Food posts on FaceBook- am I being mean?
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Tell them they have too much time on their hands. I really dont understand the mentality of people on Facebook. People never used to phone or text their friends to share what they are having for dinner for example, so why on Facebook.
The thing is, smart phones, for all their advantages, are just ruining society and people's social skills....
Back in the palaeolithic era, people sat around campfires and shared banal pieces of information, like which part of the animal they were eating, or how far they had to walk to gather the roots they brought to the tribe, or how many moons it would be until berry season and good ways to cook roots and berries. and who was shagging who and who argued with who and all kinds of other gossip
When humans invented farming, they shared useless information while tilling the fields and tending their herds and stuff like that
In the bronze age and iron age, they had taverns to sit around chatting about banal stuff in
move forward to the middle ages, people still sat around in taverns or went to each others' houses to share banal information like what they were having for dinner, swapping recipes with neighbours and stuff like that
And nowadays, we have social media, so all this banal social chat that humans have been doing ever since we evolved the ability to speak, has now moved onto social media like facebook. Humans talk to other humans about banal, boring stuff. It actually serves a vitally important function in human societies, i.e. making and maintaining relationships with other humans, which is critical for co-operation as a group, which is a major, highly critical factor in human evolution. So if people posting boring shizz on facebook is a side effect of us having evolved to be highly advanced, social, co-operative beings with an advanced level of language, then I think I can live with people posting boring shizz on facebook.
While your piece about history may be correct, during none of this time have the streets being filled with people walking around staring at a screen. I have no problem with cavemen talking about food. This is fundamental social interaction. What bothers me, however, is that the side-effect of staring at a screen because of addictive sites like Facebook has negative effects that range from the seemingly harmless to the blatantly dangerous, and no-one seems to care. And for what gain?
So what am I going on about? Walking through a busy high street not watching where you are going, potentially ignoring other people, not taking in surroundings - seemingly harmless, but this bad habit leads to other things.
Social environments such as being in a park watching the kids. Mums and dads just hooked on Facebook, seemingly checking the same messages as they did so about 5 seconds ago, not paying any attention or interest to kids.
Walking down a busy road, one hand on mobile phone, one hand on pram with baby inside, crossing a busy road, prioritising sending a message over even minor hazards.
Social environments with just adults. How annoying is it when you are trying to have a conversation with somebody being compelled to send an non-urgent text to somebody.
Cavemen never experienced this. Is telling people about food recipes on a social media website really worth it?0 -
Tell them they have too much time on their hands. I really dont understand the mentality of people on Facebook. People never used to phone or text their friends to share what they are having for dinner for example, so why on Facebook.
The thing is, smart phones, for all their advantages, are just ruining society and people's social skills....
Well it would be a tad hypocritical being on FB yourself and taking the time to tell them they have too much time on their hands.....
Errrr ok. Or perhaps not, because then they might not do it... hence saving time and bother in the future....
or just save yourself the time and bother and don't go on FB to tell other people they are wasting time on FB
I give up. Like to talking to a brick wall. Or worse even, because at least the brick wall wont shout back inane tosh.0 -
There is always the option of not having an account on Facebook. :ohwell:0
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So, I finally got tired of (some) of my FB friends who post almost nothing but recipes on FB. And not just ANY recipes. You know the kind I mean- bar cookies covered with half an inch of frosting, casseroles loaded with bacon and cheese, something called "millionaire spaghetti pie"... sadly, the people who post these recipes really need to eat less of this stuff- they're all overweight. And every one of these recipes starts with "Hit 'Share' so this will be saved on your timeline so you won't lose it." and they comply. Now I don't wanna get all preachy on FB, but about a week ago I decide to look up the nutritional info on one of these concoctions. Umm, if you really do divide the 13 X 9 X 5 pan contents into 15 pieces, one Banana Nut Brownie with cream cheese frosting has 459 calories and 48% of the recommended max for saturated fat. And who eats just one when the rest of the pan is staring at you and the first one was so good?
So, I posted that info, just as a public service and all... and did that for 2 more particularly egregious recipes I've seen since then. One friend got all defensive and said that it was OK as an occasional treat.. which is how she replied when I commented on some cheese/bacon/egg casserole thing she posted at Christmas.
Disclosure: I do like some of that stuff, but my tactic is to go to a place where I can get ONE serving (e.g., a good bakery), take it home, enjoy every single calorie and fat gram, then go back to my usual good habits. No way I'd let piles of that stuff live in my kitchen.
