Touchy subject. Pornography. Need advice.

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  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    Isn't "dating" (or whatever you want to call it) supposed to be a process of figuring out if someone is compatible with you? If your hangups about porn are such a big deal to you, then find someone who isn't into it.

    Why do people try to get with someone who they know is a bad match, and then try to change that person into what they wanted, and then act surprised when it doesn't work?

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    ...or blame those evil romantic chick flick films.
  • _errata_
    _errata_ Posts: 1,653 Member
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    Someone say porn?
  • skullshank
    skullshank Posts: 4,323 Member
    i'm sorry but i disagree with most of these so called 'threads'.

    there were more porn threads?
  • _errata_
    _errata_ Posts: 1,653 Member
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  • _errata_
    _errata_ Posts: 1,653 Member
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  • TheSlorax
    TheSlorax Posts: 2,401 Member
    i'm sorry but i disagree with most of these so called 'threads'. i myself have this problem with porn. just because a lot of guys like this sort of thing it doesn't mean that you have to and he should respect that sweetie. at the end of the day how would guys like it if we posted naked pics and video's online for loads of men to dribble over? exactly they wouldn't. this is the point i made to my husband and ever since there has been only a few occasions and i gave him the decision. he either stops and finds someone that accept or he gives it up. after ll, it's just porn. men take it to seriously and it IS disrespectful to woman that don't agree with it. i gave mine an ultimatum and it worked and nothing since as he chose ME. if porn is more important than our feelings sweetheart you need to throw him. he can't be worth it. MEN grow up and stop acting like kids, respect your women and stop treating it like its a must. it's inconsiderate. if you can't live without it then you really need your head sorted. good luck sweetie and if you meed to talk message me.

    hey I have a question! I hope you don't mind answering! how does women posting dirty photos and videos of themselves equate to men watching porn? thanks in advance for clarification!
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    i'm sorry but i disagree with most of these so called 'threads'.

    there were more porn threads?

    More importantly...is this not really a thread? So called "threads"...if they aren't threads, what are they? I'm pretty sure creating a new topic makes it a thread, but I could be wrong.
  • I feel your pain... I'm the same with porn. Another reason why I'm fine with being single for the rest of my life because EVERYONE but me and you seem to understand each other and apparently, we both need to "grow up" and stop being prude? Yeah, ok there, people. Whatever. If I don't like it, then I don't like it. But anyways, I know how you feel...

    flipping bang on. i'm with you too. they wouldn't like it if we posted pics and videos of us naked online for men to dribble over. its stupid and inconsiderate. men who can't give it up are deluded. DAFT.
  • _errata_
    _errata_ Posts: 1,653 Member
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  • ScottF83
    ScottF83 Posts: 233 Member
    This is worse than my Boo-Boo thread: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1143529-boo-boo
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    i'm sorry but i disagree with most of these so called 'threads'. i myself have this problem with porn. just because a lot of guys like this sort of thing it doesn't mean that you have to and he should respect that sweetie. at the end of the day how would guys like it if we posted naked pics and video's online for loads of men to dribble over? exactly they wouldn't. this is the point i made to my husband and ever since there has been only a few occasions and i gave him the decision. he either stops and finds someone that accept or he gives it up. after ll, it's just porn. men take it to seriously and it IS disrespectful to woman that don't agree with it. i gave mine an ultimatum and it worked and nothing since as he chose ME. if porn is more important than our feelings sweetheart you need to throw him. he can't be worth it. MEN grow up and stop acting like kids, respect your women and stop treating it like its a must. it's inconsiderate. if you can't live without it then you really need your head sorted. good luck sweetie and if you meed to talk message me.

    hey I have a question! I hope you don't mind answering! how does women posting dirty photos and videos of themselves equating to men watching porn? thanks in advance for clarification!

