Early Stages of Dating -- No-Nos
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Wow, some of these things don't bother me...maybe I'm more male than female. It must be the mustache.0
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Wow, some of these things don't bother me...maybe I'm more male than female. It must be the mustache.
You and I both girl... or maybe that explains why I know how to pick them so well. By that I mean I make horrible choices in guys.0 -
lol da fak ... some of these responses.. hahahaha0
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lol da fak ... some of these responses.. hahahaha
i no rite! foshizzle .....dey b of da hook.0 -
Let's see... in no order what so ever... all happened to me in the last 6months to a year!
Guy that says he works out... shows up weighing 300+lbs... looking nine months pregnant... yeah that was just Friday night!
Guy that goes to pay with a "prepaid" credit card... it's declined; tells me it only has $20 on it...can I pick up the rest of the tab... oh yeah, then asks me... if my credit card has enough money on it to cover $25... yes, buddy... I own a business... I could pick up a small car with this card!
Guy that says... sure I've been sick. But I'm all better now... yeah...he was on steroids for about a year... looked nothing like his pictures!
Guy that says he's 5'7".... which is cool... I'm only 5'2"... with shoes... yeah, so wear 4" heels... I towered over him!
The guy that orders me 3 shots as soon as we sit down!
The guy that wants to pick me up from my house; not only so he can know where I live... but in his words... "Make sure I didn't run out on the date"....
The guy that says he's divorced... yeah... wife shows up and calls me the *kitten*! Because he's still married!
The guy that says he's coming out to meet me... and 2 hrs later... after I am already at home... he calls and asks... "Where are you?"
Hmmm, let's see... oh one of my favorite ones... he was missing a finger... doesn't tell me... his hand was seriously deformed... throws it up on the table and asks... "Does this bother you?"
The guy that parades me by his ex gf at a local bar... only to try and go home with her...and leave me at the bar!
The guy that follows me to a club... chats me up all night... total sweetheart. My phone dies; so I use his to call my best friend and let her know we've gone to a club two doors down... the next day... VALENTINES DAY... his wife calls and says he lost his phone last night and this was the last number that was dialed! He was married!
Or the guy I was totally in love with... he asked me to marry him... 6 months into dating... HE WAS STILL MARRIED!!! And even now... a year later... STILL MARRIED!
Hmmm, my list could go on and on... I can't even remember all the bad things that I have been through... on first dates... first meetings... etc etc.
oh honey. hahhaha
you do not deserve the half of this! but i feel your pain, i do indeed :-/ 0 -
Let's see... in no order what so ever... all happened to me in the last 6months to a year!
Guy that says he works out... shows up weighing 300+lbs... looking nine months pregnant... yeah that was just Friday night!
Guy that goes to pay with a "prepaid" credit card... it's declined; tells me it only has $20 on it...can I pick up the rest of the tab... oh yeah, then asks me... if my credit card has enough money on it to cover $25... yes, buddy... I own a business... I could pick up a small car with this card!
Guy that says... sure I've been sick. But I'm all better now... yeah...he was on steroids for about a year... looked nothing like his pictures!
Guy that says he's 5'7".... which is cool... I'm only 5'2"... with shoes... yeah, so wear 4" heels... I towered over him!
The guy that orders me 3 shots as soon as we sit down!
The guy that wants to pick me up from my house; not only so he can know where I live... but in his words... "Make sure I didn't run out on the date"....
The guy that says he's divorced... yeah... wife shows up and calls me the *kitten*! Because he's still married!
The guy that says he's coming out to meet me... and 2 hrs later... after I am already at home... he calls and asks... "Where are you?"
Hmmm, let's see... oh one of my favorite ones... he was missing a finger... doesn't tell me... his hand was seriously deformed... throws it up on the table and asks... "Does this bother you?"
The guy that parades me by his ex gf at a local bar... only to try and go home with her...and leave me at the bar!
The guy that follows me to a club... chats me up all night... total sweetheart. My phone dies; so I use his to call my best friend and let her know we've gone to a club two doors down... the next day... VALENTINES DAY... his wife calls and says he lost his phone last night and this was the last number that was dialed! He was married!
