Fit For Future Families 2

CudyBug

hopeful- I read on numerous websites that they advice not having sex a few days before getitn the iud out because the sperm is still alive and you are possible to get pregnant then. Just some interesting facts. I am curious to see how long it takes you to get pregnant though since I have an iud and im wanting to ttc in april. Im most likely going to get it taken out this month since our medicaid is up after this month and I dont want to pay the copay with the new insurance or have them say they wont pay for the removal since its a pre existing condition.

epa422

pmaria, then that could be good timing for implantation bleeding. However, if you were on birth control before trying, it's completely normal to have a couple of weird cycles before you body gets back on track. P.S. I ovulated sometime between the 23 and 25, so I'm right there in that wait with you.

hopeful, I've read about it taking some women a long time to get their period after having an IUD removed. If I were you, I'd probably wait until 8 weeks is up and then call your doctor if it hasn't shown up.

Another great site for TTC is the Baby Center Community. http://community.babycenter.com. I've learned so much about fertility from the women there.

kennedar

Hey everyone

Can I join this group?? My husband and I started TTC when we came home from our honeymoon on June 1, 2009. We got pregnant right away and were due on April 6, 2010. Sadly, I lost our angel on September 3, making today our angel-versary. Since then, we have not had any luck. I have been treating a luteal phase disorder with acupuncture, which seems to have been working wonders and we have scheduled our first RE visit on November 2. I am trying to lose weight in order to keep my mind off of the stress of TTC. If I can not control when I ovulate, at least I can control what I eat and when I exercise.

If anyone is on fertilityfriend, I am active on their boards with the same name (kennedar).

epa422

Kennedar, I'll look for you on FF. :-) I'm so sorry for your loss! ((hugs))

pmaria10

ericaroo: Oh that's exciting! Maybe we'll conceive around the same time. Unfortunately, i think i got my period a couple days early because there was more blood this morning and my breast are tender(which is normal for me during my period). Normally my cycle averages around 30 days but usually stays between 25-32 days each month i don't know if you would call this irregular or if most women's cycles vary from month to month....i need to research that. It's kind of a bummer though cause my husband was getting excited and liked the idea of being pregnant but realistically i know that it usually doesn't happen within the first try from what i've heard or that it's rare. How long have you been TTC? If you don't mind me asking....?

kennedar: I'm so sorry for the loss of you little angel. Good luck with you current efforts!

brookesmommy720

I'm pretty new to myfitnesspal, but I love it so far!

I had my first baby in July 2009. I was overweight before her, but I haven't been able to lose weight since I had her - until I started using this website! We plan on starting to TTC baby #2 around the holidays.

My mini-goal is to lose another 15 lbs by Halloween (I've lost almost 10 lbs in 3 weeks!) and to drink all my water everyday (I'm terrible about this).

Nice to meet everyone!

ron2282

Apparently there is a rumor going around at work that the only reason I’m losing weight is because my husband is disgusted by me and threatened to leave me if I don’t. :noway: :grumble: Are you kidding me??? I have a pretty good idea who started it – for whatever reason this one person finds something wrong in everything I do. At first I was really upset, but I refuse to let it get to me. In fact, I feel really bad for her that her life is so miserable that she has to resort to being so immature. Aaahhhh – sorry, had to vent!!!

epa422

ericaroo: Oh that's exciting! Maybe we'll conceive around the same time. Unfortunately, i think i got my period a couple days early because there was more blood this morning and my breast are tender(which is normal for me during my period). Normally my cycle averages around 30 days but usually stays between 25-32 days each month i don't know if you would call this irregular or if most women's cycles vary from month to month....i need to research that. It's kind of a bummer though cause my husband was getting excited and liked the idea of being pregnant but realistically i know that it usually doesn't happen within the first try from what i've heard or that it's rare. How long have you been TTC? If you don't mind me asking....?

