She's fine, but seriously what do you think scale says?

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  • NaturalinCO
    NaturalinCO Posts: 164 Member
    My husband says that kind thing all the time...you just made my day! I hope other women are HEARING you though. Don't believe the hype ladies!!
  • FrnkLft
    FrnkLft Posts: 1,821 Member
    Not true! There was a dude just the other day saying he wouldn't date a woman who weighed more than 120 lbs. I think it's in the 'Too fat to be a stripper thread'....brb

    Ah, it was tip a stripper who was over 120 lbs. TannedTiger. RAWR!

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1149890-to-fat-to-be-a-stripper?hl=too+fat+to+be+a+stripper&page=4

    I am almost 100% sure he was just being sarcastic.

    And if he wasn't, he probably just can't pick up anything heavier, so... :noway:
  • HikerRR50
    HikerRR50 Posts: 144 Member
    ...said no man ever.


    Also thigh gap... wtf...

    purse might as well be a plastic bag for all we care also....
  • JONZ64
    JONZ64 Posts: 1,280 Member
    haha....

    you guys are funny....

    More females need to read this and believe it...

    Men don't talk "code" they mean what they say and what is sexy...is confidence.

    So glad I am so over that "insanity"....being over 40 definately has it's advantages.

    YES! Over 40 and the BS meter gets Pegged, we can't ake anymore :laugh:
  • I still have yet to figure out how girl clothing size works. A girl could be like "OMG IM A SIZE BLAH BLAH I NEED TO BE A SIZE BLAH" and I try to figure out what that even means as I look at her.

    don't worry -so are we.

    LOL SERIOUSLY! I just don't understand why we can't just get our jeans/pants/shorts/etc sized like the guys...I can NEVER find the right size of jeans!
  • WeepingAngel81
    WeepingAngel81 Posts: 2,232 Member
    ...said no man ever.


    Also thigh gap... wtf...

    You mean "said no REAL man ever"

    There are shallow men as well as women out there. It's easier for women to pick up on the negative things portrayed when it comes to body image. We forget that a real man cares more about his woman's health and well being and less about what the scale says. Thanks for this OP :flowerforyou:
  • sbbhbm
    sbbhbm Posts: 1,312 Member
    My STBE told me when I got up to a size 6 that I had let myself go, and if I didn't lose the weight he was leaving me. I have only encountered two men in my life that weren't obsessed with my weight and appearance. Once they find out how heavy I used to be, they watch what I eat and make comments about "should you be eating that?" At least it helps me weed out the a-holes.

    *editing to add- I was a size 0 when we met, after I had lost all my weight. He was always paranoid I would get fat.
  • Confuzzled4ever
    Confuzzled4ever Posts: 2,860 Member
    I still have yet to figure out how girl clothing size works. A girl could be like "OMG IM A SIZE BLAH BLAH I NEED TO BE A SIZE BLAH" and I try to figure out what that even means as I look at her.

    don't worry -so are we.

    LOL SERIOUSLY! I just don't understand why we can't just get our jeans/pants/shorts/etc sized like the guys...I can NEVER find the right size of jeans!

    OMG.. and then there is junior sizes.. misses sizes.. ladies sizes...petite.. low rise.. ultra low rise.. mid-rise..and *enter whatever else I am missing here* cant' tell you how many times I come home with my size just to discover they are the wrong cut and therefore do not fit.. drives me NUTS!!
  • Maryaly40
    Maryaly40 Posts: 551 Member
    We lift, so you can eat :wink:

    I like you :drinker:
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    :wink:
    ...said no man ever.


    Also thigh gap... wtf...
    lol

    You all do like the thigh gap, though. You know it. Just not the one all these women are striving for.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I still have yet to figure out how girl clothing size works. A girl could be like "OMG IM A SIZE BLAH BLAH I NEED TO BE A SIZE BLAH" and I try to figure out what that even means as I look at her.

    don't worry -so are we.

    LOL SERIOUSLY! I just don't understand why we can't just get our jeans/pants/shorts/etc sized like the guys...I can NEVER find the right size of jeans!
    That would never work for women who are pear or hourglass shaped.
  • SapiensPisces
    SapiensPisces Posts: 992 Member
    I still have yet to figure out how girl clothing size works. A girl could be like "OMG IM A SIZE BLAH BLAH I NEED TO BE A SIZE BLAH" and I try to figure out what that even means as I look at her.

    don't worry -so are we.

    LOL SERIOUSLY! I just don't understand why we can't just get our jeans/pants/shorts/etc sized like the guys...I can NEVER find the right size of jeans!

    OMG.. and then there is junior sizes.. misses sizes.. ladies sizes...petite.. low rise.. ultra low rise.. mid-rise..and *enter whatever else I am missing here* cant' tell you how many times I come home with my size just to discover they are the wrong cut and therefore do not fit.. drives me NUTS!!

    Don't forget about the lengths! I didn't have to buy long jeans until I dropped below a size 14. Suddenly, everything in a size 12 regular length was short! Makes finding anything other than basic jeans a nightmare unless I want the highwaters look all the time.
  • Danny_Boy13
    Danny_Boy13 Posts: 2,094 Member
    ...said no man ever.