Or the guy I was totally in love with... he asked me to marry him... 6 months into dating... HE WAS STILL MARRIED!!! And even now... a year later... STILL MARRIED!
Hmmm, my list could go on and on... I can't even remember all the bad things that I have been through... on first dates... first meetings... etc etc.
I think we dated the same men....0 -
Let's see... in no order what so ever... all happened to me in the last 6months to a year!
Guy that says he works out... shows up weighing 300+lbs... looking nine months pregnant... yeah that was just Friday night!
Guy that goes to pay with a "prepaid" credit card... it's declined; tells me it only has $20 on it...can I pick up the rest of the tab... oh yeah, then asks me... if my credit card has enough money on it to cover $25... yes, buddy... I own a business... I could pick up a small car with this card!
Guy that says... sure I've been sick. But I'm all better now... yeah...he was on steroids for about a year... looked nothing like his pictures!
Guy that says he's 5'7".... which is cool... I'm only 5'2"... with shoes... yeah, so wear 4" heels... I towered over him!
The guy that orders me 3 shots as soon as we sit down!
The guy that wants to pick me up from my house; not only so he can know where I live... but in his words... "Make sure I didn't run out on the date"....
The guy that says he's divorced... yeah... wife shows up and calls me the *kitten*! Because he's still married!
The guy that says he's coming out to meet me... and 2 hrs later... after I am already at home... he calls and asks... "Where are you?"
Hmmm, let's see... oh one of my favorite ones... he was missing a finger... doesn't tell me... his hand was seriously deformed... throws it up on the table and asks... "Does this bother you?"
The guy that parades me by his ex gf at a local bar... only to try and go home with her...and leave me at the bar!
The guy that follows me to a club... chats me up all night... total sweetheart. My phone dies; so I use his to call my best friend and let her know we've gone to a club two doors down... the next day... VALENTINES DAY... his wife calls and says he lost his phone last night and this was the last number that was dialed! He was married!
Or the guy I was totally in love with... he asked me to marry him... 6 months into dating... HE WAS STILL MARRIED!!! And even now... a year later... STILL MARRIED!
Hmmm, my list could go on and on... I can't even remember all the bad things that I have been through... on first dates... first meetings... etc etc.
I am 310lbs and work out regularly. You are rude.
No one's rude... he looked NINE MONTHS PREGNANT!!! Trust me... my last serious bf...he weighed in at 310... but he was like 12% bf... if that... No one is rude. I was completely sweet and had a pretty good date... just don't like the unexpected. If you post a picture... look like it... that's all I ask!0 -
Let's see... in no order what so ever... all happened to me in the last 6months to a year!
Guy that says he works out... shows up weighing 300+lbs... looking nine months pregnant... yeah that was just Friday night!
Guy that goes to pay with a "prepaid" credit card... it's declined; tells me it only has $20 on it...can I pick up the rest of the tab... oh yeah, then asks me... if my credit card has enough money on it to cover $25... yes, buddy... I own a business... I could pick up a small car with this card!
Guy that says... sure I've been sick. But I'm all better now... yeah...he was on steroids for about a year... looked nothing like his pictures!
Guy that says he's 5'7".... which is cool... I'm only 5'2"... with shoes... yeah, so wear 4" heels... I towered over him!
The guy that orders me 3 shots as soon as we sit down!
The guy that wants to pick me up from my house; not only so he can know where I live... but in his words... "Make sure I didn't run out on the date"....
The guy that says he's divorced... yeah... wife shows up and calls me the *kitten*! Because he's still married!
The guy that says he's coming out to meet me... and 2 hrs later... after I am already at home... he calls and asks... "Where are you?"
Hmmm, let's see... oh one of my favorite ones... he was missing a finger... doesn't tell me... his hand was seriously deformed... throws it up on the table and asks... "Does this bother you?"
The guy that parades me by his ex gf at a local bar... only to try and go home with her...and leave me at the bar!
The guy that follows me to a club... chats me up all night... total sweetheart. My phone dies; so I use his to call my best friend and let her know we've gone to a club two doors down... the next day... VALENTINES DAY... his wife calls and says he lost his phone last night and this was the last number that was dialed! He was married!