One thing I found really helpful was charting my temperatures. That will show you when you ovulate (which can change from month to month) and how long your luteal phase (the length of time from ovulation to your period) is. So then you can tell about when your period will show up based on when you ovulated each month. My cycle ranges from 27-30 days. I usually ovulated around cycle day 15. I use www.fertilityfriend.com to keep track of my temps. It's free and they have some really great tutorials on figuring out your cycle. I probably wouldn't worry about temping for a few months and just have fun for awhile, but it's always there if you run into "problems" since not every woman ovulates on day 14. You can look at my charts here: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2df531

We've been trying for 8 months. It hit frustrating at 6 months and downright depressing last month since my period showed up 2 days later than it should have. So I decided not to temp or worry this month (which I failed at miserably) and I'm just trying to focus on being healthy.

A normal couple will usually get pregnant within a year of beginning to try. Your chances of conceiving each month are between 15% (for old people like me ) and 20% for couples under 30. And there's your fertility lesson for the day. LOL

epa422

Apparently there is a rumor going around at work that the only reason I’m losing weight is because my husband is disgusted by me and threatened to leave me if I don’t. :noway: :grumble: Are you kidding me??? I have a pretty good idea who started it – for whatever reason this one person finds something wrong in everything I do. At first I was really upset, but I refuse to let it get to me. In fact, I feel really bad for her that her life is so miserable that she has to resort to being so immature. Aaahhhh – sorry, had to vent!!!

Wow! What a horrible person... Sorry you're having to deal with that.

ron2282

Welcome kennedar and brooksmommy7. This is a great group of ladies!! Having the support of this group has really helped me to stick to MFP.

pmaria10

ron2282: That's horrible! Some people spread malicious gossip for one reason...... more than likely shes jealous of you. So, hold your head up high and be proud of your progress because you're doing an excellent job staying healthy. This may be a tactic to derail you off your healthier habits.

AlisaToth

Ron: Seriously! I would be talking to management about that. It is one thing to not like someone, it is completely another to start rumors about that person! That is SERIOUSLY unprofessional and uncalled for. Good for you for trying to ignore it, but from what i understand you've had issues with the people you work before...I would say something...but that's just me.

This morning was kinda...no not kinda, VERY dissapointing...I was REALLY looking forward to this weeks weigh in bc i was eating good all week, i started a new work out routine...i was READY to break this plateu...yeah. GAINED .2oz....So, i decided this would be good timing to just eat good and keep workin gout all weekend, and change my weigh in's to Monday. give myself a few more day. Maybe today was just a bad scale morning...

kennedar

Ron: What a horrible person! I can not believe anyone would spread that kind of rumor after the age of about 16! Hopefully most people in your office realize that it is not true.

I second the recommendation for fertilityfriend. It helped me diagnose and treat our underlying fertility problem without having to wait to see a doctor. While it seems like most of the ladies here are early in their journey, if you start to get frusterated, I found temping to really help. The ladies on FF are wonderful and super supportive as well. Its well worth the $5 we pay each month for it!

pmaria10

ericaroo/kennedar: Thanks for letting me know about FF looks like a really great site!

jalara

Apparently there is a rumor going around at work that the only reason I’m losing weight is because my husband is disgusted by me and threatened to leave me if I don’t. :noway: :grumble: Are you kidding me??? I have a pretty good idea who started it – for whatever reason this one person finds something wrong in everything I do. At first I was really upset, but I refuse to let it get to me. In fact, I feel really bad for her that her life is so miserable that she has to resort to being so immature. Aaahhhh – sorry, had to vent!!!

OMFG people are so ridiculous! What a horrible rumor for someone to start - human deciency people - jeesh!:explode:
I'm sorry that someone put a downspin on your tremedous accomplishment - you have my support, respect and admiration.

Have you spoken to her, or will you?

kcurtis05

RON2282:

ron2282: That's horrible! Some people spread malicious gossip for one reason...... more than likely shes jealous of you. So, hold your head up high and be proud of your progress because you're doing an excellent job staying healthy. This may be a tactic to derail you off your healthier habits.