    ^This. Also, there are men that are into their women doing those things and vice versa.
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    I feel your pain... I'm the same with porn. Another reason why I'm fine with being single for the rest of my life because EVERYONE but me and you seem to understand each other and apparently, we both need to "grow up" and stop being prude? Yeah, ok there, people. Whatever. If I don't like it, then I don't like it. But anyways, I know how you feel...

    flipping bang on. i'm with you too. they wouldn't like it if we posted pics and videos of us naked online for men to dribble over. its stupid and inconsiderate. men who can't give it up are deluded. DAFT.

    What is daft is you making generalizations like this. Just because it isn't your cup of tea doesn't make it wrong for everyone else.
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  • _errata_
    _errata_ Posts: 1,653 Member
    This is worse than my Boo-Boo thread: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1143529-boo-boo

    That thread actually looks more interesting.
  • _errata_
    _errata_ Posts: 1,653 Member
    I feel your pain... I'm the same with porn. Another reason why I'm fine with being single for the rest of my life because EVERYONE but me and you seem to understand each other and apparently, we both need to "grow up" and stop being prude? Yeah, ok there, people. Whatever. If I don't like it, then I don't like it. But anyways, I know how you feel...

    flipping bang on. i'm with you too. they wouldn't like it if we posted pics and videos of us naked online for men to dribble over. its stupid and inconsiderate. men who can't give it up are deluded. DAFT.

    What is daft is you making generalizations like this. Just because it isn't your cup of tea doesn't make it wrong for everyone else.

    Incorrect! This is daft:

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  • I feel your pain... I'm the same with porn. Another reason why I'm fine with being single for the rest of my life because EVERYONE but me and you seem to understand each other and apparently, we both need to "grow up" and stop being prude? Yeah, ok there, people. Whatever. If I don't like it, then I don't like it. But anyways, I know how you feel...

    flipping bang on. i'm with you too. they wouldn't like it if we posted pics and videos of us naked online for men to dribble over. its stupid and inconsiderate. men who can't give it up are deluded. DAFT.

    Yeah, that's just how I am. I have watched it before to see why it's a huge deal and I'll admit, it gets you in the mood. But what I'm talking about is when it starts to effect a relationship. If she's fine with it then cool...if not, then you should respect that, not hide it. If you HAVE to watch porn, then goodbye....If porn is more important than me, then alright.
  • I feel your pain... I'm the same with porn. Another reason why I'm fine with being single for the rest of my life because EVERYONE but me and you seem to understand each other and apparently, we both need to "grow up" and stop being prude? Yeah, ok there, people. Whatever. If I don't like it, then I don't like it. But anyways, I know how you feel...

    flipping bang on. i'm with you too. they wouldn't like it if we posted pics and videos of us naked online for men to dribble over. its stupid and inconsiderate. men who can't give it up are deluded. DAFT.

    What is daft is you making generalizations like this. Just because it isn't your cup of tea doesn't make it wrong for everyone else.

    Incorrect! This is daft:

    daft-punk.gif

    Blah blah blah
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  • I feel your pain... I'm the same with porn. Another reason why I'm fine with being single for the rest of my life because EVERYONE but me and you seem to understand each other and apparently, we both need to "grow up" and stop being prude? Yeah, ok there, people. Whatever. If I don't like it, then I don't like it. But anyways, I know how you feel...

    flipping bang on. i'm with you too. they wouldn't like it if we posted pics and videos of us naked online for men to dribble over. its stupid and inconsiderate. men who can't give it up are deluded. DAFT.

    What is daft is you making generalizations like this. Just because it isn't your cup of tea doesn't make it wrong for everyone else.

    Blah blah blah
  • I feel your pain... I'm the same with porn. Another reason why I'm fine with being single for the rest of my life because EVERYONE but me and you seem to understand each other and apparently, we both need to "grow up" and stop being prude? Yeah, ok there, people. Whatever. If I don't like it, then I don't like it. But anyways, I know how you feel...

    flipping bang on. i'm with you too. they wouldn't like it if we posted pics and videos of us naked online for men to dribble over. its stupid and inconsiderate. men who can't give it up are deluded. DAFT.

