Who are we losing weight for... Really?

lisalsd1

I lost 60lbs+ when I was a teenager and into my 20s. Back then I lost weight to look better....and feel better about myself. At that time, it was mostly about me and improving my self-esteem...and partially to be more attractive.

I've been working on fitness and improving my diet and health overall since I've had kids. I want to set a good example for my kids. So this time, it's for my kids.

zyxst

Yeah, yeah, yeah, who you trying to convince? ME OR YOU?

Well, you asked the question so I kinda thought you wanted answers.

I'm losing weight to get doctors to pay attention to my health problems (possible glaucoma, HBP, menopause).

Mr_Knight

It's all bull**** really, isn't it? We are the same however much we weigh...

You sure about that?

The forums are full of testimonials from people who feel *much* better about themselves after achieving improved levels of fitness and health. And it s a common meme that people who like themselves are generally nicer to others, too.

So I'm not convinced your starting assumption is valid.

Coupled with the biological reality that there are very very good reasons for others to prefer fit, healthy looking individuals, and I'd say your question is answered...

IMO, etc.

Someone who is un-sexy and irritating at 18 stone will still be the same at 12 stone, there's just less of them to be irritated by?

I've seen too many transformations, including my own, that evidence otherwise.

BrandyLeeShumway

I am not losing weight to fit in with any ones ideals of sexy or anything like that. My husband is the only one that would need to matter to and he does not care if I lose weight or not. I am losing weight for my kids and that is my main reason. I want to be able to live a long and healthy life for my kids. I want to be able to run and play and swing with my kids as they grow. I want to be able to take them on bike rides and walks and not be tired after just a few minutes. I want them to grow up proud of me and learning from me the right way to eat and that exercise is good for them. My kids are my every thing and my inspiration and the motivation that keeps me moving on. I am also doing this for me. I want to be able to live long enough to see my grandchildren (years down the road) I want to be able to walk up a flight of stairs with out being out of breath or to be able to go to an amusement park with my family and know that I am going to be able to fit into the rides. I am doing this for my kids and myself.

twixlepennie

I lost the first 40lbs to get my glucose number under control (done). Lost 18 more pounds after that to rock a swim suit, while out on our sail boat, (also done). I'm healthy, happy and life is good :drinker:

Spicei21

I am with all the others. I am losing weight for my health, myself, and to be around for my husband. I have only recently started using myfitnesspal but I have lost a 109 pounds and I am not stopping until I am at a happy spot for me and feel at my best. I have lowered my triglycerides, blood pressure, and I am not longer at risk at being coming diabetic. We all have our reasons for wanting to become healthier and happier. To many people try and lose weight to fast, to me that is not a good way to get where you want to be. Slow and steady is the way to be. My goal this year is to lose 1 pound a week. If I do that then I am on my way to being where I want to be in goals but I know the smaller I get the harder it is going to be to lose that one pound a week. I am ready for that to. As long as I stay successful and even lose just a .some of a pound I am going to be happy. I hope you can find the reason you started and get back to trying to become a happier person with who you are. We are worth the effort we put it to our self.

stumblinthrulife

First and foremost - me.

Also for -

My kids, because they'll follow my example way more than my words.
My wife, because she needs me, and I'd like to be around for her as long as I can.
My late mum, because she brought me into this world, invested a great deal of love, time and money in me, and I owe it to her to give a return on that investment.

_Zardoz_

I'm not losing weight for me I'm getting healthy for me there's a big difference.

breakhearts

I don't know about y'all, but I'm losing weight for clothes.

Dewymorning

I don't know about you, but I am mostly doing it for health reasons, I don't want to get gallstones (after my 7 year senior brother needed an operation) and slow weight loss plus increased exercise are the best for reducing risk of gallstones, and also I get less symptoms of depression when I eat right and exercise lots. Probably mostly from exercise.

But yeah, in terms of wanting to improve how I look, I admit it is partly so others think I look good, but my primary motivation is my own health.

I want to be happy and healthy. :P

Nightdust

:bigsmile: I want to keep ahead of the zombies!


Really I want to feel better and look better for myself.

Maleficent0241

I'm doing it for me, and honestly any pressure other people would put on me couldn't begin to compare to the pressure I put on myself. I used to be very thin, healthy, modeled, etc. until the health issues that made me pile on weight and I am plain ol' depressed with myself now. I need to feel better, mentally and physically.

fallingken

Several reasons for me. One, so I can fit my butt into those tiny airplane seats as I have a 25th anniversary cruise in June and I have to fly across the Atlantic twice. Second, because my yellow Lab insists on going for runs each day and she is much happier when we run, which I can do now without my knees hurting and running out of breath. Third, so I can make my work buy me new issue uniforms when everything i currently have gets too big on me, almost ready to order a new set again. Fourth, I want to get back into the sky again. I miss the freedom .