My thoughts exactly!!

kcurtis05

BTW...
Weighed in this morning...and.... DOWN .6 lbs! :bigsmile:
I have been really discouraged lately and eating terrible! This rental house really makes it hard to eat at a decent time of night and healthy!
Still no AF, going on 5 months off the depo....I'm kind of over the waiting, but I think I am beginning to accepted that it will happen when Gods says its time. So it just gives me more time to meet my goals and get this house rented! But I still think I am going to check out fertilityfriend.

epa422

Still no AF, going on 5 months off the depo....I'm kind of over the waiting, but I think I am beginning to accepted that it will happen when Gods says its time. So it just gives me more time to meet my goals and get this house rented! But I still think I am going to check out fertilityfriend.

Wow! That's a long time with no AF! I imagine you've talked to your doctor... but if not, they can give you prometrium to get you jump started so you have the chance to start ovulating again. Fertilityfriend won't be much good to you until AF shows. :grumble:

Also, congrats on losing more weight. Any little bit helps!

kcurtis05

Still no AF, going on 5 months off the depo....I'm kind of over the waiting, but I think I am beginning to accepted that it will happen when Gods says its time. So it just gives me more time to meet my goals and get this house rented! But I still think I am going to check out fertilityfriend.

Wow! That's a long time with no AF! I imagine you've talked to your doctor... but if not, they can give you prometrium to get you jump started so you have the chance to start ovulating again. Fertilityfriend won't be much good to you until AF shows. :grumble:

Also, congrats on losing more weight. Any little bit helps!

Thanks; yeah I have an appointment on the 15th to see what she says. Hopefully she can do something! My DH is just as impatient as I am, saying, " I hope it doesn't take much longer." That doesn't help. :grumble:

epa422

DHs are horribly annoying and clueless when it comes to TTC... at least mine is and so are the husbands of 10 other girls I'm friends with who are going through the same thing. :laugh: I think the problem is that we were all told so many times when we were younger that it just took one time without protection and you'd be in trouble. Well that's just not true in the vast majority of cases and so now they just don't know what to believe.

I hope your appointment gets you some answers!

ron2282

Thanks ladies, you made me feel a lot better. :bigsmile: Thankfully most of the people in the office know my husband because he used to work there too (that’s how me met), so no one really believes her. I wasn’t going to say anything to her because I’m a big baby and don’t like confrontation, but I actually overheard her telling another coworker! I hung back for a second because I wanted to hear a bit more. The person she was talking to said she didn’t believe her for a second and that she needs to stop spreading lies. I finally walked over to her and said that I have no idea what I ever did to make her so upset with me but she’s acting completely unprofessional and childish. If she has a problem with me she needs to tell me not spread lies. She got really defensive and walked away without giving me a reason or an answer. We used to get along fine, but as soon as DH and I started to plan our wedding and bought our house she started to change, and it just got worse when I began to lose weight. I’ve always tried to be really nice to her because I know she’s having trouble in her marriage. I even told her about MFP because she was trying to lose weight. She never joined but she was doing great for a while and then just stopped. Her weight is none of my business but she sits across from me and yesterday she was eating a chocolate bar and saying “mmmmm…this chocolate is sooo good. Do you want some? Oh, I forgot you can’t have any.” I really want to request a move, but we just had a big seating change and she’s only been sitting across from me for 3 days. I know my supervisor won’t approve it since we have no empty seats so I’d have to switch with someone and it’s a big pain to transfer our computer files. Oh well, such is life right? I posted the Serenity Prayer above my computer and I’m buying a better set of headphones this weekend. I’m just considering this God’s way of trying to make me a better person. :laugh:

Oh wow, that’s a long post! :blushing: Sorry ladies, and thanks again!!!

ron2282

DHs are horribly annoying and clueless when it comes to TTC...