    Yeah, that's just how I am. I have watched it before to see why it's a huge deal and I'll admit, it gets you in the mood. But what I'm talking about is when it starts to effect a relationship. If she's fine with it then cool...if not, then you should respect that, not hide it. If you HAVE to watch porn, then goodbye....If porn is more important than me, then alright.

    Porn is always there for you, unlike a woman

    Sorry for your break ups?
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  • NinjadURbacon
    NinjadURbacon Posts: 395 Member
    i am probably the only guy here that is not a fan of porn, not saying i have not seen it. Just am not a fan.
  • kyleekay10
    kyleekay10 Posts: 1,812 Member
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    What a well thought out and intriguing argument! You're quite the scholar.
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    I feel your pain... I'm the same with porn. Another reason why I'm fine with being single for the rest of my life because EVERYONE but me and you seem to understand each other and apparently, we both need to "grow up" and stop being prude? Yeah, ok there, people. Whatever. If I don't like it, then I don't like it. But anyways, I know how you feel...

    flipping bang on. i'm with you too. they wouldn't like it if we posted pics and videos of us naked online for men to dribble over. its stupid and inconsiderate. men who can't give it up are deluded. DAFT.

    What is daft is you making generalizations like this. Just because it isn't your cup of tea doesn't make it wrong for everyone else.

    Blah blah blah

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  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    hahahaha, is the op for real?

    It's porn, watch it with him and get laid. wtf is this, 17th century new england?

    ^This! It's fun!
  • QuietBloom
    QuietBloom Posts: 5,413 Member
    I feel your pain... I'm the same with porn. Another reason why I'm fine with being single for the rest of my life because EVERYONE but me and you seem to understand each other and apparently, we both need to "grow up" and stop being prude? Yeah, ok there, people. Whatever. If I don't like it, then I don't like it. But anyways, I know how you feel...

    flipping bang on. i'm with you too. they wouldn't like it if we posted pics and videos of us naked online for men to dribble over. its stupid and inconsiderate. men who can't give it up are deluded. DAFT.

    Yeah, that's just how I am. I have watched it before to see why it's a huge deal and I'll admit, it gets you in the mood. But what I'm talking about is when it starts to effect a relationship. If she's fine with it then cool...if not, then you should respect that, not hide it. If you HAVE to watch porn, then goodbye....If porn is more important than me, then alright.

    Porn is always there for you, unlike a woman

    Aw. Some day you will find the right one. :flowerforyou:
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    Blah blah blah

    What a well thought out and intriguing argument! You're quite the scholar.

    I know I was blown :wink: :wink:
  • amyk0202
    amyk0202 Posts: 666 Member
    I am another who feels like porn is cheating. It doesn't have to be rational--it is how I feel & if you feel the same way, your partner should respect that or you will have to decide if you can live with that or if it's a deal breaker. I don't think it's unreasonable to ask your partner to stop doing something that is hurtful to you & erodes your self confidence. If you are sharing your life with someone, that is the person who should be building you up & who should definitely care more about your feelings than about watching porn. Asking him to stop watching porn is not controlling his every move & taking over his life. I do think it is a problem if he just says what you want to hear & then does it anyway. If he doesn't have an addiction, why does he feel the need to lie to his partner & put his relationship in jeopardy? I don't understand how porn has become something that "all men" have to have & asking them to do without is horribly unreasonable?
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    In my opinion, porn sets unrealistic expectations for relationships. I'm not doing that stuff and no one is paying me to. I agree that a couple needs to have the same moral grounds. If the OP is not comfortable with it then she isn't. That's how she feels. No one can tell anyone else how to feel!!

    I think porn offers ideas to be creative and keeps sex from getting boring after you have been in a relationship for a long time.
  • The_Enginerd
    The_Enginerd Posts: 3,982 Member
    i am probably the only guy here that is not a fan of porn, not saying i have not seen it. Just am not a fan.
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