So- how do YOU deal with FaceBook Foodies?
Hmmm, I bake those kinds of recipes, eats those kinds of foods, and yes I occasionally share those kinds of recipes on fb. Shockingly, I've managed to figure out how to not only lose weight while doing this, but also how to maintain that almost 60lbs loss, as well. One of the great mysteries of the universe I guess
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yeeeeahhhhh.Yeah, I think it's kind of mean to post the calorie count on someone else's page.
It's one thing to tell a close friend, in private, that you worry about all the unhealthy and high calorie food they seem to be regularly eating. But to publicly post nutritional info under their facebook posts? That is seriously obnoxious, and insensitive, and potentially hurtful and embarrassing.0 -
So, I finally got tired of (some) of my FB friends who post almost nothing but recipes on FB. And not just ANY recipes. You know the kind I mean- bar cookies covered with half an inch of frosting, casseroles loaded with bacon and cheese, something called "millionaire spaghetti pie"... sadly, the people who post these recipes really need to eat less of this stuff- they're all overweight. And every one of these recipes starts with "Hit 'Share' so this will be saved on your timeline so you won't lose it." and they comply. Now I don't wanna get all preachy on FB, but about a week ago I decide to look up the nutritional info on one of these concoctions. Umm, if you really do divide the 13 X 9 X 5 pan contents into 15 pieces, one Banana Nut Brownie with cream cheese frosting has 459 calories and 48% of the recommended max for saturated fat. And who eats just one when the rest of the pan is staring at you and the first one was so good?
So, I posted that info, just as a public service and all... and did that for 2 more particularly egregious recipes I've seen since then. One friend got all defensive and said that it was OK as an occasional treat.. which is how she replied when I commented on some cheese/bacon/egg casserole thing she posted at Christmas.
Disclosure: I do like some of that stuff, but my tactic is to go to a place where I can get ONE serving (e.g., a good bakery), take it home, enjoy every single calorie and fat gram, then go back to my usual good habits. No way I'd let piles of that stuff live in my kitchen.
So- how do YOU deal with FaceBook Foodies?
I like taking those recipes and making swaps so that the 459 calorie Banana Nut Brownie turns into a 200 calorie Banana Nut Brownie. I have gotten some of my best recipes from what friends and family have posted, I have just learned what and where to swap things for others. If you learned to do the same you might be able to make that recipe with no regrets....that is what I do.
And I agree with the people who are shocked at posting the calorie counts under the page. Just because you don't want to eat it because of calorie count, doesn't mean everyone else is afraid of the calories. If you don't want to see the stuff then just hide it from your page...easily fixed.0 -
drives me nuts when ppl say anything in moderation, what the hell does that really mean??? on the MFP ppl who say you can treat yourself, you just have a bite to get your craving to go away,... I don't know one person be it skinny or heavy that can eat one bite of your favorite thing.......You gotta want this more then you want to eat anything........I keep telling myself personally NOTHING will ever taste as good as thin will feel...................
:huh:
No, what tastes and feels good is being thin AND eating all the kinds of food you like :drinker:0 -
I just ignore the recipes. I don't care if they want to eat that. If and when they are ready to lose weight and ask advice, then I can refer them to some resources.
You could set your notifications so that just some of their updates appear in your newsfeed, or none.0 -
Is this really a problem? Lol wow…
I could care less what people post on FB …do the calories somehow leak through onto your profile page, and then creep into your body?
I find it hard to believe that this is a serious post….0 -
I don't mind the recipes, some of them I save just in case but I don't care what people post it's up to them, the people I tend to unfollow are the people who post religious stuff, but I wouldn't unfriend them, and I respect their religious beliefs
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I don't think it's any of your business.
There is an obesity epidemic in this country and we spend an insane amount of our GDP on medical expenses, including the costs of all the conditions created and exacerbated by overweight and bad diets. It warms my heart when I read the Success Stories and read about how many meds people were able to discontinue (with their doc's agreement) after they lost weight.
We all pay for this care, through higher insurance premiums, higher taxes to fund health care for the poor, and covering for absences in the workplace. So yes, it IS my business. I also want everyone to feel the way I do. You know what I'm gonna do to celebrate my 61st birthday this weekend? I'm signing up for a sprint triathlon- 1/2 mile lake swim, 12 mile bike ride and a 5K. It saddens me to see how many people are in poor shape and just chalk it up to age or a sedentary job (I have one of those). It doesn't have to be that way.
