do people make comments on what you eat?

arlenem1974

sorry it took me so long to get back to you guys. I love all your comments. The people that make the comments aren't on mfp. No problems on here. Its mostly my neighbour. Every time he sees me eat something he asks me if I'm allowed to eat it. Drives me crazy. I have said I eat what ever I want like 100 times. I feel like no one listens to me. I know I'm doing well on here because if I wasn't I wouldn't be where I am today. Like some of you said its not a diet its a lifestyle change. I have people ask me at lest once a week who I do it or why I'm still on here logging my food. They think because I'm 5 lobs away from my goal I wouldn't need to use this site anymore. I tell them I don't want to be one of those people who lose weight on here leave to only have to come back because they put it back on. I seen it happen on here at lest 5 times some of these people are back 3 or 4 times because they think they can do it on there own. I think If I was able to do it on my own I never would have needed to use this site in the first place. I think the best way for me to lose the weight and keep it off is to eat what I like but don't go over my micros. Net at lest 1200 cals per day and eat in a way I feel I can maintain for the rest of my life not just until I get to the weight I want to be. I think If I don't comment on what you eat negatively you have no right to make those comments on mine.

sarahslim100

i get comments on how healthy a eater i am...all positive

TheRealParisLove

Every time he sees me eat something he asks me if I'm allowed to eat it.

This is rude. What business is it of his what you want to eat? Who elected him as diet police, anyway?

Maybe he doesn't realize that he is being a gigantic jerk, but I doubt it. Do not waste your breath on this person anymore. Call him on his rudeness. One of my favorite tactics is to ask someone to speak up after they say something inappropriate. Most people won't make rude comments in front of an audience. If you aren't comfortable confronting him on his rudeness, then just outright ignore the comment and anything else he has to say. Also, try to avoid social situations where he is likely to be in attendance.

Wilhellmina

As long as I can remember people have been telling me I have to eat more. Further nothing really. But it made me more reluctant to eat and I don't like to eat in public.

turtleball

As a little kid my doctor told me to eat more veggies and fruits. then I start hearing it every where "drop all the other food and only eat that". never heard of a calorie deficit in my life until I came to this website. You cant really blame people for being so ignorant, I found all of this information by accident by getting an app on my phone and then venturing to read threads on this website. But who are teaching those that dont know? No one. Doctors are too lazy to talk about it or even hand out pamphlets, they are better at handing out those medicine papers when you actually get sick.

Phoenix_Warrior

In my day to day, I get occasional off comments. Like going to my mom's she offered me a muffin, then quickly retracted it with "Oh, you're on a diet, you probably can't have that. " I ate that muffin. It irks me people make these assumptions.

As far as MFP, I get a lot of "great day" and "awesome job". Honestly, if someone on my friend's list was trying to beat me up over eating the way I do, out of anything but curiosity, I'd probably unfriend them. I respect others right to eat how they feel and I expect the same. Now, if I happen to catch someone consistently under eating, I will say something in as non abrasive manner as I can out of concern.

laceyfowler

I've been a little frustrated by comments I've gotten fairly recently as I've re-started my healthy lifestyle. I often work overseas, and right now I'm working in Italy. I came over here November 18th and will be here until February 8th. Here are the main irritating things I've heard in the past two months, followed by my responses:

"You can't lose weight in Italy!" (Yes, I can and I will/do.)

"No one loses weight in Italy!" (I'm sure some people do. I will/do.)

"You need to enjoy yourself in Italy, don't try losing weight until you get back!" (I will enjoy myself in Italy. I will taste some of the delicious local food... but I don't have to eat tons, or eat badly and not excercise, to enjoy myself! Besides... I don't want to wait to lose weight - I want to feel and look better now! No need to put it off another day.)

"Why would you ruin your time in Italy like that?" (Eating healthfully and working out doesn't "ruin" my time. It does take time, but I can still have lots of fun in Italy, while being pretty healthy!)

"The holidays aren't the time to lose weight!" (For me, they are. Maybe I'll lose a little more slowly during the holidays, but I will still lose. It's my gift to myself.)

"Just eat and enjoy yourself, it's the holidays!" (I will, and do, eat... but I can certainly enjoy myself while using moderation and being healthy.)

"Come on, enjoy the holidays (meaning "eat tons of crap"), you can work it off later." (I am enjoying the holidays... I don't have to eat copious amounts of unhealthy stuff to do that. And, I don't want to give myself anything more to "work off later" - I have enough to work off now, so I'm going to just stick with it.)


