I don't see why some people find holidays so difficult.

seltzermint555

I don't know why you received so many snipey and rude responses. WOW!

I agree, 100%. Sometimes I think it's like a group mentality thing, "maybe if we all agree that it's impossible to resist the temptation of holiday foods, we can all gain back a lot of weight at the holidays guilt-free?!"

Nah. I have never been as serious about weight loss and healthy eating as I am this holiday season, but in the past being mindful of it has helped me not to gain weight over Nov-Dec anyway...I don't expect it will be much different this year, except that I am trying to continue my pattern of loss rather than just staying the same, so that will motivate me even more to exercise some good judgment when faced with buffets full of salt, fat, and sugar laden food.

As for my personal M.O. it's gonna be eat from the veggie tray and the fudge/cookies. Normal breakfast and lunch as always.

jimmmer

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LOL at the people who think it matters that the OP's ticker say 0 Lbs lost or that he's 21...it doesn't make him wrong. The holidays are just one day of many days over the course of a lifetime. It seems people like to talk about "lifestyle" but truly don't understand that concept...

Health, nutrition, and fitness are lifetime endeavors...you're really missing the boat if you're worried about a handful of days...they are meaningless in the grand scheme of things.

Also, who knows...maybe the OP has lost 100 Lbs...you know, there is weightloss that happens outside of MFP. I've lost 40 Lbs all told but my ticker doesn't reflect that...I'm sure I'm not the only one.

I think you need to think this one through a little more. of course age and sex matter. as a 21 year old male he can likely metabolise twice the cals i can in a day. as an individual with little to lose, it is very unlikely he has experienced the complex relationship with food that so often make holidays fraught for those with food issues. and i seriously doubt he has a lot if experience of being a parent through yhe holidays, or even of going 'home' to family, or hosting family at his home.

so in this case, actually i would say age and sex matter a great deal.

Honestly, I agree with the op

I am 28 years old, female and have lost (and maintained) 125lbs. I used to be a binge eater/over eater, I claimed to be "addicted" to food. I was wrong. I was using it as an excuse to continue down the path. When I stopped claiming "addiction" and I took resposibility for my issues with food, I was able to lose weight. I am now losing on 2700 calories.

I love the holidays myself. I eat in moderation and enjoy myself. It hasn't hindered me at all.

Amazing what can happen when we stop making excuses and start taking responsibility for our own choices and actions! :flowerforyou:

This^

For people mostly from cultures where we bang on about freedom and rights almost incessantly, some of us seem to have forgotten the flipside of freedom: responsibility. With your freedom of choice comes a responsibility in how you enact that freedom.

The sign of a truly mature individual is to be able to make those choices and live by the outcomes. Take responsibility for them. You made a crappy choice and didn't like the outcome? Fine. Use that as a guide to making a different choice next time. And thus you grow.

Whining at a kid who's figured this out already won't help you out. Whining that it's "hard" and "nobody understands" won't do it either. Growing up in a remote part of Somalia ruled by a brutal warlord is hard. Learning to turn down your third helping of mash is not. Next year just have one serving instead of three.

I know, i know. this site is about "support". But really people? Really? Try your hardest. You may fail. Use it as a learning experience to do better next time. Come back stronger. Use your experience to make better choices. It's really that simple.

I'm probably going to get a bit of flak for the above. But before you post a snarky reply about how I don't understand, re-read the above and think to yourself "am I making excuses?", "could I try a little harder?", "should I take responsibility for my choices?". Then you have my permission to flame away.

mmapags

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LOL at the people who think it matters that the OP's ticker say 0 Lbs lost or that he's 21...it doesn't make him wrong. The holidays are just one day of many days over the course of a lifetime. It seems people like to talk about "lifestyle" but truly don't understand that concept...

Health, nutrition, and fitness are lifetime endeavors...you're really missing the boat if you're worried about a handful of days...they are meaningless in the grand scheme of things.