My DH thought that when we start TCC we're going to do the baby dance 3 times a day. :noway: :huh: Are you kidding me???? I set him straight on that subject real quick! :laugh: :laugh:

pmaria10

ron2282: your last comment made me LOL. Isn't just like men! hahaha

epa422

My DH thought that when we start TCC we're doing to do the baby dance 3 times a day. :noway: :huh: Are you kidding me???? I set him straight on that subject real quick! :laugh: :laugh:

Hilarious! We're lucky if we have the energy for every other day during the fertile time... :yawn:

AlisaToth

My DH thought that when we start TCC we're doing to do the baby dance 3 times a day. :noway: :huh: Are you kidding me???? I set him straight on that subject real quick! :laugh: :laugh:

Ron: When the Hub and I started talking about when we would start TTC i told him we were going to do the baby dance everyother day and he was like "wow...that's A LOT more than we're used to, are we going to be able to do it that often??" HaHa Not that he wasn't excited, but we both have very stressful, draining jobs and rarely have the energy to go at it more than once or twice a week!
Also, do you work in a call center? That sounds like pretty typical call center behavior to me! (I worked in a call center for almost 5 years...I was ready to pull my hair out by the time i quit)

**Edit: Ericaroo: Glad we're not the only ones! :-)

ron2282

My DH thought that when we start TCC we're doing to do the baby dance 3 times a day. :noway: :huh: Are you kidding me???? I set him straight on that subject real quick! :laugh: :laugh:

Ron: When the Hub and I started talking about when we would start TTC i told him we were going to do the baby dance everyother day and he was like "wow...that's A LOT more than we're used to, are we going to be able to do it that often??" HaHa Not that he wasn't excited, but we both have very stressful, draining jobs and rarely have the energy to go at it more than once or twice a week!
Also, do you work in a call center? That sounds like pretty typical call center behavior to me! (I worked in a call center for almost 5 years...I was ready to pull my hair out by the time i quit)

**Edit: Ericaroo: Glad we're not the only ones! :-)

I work at the welfare office. :ohwell:

tahmed

My DH thought that when we start TCC we're doing to do the baby dance 3 times a day. :noway: :huh: Are you kidding me???? I set him straight on that subject real quick! :laugh: :laugh:

Ron: When the Hub and I started talking about when we would start TTC i told him we were going to do the baby dance everyother day and he was like "wow...that's A LOT more than we're used to, are we going to be able to do it that often??" HaHa Not that he wasn't excited, but we both have very stressful, draining jobs and rarely have the energy to go at it more than once or twice a week!
Also, do you work in a call center? That sounds like pretty typical call center behavior to me! (I worked in a call center for almost 5 years...I was ready to pull my hair out by the time i quit)

**Edit: Ericaroo: Glad we're not the only ones! :-)

You guys have me laughing so hard. My DH was and still is so totally confused. He couldn't figure out why we had to be sure to do it a certain time of month, just couldn't comprehend the timing of ovulation. Now he is even more confused, and keeps asking when we are going to "start doing it every other day again". I am like, seriously?!?!? Now you get the every other day thing, after I get prego???? I am telling you, you cant win with these guys!!!

Have a great weekend everyone.

epa422

Now he is even more confused, and keeps asking when we are going to "start doing it every other day again". I am like, seriously?!?!? Now you get the every other day thing, after I get prego???? I am telling you, you cant win with these guys!!!

:laugh: Men... :noway:

fitterpam

Now he is even more confused, and keeps asking when we are going to "start doing it every other day again". I am like, seriously?!?!? Now you get the every other day thing, after I get prego???? I am telling you, you cant win with these guys!!!

:laugh: Men... :noway:

Awwww.....my hubbie didn't quite get it at the beginning, but since we've been trying for so long the response is now.....really, didn't we just do it yesterday? Well if I have to...... nothing quite like TTC to take the spark out of babydancing.....Thankfully since we found out our chances are next to nothing for natural conception (really like 0.002% chance of conception each YEAR), we've gone to a less frequent schedule and the spark is back....but when it becomes a chore......

AlisaToth

So...the 30 day shred just became the 29 day shred. :grumble: I sadly didn't get to do it today. My son came home from school (week 2 of kindergarden!!) with head lice...ewwwwwwwwww so i have spent the last few hours scouring his head, his bed, his room, my bed, my room....YUCK! I would rather deal projectile vomit and other "gross mommy jobs" then to EVER have to do this again!!! Gag! I am totally optimistic about jumping back on the band wagon tomorrow! Plus more cleaning/scrubbing/scouring and making sure that every potential "louse" breeding ground is eliminated!!!