Ladies...At what height is a guy creepy short to you?

running_free_1984

Hearing this makes me think I should ask him to do more cleaning of high fixtures!But yeah stuff like changing lightbulbs in awkward places.

ItsMeGee3

At 5'. I've never had a problem with this.

ajaxe432

This thread shows shallowness to a whole new level....For ladies saying they wont date a guy under 5'8 because it makes them uncomfortable.....how old are you????

Would you date a 300-pound woman?

How can you compare this? A person can control the weight, not height:)

This mentality of, "you're shallow if you can't look past appearance," is ridiculous no matter how it's applied.

I can see your point....but the bottom line is being comfortable in your own skin. If their insecure, then I can see why people would feel that way! For me, I do see people for who they are, because I am comfortable in my own skin. Do I have preferance....yes, but I would not object from dating someone who is overweight simply because they are overweight...If they have awesome attributes, then that outweighs the way they look either way:) So yes, I stand by my point it! Its shallow.

OK. But how do you know about their other attributes without having a conversation? And you have to approach that person to have that conversation and what is going to cause you to approach that person?

As far as being honey blond or D-cup breasts being dealbreakers? We may all think they're silly standards, but really, you can't control who or what you're attracted to.

Now, this is coming from someone who has dated men who I wasn't initially attracted to and who I got to know as people, but they are not men I would have approached or flirted with, say, if I saw them across a crowded bar. They just happened to be men I got to know as friends through other venues. Does that make me shallow?

No, it does not. Simply preferance...but now we are venturing into the realms of "would we talkwith this person first, then consider them a date" is a whole different chat. My orginal post pertained to people saying they were deal breakers without even giving that person a fair shot....

But ... there is no person. This is ALL hypothetical. There is not a specific man being held up in this thread to be judged. There is not a photo in the OP asking, "Would you talk to this man if he were not short?" We aren't sitting around in a room pointing to a specific person and asking random women if they find his height creepy.

There is no man. There is a hypothetical situation and people are offering their gut instincts. And being called shallow for it.

Dealbreaker...small body size....amongst other post. This is where my argument lies. Absolute without knowing the facts behind the person. To say I would be suprised would be a lie. I work in the fitness world and see how negative peeps into fitness can be(not all dont get me wrong here)...maybe that is where I sense this from, but in all fairness I could be wrong as I do not know any member here. Thier comments seem very similar to what I hear daily at the gym, and I can see the similarites. Hypothetical, I can not argue with that. I do however still stand by my point!:)

Well, anyone who dismisses a person as a dating prospect based on a physical attribute -- controllable or not -- is then shallow. And therefore, we should all just walk around with our eyes clsoed so as not to be judged for not being physically attracted to any person who might be interested in us.

I won't date men my age or younger. Ever. Never have, unless you count elementary school boyfriends. It is something that is a dealbreaker and something that is out of their control.

So I guess I am, in fact, shallow.

So hypothetically they lied about their age after 2 years of being together??? Your response?

rml_16

So hypothetically they lied about their age after 2 years of being together??? Your response?

My response to someone having lied to me for two years in a relationship? Is that really the question here?

jimmmer

Wow, a whole new molehill of stupid.

Just stack it over there with the mountain we've already got going on around here.....

Cranquistador

I hate this thread.

ajaxe432

So hypothetically they lied about their age after 2 years of being together??? Your response?

My response to someone having lied to me for two years in a relationship? Is that really the question here?

That about sums it up! On to newer things:)

MyChocolateDiet

It makes me sad how shallow some girls can be. This thread is disappointing on so many levels.

Then you shouldn't have bumped it 4 days after it had already died.

Is there anything in here to make it nuke worthy? This thread pains me too. It seems like "height shaming" if that's a thing.

