The Beautiful People
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I participate on those threads. And yeah, they are a confidence booster. A few years ago I was borderline morbidly obese. My husband was embarrassed to be seen with me, and made that very clear. I felt horrible about myself, and who I saw in the mirror.
So I started working out. Slowly at first. I did the Couch 2-5k. Some of the weight started dropping off. I started running races. I started going to the gym. I was still fat. Very fat. But less fat than I had been.
Then my husband left me. Rocked my world. Turned it upside down. He hooked up with this tiny little blonde girl, literally half my size, and 15 years younger than him. For the first time since high school, I was alone.
I hit the gym with a vengeance. And you know what, I came through it. I think I look pretty damn good. I feel confident in showing off all that hard work. Piss and moan about all you want about the "narcissistic asshats". But I worked goddamn hard for this. And I'll show it off any time.
Today I'm working out twice, because I can, and because I still have more hard work to put in. Stop cry babying about it, and put the hard work in yourself.
I don't think your last statement was very fair. While I do agree that hard work pays off and you should feel proud and be able to show it off, it's not cool to tell someone to stop cry babying. Just because someone has a moment where they are feeling defeated doesn't mean they are giving up. Just because someone looks at themselves in the mirror and feels ashamed of what they see, doesn't mean they are being a cry baby.
Allowing someone to recognize their faults and pointing out their strengths is far more motivating than telling them they are a cry baby. Good for you for having that drive. Good for you for getting it done and bettering yourself. You do look fantastic, but other people may not have the same strength you have. Some need to be uplifted a bit to get past their heart aches.0 -
I participate on those threads. And yeah, they are a confidence booster. A few years ago I was borderline morbidly obese. My husband was embarrassed to be seen with me, and made that very clear. I felt horrible about myself, and who I saw in the mirror.
So I started working out. Slowly at first. I did the Couch 2-5k. Some of the weight started dropping off. I started running races. I started going to the gym. I was still fat. Very fat. But less fat than I had been.
Then my husband left me. Rocked my world. Turned it upside down. He hooked up with this tiny little blonde girl, literally half my size, and 15 years younger than him. For the first time since high school, I was alone.
I hit the gym with a vengeance. And you know what, I came through it. I think I look pretty damn good. I feel confident in showing off all that hard work. Piss and moan about all you want about the "narcissistic asshats". But I worked goddamn hard for this. And I'll show it off any time.
Today I'm working out twice, because I can, and because I still have more hard work to put in. Stop cry babying about it, and put the hard work in yourself.
I don't think your last statement was very fair. While I do agree that hard work pays off and you should feel proud and be able to show it off, it's not cool to tell someone to stop cry babying. Just because someone has a moment where they are feeling defeated doesn't mean they are giving up. Just because someone looks at themselves in the mirror and feels ashamed of what they see, doesn't mean they are being a cry baby.
Allowing someone to recognize their faults and pointing out their strengths is far more motivating than telling them they are a cry baby. Good for you for having that drive. Good for you for getting it done and bettering yourself. You do look fantastic, but other people may not have the same strength you have. Some need to be uplifted a bit to get past their heart aches.
It was in response to the narcissistic asshat comment thrown out there. I do think that's crybaby behavior.
Believe me, I totally understand how hard it is. I was overweight for YEARS. I have Hashimoto's thyroiditis and PCOS. I've had two kids. I convinced myself that no matter what I did, it was impossible to lose anything. I let myself stay fat. But I didn't shame other people who did work hard and who did look fantastic. My issues were mine. And ultimately I was the only one responsible for both gaining the weight, and losing it.0 -
I participate on those threads. And yeah, they are a confidence booster. A few years ago I was borderline morbidly obese. My husband was embarrassed to be seen with me, and made that very clear. I felt horrible about myself, and who I saw in the mirror.
So I started working out. Slowly at first. I did the Couch 2-5k. Some of the weight started dropping off. I started running races. I started going to the gym. I was still fat. Very fat. But less fat than I had been.
Then my husband left me. Rocked my world. Turned it upside down. He hooked up with this tiny little blonde girl, literally half my size, and 15 years younger than him. For the first time since high school, I was alone.
I hit the gym with a vengeance. And you know what, I came through it. I think I look pretty damn good. I feel confident in showing off all that hard work. Piss and moan about all you want about the "narcissistic asshats". But I worked goddamn hard for this. And I'll show it off any time.
Today I'm working out twice, because I can, and because I still have more hard work to put in. Stop cry babying about it, and put the hard work in yourself.
