Most awkward weight comment

WSG88

Mine too came from my 78 year old grandmother. I seen her before halloween, I had went from 180 pounds to 136 and she said "My goodness, Whitney! You look so good!" then she seen me on Christmas day (10 pounds heavier) and in front of our family she rubbed my stomach and said "Oh Whitney, your not already pregnant again are you?" I shook my head and said "No Granny I just gained a little weight over the holidays" and she replied "You sure did" I love her to death, but I kinda wanted to punch her in the throat!

9bars

Someone at work who came back to my dept after being in another one for a few months

"Gosh you have lost some weight haven't you are looking really good" I replied thank you, but she continued "I was shocked before I went how much weight you had gained, I'm not being rude, but you had got really big hadn't you" I didn't reply, but she carried on "yes keep it up because you are looking really good, I used to be big, but thank God I starting working here and the weight fell off, I'm a size 10 (UK) now, but I kept all my old clothes and I get them out sometimes and can't believe I was ever that big, I was a 16....."

I was just getting into a size 16 at the time and feeling fab lol, it's a good job I have a thick thin as she gave me a good laugh as she had no idea how rude she was.

Rosie_McA

Being told that I look like I've just been released from a concentration camp. Nice.

My stats say that I'm not underweight, so I can only assume that such comments are designed to make the perpetrator feel better about themselves?

steffipaulina

When I was about 10lbs heavier in college a classmate told me "Too bad you weren't a bit bigger, you could be a plus size model."

This really bothered me because I am not even 'big'. And I wasn't even 'big' at that time - I just wasn't as slim as I usually am.

I shouldn't be horrified by that comment but I still am. It's just ridiculous what society thinks 'plus size' is these days.

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DebraYvonne

My best friend told me very flatly in my 4th month of pregnancy with my first child that I didn't look pregnant I just looked fat. I went home and cried.

mdhummel

My mother-in-law asked me if I was jealous of my sister. When I replied "no" and asked "why?" she responded "Well, you have to try so hard to lose weight and your sister is just naturally thin."

Got to love MILs!

MrsG31

These stories are so painful. I have never been overweight, so I don't know the struggle. But I have gained and lost weight and have heard the weight comments. I can't imagine what it feels like to be asked him i'm pregnant. wtf?????? Even if I wonder, or suspect someone is, it's just good sense to NEVER ASK. Where are people's home training? Good grief...

Home training, lol - And that is exactly the term I used at work that asked when someone said something about me looking pregnant. I gave her a look and said, "Someone needs some home training!" And then they looked at me like I was being rude.

Unless the woman says something to you about being pregnant, DO NOT ASK.

aliencheesecake

Somebody told me at a party in front of everybody that I'd lost so much weight that I looked even smaller than her... Then there was an awkward moment when everybody looked embarrassed as I was still clearly overweight and she is very tiny so it was so untrue it was laughable! I think the comment was genuinely meant well but I was quite embarrassed!

Ouch! Yeah, people often mean well, but some of us really don't think it through before commenting on appearance.

Yeah, I found it funny that the same ppl praising my sister for losing weight were telling how good I looked with a few extra pounds. People are clueless.

aliencheesecake

My best friend told me very flatly in my 4th month of pregnancy with my first child that I didn't look pregnant I just looked fat. I went home and cried.

Wow....nice bestie. lol

lsorci919

When I was about 10lbs heavier in college a classmate told me "Too bad you weren't a bit bigger, you could be a plus size model."

This really bothered me because I am not even 'big'. And I wasn't even 'big' at that time - I just wasn't as slim as I usually am.

I shouldn't be horrified by that comment but I still am. It's just ridiculous what society thinks 'plus size' is these days.

I've been told something along these lines.... You're pretty for a big girl. It's like a compliment and a slam at the same time.

Last January my husband and I went on a weekend trip with a couple friends. Well the wife of my husbands friend was describing a guy she met in the casino and looked at me and said "well he was about as round as you" I know she wasn't trying to insult me but it was like a slap in the face.

stripeytrousers

I was on holiday with my sister and we walked past 2 men who were whistling and trying to get our attention. She turned around and he was making a 'curvy' figure silhouette and said 'hey baby, i love your curves', so she smiled and he continued with 'dont you worry, i love big women, i like them meaty'

Needless to say we walked off very quickly after and although she laughed I could tell it had hit a nerve!!

Cobweb200

This thread has given me all kinds of ideas.... like if anyone ever said I was pregnant and rubbed my belly, I would just start rubbing theirs right back. Or if they asked when I was due I'd say 2017, how about you? And next time someone says I don't need to lose weight I'll whip out my belly pudge for all to see and make them feel awkward.

andreaheileman

My sweet grandmother said something last year that she didn't realize at first that it would be offending... until after she said it. We had our family Christmas party and we were talking about the drinks we were having. I rarely ever drink and someone mentioned that I might get a little tipsy if I drink more than one since I don't drink often. My grandma chimes in "Oh don't worry honey, someone your size needs more alcohol than that to get drunk!" Then she realized how it sounded and she apologized many times that evening. It hurt a little and was embarrassing, but I love her and know she didn't mean it to be a cruel thing. :ohwell:

jess135177

My friend's wife was talking about how much weight she has gained after having her son. "I'm gotten so big, even Jessica is probably smaller than me at this point"....wow thanks!

nfgchick79

I've gotten comments both about being bigger and being thinner, all of which have been awkward and some really hurtful.

1. I had put on a few lbs and a woman came up to me at work and GRABBED my stomach fat and yelled "oh my god are you pregnant!!" I was mortified. She said it so loud that everyone up and down the cubicles heard her. I never wore that shirt again. This happened a second time as well in the same workplace from a different woman too.

2. At my current weight I have heard a lot of snarky skinny comments. This one was the worst. One woman said "people are so jealous of your body." Second woman chimed in "it's because she hasn't had kids yet." I have been struggling with infertility for a long time and they both know it too. That one practically made me cry.

3. I was at a work dinner and a co-worker couldn't believe I ordered steak. He was like I can't believe you ate that. I asked him why and he said, well you're such a small eater. I said "really, have you ever shared a meal with me, how do you know how much I eat?" It was a super awkward moment at the table.

I've also heard tons of "you need to eat a sandwich" or "omg you're so small, what are you a size 2" followed by some eye rolling. I wish people would just mind their own business. It is so rude and inappropriate to comment on someone's body like that.

MissLeelooDallas

I'm getting tired of people telling me I will disappear if I lose anymore weight, :grumble:

This! I've had 3 different people I work with tell me that.


Edited to add this recent one: At Christmas, my grandma asked what I weighed now (already off to a bad start). I told her I weighed 111. Her response was "I used to weigh 105. Now that was skinny. You're getting there though. Keep trying." I didn't feel so great about myself after that one.

sfbaumgarten

I think the most awkward weight comments I've heard have been since I dropped the weight... Everyone wants to guess what I weigh now.

Songbirdcw

I was having a conversation with my hubby and a business lady. I don't remember what it was about, but I remember her calling me small. At the moment, a big smile spread across my face and I tried so hard to hide it. I had never been called small or tiny. I was quite excited. I wanted to do cabbage patch dance. :laugh:

iamspdd

When I had just completed a diet that had me go from 155 to 137 I had resident (I worked as a leasing agent for an apartment complex) come up to me and look at me and act confused. Then she says, have you lost weight? And I smiled and say yes. Then she says "Wow you look great you used to be" then she puffed her cheeks out and went "pffff". She also had her arms out at her side demonstrating a wider person.

I politely smiled and kind of dismissed it since English was her second language. :grumble:

Mommybug2

Oh and my mother in law (yep they are the best) hands me a skirt. "I found this in my closet and its too big for me but I thought it might fit you. " Ouch. Worst of all it was a medium and I'm a large.

The exact same thing happened to me! "Here, this is miles too big for me but it should fit you okay." (This after I had lost 40 lbs and gotten into a size 10 for the first time in years.) The skirt did fit me, but I still felt awful. It went straight into the Goodwill box when we went home.

