Most awkward weight comment

CouleeRunner

Really guys?

I mean...I'm not disagreeing exactly. And I take this stuff pretty seriously. I NEVER make rude comments to thin people or say "you're so skinny I'm jealous blah blah blah" or "eat a cheeseburger"...not even in JEST because I don't think it's funny. I generally try to make infrequent comments about others' appearance and if I do it's something like a compliment on their scarf, haircut, etc.

But...I tend to think that in *most* cases, fat-shaming is kind of worse. I'd say out of 100 random people (whether kids, teens, or adults) if you asked them "what would be worse, being made fun of for being too fat or being too skinny" a HUGE percentage would say that it was worse to be fat. There are so many things associated with being fat like laziness, sloppy hygiene, health problems...not the case for being very thin/small.

Again not really disagreeing just wondering if you truly believe it's EQUALLY bad. I don't see that, I guess.

No. I grew up being underweight (no matter how much I ate) and I was teased mercilessly because of it.

It's not cool to hear constantly that there is something wrong with your body, especially when there is nothing you can do about it.

tapirfrog

"Even though you're ugly, I think you're pretty." Said by a two-year-old with an advanced vocabulary but a toddler's grasp of social nuances.

Actually, that and a couple more comments by that family's kids eventually resulted in my drifting away from the family. I really liked the parents, and I knew the kids were good-hearted and had no idea they were hurting me, but I didn't have the emotional resilience to go over to their house because it meant I'd have to sit with teeth clenched waiting for the next bomb to explode. ("Are you having a baby? You look like you are.")

Indiri13

I'm tall so people always assume I weigh about 30 pounds less than I do. When I got down to 24% body fat and 160 pounds (aiming for 21% and 150) I got the following, all from other women:

-So, um, are you using cocaine?
-You still eat, right? I mean, you haven't gotten anorexia have you?
-So you're done now? No!? But you don't have 10 pounds more to lose!
-Who cares about body fat %? If you lose any more you'll just be all bones.

I put about 20 pounds on this year (I'm losing it again but still have about 9.5 left to take off) and heard this at the Christmas party: Oh, you gained 10 pounds? Well that's good, you were getting too skinny, gaunt even.

When I gained weight several years ago there was a guy at work who commented that getting married had made me "fat and happy". Ow

Or the neighbor who heard us talking about losing weight and told me he knew a great plastic surgeon he could recommend.

I have also gotten comments that were lovely, though. People just saying that I'm looking great or whatever. I think it outweighs most of the bad comments for me.

lmarshel

After I was diagnosed with my thyroid condition, the specialist asked me how I first realized something was wrong. I told him I lost 25 pounds for no reason. His response: "That's probably a good thing for you." It really tore me up inside, but it was eventually wake-up call to get motivated and lose the weight for good.

albayin

besides the comment on weight...I personally feel paying someone a compliment by saying "you remind me of a ...<celebrity figure> doesn't deliver positive outcome either. I remember two people said I look like a certain news reporter in CNN, who I always dislike...go figure..

NicoleRaeB

I remember in 8th grade, I would always play soccer with all the guys and even though I was fairly active at the time, my body type was fairly big and broad. Well, one day this new kid showed up and proceeded to call me a big ol' cow. It really upset me at the time so I ended up body slamming him into the mud and dared him to call me fat again. Funny thing is, all the other guys on the field were cheering me on and since I was also the teachers' pet at school, the on duty teacher ended up giving the new kid detention for calling me names and let me off the hook.

lsorci919

Years ago, during one of my attempts at weight loss, my family got together for dinner. Well because I didn't go for seconds or thirds my aunt made a comment to me that was along the lines of "You don't have to starve yourself" It was really awkward trying to convince her in front of the family that I didn't want seconds because I was already full.

Supertact

I often get told to stop losing weight, or that I'm anorexic which I am not and if I eat something not ''healthy'' it's like a crime and I'm going to immediately gain weight.

1cafeaulait

I was asked if I was "expecting"!!! The only thing that could have made it worse and more awkward would've been if there were more people around besides me and the kind person (insert sarcasm here) who asked!!! This happened months
ago but today I caught myself looking at her with extreme disdain. Trying to forgive - it will take time!

lilawolf

I was told not to do any resistance training on my lower body, because if I got any bigger, I'd have thunder thighs! I actually believed it for a while and stuck with upper body weights and the stair stepper. :blushing: Sad. I am still disproportionately stronger on my upper body. At the time, I was somewhere between 130 and 140 at 5'9 so a long ways from thunder thighs.