CrystalDreams

im losing weight so im not horrified by the hideous Ursula with legs in the mirror

huv123

i do it to be able to pick up younger and hotter chicks. just being honest

A good personality would get you further. Also not calling women chicks. Just being honest.

imjolly

I am losing weight for ME. Of course we all want to look good but I honesty want to be healthy, feel healthy and look healthy for me. We are not the same when we are carrying more weight, we tend to be tired, grumpy, less motivated to do anything and we end up doing nothing but eating and probably watching worthless TV when we could be out doing something to make us feel better and stay fit. I run, bike, swim, lift weights, count calories and eat healthy because it makes me feel good.

acogg

What really made my weight loss plan sink in and stick was after I read that people who have a lot of belly fat, start building up fat on their hearts, lungs, kidneys, etc. For those shaped people (I am one) the body starts building fat cells on vital organs. So it is for me. I am the only one who cared and I am the only one who can do anything about it.

ktsmom430

Honestly, for me it was all about $$$$$
We were facing an increase in our health insurance premium at work if we did not pass 5 bio markers in Dec 2013. I succeeded and my cheapness paid off, no increased premium for this old lady.

BTW, I could care less about the superficial aspect you claim as motivation.I will have been married for 39 years this year and he has always loved me the way I am. Nothing superficial about him, he knows the inner me. I am a very lucky lady!

smc864

I don't know about y'all, but I'm losing weight for clothes.

^^This!!! When I was fat I literally couldn't find anything that looked half way decent... now everything I try on looks good. I lost weight for me, and for clothes!!!

crazyvermont

Are you serious? I feel lousy when overweight and not able to do the things I'd like to be able to do. Years beyond the sexy part, but I would like to be able to chase both my grandchildren and someday great grandchildren around the yard

Focusisfab

Purely for my ego.

ebayaddict0127

#1 - Me. I'm depressed and fat and sad all the time. Plus I'm at high risk for heart disease.
#2 - My husband. I'm tired of complaining and being down all the time around him. And I want to feel cute again.
#3 - My kids (fur kids). I don't have children, and don't plan to. I have pets though. They are my world. I want them to know me through their entire lives.

CMoeDee

Two reasons:

One, my pants stopped fitting, which... straight to hell with that. I love those pants.
Two, I went from an office job to working from home; my hours got weird, my food got unlimited, and I was tired all the time. Then my pants stopped fitting. Diet and exercise remedy both these problems 100%. Once I got started, I figured, why not? I haven't been "in shape" for five years. Let's see if that's still as fun as I remember.

My dude likes my butt no matter the size and once I met him I could not give a single damn whether anyone else thought I was attractive or not.

jkleon86

I knew a girl once that was really really big, and also the biggest ,rudest snob that I ever met. most times wouldn't acknowledge that I was even around. But she got a computer boyfriend, lost weight and was the sweetest person, smiling all the time and would even give me a hug from time to time. well boyfriend found someone else and she gained all her weight back and was back to being a snob again. so why did she lose the weight ,for herself or the boyfriend and what made her so friendly and feel good being skinny and beautiful or what turned out to be a scum ball boyfriend. NO MAN IS WORTH WHAT SHE HAS LET HERSELF BECOME TODAY!!! just saying

hkied

wow me to wish I could drop weight a little faster though....... I havent totally giving up drinking but have really slowed down, with nothing to show for it! Congrats on feeling better!

ArtsyGarbage

my ex liked me when I was 190 lbs, and my current boyfriend likes me at 141 lbs.
I dumped my ex because I couldn't *truly* accept that he liked me because I hated myself so damn much.
I hated myself because I let food control my life. I hated myself because I was obese and unhealthy and I couldn't climb up one single flight of stairs without getting panty and light-headed. I hated myself because I was literally sitting on the couch, eating, and watching my life go by.
I'm getting rid of the weight for me and me alone, so I never have to feel like I'm whittling my life away again.
HELL YEAH! :glasses:

topazora

I'm losing weight for me, I'm losing weight because I want to get into the military and take advantage of any opportunity that will open up for me if I took the risk to join. I've always had people tell me, don't wait, go for what you want, and if something is in the way, take care of it. I want something, and my weight is in the way, so I'm taking care of it.
My weight and health are all about me. Its a selfish act, and that's ok.

ThriceBlessed

I'm losing weight for myself. Really.

My husband loves me and finds me attractive. He loved me and found me attractive when I was 56 pounds heavier than I am now. That really hasn't changed.

What has changed? Well, I no longer have pain in every joint of my body. I no longer use a cane to walk. I no longer stop breathing in my sleep. I no longer go to bed wondering if I'll wake up in the morning. I no longer watch other people going on hikes, or riding bikes, or getting on a roller coaster, and know that I can't go because of my weight.

Do I look better? Yes. Am I glad about that? Yes. Is that why I am losing weight? NO.

I am also losing weight for my family, because I want to be here with them for years to come.

Mandyg416

myself. at 206 pounds i couldnt make it through an 8 hour work day without crying the drive home from the pain in my knees and back,. now almost 70 pounds lighter i feel great and am still losing even though i met my original goal, it apparently wasnt the right number for my body, so ill just keep losing til it stops.

nikkihk

Three reasons...

1. My fiance deserves a fit bride.

2. I deserve to love myself.

3. Can't handle my appearance on camera, so I want to be fit before the next film I do.