Or the guy I was totally in love with... he asked me to marry him... 6 months into dating... HE WAS STILL MARRIED!!! And even now... a year later... STILL MARRIED!
Hmmm, my list could go on and on... I can't even remember all the bad things that I have been through... on first dates... first meetings... etc etc.
Sorry, with all due respect, get your act together, you are sending out the wrong message (or there is a little John Grisham (fiction) in your prose).0 -
Let's see... in no order what so ever... all happened to me in the last 6months to a year!
Guy that says he works out... shows up weighing 300+lbs... looking nine months pregnant... yeah that was just Friday night!
Guy that goes to pay with a "prepaid" credit card... it's declined; tells me it only has $20 on it...can I pick up the rest of the tab... oh yeah, then asks me... if my credit card has enough money on it to cover $25... yes, buddy... I own a business... I could pick up a small car with this card!
Guy that says... sure I've been sick. But I'm all better now... yeah...he was on steroids for about a year... looked nothing like his pictures!
Guy that says he's 5'7".... which is cool... I'm only 5'2"... with shoes... yeah, so wear 4" heels... I towered over him!
The guy that orders me 3 shots as soon as we sit down!
The guy that wants to pick me up from my house; not only so he can know where I live... but in his words... "Make sure I didn't run out on the date"....
The guy that says he's divorced... yeah... wife shows up and calls me the *kitten*! Because he's still married!
The guy that says he's coming out to meet me... and 2 hrs later... after I am already at home... he calls and asks... "Where are you?"
Hmmm, let's see... oh one of my favorite ones... he was missing a finger... doesn't tell me... his hand was seriously deformed... throws it up on the table and asks... "Does this bother you?"
The guy that parades me by his ex gf at a local bar... only to try and go home with her...and leave me at the bar!
The guy that follows me to a club... chats me up all night... total sweetheart. My phone dies; so I use his to call my best friend and let her know we've gone to a club two doors down... the next day... VALENTINES DAY... his wife calls and says he lost his phone last night and this was the last number that was dialed! He was married!
Or the guy I was totally in love with... he asked me to marry him... 6 months into dating... HE WAS STILL MARRIED!!! And even now... a year later... STILL MARRIED!
Hmmm, my list could go on and on... I can't even remember all the bad things that I have been through... on first dates... first meetings... etc etc.
I am 310lbs and work out regularly. You are rude.
No one's rude... he looked NINE MONTHS PREGNANT!!! Trust me... my last serious bf...he weighed in at 310... but he was like 12% bf... if that... No one is rude. I was completely sweet and had a pretty good date... just don't like the unexpected. If you post a picture... look like it... that's all I ask!
310 and 12% bodyfat is nearly impossible. If true, he must have been juicing like no one's business...
Also you didnt say he used deceptive pics.0 -
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Wow, some of these things don't bother me...maybe I'm more male than female. It must be the mustache.
You and I both girl... or maybe that explains why I know how to pick them so well. By that I mean I make horrible choices in guys.
True story0 -
Let's see... in no order what so ever... all happened to me in the last 6months to a year!
Guy that says he works out... shows up weighing 300+lbs... looking nine months pregnant... yeah that was just Friday night!
Guy that goes to pay with a "prepaid" credit card... it's declined; tells me it only has $20 on it...can I pick up the rest of the tab... oh yeah, then asks me... if my credit card has enough money on it to cover $25... yes, buddy... I own a business... I could pick up a small car with this card!
Guy that says... sure I've been sick. But I'm all better now... yeah...he was on steroids for about a year... looked nothing like his pictures!
Guy that says he's 5'7".... which is cool... I'm only 5'2"... with shoes... yeah, so wear 4" heels... I towered over him!
The guy that orders me 3 shots as soon as we sit down!
The guy that wants to pick me up from my house; not only so he can know where I live... but in his words... "Make sure I didn't run out on the date"....
The guy that says he's divorced... yeah... wife shows up and calls me the *kitten*! Because he's still married!