Ummm actually it is not…It is a free country and if people want to be fat and lazy then they can be fat and lazy with no help from you..on the flip side, if people want to be athletic, eat right, and be healthy then they can with no help from anyone else..
this country was built on self reliance and independence…..not a nanny state that told people what mold they have to fit in …geez….0 -
If you're posting nutritional information of exactly what they are posting, then I think that could be perceived as being a bit confrontational and obnoxious. If someone did that to me I'd probably feel defensive as well. Most people that eat the things that they do are adults and know better and don't need a public service announcement -- they probably just aren't concerning themselves with it, for better or worse. The thing is, people usually aren't going to change unless they decide it for themselves. Or often it doesn't happen until their health demands it, because by nature we often don't act until the s**t hits the fan. Annoying people isn't going to change them.
If you want to be a positive influence, maybe share recipes that you like.
Personally when people post things on FB that annoy me, I just ignore the posts. I don't always agree with my friends about everything, but they are still my friends at the end of the day and I like to know how they are doing (annoying opinions and posts aside).0 -
drives me nuts when ppl say anything in moderation, what the hell does that really mean??? on the MFP ppl who say you can treat yourself, you just have a bite to get your craving to go away,... I don't know one person be it skinny or heavy that can eat one bite of your favorite thing.......You gotta want this more then you want to eat anything........I keep telling myself personally NOTHING will ever taste as good as thin will feel...................
*sigh*
*double sigh*…it means you have one serving of ice cream and fit it into your calorie/macro count for the day ..it means you have two slices of pizza instead of five….it means eating the foods you want to eat, maintaining a deficit, losing weight, and being happy about it…not being some miserable restricted person who complains about all the food they can't eat because of their "diet"...0 -
Yes you are being mean, judgemental, and obnoxious.0
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Never mind. Happy Friday everybunny. :flowerforyou:0
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Not understanding how something that someone else puts into their body is affecting you....?
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Ummm actually it is not…It is a free country and if people want to be fat and lazy then they can be fat and lazy with no help from you..on the flip side, if people want to be athletic, eat right, and be healthy then they can with no help from anyone else..
this country was built on self reliance and independence…..not a nanny state that told people what mold they have to fit in …geez….
But they ARE getting help from me. As I noted in my OP, taxes pay for a good deal of medical care in this country. More medical care for preventable conditions = more taxes. No way around it. For the insured, more claims that the insurer has to pay for preventable conditions = more premiums we all pay. Not to mention the human cost of those preventable conditions- not being able to enjoy a good bike ride, getting winded after a walk down your driveway, knee pain, back pain. I want everyone to feel as good as I do.
Having said that, I am re-thinking this practice of telling people what's in the crap they post since so many people think it's mean. And I had already cut the news feed off for one guy who seemed to post nothing but recipes for things I wouldn't eat. Tell me about your vacation or your kid's wedding or show me a pic of your newest grandchild or even express an opinion I disagree with. I'll be gentle if I reply at all. Just don't blindly repost stuff. (And I WILL stay off pinterest.)0 -
Ultimate Cheescake
Ingredients
Crust:
2 cups finely ground graham crackers (about 30 squares)
1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon
1 stick unsalted butter, melted
Filling:
1 pound cream cheese, 2 (8-ounce) blocks, softened
3 eggs
1 cup sugar
1 pint sour cream
1 lemon, zested
1 dash vanilla extract
Warm Lemon Blueberry Topping, recipe follows
Warm Lemon Blueberries:
1 pint blueberries
1 lemon, zested and juiced
2 tablespoons sugar
Directions
Filling:
Preheat the oven to 325 degrees F.
In a mixing bowl, combine the ingredients with a fork until evenly moistened. Lightly coat the bottom and sides of an 8-inch springform pan with non-stick cooking spray.
Pour the crumbs into the pan and, using the bottom of a measuring cup or the smooth bottom of a glass, press the crumbs down into the base and 1-inch up the sides. Refrigerate for 5 minutes.
For the Filling:
In the bowl of an electric mixer, beat the cream cheese on low speed for 1 minute until smooth and free of any lumps. Add the eggs, 1 at a time, and continue to beat slowly until combined. Gradually add sugar and beat until creamy, for 1 to 2 minutes.