As a shorty I have had the freedom to date guys of every height and I've dated some pretty HAWT short guys. They don't seem short at all when they carry themselves with that swagger and confidence and pull out big wallets or other things. I don't see how someone could have called it "creepy" even if an amazon with high breasts had hers at eye level. I have two tall cousins and they also date guys regardless of their height and it's never been an issue. When we were younger, partyers and drunk every weekend it might have made for some funny "eye level" moments but no one ever thought that was creepy just funny. By now everyone's used to their body and size and those awkward moments are avoided by the social graces and postures of the sober and civilized. Why is this thread even a thing?

msf74

According to a survey of 20,000 online daters:

a 5-foot-0 guy would need to make $325,000 more than a 6-foot-0 man to be as successful in the online dating market. A 5-foot-4 man would need $229,000; a 5-foot-6 man would need $183,000; a 5-foot-10 man would need $32,000. And if that 6-foot-0 man wanted to do as well as a 6-foot-4 man, he’d need to make $43,000 more.

link: http://tierneylab.blogs.nytimes.com/2007/04/09/how-dont-i-love-thee/?_r=0

I know women have preferences but that is ridiculous! And yet the prevailing idea that it is men that care more about looks or physical appearance than women. Lies...

Cranquistador

Off topic but I never understood why tall women, 5' 11"+, wear high heels.

I hate this just as much as i hate this thread.

Mother_Superior

IN! Because this kind of thing:

Always makes people feel great about themselves.

parys1

Off topic but I never understood why tall women, 5' 11"+, wear high heels.

I hate this just as much as i hate this thread.

No kidding. Some women wear high heels because they like them and heels look sexy as hell, particularly when they adorn never-ending legs.

Slacker16

Holy thread resurrection!

For what it's worth, the definition of shallow that is relevant to this is:
a : penetrating only the easily or quickly perceived
b : lacking in depth of knowledge, thought, or feeling

Height requirements in dating are very obviously shallow, but human beings are shallow to begin with so we might as well accept it. What I do think, however, is that strict and excessive height requirements are ridiculous.

If a girl says "must be 1.80+ for me to date him", she is eliminating 70% of men in most countries. The correlation between height and character is tenuous at best, so she is essentially multiplying her chances to meet someone compatible by 0.3. Finally, since nearly all women prefer tall men, she is also choosing the segment of the population for which she would have the most competition...

Edited to add:
For guys who were a bit butthurt about women preferring taller men, would you be comfortable dating a taller woman?

jimmmer

Edited to add:
For guys who were a bit butthurt about women preferring taller men, would you be comfortable dating a taller woman?

Up front, I can't say I was "butthurt" per se. Or even really disappointed. Just a bit sad. Yes sadness, that's the key emotion...

If by "dating" you mean owning a home with, living together for 10+ years having a beautiful baby daughter with. Then I suppose, yes, I would say I'm comfortable.

But then, I'm an adult.

in_the_stars

Has anyone noticed that guys add an inch or two on these sites, and women that are tall subtract an inch or two?

FatHuMan1

Holy thread resurrection!

For what it's worth, the definition of shallow that is relevant to this is:
a : penetrating only the easily or quickly perceived
b : lacking in depth of knowledge, thought, or feeling

Height requirements in dating are very obviously shallow, but human beings are shallow to begin with so we might as well accept it. What I do think, however, is that strict and excessive height requirements are ridiculous.

If a girl says "must be 1.80+ for me to date him", she is eliminating 70% of men in most countries. The correlation between height and character is tenuous at best, so she is essentially multiplying her chances to meet someone compatible by 0.3. Finally, since nearly all women prefer tall men, she is also choosing the segment of the population for which she would have the most competition...

Edited to add:
For guys who were a bit butthurt about women preferring taller men, would you be comfortable dating a taller woman?

Bro, do you even math?

BranMuffin86

I'm 5'9 and if he's 5'8 or shorter I might have a problem. He'll have to have one helluva personality.

_KitKat_

Don't think creepy is the right word, but attraction wise all men before my husband were at least 5'11" my husband is 6'. I am only 5'4" so most men are tall enough for me to even wear heels.