The guy that says he's coming out to meet me... and 2 hrs later... after I am already at home... he calls and asks... "Where are you?"
Hmmm, let's see... oh one of my favorite ones... he was missing a finger... doesn't tell me... his hand was seriously deformed... throws it up on the table and asks... "Does this bother you?"
The guy that parades me by his ex gf at a local bar... only to try and go home with her...and leave me at the bar!
The guy that follows me to a club... chats me up all night... total sweetheart. My phone dies; so I use his to call my best friend and let her know we've gone to a club two doors down... the next day... VALENTINES DAY... his wife calls and says he lost his phone last night and this was the last number that was dialed! He was married!
Or the guy I was totally in love with... he asked me to marry him... 6 months into dating... HE WAS STILL MARRIED!!! And even now... a year later... STILL MARRIED!
Hmmm, my list could go on and on... I can't even remember all the bad things that I have been through... on first dates... first meetings... etc etc.
Sometimes the best way to find the problem is to look within yourself...
ok... I guess maybe I will just have to keep on working on being honest, faithful, outgoing, financially responsible... etc etc... because certainly the problem isn't that I've been lied to... lol!
I guess I am just a nice person who wants to believe that people are still honest... but thank you, I will take what you've said and try and work on myself...0 -
Let's see... in no order what so ever... all happened to me in the last 6months to a year!
Guy that says he works out... shows up weighing 300+lbs... looking nine months pregnant... yeah that was just Friday night!
Guy that goes to pay with a "prepaid" credit card... it's declined; tells me it only has $20 on it...can I pick up the rest of the tab... oh yeah, then asks me... if my credit card has enough money on it to cover $25... yes, buddy... I own a business... I could pick up a small car with this card!
Guy that says... sure I've been sick. But I'm all better now... yeah...he was on steroids for about a year... looked nothing like his pictures!
Guy that says he's 5'7".... which is cool... I'm only 5'2"... with shoes... yeah, so wear 4" heels... I towered over him!
The guy that orders me 3 shots as soon as we sit down!
The guy that wants to pick me up from my house; not only so he can know where I live... but in his words... "Make sure I didn't run out on the date"....
The guy that says he's divorced... yeah... wife shows up and calls me the *kitten*! Because he's still married!
The guy that says he's coming out to meet me... and 2 hrs later... after I am already at home... he calls and asks... "Where are you?"
Hmmm, let's see... oh one of my favorite ones... he was missing a finger... doesn't tell me... his hand was seriously deformed... throws it up on the table and asks... "Does this bother you?"
The guy that parades me by his ex gf at a local bar... only to try and go home with her...and leave me at the bar!
The guy that follows me to a club... chats me up all night... total sweetheart. My phone dies; so I use his to call my best friend and let her know we've gone to a club two doors down... the next day... VALENTINES DAY... his wife calls and says he lost his phone last night and this was the last number that was dialed! He was married!
Or the guy I was totally in love with... he asked me to marry him... 6 months into dating... HE WAS STILL MARRIED!!! And even now... a year later... STILL MARRIED!
Hmmm, my list could go on and on... I can't even remember all the bad things that I have been through... on first dates... first meetings... etc etc.
Sorry, with all due respect, get your act together, you are sending out the wrong message (or there is a little John Grisham (fiction) in your prose).
How am I sending the wrong message... lol!
ahhh! Internet ... gotta love it. I think that's how I get into these situations in the first place... lmao ... ok ...
Sorry if I gave anyone the wrong impression... I think some of the stuff I've been through is funny...character building if nothing else... life is fun... things will happen...
oh well... gotta go focus on myself I guess... 0 -
After reading several of these, it seems to me there is something of a 4th garde syndrome here. The girls are like "eeeewe" and the guys are all "lighten up". There seems to be something of the "pulling the girl's pigtails to show her you like her" routine here.
Of course, if she's wearing pigtails and she like's it like that...
In for pigtail pulling! :blushing:0 -
Wow, some of these things don't bother me...maybe I'm more male than female. It must be the mustache.
You and I both girl... or maybe that explains why I know how to pick them so well. By that I mean I make horrible choices in guys.
