do so. But I do think it plays into the whole mama-drama competitive thing. The whole social media pregnancy is just as bad as the modern bridezilla phenomenon.

    Bringing a beautiful baby into this world together is the greatest gift you could give to each other. Maybe you should focus on that for a day or so.

    Save your money for diapers. LOL

    I just love this answer! I'm tagging to re-read for more grins and giggles:)

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