ETA: one annoyance with tall men is....my dang husband always puts things on top of the fridge and acts like i should have just checked there or seen the item...I can not reach the top of the fridge :grumble:

I also think most females just want a guy to be bigger than themselves. My oldest daughter is 5'6" at 13 and she only finds boy taller than her attractive because shorter boys make her feel too tall and some say so. So it isn't just girls being shallow it is also the way some boys/men act.

in_the_stars

I like to feel dainty and delicate, so i like men taller than me, at 5'2, I don't have a problem with that. I like it.

ldrosophila

Off topic but I never understood why tall women, 5' 11"+, wear high heels.

I hate this just as much as i hate this thread.

lol just makes me think someone has never experienced the thrill of trying out a little domme. You want power put a tall woman in high heels.

in_the_stars

Off topic but I never understood why tall women, 5' 11"+, wear high heels.

I hate this just as much as i hate this thread.

lol just makes me think someone has never experienced the thrill of trying out a little domme. You want power put a tall woman in high heels.

Not into it. I need no power when my man has it.

ldrosophila

Has anyone noticed that guys add an inch or two on these sites, and women that are tall subtract an inch or two?

not me always been proud of being tall...love to carry myself tall too

Slacker16

Bro, do you even math?

Yes I do.

If X and Y are independent variables, then P(X>a and Y>b)=P(X>a)*P(Y>B). Also, 1-70%=0.3...
I leave it up to you to fill in the gaps. This WILL be on the final.

Has anyone noticed that guys add an inch or two on these sites, and women that are tall subtract an inch or two?

I don't remember where I read it, but they've found that men and women both tend to add about two inches on dating sites. Anecdotally, I have been on a few e-dates with girls who were visibly shorter than they claimed. I thought it was endearing.

DamePiglet

Don't think creepy is the right word, but attraction wise all men before my husband were at least 5'11" my husband is 6'. I am only 5'4" so most men are tall enough for me to even wear heels.

ETA: one annoyance with tall men is....my dang husband always puts things on top of the fridge and acts like i should have just checked there or seen the item...I can not reach the top of the fridge :grumble:

I also think most females just want a guy to be bigger than themselves. My oldest daughter is 5'6" at 13 and she only finds boy taller than her attractive because shorter boys make her feel too tall and some say so. So it isn't just girls being shallow it is also the way some boys/men act.

Not me.
I have no problem with a guy based on his height. Now, if he's an a-hole, different story.

At 5'8, I'm way taller than average in this area (cajun people tend to be shorter than the national average)

It's common for me to be taller than men here.

However, I admit that I'm somewhat shallow. If I were still in the dating pool, I wouldn't get serious with a man who probably makes less than I do (which, admittedly, isn't all that much)

LishLash79

I'd do frodo baggins in a heartbeat.. true story.... and hes the perfect height for.. um NVM

zak138

I prefer taller guys, mainly because I'm only 5ft 6inch (167cm) hahaha but I'm not too fussed.

meshashesha2012

Bro, do you even math?

Yes I do.

If X and Y are independent variables, then P(X>a and Y>b)=P(X>a)*P(Y>B). Also, 1-70%=0.3...
I leave it up to you to fill in the gaps. This WILL be on the final.

Has anyone noticed that guys add an inch or two on these sites, and women that are tall subtract an inch or two?

I don't remember where I read it, but they've found that men and women both tend to add about two inches on dating sites. Anecdotally, I have been on a few e-dates with girls who were visibly shorter than they claimed. I thought it was endearing.

i remember reading somewhere that men tend to lie about height (if they are below 5'10) and their age and women tend to lie about weight and age. also the same article said that the for shorter guys who lie about their height, 5'10 was the most common fib and any guy reporting his height as over 5'10 it was more than likely true

cheekymcgee

Under 2'.....something about that newborn type....just creepy!

But seriously, WTF? Why would I find a short man creepy?

Erin_goBrahScience

I'm 5'10 and the shortest guy I went out was 5'2

But to be fair if Peter Dinklage asked me out I'd go



its all about attitude

LishLash79

I'm 5'10 and the shortest guy I went out was 5'2

But to be fair if Peter Dinklage asked me out I'd go



its all about attitude

^^^ yes.. to him.... HAWT^^