One of the things that convinced me to lose weight was when my husband picked me up bridal style and immediately put his best poker face on so that he wouldn't show how much effort it was. He's such a sweetheart.

I've gotten glares and judging comments when I was thin and eating "too little" and when I was bigger and eating "too much". You don't know what else I've had to eat today or how active I've been! This may be my first meal or my fourth!

mungowungo

This happened quite a few years ago but I went to the Pharmacy to get a folate supplement. I was looking at one and the sales assistant came over and told me I didn't want that one because they were for pregnant ladies - ergo in her mind I was just fat and couldn't possibly be pregnant. The look on her face when I told her that yes I was in fact pregnant which is why I wanted the folate in the first place was priceless.

And yes complete strangers do seem to think they have the right to come up and pat pregnant bellies and it is creepy.

The absolutely charming child across the road yells out "wobble bum" to me when I go outside to collect the mail etc. What gets me about this is that his mother is larger than I am.

healthybodyhealthylife

I have a few lol. Not as mortifying as some of the others on here though!! Some of these are insanly RUDE!!

1. My fiance blurted out 'you look like a sexy porn star' a while ago when he saw me in my lingerie. I mean, I love him to bits and I know he didn't mean that in a bad, objectifying way but I was like WHAT THE F***?!!? At the time, I was mortified.

2. I showed my friend my before and after pictures and she went 'Mmmmmmmm gurrrrl I'd tap you now'. Awks lol

3. Me and a couple of my family members were doing Insanity the other day. I was feeling pretty awesome that day about my body and my stamina so there I was doing one of the stretches and my aunt tapped me on the shoulder, so I look up and she goes 'Your thighs are huge, you should really do some running - its good for slimming down your thighs'. Errrr did I ask you? I actually like my thighs lol. Everyone heard her as well and it was literally in the middle of the workout and that really annoyed me.

epona08

A few years back I was at a local bike night with my parents and a group we rode with on weekends sometimes when one of my friends from said group asked my mother something I find to be the most amazing backhanded compliment. He waited until I went to the bathroom to ask my mother if I was pregnant. She told him that I wasn't and asked why in the world he would think that. He responded with "Well, she's put some weight on and she is just too pretty to be fat. I know a good gym if she's looking."

At least she waited until we got back home to relay this to me. I would have been mortified if she had told me while we were out.

healthybodyhealthylife

Also, this isn't an awkward comment but me and my fiance had the most awkward conversation EVER when I told him my weight and he was like 'Oh - I weigh the same!' ...........and then it was like oh dear this is awkward. I'm 5"2.5 and he's 5"11. He's underweight and I've put on some weight in muscle mass so we both weigh between 61-63kg. That is the making of a very uncomfortable conversation for both him and me lol. Bless his little soul I think I've made him quite self-conscious about his weight now, even though I try so hard to not make him feel like that!

healthybodyhealthylife

besides the comment on weight...I personally feel paying someone a compliment by saying "you remind me of a ...<celebrity figure> doesn't deliver positive outcome either. I remember two people said I look like a certain news reporter in CNN, who I always dislike...go figure..

Agreed!! I get compared a lot to a certain celebrity I don't find particularly attractive. I mean, I'd rather be compared to Miranda Kerr but I guess I'll live lol

Sreneesa

"Your weight loss is impressive. Keep up the good work. " This comment was from yesterday! lol


I think they meant well. But I wanted to say, "I was never obese, wft and are you implying I should lose more weight?"

But, as someone said above it seems to be always awkward to mention that, especially in front of other people. lol

jennhill310

A coworker I hadn't seen in a while asked me when I was due. I told I'm not pregnant I'm just fat thanks.

sarahmichel101

I was working as a cashier and a woman TOLD me I was expexting. After telling her I was not pregnant she got all flustered and said sorry. I wish it stopped here!!! No no, she went on to tell me that her daughter was extremely large too and it happened to her all the time. My being saucy like I am informed her I was not extremely large and did not look pregnant. It was soooooooo bad.

Sreneesa

My grandmother, RIP, love that woman to death! lol... Years ago at my cousin's wedding, we all posed for a family photo.....