Add sour cream, lemon zest, and vanilla. Periodically scrape down the sides of the bowl and the beaters. The batter should be well-mixed but not overbeaten. Pour the filling into the crust-lined pan and smooth the top with a spatula.
Set the cheesecake pan on a large piece of aluminum foil and fold up the sides around it. Place the cake pan in a large roasting pan. Pour boiling water into the roasting pan until the water is about halfway up the sides of the cheesecake pan; the foil will keep the water from seeping into the cheesecake. Bake for 45 minutes. The cheesecake should still jiggle (it will firm up after chilling), so be careful not to overcook. Let cool in pan for 30 minutes. Chill in the refrigerator, loosely covered, for at least 4 hours. Loosen the cheesecake from the sides of the pan by running a thin metal spatula around the inside rim. Unmold and transfer to a cake plate. Using a spatula spread a layer of Warm Lemon Blueberry topping over the surface.
Slice the cheesecake with a thin, non-serrated knife that has been dipped in hot water. Wipe dry after each cut.
Warm Lemon Blueberries:
In a small saucepan add all the ingredients and simmer over medium heat for 5 minutes or so until the fruit begins to break down slightly. Leave to cool before spreading on cheesecake.
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Ummm actually it is not…It is a free country and if people want to be fat and lazy then they can be fat and lazy with no help from you..on the flip side, if people want to be athletic, eat right, and be healthy then they can with no help from anyone else..
this country was built on self reliance and independence…..not a nanny state that told people what mold they have to fit in …geez….
But they ARE getting help from me. As I noted in my OP, taxes pay for a good deal of medical care in this country. More medical care for preventable conditions = more taxes. No way around it. For the insured, more claims that the insurer has to pay for preventable conditions = more premiums we all pay. Not to mention the human cost of those preventable conditions- not being able to enjoy a good bike ride, getting winded after a walk down your driveway, knee pain, back pain. I want everyone to feel as good as I do.
Having said that, I am re-thinking this practice of telling people what's in the crap they post since so many people think it's mean. And I had already cut the news feed off for one guy who seemed to post nothing but recipes for things I wouldn't eat. Tell me about your vacation or your kid's wedding or shoe me a pic of your newest grandchild or even express an opinion I disagree with. I'll be gentle if I reply at all. Just don't blindly repost stuff. (And I WILL stay off pinterest.)
frankly my dear, it is none of your business…
"I want everyone to feel as good as I do" this is the famous last line of communists and despots everywhere..they want the people to "feel good" and "be equal" so they set up a system of government to make everyone equal and all it does is put its boot on the back of their neck and repress them…just because you want everyone to be "fit and healthy" does not give you the right to force that feeling/lifestyle on them...
in the words of forrest gump - thats all I have to say about that...0 -
Ummm actually it is not…It is a free country and if people want to be fat and lazy then they can be fat and lazy with no help from you..on the flip side, if people want to be athletic, eat right, and be healthy then they can with no help from anyone else..
this country was built on self reliance and independence…..not a nanny state that told people what mold they have to fit in …geez….
But they ARE getting help from me. As I noted in my OP, taxes pay for a good deal of medical care in this country. More medical care for preventable conditions = more taxes. No way around it. For the insured, more claims that the insurer has to pay for preventable conditions = more premiums we all pay. Not to mention the human cost of those preventable conditions- not being able to enjoy a good bike ride, getting winded after a walk down your driveway, knee pain, back pain. I want everyone to feel as good as I do.
Having said that, I am re-thinking this practice of telling people what's in the crap they post since so many people think it's mean. And I had already cut the news feed off for one guy who seemed to post nothing but recipes for things I wouldn't eat. Tell me about your vacation or your kid's wedding or show me a pic of your newest grandchild or even express an opinion I disagree with. I'll be gentle if I reply at all. Just don't blindly repost stuff. (And I WILL stay off pinterest.)
The world does not revolve around you.0 -
Tell them they have too much time on their hands. I really dont understand the mentality of people on Facebook. People never used to phone or text their friends to share what they are having for dinner for example, so why on Facebook.
The thing is, smart phones, for all their advantages, are just ruining society and people's social skills....