I don't think your last statement was very fair. While I do agree that hard work pays off and you should feel proud and be able to show it off, it's not cool to tell someone to stop cry babying. Just because someone has a moment where they are feeling defeated doesn't mean they are giving up. Just because someone looks at themselves in the mirror and feels ashamed of what they see, doesn't mean they are being a cry baby.
Allowing someone to recognize their faults and pointing out their strengths is far more motivating than telling them they are a cry baby. Good for you for having that drive. Good for you for getting it done and bettering yourself. You do look fantastic, but other people may not have the same strength you have. Some need to be uplifted a bit to get past their heart aches.
It was in response to the narcissistic asshat comment thrown out there. I do think that's crybaby behavior.
Believe me, I totally understand how hard it is. I was overweight for YEARS. I have Hashimoto's thyroiditis and PCOS. I've had two kids. I convinced myself that no matter what I did, it was impossible to lose anything. I let myself stay fat. But I didn't shame other people who did work hard and who did look fantastic. My issues were mine. And ultimately I was the only one responsible for both gaining the weight, and losing it.
Gotcha! I just didn't want anyone who may be down to see that and think they are being told they are being cry babies.
That is a lot to overcome. I applaud you for it! I have asthma, a bum arm, and that's just the physical stuff to over come! I have a whole lot on my plate, but ya can't let it stop you, right?!?!
I also don't agree with the asshat comment (as I mentioned earlier). I think it's great that people can come here and show off! As you mentioned, this should be a motivator and not something that brings people down. We all have a story to tell and we all deserve to show off.0 -
We all have a story to tell and we all deserve to show off.
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We all have a story to tell and we all deserve to show off.
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We all have a story to tell and we all deserve to show off.
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Right! It's ok to be an asshat. Just don't be narcissistic :laugh: Glad we're all on the same page! (ps if I didn't check to see that you guys were friends I would have been so confused by that comment!)0 -
I have noticed an extremely high percentage of girls are insanely beautiful and the dudes look like they should be on the cover of mens health, but if they've worked so hard to look great it is pretty unfair to think they should hide their success.0
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We all have a story to tell and we all deserve to show off.
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Don't make me kick your *kitten*, E
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We all have a story to tell and we all deserve to show off.
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Don't make me kick your *kitten*, E
I love your face like a fat kid loves cake0 -
We all have a story to tell and we all deserve to show off.
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Don't make me kick your *kitten*, E
I love your face like a fat kid loves cake
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Well said OP! I totally agree.0
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I agree. Those threads are meant to make people feel like ****0
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I agree. Those threads are meant to make people feel like ****
No....you're looking at it wrong. Those threads are not meant to make people feel like ****, they are meant to make people feel good about what they have accomplished.
It can be intimidating to see a bunch of gorgeous people posting those threads, but at the same time, there wasn't a single person being told they were "fat" or "ugly" or anything else like that. It's meant to be a virtual high five.0 -
I participate on those threads. And yeah, they are a confidence booster. A few years ago I was borderline morbidly obese. My husband was embarrassed to be seen with me, and made that very clear. I felt horrible about myself, and who I saw in the mirror.
So I started working out. Slowly at first. I did the Couch 2-5k. Some of the weight started dropping off. I started running races. I started going to the gym. I was still fat. Very fat. But less fat than I had been.
Then my husband left me. Rocked my world. Turned it upside down. He hooked up with this tiny little blonde girl, literally half my size, and 15 years younger than him. For the first time since high school, I was alone.
I hit the gym with a vengeance. And you know what, I came through it. I think I look pretty damn good. I feel confident in showing off all that hard work. Piss and moan about all you want about the "narcissistic asshats". But I worked goddamn hard for this. And I'll show it off any time.
Today I'm working out twice, because I can, and because I still have more hard work to put in. Stop cry babying about it, and put the hard work in yourself.
I don't think your last statement was very fair. While I do agree that hard work pays off and you should feel proud and be able to show it off, it's not cool to tell someone to stop cry babying. Just because someone has a moment where they are feeling defeated doesn't mean they are giving up. Just because someone looks at themselves in the mirror and feels ashamed of what they see, doesn't mean they are being a cry baby.
Allowing someone to recognize their faults and pointing out their strengths is far more motivating than telling them they are a cry baby. Good for you for having that drive. Good for you for getting it done and bettering yourself. You do look fantastic, but other people may not have the same strength you have. Some need to be uplifted a bit to get past their heart aches.
It was in response to the narcissistic asshat comment thrown out there. I do think that's crybaby behavior.
Believe me, I totally understand how hard it is. I was overweight for YEARS. I have Hashimoto's thyroiditis and PCOS. I've had two kids. I convinced myself that no matter what I did, it was impossible to lose anything. I let myself stay fat. But I didn't shame other people who did work hard and who did look fantastic. My issues were mine. And ultimately I was the only one responsible for both gaining the weight, and losing it.
