Food posts on FaceBook- am I being mean?

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  • nz_deevaa
    nz_deevaa Posts: 12,209 Member
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    Food porn fb posts make me happy. I will never make any of it, because a lot of the stuff seems like too much work.
    But I like looking at it.

    This is generally how I feel about it also. Once in a while it gives me ideas of things to make. But, it's nice to look at even if I choose not to make it.

    Also, it can make me feel superior by commenting "Three boxes of cake mix, mixed with a can of coke?" That's not a recipe!
  • postrockandcats
    postrockandcats Posts: 1,145 Member
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    I don't think it's any of your business.

    There is an obesity epidemic in this country and we spend an insane amount of our GDP on medical expenses, including the costs of all the conditions created and exacerbated by overweight and bad diets. It warms my heart when I read the Success Stories and read about how many meds people were able to discontinue (with their doc's agreement) after they lost weight.

    We all pay for this care, through higher insurance premiums, higher taxes to fund health care for the poor, and covering for absences in the workplace. So yes, it IS my business. I also want everyone to feel the way I do. You know what I'm gonna do to celebrate my 61st birthday this weekend? I'm signing up for a sprint triathlon- 1/2 mile lake swim, 12 mile bike ride and a 5K. It saddens me to see how many people are in poor shape and just chalk it up to age or a sedentary job (I have one of those). It doesn't have to be that way.

    You can't force people to live a certain way and shaming them into a "better" or " healthy" lifestyle isn't the way to go. You don't know what's going on in their lives. They know they are fat. They don't need you reminding them or shaming them for a food they like. It's cruel, toxic, very bullying and It's NOT your business. Just like it's not your business or place to remind smokers how bad it is or remind someone drinking a beer about the bad things alcohol can do to your body. Heck, RUNNING can be horrible for you too, but you're doing that with bells on.

    If and when they decide to change their lives, they will do so on their own in their own time. No sooner. If you want to be a good friend, you'll cheer them through every victory, hug them when they fall and mind your own business until they ask for your help.

    I'd rather be back where I started than be in a place where I'd feel I couldn't eat a slice of Millionaire Pasta because it's "bad." If I want to eat it, I will and I'll not feel guilty about it. I eat everything in moderation and am happier and healthier than I've ever been in my life. If *anyone* on my FB list had the flipping GALL to question something I'm eating, I'd tell them where to stick it.

    PS- http://thepioneerwoman.com/cooking/2012/11/baked-ziti/

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    It looks freaking DELICIOUS. If you don't want any, hand it the heck over.
  • chrisdavey
    chrisdavey Posts: 9,834 Member
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    Can you just ask if that fit your friend's macros? :laugh:
  • Linda09189
    Linda09189 Posts: 80
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    drives me nuts when ppl say anything in moderation, what the hell does that really mean??? on the MFP ppl who say you can treat yourself, you just have a bite to get your craving to go away,... I don't know one person be it skinny or heavy that can eat one bite of your favorite thing.......You gotta want this more then you want to eat anything........I keep telling myself personally NOTHING will ever taste as good as thin will feel...................
  • astrovivi
    astrovivi Posts: 183 Member
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    sounds like whining to me.
  • Linda09189
    Linda09189 Posts: 80
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    OMG...yet another person who says I'd rather be back where I was then to give up what I want.....
  • kgeyser
    kgeyser Posts: 22,505 Member
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    I would never say anything to someone on fb about the recipes they choose to post. I will copy the recipe and share with a group of like-minded friends so we can all share in the horror of it together, and I am not a foodie by any means. I should note that I never get anything on my newsfeed that looks as deliciously awesome as that chocolate eclair pie, I get stuff that looks like this*:

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    *Not an actual recipe, but the best visual representation of the "Dear god, wtf IS that? Why? Why?" reaction that generally accompanies the recipes I get.
  • Booksandbeaches
    Booksandbeaches Posts: 1,791 Member
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    I wouldn't say anything. It wouldn't bother me either if they posted fatty foods. I don't preach to people. I will share recipes I like, but ultimately what another person eats is their business, not mine. I might have an opinion about it, but I'm not going to share it with them at the expense of a friendship. If they ask me outright, I might say something diplomatic.
  • Sreneesa
    Sreneesa Posts: 1,170 Member
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    I would never say anything to someone on fb about the recipes they choose to post. I will copy the recipe and share with a group of like-minded friends so we can all share in the horror of it together, and I am not a foodie by any means. I should note that I never get anything on my newsfeed that looks as deliciously awesome as that chocolate eclair pie, I get stuff that looks like this*:

    sammich.jpg

    *Not an actual recipe, but the best visual representation of the "Dear god, wtf IS that? Why? Why?" reaction that generally accompanies the recipes I get.




    I just threw up a little in my mouth....:sick:
  • inskydiamonds
    inskydiamonds Posts: 2,519 Member
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    OMG...yet another person who says I'd rather be back where I was then to give up what I want.....

    It is unrealistic to think anyone is going to give up anything they love/crave forever. That just leads to people giving up and getting fat again.

    Heck yeah, I'd rather continue being fat than denying myself some pleasures in life.
  • FootballKate1
    FootballKate1 Posts: 14 Member
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    I do have the recipe and am asked to make it all the time. Funny, the men really seem to like this dessert the most. It is expected every year for the Super Bowl.

    2 small pkg vanilla instant pudding
    3 cups milk
    12 oz. cool whip
    graham cracker squares

    2 oz. squares chocolate
    3 tbsp margarine
    1/2 cup light corn syrup
    1 tsp vanilla
    1 1/2 cups powdered sugar

    Must make at least 12 hours before serving so graham crackers get soft.

    Combine pudding mix and milk; mix until well blended about 1-2 minutes. Add cool whip to pudding. In a 9x13 inch pan, place a layer of graham cracker squares to cover bottom. Put half of the pudding mixture over graham crackers. Add another layer of graham cracker squares. Place remaining pudding mixture over graham crackers and add a third layer of graham cracker squares.

    Melt margarine and chocolate in saucepan. Add syrup, vanilla and powdered sugar. Stir together and spread over the top of the dessert. Refrigerate.

    **I made the chocolate topping and found it was too sticky to spread so I have since just squeezed Hershey's syrup over the top layer of graham crackers. It is a little runny but tastes just as good.

    Hope you like it - it is very easy to make!
  • PetulantOne
    PetulantOne Posts: 2,131 Member
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    I would never say anything to someone on fb about the recipes they choose to post. I will copy the recipe and share with a group of like-minded friends so we can all share in the horror of it together, and I am not a foodie by any means. I should note that I never get anything on my newsfeed that looks as deliciously awesome as that chocolate eclair pie, I get stuff that looks like this*:

    sammich.jpg

    *Not an actual recipe, but the best visual representation of the "Dear god, wtf IS that? Why? Why?" reaction that generally accompanies the recipes I get.

    Looks like chicken a' la king on top of an open faced turkey and cheese sandwich. :happy:
  • FootballKate1
    FootballKate1 Posts: 14 Member
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    chocolate ecclair cake
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    any one got the recipe?


    I do have the recipe and am asked to make it all the time. Funny, the men really seem to like this dessert the most. It is expected every year for the Super Bowl.

    2 small pkg vanilla instant pudding
    3 cups milk
    12 oz. cool whip
    graham cracker squares

    2 oz. squares chocolate
    3 tbsp margarine
    1/2 cup light corn syrup
    1 tsp vanilla
    1 1/2 cups powdered sugar

    Must make at least 12 hours before serving so graham crackers get soft.

    Combine pudding mix and milk; mix until well blended about 1-2 minutes. Add cool whip to pudding. In a 9x13 inch pan, place a layer of graham cracker squares to cover bottom. Put half of the pudding mixture over graham crackers. Add another layer of graham cracker squares. Place remaining pudding mixture over graham crackers and add a third layer of graham cracker squares.

    Melt margarine and chocolate in saucepan. Add syrup, vanilla and powdered sugar. Stir together and spread over the top of the dessert. Refrigerate.

    **I made the chocolate topping and found it was too sticky to spread so I have since just squeezed Hershey's syrup over the top layer of graham crackers. It is a little runny but tastes just as good.

    Hope you like it - it is very easy to make!

    **Sorry to repeat - hopefully I am replying correctly this time!
  • postrockandcats
    postrockandcats Posts: 1,145 Member
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    drives me nuts when ppl say anything in moderation, what the hell does that really mean??? on the MFP ppl who say you can treat yourself, you just have a bite to get your craving to go away,... I don't know one person be it skinny or heavy that can eat one bite of your favorite thing.......You gotta want this more then you want to eat anything........I keep telling myself personally NOTHING will ever taste as good as thin will feel...................

    What does it mean? For me it means eating one serving of lasagna instead of 2-3 servings or a smaller serving of a thing and "backfilling" what I would have eaten with something else that's a little lighter like more veggies or some fruit. Instead of a Snicker's bar every day, eating one week (makes it more satisfying for me anyway). Making lighter choices during the day with the knowledge that I'll have a heavier meal that night. Or just having a day every few weeks where I throw care to the wind and not worrying about it.

    I had a lady at work chide me for eating a Snickers one day and I politely told her where to stuff it. If YOU want to live by the mantra "nothing tastes as good as thin feels," rock on. You know you and what you need to succeed. I have found for ME that mental health and not seeing food as the enemy made me not fight the process of losing weight like I had before. And hey- 86 pounds and no binge eating for a year for me. :)
  • Sreneesa
    Sreneesa Posts: 1,170 Member
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    I would never say anything to someone on fb about the recipes they choose to post. I will copy the recipe and share with a group of like-minded friends so we can all share in the horror of it together, and I am not a foodie by any means. I should note that I never get anything on my newsfeed that looks as deliciously awesome as that chocolate eclair pie, I get stuff that looks like this*:

    sammich.jpg

    *Not an actual recipe, but the best visual representation of the "Dear god, wtf IS that? Why? Why?" reaction that generally accompanies the recipes I get.

    Looks like chicken a' la king on top of an open faced turkey and cheese sandwich. :happy:

    I seriously thought it was macaroni salad on top of an open face turkey and cheese sandwich.. :laugh:
  • Justifier
    Justifier Posts: 336 Member
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    Sorry, but yeah, you're being a b!tch.

    You're shaming your friend for eating something. You don't know what she eats and you don't know how many calories she burns. You don't know how much of said dessert she will eat or share. Nor should you know. It's none of your business how someone else chooses to fuel their body at any given moment. If she wanted diet advice, she would ask you for it. Otherwise, you're being completely rude.
  • nz_deevaa
    nz_deevaa Posts: 12,209 Member
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    drives me nuts when ppl say anything in moderation, what the hell does that really mean??? on the MFP ppl who say you can treat yourself, you just have a bite to get your craving to go away,... I don't know one person be it skinny or heavy that can eat one bite of your favorite thing.......You gotta want this more then you want to eat anything........I keep telling myself personally NOTHING will ever taste as good as thin will feel...................

    *sigh*
  • postrockandcats
    postrockandcats Posts: 1,145 Member
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    OMG...yet another person who says I'd rather be back where I was then to give up what I want.....

    It is unrealistic to think anyone is going to give up anything they love/crave forever. That just leads to people giving up and getting fat again.

    Heck yeah, I'd rather continue being fat than denying myself some pleasures in life.

    Cosigned. I love my healthy foods, but bring on the cake one in a while, too! :D
  • casefritz
    casefritz Posts: 5
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    I AGREE! Bacon is meat candy! :)

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