Back in the palaeolithic era, people sat around campfires and shared banal pieces of information, like which part of the animal they were eating, or how far they had to walk to gather the roots they brought to the tribe, or how many moons it would be until berry season and good ways to cook roots and berries. and who was shagging who and who argued with who and all kinds of other gossip
When humans invented farming, they shared useless information while tilling the fields and tending their herds and stuff like that
In the bronze age and iron age, they had taverns to sit around chatting about banal stuff in
move forward to the middle ages, people still sat around in taverns or went to each others' houses to share banal information like what they were having for dinner, swapping recipes with neighbours and stuff like that
And nowadays, we have social media, so all this banal social chat that humans have been doing ever since we evolved the ability to speak, has now moved onto social media like facebook. Humans talk to other humans about banal, boring stuff. It actually serves a vitally important function in human societies, i.e. making and maintaining relationships with other humans, which is critical for co-operation as a group, which is a major, highly critical factor in human evolution. So if people posting boring shizz on facebook is a side effect of us having evolved to be highly advanced, social, co-operative beings with an advanced level of language, then I think I can live with people posting boring shizz on facebook.
That's a good point. But this woud probably have been shared between a relatively smaller group of people, and people who interacted with each other in daily life. Maybe we (I) have too many FB friends and too many of them are people I barely know and never see. That may dilute the value of this kind of sharing.
This actually makes me want to cut my FB friends way back and use it as a sort of virtual tavern. Or maybe have 2 accounts. Hmm...0 -
Facebook.
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i like the recipes friends post on FB. Yes, many of them have a stupid amount of calories, but I don't have to eat it. Or I can just eat a little bit of it and fit it into my calories, which is what I usually end up doing. I also like the recipes because I enjoy cooking for friends and family who are not counting calories and like that stuff even if I choose to eat something different.0
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Why not post your own healthy alternatives instead of being all preachy about what they are posting. Or ignore it. If they wanna get healthy maybe they will ask.0
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I don't get what's wrong if someone likes to share this kind of unhealthy, but delicious food, it's their choice. Even though they're overweight. It's not like someone who's overweight HAS to diet or do something about it. It's not like every food HAS to be healthy just because yours is.0
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i like the recipes friends post on FB. Yes, many of them have a stupid amount of calories, but I don't have to eat it. Or I can just eat a little bit of it and fit it into my calories, which is what I usually end up doing. I also like the recipes because I enjoy cooking for friends and family who are not counting calories and like that stuff even if I choose to eat something different.
You are too reasonable for this topic.
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Ummm actually it is not…It is a free country and if people want to be fat and lazy then they can be fat and lazy with no help from you..on the flip side, if people want to be athletic, eat right, and be healthy then they can with no help from anyone else..
this country was built on self reliance and independence…..not a nanny state that told people what mold they have to fit in …geez….
But they ARE getting help from me. As I noted in my OP, taxes pay for a good deal of medical care in this country. More medical care for preventable conditions = more taxes. No way around it. For the insured, more claims that the insurer has to pay for preventable conditions = more premiums we all pay. Not to mention the human cost of those preventable conditions- not being able to enjoy a good bike ride, getting winded after a walk down your driveway, knee pain, back pain. I want everyone to feel as good as I do.
Having said that, I am re-thinking this practice of telling people what's in the crap they post since so many people think it's mean. And I had already cut the news feed off for one guy who seemed to post nothing but recipes for things I wouldn't eat. Tell me about your vacation or your kid's wedding or show me a pic of your newest grandchild or even express an opinion I disagree with. I'll be gentle if I reply at all. Just don't blindly repost stuff. (And I WILL stay off pinterest.)
WHY DID YOU EVEN START THIS THREAD?? You asked if you were being mean and overstepping but are trying to justify what you are doing when you are getting the answers you don't like.
It's wonderful that you feel wonderful and want everyone to feel wonderful. But your tactics aren't making people feel wonderful, they are making people feel like crap. This seems to be the opposite of what you want. There are better ways of inspiring people.0 -
So, your friends are ignorant overweight people who *you think* should lose weight and it is your mission to educate them. I can't imagine why they'd become defensive...
This is your issue. It's not about changing what others do.
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For me it's easy because most of the items have gluten (I'm gluten intolerant), meat (I'm a vegetarian) and dairy (it makes me super congested) in it. I just breeze on by those because If I eat gluten or dairy I will feel like crap. The meat is a personal choice.0
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While I agree that obesity DOES affect the costs of healthcare, there's a lot of widespread social conditions at play here that contribute to this -- taking it out on your friends because they're baking brownies only causes resentment and probably won't help.0
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