SW (Nov 19): 159

CW (Dec 20): 147.2

Mini-GW (Feb 7, when I leave Italy): 137

(I've made quicker progress than I had ever hoped for so far, but I know the progress will slow down, which is why this GW isn't as low as if I stayed on the pace I am now... would love to get to 133 but probably not realistic by Feb 7)

GW (Apr 27, my birthday): 128


Note: Please don't take this as me judging anyone for what they choose to do while they travel or over the holidays. We can each make our own choices... these are just mine, and I feel pretty good with making them :-)

monochrome_girl

I get the dreaded "can you eat that?" or "oh, I cant share this with you, can I - poor you"
which is mad because I don't talk to people about trying to improve my nutritional lifestyle.

I guess people are trying to be helpful but I find it embarassing!

Mainebikerchick

I usually get comments on specific things that look good, but I've never had anyone tell me I shouldn't be eating something. I eat really well 90% of the time though and am pretty good about eating my fruits and veggies too.

sugaspice999

Sometimes when I consistently eat clean for a week or more everyone asks me what I'm eating because they can tell I'm looking leaner, more energy, better skin, etc and I start wearing my little sisters clothes because I can actually zip up the jeans lol.

"What are you eating? Can I have some? Make some extra for me please? I'll wash the dishes if you make some?" etc but my Dad is sometimes like "The martian is making is her space food again huh?" haha

On the other hand, I sometimes go all out with pizza and ice cream and chocolate, and they'll just be shocked at how much I'm eating. But its easier to eat junk when not overweight (imo) because they're less likely to stop you, which I kind of feel bad about sometimes. I was never allowed to go get pizza, ice cream etc when overweight, now its "ok", sometimes even get asked to pick up some dominos. -_-

Also, at parties or family events, most of my aunts/relatives are on "diets" and they're shocked at how much I'm eating. (I do intermittent fasting sometimes so will be eating 2000 cals all at once) its pretty funny.

shred_me_up

yep, being vegetarian in france , land of foie gras makes you get some interesting comments... people are usually just clueless, my uncle the other day : "oh your vegetarian..." 5 minutes later "have some sausage!"

darrensurrey

Not often enough - but then I like a good argument. I rocked up to my gym eating a Crunchie the other day. And then I pulled out a few Quality Streets from my pocket midway through a session. All accounted for in my food log, of course!

bdtyson77302

I eat every few hours...it sped my metabolism so I too have the cookie if I want. I finally made my diary private so I wouldn't get the people who are perfect telling me how imperfect I am..lol. I went from a size 14 to a size 6 and have been a size 6 for more than a year...I look and feel great and when I'm hungry...I EAT!

Madmarsha

Since I'm not on a diet, I don't use that word. But people will and I know that most people mean well. I know how much I've learned about myself and eating just recently so I can't expect people to get that immediately or at all until it's no longer "new hat" and just not an issue anymore. But I also know I know things they don't because I've been reading a lot.

And here's the other thing: When I was eating stupidly and putting ON the weight, I wouldn't have tolerated anyone commenting on what I chose to eat and would have told them to MYOB. I see no reason to allow anyone to comment on it now either negatively or positively, right? I also tend to get incensed when people come talk to my husband and I while eating out (my husband is MUCH more of an extrovert than me) and he's finished but I'm still [trying] to enjoy my expensive food. I don't expect them to understand how much I'm working on really enjoying my food for the first time ever; but, regardless, I think it's rude and why I don't prefer to go to restaurants where my husband knows everybody. I appreciate being friendly but how's about not DURING the time I'm actively eating.

laddyboy

I get - are you eating again, he eats like a hungry bear, he won't eat that, you're always eating and my favorite I say myself..." I come to work to eat".

Sounds like even though you eat what you want that you're still eating at a deficit. I only caution this with the words of Tony Horton (P90X), you can eat Twinkies and lose weight but you'll still be a Twinkie on the inside. Eat healthy to be healthy inside and out.

Congrats on your weight loss

dlionsmane

Yep.
I'm finicky. I eat many of the same things often.
People have always asked how I can stand eating most of the same stuff all the time.
It just doesn't bother me, really.

Otherwise, I get a lot of "what? You ate PIZZA?! That's not 'diet food'!

I say, I know... I'm not on a diet.

This - exactly...
I eat the same things most days too... there is a guy at work who says to me 'oh, its fruit time' whenever I go get my hand cut and measured bowl of fruit...Or he will say - "what no chicken today" when I decide instead to get a sandwich....it kinda creeps me out... I just smile.