I'm not shaming those who,work hard and got a rocking bod. I'm shaming those who that's all they have going on in their life. And if all you (not you personally, the generic you) can talk about is how hot you are, you are a narcissist.0 -
I'm not shaming those who,work hard and got a rocking bod. I'm shaming those who that's all they have going on in their life. And if all you (not you personally, the generic you) can talk about is how hot you are, you are a narcissist.
Girlfriend, you need to stop hating. And shaming. It's sad, really. Who are you to say that because anyone posts in a thread like that it's all they have going on in their lives? You really think you can tell that much about a person from such a small snippet of a comment? C'mon. People work hard, no matter if they've been in great shape all their lives, or they've got a brand new physique. Hard work always deserves kudos.0 -
I'm not shaming those who,work hard and got a rocking bod. I'm shaming those who that's all they have going on in their life. And if all you (not you personally, the generic you) can talk about is how hot you are, you are a narcissist.
Girlfriend, you need to stop hating. And shaming. It's sad, really. Who are you to say that because anyone posts in a thread like that it's all they have going on in their lives? You really think you can tell that much about a person from such a small snippet of a comment? C'mon. People work hard, no matter if they've been in great shape all their lives, or they've got a brand new physique. Hard work always deserves kudos.
^This all day everyday
No one here needs to feel as if the body they have isn't good enough. At the same time, those who can't help but to feel that way need to understand that things go much deeper than a picture in a thread on a forum on some website. Obviously this isn't all a person has going on because they are showing off some bodies they worked hard for. There were many different bodies being shared in those threads, all of them fantastic! All of them deserving of kudos.
The point of this thread was to point out that yes, there are pics of beautiful people, but there is a story behind that body. A picture is worth 1,000 words.0 -
mI'm not shaming those who,work hard and got a rocking bod. I'm shaming those who that's all they have going on in their life. And if all you (not you personally, the generic you) can talk about is how hot you are, you are a narcissist.
Girlfriend, you need to stop hating. And shaming. It's sad, really. Who are you to say that because anyone posts in a thread like that it's all they have going on in their lives? You really think you can tell that much about a person from such a small snippet of a comment? C'mon. People work hard, no matter if they've been in great shape all their lives, or they've got a brand new physique. Hard work always deserves kudos.
I'm not hating. I'm stating my opinion. I also cannot tell what some one is like from one comment, however, i can often tell by seeing repeated posts about the same thing.
I agree hard work deserves kudos, but it's all in how it's presented.0 -
I agree. Those threads are meant to make people feel like ****
That's not even a little bit true.0 -
I have been having a converstaion over the past 2 days with a fellow MFP friend. I won't call him out, but I will say that in a way, the eye candy threads have kind of brought his mood down a bit. He mentioned that there are a bunch of beauitful people talking about how hot they all are. I am not one for pity parties and refused to let him stay there too long.
They're anonymous people on the internet. How do we know that's their picture? We don't.
And if someone needs to tell me how hot they are, they aren't hot. They're narcissistic asshats.
Wow really ?? So people are not allowed to be proud of themselves? They aren't allowed to show what their hard work has done for them and feel great about it? Jealous is very very ugly my friend.0 -
I have been having a converstaion over the past 2 days with a fellow MFP friend. I won't call him out, but I will say that in a way, the eye candy threads have kind of brought his mood down a bit. He mentioned that there are a bunch of beauitful people talking about how hot they all are. I am not one for pity parties and refused to let him stay there too long.
They're anonymous people on the internet. How do we know that's their picture? We don't.
And if someone needs to tell me how hot they are, they aren't hot. They're narcissistic asshats.
Wow really ?? So people are not allowed to be proud of themselves? They aren't allowed to show what their hard work has done for them and feel great about it? Jealous is very very ugly my friend.
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No, no, no, that's not what I'm saying. Post pics, talk about your workout, show off a little. But if your hotness is your sole topic of conversation, that's a problem.0 -
Op, you are awesome for this post!
I don't bother with the eye candy threads, but that's just my personal preference. It has nothing to do with jealousy or bitterness. I know those people have worked super hard and for that, I say "Congratulations!!" You inspire me.
And for those who still have a long way to go, myself included, "You can do it!" (Think Waterboy for the full effect.)0 -
I choose to look at it like this: I have a friend who is currently prepping for a national bikini/physique show. She looks abso-freaking-lutely amazing. Drop dead gorgeous face and body. I can either cheer her on, be a source of support and encouragement, or I can seethe because I don't look like her.
Personally, I'll stick to being pumped for my friend. She worked her *kitten* off to get to where she is. She deserves it, and yeah, it's a huge part of her life. It's basically her job. She's no narcissist. And I'm thrilled for her. And do my best to learn her tricks, because I'd love to look like that! And besides, it's a lot easier to be happy for someone, than to want to shame them.0 -
I used to weigh 365lbs the first time around when I used MFP. I'm about 240 now (didn't gain anything back, just making another push to go lower). It was a lot of work for me to lose a whole person basically. However, all you have to do to completely discount all that work is put me next time an ab guy from one of those beautiful people threads. Some guy who's lost a couple pounds to go from mildly fit to more fit will always be worth more than the guy who's lost 125lbs until the second guy ends up with abs. I'm sure that's just some karmatic punishment for getting fat in the first place so I accept it. Kissing some pretty persons butt though because you think they've worked so hard is just silly though. I've worked hard too. I just didn't get the same result.0
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I'm not shaming those who,work hard and got a rocking bod. I'm shaming those who that's all they have going on in their life. And if all you (not you personally, the generic you) can talk about is how hot you are, you are a narcissist.
Girlfriend, you need to stop hating. And shaming. It's sad, really. Who are you to say that because anyone posts in a thread like that it's all they have going on in their lives? You really think you can tell that much about a person from such a small snippet of a comment? C'mon. People work hard, no matter if they've been in great shape all their lives, or they've got a brand new physique. Hard work always deserves kudos.
^This all day everyday
No one here needs to feel as if the body they have isn't good enough. At the same time, those who can't help but to feel that way need to understand that things go much deeper than a picture in a thread on a forum on some website. Obviously this isn't all a person has going on because they are showing off some bodies they worked hard for. There were many different bodies being shared in those threads, all of them fantastic! All of them deserving of kudos.
The point of this thread was to point out that yes, there are pics of beautiful people, but there is a story behind that body. A picture is worth 1,000 words.
"All day, every day" might mean they are like me and have an easy, peasy job.0 -
I used to weigh 365lbs the first time around when I used MFP. I'm about 240 now (didn't gain anything back, just making another push to go lower). It was a lot of work for me to lose a whole person basically. However, all you have to do to completely discount all that work is put me next time an ab guy from one of those beautiful people threads. Some guy who's lost a couple pounds to go from mildly fit to more fit will always be worth more than the guy who's lost 125lbs until the second guy ends up with abs. I'm sure that's just some karmatic punishment for getting fat in the first place so I accept it. Kissing some pretty persons butt though because you think they've worked so hard is just silly though. I've worked hard too. I just didn't get the same result.
^^ That's absurd.
Congrats on your loss, but don't let other people's lives make you feel "discounted." DO NOT BELIEVE IT! I am still sitting at 190 pounds myself, but I am THRILLED to be here at this weight, so much so that I have spent several month maintaining this weight. Some random person might say, "Hey you are still fat," but I REFUSE to let asshats take ANYTHING away from my accomplishments.
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OP had the best of intentions, but it seems like some people took that original intention and took it and twisted to a shaming, hateful thread. Seriously, folks, it's too bad that some fun threads like the 'eye candy' threads cause hurt feelings, but they really are just silly, superficial things for fun. No one thinks that posting a bod picture is the heart and soul of a person. For the record, my profile picutre really is me, and I posted it because I am proud of the work I've done on my body. Does that define me? In the aspect that I'm a driven person who has found the will power to work out and stick to eating a certain diet, yes. In the aspect that a picture of my body shows what kind of a person I am, no. I am a wife, a mother, a friend, a boss, an employee, a citizen of earth. I try to be a nice person, and a friendly stranger. It's just a picture and the threads are just meant to be fun. Because I participate in them does not make me an asshat or a bad person. It just means I like to have a little fun. It doesn't define me.0
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I used to weigh 365lbs the first time around when I used MFP. I'm about 240 now (didn't gain anything back, just making another push to go lower). It was a lot of work for me to lose a whole person basically. However, all you have to do to completely discount all that work is put me next time an ab guy from one of those beautiful people threads. Some guy who's lost a couple pounds to go from mildly fit to more fit will always be worth more than the guy who's lost 125lbs until the second guy ends up with abs. I'm sure that's just some karmatic punishment for getting fat in the first place so I accept it. Kissing some pretty persons butt though because you think they've worked so hard is just silly though. I've worked hard too. I just didn't get the same result.
