Fit For Future Families 2

LittleSpy

It's not necessarily AF, but I'd be willing to bet it's hormone related spotting. My AF was messed up a couple months ago (almost 2 weeks late) and then last month it corrected itself (almost 2 weeks early). But for an entire week before AF started (which was also just one week after it ended), I spotted. Light pink, light brown, or clear with a little clotting (sorry to be so graphic, just wanted to confirm that it sounds similar to what you're experiencing).

I think the entire situation with me was based on a weight-loss releated hormonal imbalance. Hormonal imbalances can DEFINITELY cause spotting. And messing with your BC can DEFINITELY cause a hormonal imbalance.

fitterpam

You heard they were more potent after a while? I've heard the opposite. LOL I know when my husband goes for the tests it's very much a timing thing. He has to go with a batch that is older than 2 days and not older than 5 so they are mature and fresh....I know, I'm comparing to produce....not nice. But seriously, less than 2 days means they aren't at full strength and more than 5 they are past expiry. So if you want the best chances, go with BD'ing between those time frames and you'll have a full army.

So according to my records, I'm set to start AF on Monday. I can't believe how irritated I was getting at everything this weekend. Starting with the dinner thing and moving on to several more. Either I'm less patient this weekend or everyone else is an idiot.....LOL I'm sure it's me.......isn't it? LOL So a week time frame is reasonable for me. The only thing I'm not sure about is I usually breakout during this time and there is nothing.

As far as the cravings go, my friend came over with the junk food and I didn't touch anything until after she did (not in a weird, thank goodness you're cracking open the chips now give them to me, kind of way). She didn't even notice and I think I stayed within maintenance calories. Unfortunately, my guilt free weekend is threatening to spill into my week because these cravings SUCK!!!! On a plus side today hubbie and I had a lunch date at the mall. Instead of getting two full meals, we got a 2 meat combo with veggies and a starch - so it was like splitting one, but with more of the meat....gosh, I love Bourbon Chicken..... With my healthy breakfast and my moderate dinner, I'm still coming in way under calories today, but don't say it too loud. I might hear it and want to junk it up a little

AlisaToth

For some reason i remember hearing that after long (Loooong) periods of time...like after long deployments etc etc that it was more likley to get preggo...but i may have heard wrong. I'm not a sperm expert..nor do i want to be right now! I'm just trying to figure out my own body first! :laugh:

I hear ya on the junk food. I'm already planning my "farewell meal" (everytime my husband leaves i have an alone night i rent girly movies and eat JUNK for one night and then batten down the hatches for WEEKS of nothing but healthy food). I'm kinda sad bc my goal of 135 is coming up this weeknd...and with my body freaking out i'm not sure i'm going to make it no matter how good i eat/exercise!

Pam, I forgot to mention how apalled i was when i read about your cousin's request for you to take them out to dinner! The audacity! I couldn't believe it! I have a difficult time with people like that and i would have very planly told him what i thought.

fitterpam

It's probably more easy to get preggo after long deployments because of the amount of activity going on, I would think.....LOL They say the #1 reason couples have trouble with conceiving is lack of sex.

Glad I'm not the only one

epa422

Alisa, it's probably just spotting from messing with your BC. They were trying to stabilize my migraines a few years ago and told me to skip the inactive week of pills. That just resulted in my having spotting every few days for several months. My body wanted to cycle. Also, implantation bleeding is extremely rare. Spotting after confirmed pregnancy, not rare. Implantation bleeding, rare. So I think the myth perpetuates because so many women want to convince themselves that it's a sign of pregnancy... I wouldn't worry, but I also wouldn't mess with your BC anymore. Your body wouldn't have had a chance to release ovulation chemicals if you kept using your hormones, you know?

I was out of the office and away from the computer today. My CW is 137.6 which is way up from Saturday. Stupid body.

Sorry about AF, Ivy.

