Food posts on FaceBook- am I being mean?

Debbeva

Ignore it. Seriously. Or work in the calories for a treat if you really want it. There's no need to be a Debbie Downer about a recipe that others might enjoy.

3foldchord

Honestly - I just ignore it. I never like it when others try to force their views on me - so why should others be any different with what they want to eat? I focus on myself, my food, and getting my workouts in. I refuse to discuss food and exercise with others unless explicitly asked - most people just honestly don't want to know how many calories they are eating, or why they're not losing weight by just hitting the treadmill a couple times a week.

this reflect my views/
(not only do most people not know how many calories, they really don't care. just because I is important to me doesn't mean it has to be their priority, too)

tmauck4472

I'm one of those people that post them, OH and I make them. lots of them. What I find is I enjoy baking now more than I ever did, I also have more control of my eating than I ever did. I can post and make and have a bite or two and send the rest on their merry way to my family and friends who may want them. I care about the calorie count but others don't, hooray for them wouldn't it be awesome if WE didn't have to care? Oh well I got dealt the fat card in life and so I have to watch my calories. To those who don't, that's just pure awesomeness. I'm sorry you feel the need to be upset about what others choose to put in their mouth and how much of it. I'm going to make those yummy looking lemon brownies just posted in the last few days. Go ahead and give me the calorie count so I can log it and enjoy it.

Papillon22

So, your friends are ignorant overweight people who *you think* should lose weight and it is your mission to educate them. I can't imagine why they'd become defensive...

This is your issue. It's not about changing what others do.

seasonsanna

I think, "holy **** that looks good".
that's about it.
im fat because I ate stuff like that for a long time, all the time. sucks for me!

amfmmama

Ice Box éclair cake


http://allrecipes.com/recipe/chocolate-eclair-cake/detail.aspx

nancyluckhurst3

Amen.

I hate when people care what other people are eating/want to eat.
Make your food choices, but you don't need to preach how many calories is in something to anyone else.

nancyluckhurst3

Excellent answer and exactly the way I feel. If you can't control your urges that is your problem not the worlds. If you have a problem with it shut down your FB and problem solved or you could unfriend them so you don't see it. who died and named you dictator of other people's enjoyment.

Yes. It's their page. If they want to eat like crap, that's their choice. Who the hell are you to judge them for it?

shrinkingshreya

I love looking at the stuff too. I know I can't have it right now to be able to fit into my goals, but I LOVE food (thats how I got this way in the first place, lol!) and I enjoy seeing all the yummy things people come up with. So unbelievably preachy, unfriend them, hide their posts and maybe find some friend's that enjoy someone else dictating how many calories they should eat.

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cheripugh1

Wow... my friends share recipes all the time, some I repost, many are actually healthy but I do eat normal foods. If it is a 'bad' food I simply skip it or save it for use on a special occasion..

I guess the only time it bothers me is when my friends says her and her (teen morbidly obese) daughter are needing to lose weight, joined a gym yet post real 'bad' foods one right after another 4 or 5 at a time, often as they are making them...HELLO don't cry to me if you aren't losing weight. But I simply do not respond or occasionally I'll make the 'wow that looks evilly good but hey hello carrot sticks all week for that one, um nope not for me'

I learned if someone post something I do not like I block that type of posts from them.

nancyluckhurst3

NO your not being mean. Your being a total *kitten*. Unfriend the foodies.

So, I finally got tired of (some) of my FB friends who post almost nothing but recipes on FB. And not just ANY recipes. You know the kind I mean- bar cookies covered with half an inch of frosting, casseroles loaded with bacon and cheese, something called "millionaire spaghetti pie"... sadly, the people who post these recipes really need to eat less of this stuff- they're all overweight. And every one of these recipes starts with "Hit 'Share' so this will be saved on your timeline so you won't lose it." and they comply. Now I don't wanna get all preachy on FB, but about a week ago I decide to look up the nutritional info on one of these concoctions. Umm, if you really do divide the 13 X 9 X 5 pan contents into 15 pieces, one Banana Nut Brownie with cream cheese frosting has 459 calories and 48% of the recommended max for saturated fat. And who eats just one when the rest of the pan is staring at you and the first one was so good?

So, I posted that info, just as a public service and all... and did that for 2 more particularly egregious recipes I've seen since then. One friend got all defensive and said that it was OK as an occasional treat.. which is how she replied when I commented on some cheese/bacon/egg casserole thing she posted at Christmas.

Disclosure: I do like some of that stuff, but my tactic is to go to a place where I can get ONE serving (e.g., a good bakery), take it home, enjoy every single calorie and fat gram, then go back to my usual good habits. No way I'd let piles of that stuff live in my kitchen.

So- how do YOU deal with FaceBook Foodies?

Fit_little_vegan

Actually, I closed down my Facebook account quite a while ago. I found that it provided nothing useful in my life and was a huge time drain. I am so much happier now that I don't have Facebook in my life. The bonus is that I don't have to see, and am not tempted by, recipes people post.

^ yep! Lol 100% closed my Facebook forever ago and feel a million times better without one

Btw I think it's awesome your sharing the nutritional info! People need to know what their actually eating. Even if they want to be in denial about it, it has to do with health.

Athena53

I don't think it's any of your business.

There is an obesity epidemic in this country and we spend an insane amount of our GDP on medical expenses, including the costs of all the conditions created and exacerbated by overweight and bad diets. It warms my heart when I read the Success Stories and read about how many meds people were able to discontinue (with their doc's agreement) after they lost weight.