The point of my OP was missed. The point was to look beyond those looks and see what that person has worked for. There is one guy in there, I think his user name is littlebutbig who worked really damn hard for what he has. Not to mention, some men (and women) aren't going to lose a ton because they are gaining muscle. I have only lost 9lbs but I have dropped 3 pant sizes. That's a big deal! It IS a lot of work, and when you get there, you may want to show off as well.OP had the best of intentions, but it seems like some people took that original intention and took it and twisted to a shaming, hateful thread. Seriously, folks, it's too bad that some fun threads like the 'eye candy' threads cause hurt feelings, but they really are just silly, superficial things for fun. No one thinks that posting a bod picture is the heart and soul of a person. For the record, my profile picutre really is me, and I posted it because I am proud of the work I've done on my body. Does that define me? In the aspect that I'm a driven person who has found the will power to work out and stick to eating a certain diet, yes. In the aspect that a picture of my body shows what kind of a person I am, no. I am a wife, a mother, a friend, a boss, an employee, a citizen of earth. I try to be a nice person, and a friendly stranger. It's just a picture and the threads are just meant to be fun. Because I participate in them does not make me an asshat or a bad person. It just means I like to have a little fun. It doesn't define me.
This is exactly what I have been trying to get at. You look amazing and you have worked for it. Nothing wrong with showing what you've got, and nothing wrong with wanting to hear positive feed back. At the same time, a person who isn't to their goals shouldn't feel put off by it, it should give them the will power and motivation to keep going; seeing it is attainable.0 -
I used to weigh 365lbs the first time around when I used MFP. I'm about 240 now (didn't gain anything back, just making another push to go lower). It was a lot of work for me to lose a whole person basically. However, all you have to do to completely discount all that work is put me next time an ab guy from one of those beautiful people threads. Some guy who's lost a couple pounds to go from mildly fit to more fit will always be worth more than the guy who's lost 125lbs until the second guy ends up with abs. I'm sure that's just some karmatic punishment for getting fat in the first place so I accept it. Kissing some pretty persons butt though because you think they've worked so hard is just silly though. I've worked hard too. I just didn't get the same result.
The point of my OP was missed. The point was to look beyond those looks and see what that person has worked for. There is one guy in there, I think his user name is littlebutbig who worked really damn hard for what he has. Not to mention, some men (and women) aren't going to lose a ton because they are gaining muscle. I have only lost 9lbs but I have dropped 3 pant sizes. That's a big deal! It IS a lot of work, and when you get there, you may want to show off as well.OP had the best of intentions, but it seems like some people took that original intention and took it and twisted to a shaming, hateful thread. Seriously, folks, it's too bad that some fun threads like the 'eye candy' threads cause hurt feelings, but they really are just silly, superficial things for fun. No one thinks that posting a bod picture is the heart and soul of a person. For the record, my profile picutre really is me, and I posted it because I am proud of the work I've done on my body. Does that define me? In the aspect that I'm a driven person who has found the will power to work out and stick to eating a certain diet, yes. In the aspect that a picture of my body shows what kind of a person I am, no. I am a wife, a mother, a friend, a boss, an employee, a citizen of earth. I try to be a nice person, and a friendly stranger. It's just a picture and the threads are just meant to be fun. Because I participate in them does not make me an asshat or a bad person. It just means I like to have a little fun. It doesn't define me.
This is exactly what I have been trying to get at. You look amazing and you have worked for it. Nothing wrong with showing what you've got, and nothing wrong with wanting to hear positive feed back. At the same time, a person who isn't to their goals shouldn't feel put off by it, it should give them the will power and motivation to keep going; seeing it is attainable.
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I used to weigh 365lbs the first time around when I used MFP. I'm about 240 now (didn't gain anything back, just making another push to go lower). It was a lot of work for me to lose a whole person basically. However, all you have to do to completely discount all that work is put me next time an ab guy from one of those beautiful people threads. Some guy who's lost a couple pounds to go from mildly fit to more fit will always be worth more than the guy who's lost 125lbs until the second guy ends up with abs. I'm sure that's just some karmatic punishment for getting fat in the first place so I accept it. Kissing some pretty persons butt though because you think they've worked so hard is just silly though. I've worked hard too. I just didn't get the same result.
First, admiring someone's dedication and results =/= ingratiating oneself to them.
Second, if you have worked hard. Have you let people know about it? Have you put yourself out there? You have no picture so I'm wondering if you haven't gotten validation because you haven't told your story. 125lbs lost tends to get a REALLY enthusiatic reaction around here, whether you're at goal or still in progress.
Third, and not necessarily to you, is a statement I've always believed and MFP proves it more often then I'd like.
People want you to be successful, until you are.0 -
Y'all need some cheese with all that?0
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