Jennwith2ns

Good Afternoon

Sperm will day after a few days.. I believe its around 4 days but I could be a little off. That's why they tell the men NOT to go more than 3 days without any release when TTC because you may not be dealing with as many as you think. So if they die after 4 days, and he goes 5 days before BD with you, then really you only have 1 good day of building them up, not 5 like you would think.

We suffer from MFI so we can only BD every other day, and even then we only have about a 5% chance every month. Big fun!

As far as weight loss for me, Im doing really good with keeping under my calories, but Im not losing very fast so I think I need to add workouts or something.

abyt42

Had my annual today: good weight, good blood pressure....all positives. The PA asked what form of birth control we were using, and my reply was "living in two separate states.".... just silly, but where we're at right now.

ivygirl11

It's probably more easy to get preggo after long deployments because of the amount of activity going on, I would think.....LOL They say the #1 reason couples have trouble with conceiving is lack of sex.

Glad I'm not the only one

Hah apparently thats not our problem lol. My dr said we were having too much sex. you know what they say "too much of a good thing can be bad" lol. Cant i just find a happy medium

ivygirl11

AF has been INSANE this time. Which makes sense because i Dr told me if you ovulate your period more then likely will be full blown (like when i was a teenager), he said its when you dont ovulate that your periods are kind of light and come and go... So i kind of expected it to be bad, but its been a long time since i remember having a "normal" period. So its definitely not been pleasant.

Also i called my nurse but it was after hours so i left a message. Maybe i can get an answer here faster. So if day 21 falls on a sunday can you go in the next day (day 22) for the progesterone test? Its kind of good that AF was a little late because that means i can get the blood test done the day after we get home from our cruise... So thats good...

fitterpam

We suffer from MFI so we can only BD every other day, and even then we only have about a 5% chance every month. Big fun!

Yep - so do we. Actually, on the papers from the surgery it says severe (My DH thought it said sever....LOL "What did they sever?") At less than an average of 4M, it's next to 0%...coupled with my problems....it's less than 0%.....NEVER SAY NEVER is our motto

Ivy....sorry it's so rotten!!! People don't believe how bad it can get. I sympathize completely.

jalara

Hey all -

I missed check in yesterday because I didn't want to do it. There I said it. I'm not good at losing weight, I don't like seeing my failure over and over again all the time. So I weighed in and saw I was back to 221 and I didn't want to share. So there you go. I'm sharing again. Argh!

I'm very exciting to be BDing soon (8 weeks away!). There is a fountain of knowledge on here, and so many kind people to share and explain things.

With that said, I wanted to (gently) remind everyone that this is also a weight loss support group.

The reason I'm bringing this up is that I've got messages from 2 people this weekend, who have left our little group, because they were here for weight loss support, and found we don't talk about that all too often anymore. Instead of discussing goals, progress, rough days and helpful tips, more often there aee 2-3 pages in a row about Oing, temping, BDing, 2ww, etc.

I'm on board with helping each other through this life transition, but can we try to remember why we're here? Many aren't actively TTC quite yet.

I just wanted to drop aquick note to "nudge" everyone :flowerforyou: I hope no one minds!

abeare

Don’t worry about the number jalara, you are right to reiterate that this was supposed to be a weight loss support group, but even more so than that this is a thread on creating and sustaining healthy choices for our future families. So forget about the number for a moment and focus on what you’ve been doing to and want to do to in order to get that healthy lifestyle.

I’ll start: My weigh in yesterday was a little wonky as any of you that read the post would know, but I re-weighed in this morning at 157.6 lbs, I lost 3.5 lbs last week. It is always nice to know that my working out 5 days for an hour each day, not to mention the half hour walk there and back to the gym last week paid off. I’ve stuck to my calories for the most part. I went a bit over on the weekend, but at least out of the entire extra, none were empty calories.
My goals this week are to watch my calories, drink lots of water, and once again go to the gym 5 times this week. I’ve been also trying to watch what types of food I’m eating, I’m trying to eat as little processed foods as possible (my DH actually made me homemade vegetable broth for our quinoa recipe on Sunday to make sure I wasn’t going over my sodium levels by getting canned or powdered broth), I’m also trying to eat a healthy snack every 2 hours and trying to comply with the fruit and veggie intake.

What else are other people doing in order to stay healthy?

jalara

I really don't want to upset anyone! I'm sorry if I do, I just want this to be a place where everonoe can come who hve the same goals.

Jennwith2ns

I think that was put very fairly and gently I'm just glad to have found a place to talk about both, and these are both on my mind constantly!

I GAINED 1/2 a lb between yesterday and today so I am trying to switch it up a little bit today. I am going to add workouts and change WHAT I'm eating, not just how much. I stay under my calories every single day, but sometimes I eat really unhealthy things. Im not saying I wont ever do that, but I just want to eat "mostly" healthy foods

So I took the day off (haha) and I just had my pre-workout banana. I will be doing my turbo jam in about 20 minutes then see how my day goes after working out in the morning before work. I heard it boosts your metabolism a lot, so I want to try it out.

abeare

Kuddos to you Jennwith2ns, I wish I could workout in the mornings! I’ve tried on many occasions and will possibly try many more. I heard that it boost your metabolism too! I just wish that when 5:30am rolled around I didn’t hit snooze instead of getting up and at least do 20minutes of yoga! Best of luck with the morning workouts!

jalara

Jennwith2ns - which Turbo Jam are you doing? I never got bast the intro disk!

Mellie13

Thanks for the reminder. I agree that it was put very nicely (probably nicer than I would have put it)! Well, I weighed myself this morning and almost started crying!! It was 147!!!! I hope that is a temporary water weight thing, but my eating has not been so hot and I have not worked out at all!! But, Dh and I are going for our 5K+ walk this evening and I am not going to let him get out of it! My goals are to start diligantly logging my food again and to work out at least 3 times a week. Even those goals seem very challenging right now!!

paldal

Thanks for this jalara, it's so great to hear what everyone else is experiencing with their attempts at TTC, but, I didn't have much to say on the topic, so I became a silent observer.
It is important to discuss temping, BDing, etc., however, it wasn't necessarily helping me with the weight loss aspect....

anyway....someone (pmaria maybe?) had suggested Alphabet dating, is anyone still doing that?

AlisaToth

Jalara- I too think you put it very politely and I don't think anyone should be offended, you're just doing your job as "thread creator" by reminding us of why we are here! I agree with abeare in that i am glad I can come and talk about both! I am sad that we lost some people! Hopefully they will contiue to follow and find that they CAN find both weight loss support AND TTC support. I think for some (myself included) being only 6-8lbs from my goal it's harder for me to focus on the weight loss and all i can think about is TTC (although after the whole spotting thing and convincing myself that it was implantation bleeding I think i should "mentally" cool off with the TTC thinking for a while :laugh: ) Which is kind of ironic bc since i AM so close to my goal I should be more focused than ever!

Also, don't worry too much about what you see on the scale. I too had a BAD weigh in this week and didn't want to share..but i think i ended up sharing anyway. After a sodium PACKED weekend + my cycle COMPLETELY freaking out on me I tipped the scale back at 139...I weighed myself again today and was down to 138.2 so it's gradually coming down. I did bad with Sodium again yesterday (ate left over KFC for dinner....) but today i think i've got it under control!

I took "P" (my son) and Bruno (our dog) for a 1/2 mile walk last night. It felt nice, it was fun to watch P ride his bike along side (and nice that i didn't have to walk at a snail's pace waiting for him to keep up) I think we might make that a daily thing, after dinner we can walk to the mailbox which is about a 10th of a mile from the house and if you make the complete loop around the block it's a 1/2 mile.

In other news, my husband is sticking around for another 2 weeks! It's nice bc he's be home longer, but sucky bc he'll still be gone for a month when he does leave. Which will put his return VERY close to Thanksgiving week...and I just bought plane tickets to OH for Thanksgiving to visit HIS family...He better be home in time! HaHa Silly Military, always changing stuff at the last minute! But he's happy bc we didn't get nearly as much stuff done around the house as we wanted while he was home...so guess where I'll be all weekend...in the yard....

anewJess

I'm a bit on the same page as Jalara with not wanting to weigh in yesterday. :ohwell: I weighed in at Curves on Saturday for the weight-loss challenge and came in at 178.5 (meaning I did not have to pay $1!). Yesterday I was 179, and today I'm 180. My weekend involved a bit of cheating going over on calories (most likely, because I was cheating so much that I wasn't keeping track too much!). Yesterday was alright, but we had pizza for dinner because that's our football tradition (we only watch our favorite team, so don't worry, we don't have pizza every Sunday, Monday, and Thursday, lol). I tried not to eat too much, and I didn't get pepperoni on it like I usually do, but it still probably didn't help. I know that my eating habits aren't spectacular, but they have been improving since Labor Day when I started to count calories and work out, so I'm wondering if I am having so much trouble losing weight because of hormones. I get so frustrated because there are so many variables when it comes to weight loss, and I can't figure out what my problem is (or problems are). If some of it is hormones, hopefully I'll have some relief soon as it seems that AF is arriving. If I'm reading things right, today will be spotting with it being full force tomorrow, lol. That would be right on schedule with O'ing on the 15th and not being pregnant. I feel more relieved than I thought I would (I thought I'd be disappointed) because the not knowing is so difficult. It's just nice to have an idea of what is going on.

DH and I need to sit down and work on a meal plan and get some commons goals for eating. I think it would do us both some good. I'm doing well with working out at least 4 times a week, but I'd love to incorporate something else like yoga, if I can find a good time and the motivation! I also don't think I drink enough water or get enough sleep, but incorporating more of both seems easier said than done sometimes. It's difficult to feel like so much in my life needs a good overhaul. I want to take small steps, but I get overwhelmed with the big picture and I tend to shut down. I guess I'm already taking small steps, but I don't feel like I'm getting anywhere. Even some small results would be motivating!

Jennwith2ns

I didn't end up doing my turbo jam, I can't find it, lol. That's how long it has been since I've done it! But on a whim I decided to sign up at Curves, so my first workout is tonight at 6.

AlisaToth

I really want to start going to the Gym Gym....but the one in town is so expensive....and the one on base is so far...so i'd be paying a ton in gas for a free gym or paying monthly for a gym that is closer AND has childcare...hmm...what to do what to do.....

ron2282

So we cut our trip short and came back last night. AC isn't really much fun if you're not a drinker or a gambler, and there's only so much you can do on the boardwalk when it's pouring rain. (Plus my father-in-law snores like a freight train, so we got zero sleep).:ohwell: DH finally said we couldn't do another sleepless night so we left. I feel bad, but neither of us are good people to be around on no sleep so it was probably best. My in-laws will be there until Saturday so I have some time to get my house back in order and really step up the exercise before they come back. I don't feel comfortable working out in the living room when they're here. I was doing a lot of running last week before we left but I feel like I get a better workout with my DVD's.

I weighed in this morning and was the same as last week. I was sure I'd gain because we ate out every day in AC but I guess all the walking helped to even it out. This week I want to drink 10 - 12 glasses of water and do something active every day. I'm determined that the scale will have a lower number next Monday. I'm come so far that I've been letting myself slip back into old habits with food lately. I tell myself, "I've lost over 40 pounds one piece of chocolate won't kill me" but that one piece leads to another and another.....I need to knock it off!