Oh yeah and those comments. My always been skinny sister once brought me a bag of clothes and said "Here I didn't buy maternity clothes when I was pregnant just REALLY big clothes. I thought you could wear them now since I'm done having babies."
A few years later a super skinny girl at work was talking to a girl who was small but pregnant. Pregnant girl says "I had a bridesmaid dress made and they made it a size 18 and even at 8 months it is huge on me" to which the super skinny girl makes a remark about a size 8 being big enough for any pregnant girl. Here is me sitting close to them in my size 14 not pregnant at all

And once I was shopping with a new "friend" and she wanted to go into the 5-7-9 store and says to me and my other size 12/ friend - "Oh you guys can just stay out here since they don't carry clothes for big girls - I mean the racks are really close together so I don't think you'd even be able to get around in there". My other friend and I left her at the mall

1ZenGirl

The absolutely charming child across the road yells out "wobble bum" to me when I go outside to collect the mail etc. What gets me about this is that his mother is larger than I am.

I have a pretty good indication of what is going on in that house.

almst50

Being asked if I were pregnant - even though I'm 4 years post-menopausal...... So much for being motivated!

trelisiab

I've been asked, "when's the baby due" and my 7 year old daughter is always asking if I have a baby "in there"

fitbitsakt

A number of years ago...I had another 'larger' person - as I was at the time and for many years afterwards - ask me if I was pregnant...my response, 'no, just overweight'.

a_linds

I work with children and I've had more than a few of them ask "if there is a baby in there" pointing to my tummy or ask if I'm pregnant. I don't get upset because they are kids, would be a different story if an adult asked that.

ajohnson33

I got one (well I have many) but a guy I was dating asked me if I needed "specially made pants" because of the size of my rear...mortifying (needless to say he was an idiot and that didn't last long!). My sister and I still joke about it to this day...

Mommybug2

Really guys?

I mean...I'm not disagreeing exactly. And I take this stuff pretty seriously. I NEVER make rude comments to thin people or say "you're so skinny I'm jealous blah blah blah" or "eat a cheeseburger"...not even in JEST because I don't think it's funny. I generally try to make infrequent comments about others' appearance and if I do it's something like a compliment on their scarf, haircut, etc.

But...I tend to think that in *most* cases, fat-shaming is kind of worse. I'd say out of 100 random people (whether kids, teens, or adults) if you asked them "what would be worse, being made fun of for being too fat or being too skinny" a HUGE percentage would say that it was worse to be fat. There are so many things associated with being fat like laziness, sloppy hygiene, health problems...not the case for being very thin/small.

Again not really disagreeing just wondering if you truly believe it's EQUALLY bad. I don't see that, I guess.

OK - So I'll admit the fat comments hurt/sting while the skinny comments are really just annoying and awkward.

After I had lost about 50 lbs and was still considered slightly overweight by BMI a co-worker commented about me "wasting away" and I said "Oh I still have a few more to go" and she goes off about how I don't need to lose any more weight from my face. As if I have a choice where it comes from. Sure I'd prefer it all came off my mid-secton but that isn't how it works and she actually claims to have been a personal trainer at one point in life so she of all people should know that

ETA: I think it is more awkward when you know you aren't super skinny or underweight and people make a big scene like you are. I mean unless I have an underweight BMI I am obviously fine and at the time of her comment I was just BARELY in the normal BMI. At that point it feels like they are really just trying to discourage your progress

aubyshortcake

"OMG, you lost so much weight! What happened, are you sick? You're not on drugs are you?"

....thanks?

rawstrongchick

I get these comments from women, and all are 'bigger' than me in varying degrees. I'm small framed, but curvy, sporty (so muscled and reasonably fit), and my BMI is 18.8. One of the worst was when a lady I never met before attacked me at a party asking why I was so vain as to "half starve" myself, that my husband "couldn't fancy" me and that I was "setting a terrible example" to my son. I won't repeat my response, but it was equally unpretty.

It seems you can't win as a woman. If your slim you get inappropriate comments, if your in the 'correct' weight range you get inappropriate comments, and if your in the higher weight ranges you get inappropriate comments!

When I put on baby weight and I'd not recovered from delivery etc I found I was more widely accepted socially by other women than I am back to my normal self. Sad but true.