    Also thigh gap... wtf...

    ^ Word
  • Saucy_lil_Minx
    Saucy_lil_Minx Posts: 3,302 Member
    My hubby set me straight a long time ago!

    1) He said men will always tell it the way it is

    2) We only give a s*** about cars, money, clothes, and looking good b/c it's what gets us sex. Sex takes precedent over everything else from puberty until we die.

    3) If it was not for sex we would not care about cars, money, or looking good, and we would wear what ever we could fit on our fat A$Ses.


    4) We don't care about the scale, or how you eat. If we like you that is it. We are all attracted to different things, but if you get our engine going that is all that matters.
  • Here's what I'll never understand.

    I have a very best friend who, by looks, is my polar opposite. She is 5'8, blond, beautiful (yes, she gets TONS of 2nd looks), slender with curves in the exact right places. Me: I am big (ok, I am obese), plain, don't wear makeup other than tinted lip gloss with short hair that I do take the time to style.

    Here's the kicker: she and I conducted an "experiment" for fun. For 1 whole month, we went out to bars, clubs, other social events. I will stop to note that I am married and faithful and my husband knew about this and was fine because he knew nothing would come of this. I did not wear my wedding rings out and we went to places where we were certain no one my hubby and I knew would go. Men beelined to my friend and talked to me only because I was there. We danced and had fun. However, at the end of the experiment, I had received more phone numbers and date requests than my friend.

    Now tell me, is it REALLY about what the scales say??? By the way, I weigh over 300 pounds. My friend is 140.
  • FrnkLft
    FrnkLft Posts: 1,821 Member
    I will say this though, I think it's important that you take care of yourself and your body.

    It's NOT everything, but I would expect my partner to work to stay nice for me, and I for them. I (my opinion) see doing otherwise as taking them for granted in a way.

    Case in point, if she was physically attracted to me for my build, covering all that with fat or letting myself go and expecting her to still like me THAT way isn't really fair to her, is it? If she does, excellent. If she doesn't, it's not really her fault. (important point, I'm assuming a reasonable person here, not someone who is abnormally shallow).
  • I still have yet to figure out how girl clothing size works. A girl could be like "OMG IM A SIZE BLAH BLAH I NEED TO BE A SIZE BLAH" and I try to figure out what that even means as I look at her.

    don't worry -so are we.

    LOL SERIOUSLY! I just don't understand why we can't just get our jeans/pants/shorts/etc sized like the guys...I can NEVER find the right size of jeans!
    That would never work for women who are pear or hourglass shaped.


    That's why there's the waist sizing.....think how fabulously easy that would be! :) ah. so exciting! I could just go in there and find "36x36" ,make sure they fit and go.

    Maybe they could have a special line like Levi's that has curvy fit too! My sister uses those. She loves the fit. But they should still do length and waist sizing!
  • I still have yet to figure out how girl clothing size works. A girl could be like "OMG IM A SIZE BLAH BLAH I NEED TO BE A SIZE BLAH" and I try to figure out what that even means as I look at her.

    don't worry -so are we.

    LOL SERIOUSLY! I just don't understand why we can't just get our jeans/pants/shorts/etc sized like the guys...I can NEVER find the right size of jeans!

    OMG.. and then there is junior sizes.. misses sizes.. ladies sizes...petite.. low rise.. ultra low rise.. mid-rise..and *enter whatever else I am missing here* cant' tell you how many times I come home with my size just to discover they are the wrong cut and therefore do not fit.. drives me NUTS!!

    Don't forget about the lengths! I didn't have to buy long jeans until I dropped below a size 14. Suddenly, everything in a size 12 regular length was short! Makes finding anything other than basic jeans a nightmare unless I want the highwaters look all the time.


    Oh my gosh yes! If I wear 10R, I look like I'm wearing high waters, but if I put on a 8L, everything fits! I don't understandddd. :sad:
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    Nice try but this presumes most women really care more about what men think than what other women think about them...

    True. Whenever a boyfriend tries to give me advice on what to wear, I usually say something like, "You are a straight male. Wtf do you know about what looks good on anyone?" lol. Many women dress to impress each other.
  • patols1
    patols1 Posts: 108 Member
    ...said no man ever.


    Also thigh gap... wtf...

    :)
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I still have yet to figure out how girl clothing size works. A girl could be like "OMG IM A SIZE BLAH BLAH I NEED TO BE A SIZE BLAH" and I try to figure out what that even means as I look at her.

    don't worry -so are we.

    LOL SERIOUSLY! I just don't understand why we can't just get our jeans/pants/shorts/etc sized like the guys...I can NEVER find the right size of jeans!
    That would never work for women who are pear or hourglass shaped.


    That's why there's the waist sizing.....think how fabulously easy that would be! :) ah. so exciting! I could just go in there and find "36x36" ,make sure they fit and go.

    Maybe they could have a special line like Levi's that has curvy fit too! My sister uses those. She loves the fit. But they should still do length and waist sizing!
    But then they still have to fit over your hips or butt. I cna't wear men's jeans, even if they're the right waist size. They're too small over my hips.