DH and I tried to get a jog in between all the storms we're having. Of course as soon as we got about 1/2 way it starts to POUR. It's much harder to jog when you're soaking wet. :laugh: I thought I was going to die, but we made it.

ivygirl11

Someone should start a TTC thread only then. Someone suggested this thread to me because i was needing support with TTC i felt like there are SO many other threads on here for weight loss support. So thats why i came here. I kind of think that it is silly that some people got offended and emailed you. But good on you for trying to make it a place where everyone feels welcomed. A friend and i started a message board a few years ago (still going stong) and ive come to the realization that you just cant please everyone, and there will always be people who get offended somehow...

that said (hope i didnt ruffle any feathers)

AF flow is here and so i am not weighing this week. My fingers are totally swollen and im way bloated. I am however still trying to conquer the no soda deal. thats hard, and seems impossible without some of the medication i have taken in the past that made soda taste so bad i couldnt drink. But with ttc i cut back on alot of my meds...

jalara

Someone should start a TTC thread only then. Someone suggested this thread to me because i was needing support with TTC i felt like there are SO many other threads on here for weight loss support. So thats why i came here. I kind of think that it is silly that some people got offended and emailed you. But good on you for trying to make it a place where everyone feels welcomed. A friend and i started a message board a few years ago (still going stong) and ive come to the realization that you just cant please everyone, and there will always be people who get offended somehow...

Have you ever been on www.thebump.com ? There is all kinds of info there, and it really focuses on TTC without the main focus being on weight loss. I find it a really good place to chat. That said, anyone here can start a thread! It's a great way to reach out to people! I can understand people wanting to take part in a Weight Loss for TTC group - it's what this My Fitness Pal is for afterall

AlisaToth

Personally (this is only my opinion)I think this is a very diverse group and that's what i like about it. There are a handful of us that are not quite ready to start TTC just yet (woohoo only 13 more weeks!), there are a handful of folks that have been actively TTC for years and are experts in all kinds of different fertility options out there to help with that and there are a handful who just started TTC and are just waiting on the BFP. It's nice bc it gives perspective from everyside of the TTC angle as well as we all share the common goal of trying to be "Fit for our future families". So general encouragement to maintain a healthy lifestyle is absolutely important bc the habits we form now with eating healthy, losing weight and staying actice are the habits that will not only help us to actually GET pregnant but to stay healthy throughout the desired pregnancy.

epa422

Not trying to be argumentative but if TTC questions are asked, shouldn't people answer them? I think that's all that was happening. I will leave the thread as I am one of the main offenders. I was trying to respond equally to those comments on weight loss as well. So I wasn't trying to rock the boat, but I have knowledge and want to share it when people need it. I hope your other members come back. Good luck everyone.

epa422

Double post from phone. Sorry.

jalara

This is what I was trying to avoid! No one needs to leave!

It' great that questions get answered. It's great that there is a wealth of information to share, and people willing to help others. That's why this group is comfortable and a familiar place to share insecurities and thoughts.

But it is a weight loss group on a weight loss sight, and I want to encourage everyone to keep that in mind, because not everyone can talk science, when all they're trying to do is slim down with like-minded individuals.

This isn't an offence to anyone, just a nudge.

AlisaToth

Ericaroo, I (again, just opinion) don't think you are a main "offender". I agree that your posts are pretty equal between TTC and weight loss, and you've been helpful in answering some of my questions as have a lot of the other ladies. I think it was just that one instance that the Oing topic went on for a really long time and that was the only thing that was being discussed.
I'll admit i got lost in it and had a hard time finding things to post about bc it appeared that was the only topic that anyone was interested in talking about and that really didn't apply to me since i'm on BC right now and don't O...So I think all that Jalara was trying to do was bring it to everyone's attention that we should remember that not only are we TTC but also trying to live healthy. Maybe in someway trying to help us all stay accountable and not get lost in the TTC stuff and maybe focusing on the healthy living might be a distracting for those waiting on the BFP's?
I would encourage you and everyother active "post-er" to stick with the group! Everyone here brings something different to the group and has something to share!