Also, who knows...maybe the OP has lost 100 Lbs...you know, there is weightloss that happens outside of MFP. I've lost 40 Lbs all told but my ticker doesn't reflect that...I'm sure I'm not the only one.

I think you need to think this one through a little more. of course age and sex matter. as a 21 year old male he can likely metabolise twice the cals i can in a day. as an individual with little to lose, it is very unlikely he has experienced the complex relationship with food that so often make holidays fraught for those with food issues. and i seriously doubt he has a lot if experience of being a parent through yhe holidays, or even of going 'home' to family, or hosting family at his home.

so in this case, actually i would say age and sex matter a great deal.

Honestly, I agree with the op

I am 28 years old, female and have lost (and maintained) 125lbs. I used to be a binge eater/over eater, I claimed to be "addicted" to food. I was wrong. I was using it as an excuse to continue down the path. When I stopped claiming "addiction" and I took resposibility for my issues with food, I was able to lose weight. I am now losing on 2700 calories.

I love the holidays myself. I eat in moderation and enjoy myself. It hasn't hindered me at all.

Amazing what can happen when we stop making excuses and start taking responsibility for our own choices and actions! :flowerforyou:

It really is! The baby in your profile pic is adorable btw!

Why thank you! That is my grandson.

mmapags

show previous quotes

LOL at the people who think it matters that the OP's ticker say 0 Lbs lost or that he's 21...it doesn't make him wrong. The holidays are just one day of many days over the course of a lifetime. It seems people like to talk about "lifestyle" but truly don't understand that concept...

Health, nutrition, and fitness are lifetime endeavors...you're really missing the boat if you're worried about a handful of days...they are meaningless in the grand scheme of things.

Also, who knows...maybe the OP has lost 100 Lbs...you know, there is weightloss that happens outside of MFP. I've lost 40 Lbs all told but my ticker doesn't reflect that...I'm sure I'm not the only one.

I think you need to think this one through a little more. of course age and sex matter. as a 21 year old male he can likely metabolise twice the cals i can in a day. as an individual with little to lose, it is very unlikely he has experienced the complex relationship with food that so often make holidays fraught for those with food issues. and i seriously doubt he has a lot if experience of being a parent through yhe holidays, or even of going 'home' to family, or hosting family at his home.

so in this case, actually i would say age and sex matter a great deal.

Honestly, I agree with the op

I am 28 years old, female and have lost (and maintained) 125lbs. I used to be a binge eater/over eater, I claimed to be "addicted" to food. I was wrong. I was using it as an excuse to continue down the path. When I stopped claiming "addiction" and I took resposibility for my issues with food, I was able to lose weight. I am now losing on 2700 calories.

I love the holidays myself. I eat in moderation and enjoy myself. It hasn't hindered me at all.

Amazing what can happen when we stop making excuses and start taking responsibility for our own choices and actions! :flowerforyou:

This^

For people mostly from cultures where we bang on about freedom and rights almost incessantly, some of us seem to have forgotten the flipside of freedom: responsibility. With your freedom of choice comes a responsibility in how you enact that freedom.

The sign of a truly mature individual is to be able to make those choices and live by the outcomes. Take responsibility for them. You made a crappy choice and didn't like the outcome? Fine. Use that as a guide to making a different choice next time. And thus you grow.

Whining at a kid who's figured this out already won't help you out. Whining that it's "hard" and "nobody understands" won't do it either. Growing up in a remote part of Somalia ruled by a brutal warlord is hard. Learning to turn down your third helping of mash is not. Next year just have one serving instead of three.

I know, i know. this site is about "support". But really people? Really? Try your hardest. You may fail. Use it as a learning experience to do better next time. Come back stronger. Use your experience to make better choices. It's really that simple.

I'm probably going to get a bit of flak for the above. But before you post a snarky reply about how I don't understand, re-read the above and think to yourself "am I making excuses?", "could I try a little harder?", "should I take responsibility for my choices?". Then you have my permission to flame away.

No flame here. To "support" someone by enabling their sense of powerlessness is not support. Straight talk is. Time to stop passing the blame and look in the mirror sometimes.