True story
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Inviting me to a family dinner two days after meeting me which requires a three hour drive and an overnight stay -___-0
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Him: "I like it when girls call me daddy."0
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Him: "I like it when girls call me daddy."
Third date?0 -
My first date with a guy on Friday as we are eating:
Him: "Oh. I shouldn't have ordered brocolli. It makes me fart."
Me: **staring in shock**
Him: "Let's hope I don't fart."
Me: **face palm**
He's 35. Quite possibly why he's single.
Aaaaand now everyone in my office is staring at me wondering why I can't stop laughing. This is epic. I mean how do you respond to that?!?!0 -
First date. Still drinking my first drink. :noway: When I went home I discovered you can look up pervs online with just a first name.0
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First date. Still drinking my first drink. :noway: When I went home I discovered you can look up pervs online with just a first name.
Wait. What?!0 -
First date. Still drinking my first drink. :noway: When I went home I discovered you can look up pervs online with just a first name.
Sounds legit.0 -
OP, after many years of successful and unsuccessful first dates I have come to this conclusion. If they are offending you on the first date either your expectations are too high, or they are just way out there. If it is the latter, I would rather know about it right off. Informed decision making. Simple as that. Don't pretend to be something you are not, you will be disappointed when he realizes it and moves on. Likewise, I would rather know he's not my type right up front as well. That being said, sometimes it takes more than that first meeting to become comfortable enough with someone. Unless there is a blatant infraction of what you consider to be morally or ethically essential, there is nothing wrong with giving it a second date. Perhaps you will gain a great new friend, perhaps he will need to grow on you.
All that said, I feel the need to share one of my favorite worst first dates:
A friend set me up on a blind date with a guy she said was so amazing and he had apparently seen me at work and asked for this date to be arranged (I met him briefly in passing and it didn't seem like the worst idea ever (aka: he was hot). He picked me up, and said we were going for dinner and a show (seemed like a long first meeting, but little did I know how long it would seem by the end). He took me to McDonalds (the drive through, we didn't even go inside to eat), then drove around the city for a while. He spent the whole time talking about himself, including how much pot he likes to smoke (I have friends who smoke, but I do not, this is my choice for me). Through this conversation, it was discovered that I had not ever been downtown to see the hookers (yes this was another interest of his). So off we went to go check out the working evening ladies. I still have to giggle about my dinner and a show being McDs and prostitutes. I did not see him again. I would say anything short of that is pretty good.0 -
Gave a girl my email address - i'm not religious about checking my personal email, so i was surprised to see that she had invited me for dinner (in email) with something like 3 hours notice.
Since about two days had elapsed from the invitation and when i actually checked my inbox, not only did i see the original invitation, but about 6 additional messages saying what a jerk i was and how apparently she wasn't important enough to respond to.
Full disclosure: As anyone who truly knows me will tell you, I *am* a jerk, just not for the reason cited.
I say that to say this; yes, we've all had bad first date / meeting experiences, but some of that experience is the baggage *we* bring to the situation. Check the baggage at the door, keep an open mind, and try not to be too quick to judge. Everyone has their flaws, so if you're looking for something to be a deal-breaker, you will find it - guaranteed.0 -
OP, after many years of successful and unsuccessful first dates I have come to this conclusion. If they are offending you on the first date either your expectations are too high, or they are just way out there. If it is the latter, I would rather know about it right off. Informed decision making. Simple as that. Don't pretend to be something you are not, you will be disappointed when he realizes it and moves on. Likewise, I would rather know he's not my type right up front as well. That being said, sometimes it takes more than that first meeting to become comfortable enough with someone. Unless there is a blatant infraction of what you consider to be morally or ethically essential, there is nothing wrong with giving it a second date. Perhaps you will gain a great new friend, perhaps he will need to grow on you.