Let's just say the next time I went to visit my lovely grandmother I was cut out the picture! LOLOLOL

God bless her though! She knew I wouldn't want a record of being that big! Hilarious!!!! :laugh:

Dugleik

Hmmm, awkward comments received, not so much. But I will NEVER forget the worst one I made:

Saw a high school acquaintance @ the mall about 5 years after graduation. We weren't close, but were friendly. He'd been very overweight in HS, and when I saw him looked much lighter, happy, and *healthy* (even in retrospect). I complimented him on how great he was looking.

We missed getting together to catch up (non-romantically), and 3 months later he was dead. His weight loss was due to brain cancer chemo.

Awkward? To say the least. And I still flinch when reading "no one's noticed my weight loss" postings. You just never know what's going on with someone, yanno?

I never comment on anyone's weight anymore after I made a comment I made to someone I hadn't seen for a while who had lost weight and it turned out she was in the middle of treatment for cancer.

Oh and I also talked to someone I worked with sporadically about bikini-shopping for close to 5 minutes before she told me she had just had her breasts removed due to breast cancer. So, yeah I keep my mouth shut.

Lauracanbe125

Just once in my lifetime I want someone to tell me I am too thin! I will hug them and kiss them!

Nascha333

One of the first times i ever met my sister-in law and after she lost around 60 pounds and weighed 135 at the time she said she was still fat and that it was so disgusting. Hello, i'm standing right beside you and i weigh 185. lol, i wasn't really insulted, more shocked than anything and i don't even think she even realized what she'd just said... or possibly cared.

AmyL159

I work with older adults and they said "kids say the darndest things" but whoever "they" is must have never worked with the elderly. I had one gentleman say he could tell how many children I had by looking at my shape. He guessed 4. I've never had any children...

kathystrauss1

I was running around like crazy at work and I stopped to get something for the father of one of my patients. He looked at me sincerely and said "Kathy, for a fat girl you sure have a lot of energy". Well gee, thanks I guess. I'm pretty sure he meant it as a compliment and he was from Kuwait so there was some cultural/language differences. It cracked me up though and I told him just a tip but most American women would not take that as a compliment!

Lauracanbe125

I have 2 that have stuck with me my ENTIRE life:

1. my older sister (she's super thin) told me (a day after starting to eat better), "I have always said to myself, you would be so pretty if
you lost weight".

I wanted to slap her but cried for a month instead.

2. we were visiting relatives that we haven't seen since I was a baby. My "aunt" grabs my arm and says "I have a fat one like this at home! I should have brought her" (referring to her daughter).

Rude. Rude...where are people's manners?

Lauracanbe125

Yes, family are the worst! I was told I had the biggest butt on the Drill Team. At 5 feet 5 inches and 115 pounds I can assure you many of my friends out weighed me! Their butts were also bigger lol! This set off a lifetime of dieting and body image problems for sure!:embarassed:

Sreneesa

Hall of Shame Moment:

Years ago I was standing in line at a grocery store and noticed an old friend I hadn't seen in awhile.

So, my goodness I still feel like crap for this.... I touch her stomach and all excitedly and loud, "How far along are you!?"

Her: "I'm not pregnant, I'm just fat."

I could have slapped myself and dug my own grave. I felt so bad and could imagine how she felt. ... other people were in line. Man, I was young and didn't think.

But I still feel bad for that. Serves me right. I never made that mistake again.

albayin

Just once in my lifetime I want someone to tell me I am too thin! I will hug them and kiss them!

me too~ I truly admire and wish to be thin, just for once...

Sreneesa

And, I get others telling me to not lose anymore more weight too.

But, I'm 173, 5'10. Yes I'm at a healthy BMI,,,the high end... lol.., but trust I can afford to lose more weight.

sarahwilson12

One of the worst comments I've ever heard was one towards my hubby. When we were in college, Facebook had that whole "hot or not" thing. As a joke, my (now) husband rolled up his shirt & made a funny post, revealing his gut. Admittedly, he was overweight, which was half the idea behind the joke. My grandma then commented on it saying, "Please tell me this means you're trying to lose the weight. - Love Grandma & the family"!!! I was SO mad about it!

As for me, well, my nephew said to me recently, "No offense, Aunt Sarah, but you kind of look pregnant when you were walking down the stairs." Then, on Christmas 2013, my mum & I were talking about how uncomfortable I am with my weight gain & she said, "I wasn't going to say anything since I didn't want to hurt your feelings, but... you do look pregnant."

Ugh... needless to say, I'm planning on using these comments as motivation to lose the weight!