My family though constantly ask if I can have something they are eating, because "I thought you were dieting", or ask me how I can eat some things and still lose weight. I say to everyone - A) I am not dieting and Moderation not Deprivation!

nathalier71

People have always commented on how I eat - my whole life I'm probably the pickiest eater you've met with the most peculiar habits - i.e. my food doesn't touch each other in my plate...and the list goes on

The comments I sometimes get is you must be starving yourself - you are disappearing - I hope you are done losing weight.

My answers: I don't starve myself - I love food too much (well, the food I actually eat!) I eat what I want when I want including a bowl of chips every night. - No I'm not disappearing - I'm exactly where I should be. - Yes, I'm done losing weight.

The answers in my head: same - Maybe you should disappear with your stupid comments. - I'll be done losing when I decide when I'm done - not when you think I should be done.

adorbis

People used to, but nobody really comments on my eating habits anymore. If anything is said, it will be a "cheat day" reference (as they eat pizza for the 5th time of the week), but usually nothing more than that.

pacsqueen

For a long time i told almost no one (ESPECIALLY family members) that i had changed my eating habits because i wasnt interested in listening to their "helpful" comments. I've now lost 62 pounds and most people now know that i eat differently. Some do occasionally try to add their two-cents when they feel the need but my usual response now (with a smile of course!) is one of the following:

"Well, this seems to have been working just fine for me!" or if i'm feeling a bit cranky, you might get "Thanks, Slim!". I'm not perfect but I it works. .

ritoosh

I often get. Are you allowed to eat that, you shouldn't eat that and can you eat that? I eat what ever I want I don't eat clean low fat or low carb. I have lost over 69 lbs. since starting on here in Sept 2012 but since my heaviest March 2012 I have lost over 81 lbs. If I want a cookie I will eat one if I want a piece of Chocolate I eat one and If I want ice cream I eat it. Ever since I started on here I wanted to see if I could lose the weight without depriving myself of all the foods I like. It has worked for me. I don't plan to change.

What comments have people made about what you eat?

me too. but hey if ur within calories who cares do what you gotta do. I did that in the beginning but it did more harm for me than good so now I just try to have those things once in a while within the caloric limit

echofm1

I had one friend who kept looking at the things I was eating—beef and broccoli with lo mein, Italian food another time—and kept saying that it wasn't diet food. I finally had to explain to her when she mentioned the Chinese food that it wasn't about eating certain foods, just less of it!

FindingMyself24

Congrats on your weight loss!! I have had people say stuff to me in the past....a while back a friend(well not a friend after her comments) asked me to eat out with her...i was in the process of telling the waiter what i wanted and she interrupted me an said dont you wanna get this instead of that....i mean isnt it healthier??....i looked at her and said i dont care....i felt so embarrassed i barely ate...i agree with you though...i dont think you should deprive yourself....i think you should eat what you want if you are craving something...i used to think that depriving myself was the best way...but really no one really plans to deprive their self their whole life...so you should eat what you would normally eat but less and smarter, healthier versions of it!

L4gym

Yes I get it a lot - particularly at work. The tutting and finger wagging and knowing sideway glances! You're doing this right in my opinion - it's a lifestyle not a diet. Slow but sure is much more likely to become a lifelong habit than depriving yourself and missing out on nice meals with friends and the odd bit of chocolate. I log everything I eat and it's not often I go over. I've lost 42llb since January this year and I'm very happy with that. Good luck :-)

Exactly! I hate the word "diet" so much.

akoorn1982

My mum had a little slip of the tongue last weekend. She is normally very supportive though. We were having diner together and she finshed with some apple sauce. She immediatly closed the jar saying: you can't have it.... jaw meet table. So I told to please next time ask me if I can have it . If it is within my cal.count I can... please don't simply assume that I can't. She felt a bit stupid....

ktsmom430

On here they did. I made my diary private because of it.

People actually seeing what I eat, have never once made a negative comment in the almost two years I have been doing this.

My husband has asked me a couple of times, "do you feel full?", after seeing what I have eaten, but he has never had a weight problem and eats a huge amount of food, way more than my correct portion sizes. He is extremely active, and has a job where he is constantly moving around.

itsjemma

On MFP, not so much. Outside of MFP, absolutely, especially during the holiday season.

With my line of work, we often get many tins of chocolates, biscuits, sausage rolls etc gifted to us which we usually nibble at whilst on the job. Yesterday, I took a chocolate from one of the tins, and one of my colleagues said to me "You're actually going to eat one? I'm shocked". I had to use all my will power to stop myself from eye rolling. I've never denied myself anything since deciding to lose weight, why would one chocolate stop me now?

I just choose to ignore other peoples comments. I'm doing fine as it is, I'll carry on.