All that said, I feel the need to share one of my favorite worst first dates:
A friend set me up on a blind date with a guy she said was so amazing and he had apparently seen me at work and asked for this date to be arranged (I met him briefly in passing and it didn't seem like the worst idea ever (aka: he was hot). He picked me up, and said we were going for dinner and a show (seemed like a long first meeting, but little did I know how long it would seem by the end). He took me to McDonalds (the drive through, we didn't even go inside to eat), then drove around the city for a while. He spent the whole time talking about himself, including how much pot he likes to smoke (I have friends who smoke, but I do not, this is my choice for me). Through this conversation, it was discovered that I had not ever been downtown to see the hookers (yes this was another interest of his). So off we went to go check out the working evening ladies. I still have to giggle about my dinner and a show being McDs and prostitutes. I did not see him again. I would say anything short of that is pretty good.
I'm sorry. I'm DYING of laughter at this. That was simply amazing.0 -
Him: "I like it when girls call me daddy."
Third date?
Nice!0 -
Worst for me was while watching a movie with a guy, a sex scene comes on, and he then starts telling me about his porn collection. Gross!
Pft! I would have started taking notes and making requests.
Yet another reason we are friends...0 -
Don't send a **** pic unless I've already seen it.
Or at the very least, things are headed that way 0 -
Lol, they might take that second part as an invite hahaha.Don't send a **** pic unless I've already seen it.
Or at the very least, things are headed that way0 -
OP, after many years of successful and unsuccessful first dates I have come to this conclusion. If they are offending you on the first date either your expectations are too high, or they are just way out there. If it is the latter, I would rather know about it right off. Informed decision making. Simple as that. Don't pretend to be something you are not, you will be disappointed when he realizes it and moves on. Likewise, I would rather know he's not my type right up front as well. That being said, sometimes it takes more than that first meeting to become comfortable enough with someone. Unless there is a blatant infraction of what you consider to be morally or ethically essential, there is nothing wrong with giving it a second date. Perhaps you will gain a great new friend, perhaps he will need to grow on you.
All that said, I feel the need to share one of my favorite worst first dates:
A friend set me up on a blind date with a guy she said was so amazing and he had apparently seen me at work and asked for this date to be arranged (I met him briefly in passing and it didn't seem like the worst idea ever (aka: he was hot). He picked me up, and said we were going for dinner and a show (seemed like a long first meeting, but little did I know how long it would seem by the end). He took me to McDonalds (the drive through, we didn't even go inside to eat), then drove around the city for a while. He spent the whole time talking about himself, including how much pot he likes to smoke (I have friends who smoke, but I do not, this is my choice for me). Through this conversation, it was discovered that I had not ever been downtown to see the hookers (yes this was another interest of his). So off we went to go check out the working evening ladies. I still have to giggle about my dinner and a show being McDs and prostitutes. I did not see him again. I would say anything short of that is pretty good.
I'm sorry. I'm DYING of laughter at this. That was simply amazing.
Happy to amuse! That is why it is my favorite. There are others. I like to think I have gotten better at weeding out the bad ones. Truth be told, I simply don't go out much, and that suits my life right now.
Another favorite:
Met a gentleman on line, we decided to go for a movie. He picked me up, and we were both hungry so we stopped at Subway for something quick. When the cashier was about to ring it through, she asked if it was together, he said NO. That's fine, I have no problem paying my own way. It's only a $4 sub anyway. We got to the movie theater, and he said "don't worry about it, I got a coupon." It was a Tuesday night, dollar theater show. He brought a coupon to save a dollar! I never saw myself as being a gold-digger. I certainly feel that if people are happy at what they do, the money is less relevant. This date was the one that made me realize that maybe money does matter more than I realized.
I actually went out with him a few more times. Once we were walking around and I hadn't realized how cold it was. I mentioned the chill and she said that he also found it quite chilly, he then pulled a sweater out of his backpack and put it on himself (realistically, I shouldn't have expected the share, but many guys would have at least offered a warm hug). The third time I saw him (I wasn't considering them dates at this point, I just thought he was fun to talk to and hang out, although quite clueless about dating), he asked if I saw things going anywhere, and I said no, that I enjoyed hanging out with him, but there would never be anything more. He then asked if we could have sex. I can't blame him for trying really, and I continued to hang out with him. Nice guy, just not great perception for what is going on around him.0
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