    And women have the low and midrise pants, too, which throws it all off.

    I just get midrise so they fit my hips and I'm good.
  • Liber8
    Liber8 Posts: 13
    y'see...women only really care what other women think...true.
  • I did want to mention in my last post that I am working on loosing weight and getting in shape. I got to my current state thanks to medications and my bought with depression.
  • I will say this though, I think it's important that you take care of yourself and your body.

    It's NOT everything, but I would expect my partner to work to stay nice for me, and I for them. I (my opinion) see doing otherwise as taking them for granted in a way.

    Case in point, if she was physically attracted to me for my build, covering all that with fat or letting myself go and expecting her to still like me THAT way isn't really fair to her, is it? If she does, excellent. If she doesn't, it's not really her fault. (important point, I'm assuming a reasonable person here, not someone who is abnormally shallow).
    I agree with you 100%
    The reason I began on MFP is because I no longer felt desired by my husband. I had had 2 kids and gained 45lbs! Don't get me wrong he still loved me but I could feel the shift from uncontrollable desire, to I love you inspite of the weight you gained.

    At first I felt hurt by this shift but quickly realized that it was my own doing.

    This is not to say fluctuation in weight is bad, but that we must realize what we choose to do to our bodies will influence the way our SO feels towards us on a physical level.
  • I still have yet to figure out how girl clothing size works. A girl could be like "OMG IM A SIZE BLAH BLAH I NEED TO BE A SIZE BLAH" and I try to figure out what that even means as I look at her.

    don't worry -so are we.

    LOL SERIOUSLY! I just don't understand why we can't just get our jeans/pants/shorts/etc sized like the guys...I can NEVER find the right size of jeans!
    That would never work for women who are pear or hourglass shaped.


    That's why there's the waist sizing.....think how fabulously easy that would be! :) ah. so exciting! I could just go in there and find "36x36" ,make sure they fit and go.

    Maybe they could have a special line like Levi's that has curvy fit too! My sister uses those. She loves the fit. But they should still do length and waist sizing!
    But then they still have to fit over your hips or butt. I cna't wear men's jeans, even if they're the right waist size. They're too small over my hips.

    And women have the low and midrise pants, too, which throws it all off.

    I just get midrise so they fit my hips and I'm good.



    UGH WHY ARE WE SO COMPLICATED??!??!! HAHA! :noway: :laugh:
  • melabelle_al
    melabelle_al Posts: 3 Member
    Also thigh gap... wtf...

    Don't be a hater. Some of us just have wide-set hips.

    QFT.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I still have yet to figure out how girl clothing size works. A girl could be like "OMG IM A SIZE BLAH BLAH I NEED TO BE A SIZE BLAH" and I try to figure out what that even means as I look at her.

    don't worry -so are we.

    LOL SERIOUSLY! I just don't understand why we can't just get our jeans/pants/shorts/etc sized like the guys...I can NEVER find the right size of jeans!
    That would never work for women who are pear or hourglass shaped.


    That's why there's the waist sizing.....think how fabulously easy that would be! :) ah. so exciting! I could just go in there and find "36x36" ,make sure they fit and go.

    Maybe they could have a special line like Levi's that has curvy fit too! My sister uses those. She loves the fit. But they should still do length and waist sizing!
    But then they still have to fit over your hips or butt. I cna't wear men's jeans, even if they're the right waist size. They're too small over my hips.

    And women have the low and midrise pants, too, which throws it all off.

    I just get midrise so they fit my hips and I'm good.



    UGH WHY ARE WE SO COMPLICATED??!??!! HAHA! :noway: :laugh:
    To keep 'em guessing.
  • AmyRhubarb
    AmyRhubarb Posts: 6,890 Member
    ...said no man ever.


    Also thigh gap... wtf...
    :love: tumblr_mdglkpJkKd1rl6a5io1_500.gif
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    Here's what I'll never understand.

    I have a very best friend who, by looks, is my polar opposite. She is 5'8, blond, beautiful (yes, she gets TONS of 2nd looks), slender with curves in the exact right places. Me: I am big (ok, I am obese), plain, don't wear makeup other than tinted lip gloss with short hair that I do take the time to style.

    Here's the kicker: she and I conducted an "experiment" for fun. For 1 whole month, we went out to bars, clubs, other social events. I will stop to note that I am married and faithful and my husband knew about this and was fine because he knew nothing would come of this. I did not wear my wedding rings out and we went to places where we were certain no one my hubby and I knew would go. Men beelined to my friend and talked to me only because I was there. We danced and had fun. However, at the end of the experiment, I had received more phone numbers and date requests than my friend.

    Now tell me, is it REALLY about what the scales say??? By the way, I weigh over 300 pounds. My friend is 140.

    personality/confidence makes up in ways that the scale does not measure.
  • WalkingAlong
    WalkingAlong Posts: 4,926 Member
    y'see...women only really care what other women think...true.
    I don't think most women are concerned about what men think or other women think near as much as what THEY THEMSELVES think when they look in the mirror.

    If I had a husband that I felt loved me "in spite of my weight", well, that would be unacceptable to me.