We all pay for this care, through higher insurance premiums, higher taxes to fund health care for the poor, and covering for absences in the workplace. So yes, it IS my business. I also want everyone to feel the way I do. You know what I'm gonna do to celebrate my 61st birthday this weekend? I'm signing up for a sprint triathlon- 1/2 mile lake swim, 12 mile bike ride and a 5K. It saddens me to see how many people are in poor shape and just chalk it up to age or a sedentary job (I have one of those). It doesn't have to be that way.

shrinkingshreya

I don't think it's any of your business.

There is an obesity epidemic in this country and we spend an insane amount of our GDP on medical expenses, including the costs of all the conditions created and exacerbated by overweight and bad diets. It warms my heart when I read the Success Stories and read about how many meds people were able to discontinue (with their doc's agreement) after they lost weight.

We all pay for this care, through higher insurance premiums, higher taxes to fund health care for the poor, and covering for absences in the workplace. So yes, it IS my business. I also want everyone to feel the way I do. You know what I'm gonna do to celebrate my 61st birthday this weekend? I'm signing up for a sprint triathlon- 1/2 mile lake swim, 12 mile bike ride and a 5K. It saddens me to see how many people are in poor shape and just chalk it up to age or a sedentary job (I have one of those). It doesn't have to be that way.

I feel concerned when I see my overweight friend's eating things they shouldn't be eating. But that is THEIR choice not yours, everyone does things on their own time. If you really cared for the friend maybe invite them on a walk or reach out to them in person or the phone, instead of attacking them with nutritional statistics.

Oh and by the way, just because you contribute and pay taxes like everyone else doesn't give you the right to dictate someone else's way of life. I'm sure there are many things that you do in your life that people won't agree with.

seasonsanna

"higher taxes to fund health care for the poor"

huh?

*pops popcorn* anyone want some?
(its air popped, and I wont post any pics of it, I swear!)

red_road

I don't judge people food porn. If it floats your boat....

shannonalgren1

ignore them

OMGeeeHorses

Wow...if you don't like food being posted on FB then do not get a Pinterest account LMFAO, you would go mental!!

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tiptoethruthetulips

Since you asked, yes you are being mean. But I think your follow up response suggests you were not after alternative points of view but validation for your own point of view.

Don't like what you are seeing - unfollow your friends or delete them.

shrinkingshreya

Wow...if you don't like food being posted on FB then do not get a Pinterest account LMFAO, you would go mental!!

OMG YES! This... I get healthy ideas but alot more naughty food ideas but I still look matter fact, yesterday night I was starving looking at it. But I thought to myself once I can get myself into maintenance weight, I can enjoy these things a lot more in moderation, it's actually in a weird way motivation for me.

ElizaB84

Food porn fb posts make me happy. I will never make any of it, because a lot of the stuff seems like too much work.
But I like looking at it.

dandelyon

You can opt out of specific friends' photos.

I am that way about dumb quotes all fancied up in a graphic.

seltzermint555

eh that stuff does not really bother me...I am HUGELY into Pinterest and I see stuff like that on Pinterest constantly so I've kinda learned to just move past those types of recipes. Not many of my FB friends post recipes or photos of food.

I would think it was very "holier than thou" if one of my FB friends was posting the NI for a specific recipe that someone else posted. I tend to take the high road in those situations and assume the other person knows how "bad" the foods are, or simply doesn't give a rat's *kitten*. I would be annoyed if someone tried to tell me that I shouldn't have that occasional scoop of ice cream or HAD to order my enchilada with no cheese. None of their business...at all.

However I will say that it kinda blows my mind from time to time when some of my FB friends who are known for always dieting and/or complaining about their weight issues post that they're at Krispy Kreme at 10 pm when they just posted about their steakhouse dinner, sushi lunch, and the previous day it was a buffet at breakfast they raved about. I am not the food police and it's none of my business but I'm just like "wow really...and you are concerned with losing weight?"

Oh! also...Bonus points for those who also complain about their limited budgets and eat like that regularly. LOL

vjohn04

HI, I have friends that post those kinds of recipes (you know which ones I mean... the ones with tons of frosting, lots of bacon, or mounds of sugar). I make a lot of those recipes, some taste really good, and some not so much.

I'd recommend just hiding those people's posts if they bother you so much. There are plenty of people out there, like myself, that can make those tasty (and sometimes not so tasty) treats and continue to lose or maintain their weight.

I'd be really irritated if someone felt the need to berate my posts on Facebook. That social media platform is bad enough with high school bickering, I certainly don't need someone taking pot-shots at food.

primal_cupcakes

So you're concerned that the recipes people are posting on Facebook are contributing to the obesity epidemic in this country and feel compelled to speak up? Okay. I think you're attacking the wrong part of the problem, but I hear you.

But trust me, this is NOT an effective way to help people lose weight. I am not an expert on the matter, but I am a student of dietetics, and I have studied nutrition counseling and worked with clients with all sorts of special diet needs from renal therapy to diabetes to morbid obesity to anorexia, and until a person is READY to make a change in their lifestyle, all your snarky comments and calorie-shaming is going to do is make them feel distrustful of you and irritated and shamed. Set a good example. As an advocate of healthy eating and exercise, post recipes you like or share inspirational success stories if you feel compelled to do so. Be a good supportive friend and listener. It sounds like you have a very vibrant, healthy lifestyle. Maybe other people will be inspired to follow suit if you try a different approach!

chezjuan

And who eats just one when the rest of the pan is staring at you and the first one was so good?

*Raises hand*

It's really not that hard for me to eat just one.

I actually enjoy the foodie posts on Facebook. I either get some good ideas, or live vicariously through my friends.

ETA: Sometimes when I post recipes or food pics on Facebook, I post the calories myself...

vanguardfitness

I found something once for a 30 lay nacho dip. It called for a bowl that was about 8-12 inches deep. lol. Looked ****ing good though

MB_Positif

Yes :flowerforyou: