A question for the men...

Ladies, you can answer too :smile:

Do you feel Valentines Day is just another money grabbing day ?

If it were up to you, would you prefer not getting anything for your SO, if you knew she wouldn't be upset?
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  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    I don't mind Valentine's day for what it stands for. I am not all for what it has become commercially. But that is true of most things for me.
  • I think it's much more special if your partner did something for you...not bought you stuff. Make your favorite dinner, give you a massage or just let you hold the remote!
  • or just let you hold the remote!

    :laugh:
  • Brown523
    Brown523 Posts: 112 Member
    I think it's much more special if your partner did something for you...not bought you stuff. Make your favorite dinner, give you a massage or just let you hold the remote!

    I would be ecstatic to hold the remote. Just once.
  • branflakes1980
    branflakes1980 Posts: 2,516 Member
    I don't mind Valentine's day for what it stands for. I am not all for what it has become commercially. But that is true of most things for me.

    This. It has gotten so blown out of proportion that it almost ruins it (Kinda like Christmas). Go out to a nice dinner, or even spend time cooking one for ourselves at home, but please don't waste our hard earned money on chocolates or flowers. I don't need them.
  • Msaip
    Msaip Posts: 482 Member
    Good Giod if he just did the dishes cooked and cleaned for one day....and a back rub.....that would be heaven!
  • BlueBombers
    BlueBombers Posts: 4,064 Member
    Valentine's Day is a money grab.

    And no, I don't want anything.

    Well, maybe a burger.

    And some fries.

    And a large Coke.
  • mikes99mail
    mikes99mail Posts: 318 Member
    call me a soppy fool, but I quite like it!
  • Derp_Diggler
    Derp_Diggler Posts: 1,456 Member
    I don't need hallmark to remind me that I love my wife. She does that for me everyday.
  • JG762
    JG762 Posts: 571 Member
    It's another hallmark holiday scam....
  • wewon
    wewon Posts: 838 Member
    Yes, it can definitely be a money grabbing day.

    That doesn't mean it has to be.
  • TAsunder
    TAsunder Posts: 423 Member
    I don't know or care if it's a money grab. Several years back I looked up the history of it and learned that there was a strong tradition of writing letters and poems way back. Therefore, for the first Valentine's Day with my wife, I wrote a poem and had a calligrapher transcribe it onto parchment. Since then we try to do something or other, big or small. This year, it will be binge-watching House of Cards while eating a Heart-shaped pizza.
  • brewji
    brewji Posts: 752 Member
    I tell my girlfriend I don't need a special day of the year to show her how much I appreciate her. We both agree it's a money-grab for media-zombie'd suckers. No offense if you're all into it.
  • donna710
    donna710 Posts: 91 Member
    it is so over-commercialized.... such a Hallmark holiday. I would LOVE it if I came home and he had vacuumed, cleaned the bathrooms, dusted and fixed dinner. That would be a Happy Valentines Day!!!
  • _Krys10_
    _Krys10_ Posts: 1,234 Member
    It is a Hallmark holiday, I think it is ridiculous and my husband knows he doesn't need to get me anything.
  • bd0027
    bd0027 Posts: 1,053 Member
    I didn't think Valentines Day was that meaningful to me until a guy surprised me with a rose at work last year. It kinda made me heart melt. :blushing:
  • I like it because of what it stands for: a day just for showing the people in your life just how much you care about them! I mean, one should do that everyday, but it's nice to have an official day where a little excess is acceptable. I never buy cards or plushies or anything extravagant, so personally I don't consider it a Hallmark Holiday. At most, I get a $1 pack of valentines (if I don't make them myself) and a $3 bag of candy.

    Really, it's just an excuse to bake for my friends, be a little extra girly with some pink and red and hearts, and brighten someone's day! I love Valentine's Day!!
  • simsburyjet
    simsburyjet Posts: 999 Member
    Looking forward to it.. My wife and I are going to wear red to body pump and then have a nice dinner.
  • _John_
    _John_ Posts: 8,646 Member
    It's always worth it...
  • smiley245
    smiley245 Posts: 420 Member
    Im not big on valentine's day. I don't need it to be reminded how much I love my SO or how much he loves me. We actually have no plans for friday. Mind you if he washed the floor Id be estatic!

    Although I will give my kids peanut butter cupson V day, cause I can and its chocolate. thats why :smile:
  • OnAllFours
    OnAllFours Posts: 170 Member
    A made up Holiday from Hallmark. I will surprise my lady with sweet things. Some dinner and such. But I don't want anything in return. I see it like Mother's day, Spot light all on the ladies. But this single guy could be wrong. :flowerforyou:
  • sheepysaccount
    sheepysaccount Posts: 608 Member
    I hate Valentine's Day, and I am not just saying that because I don't have someone to "celebrate" it with. I think you should show you SO you love them not just on one specific day each year. However, I love the 15th because I can get chocolate cheaper :)
  • Love your responses!!

    I don't believe in spending a lot of money, I don't even care about going out to eat because everybody and their brother will be out but a card and a big cup reeses cup would be nice. To me it would mean he knows me well enough to know that I love reeses.

    No flowers, they die
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    I try to do something every day to show my wife that I love her. That could end up being multiple things a day. I do dishes, I clean, I make dinner, I let her sleep in when I can, I text her before I leave work to see if we need anything from the store. Constantly flirt :-) I try to take any stress I can off of her. But I can't do super-romantic all the time (I do try to do it spontaneously occasionally, because I think that's better than having a designated day).

    Valentine's Day is a little special to us because it was kind-of our first date (although we had hung out a lot prior to that).

    But just because it is a money grab doesn't mean you have to let them grab your money. It drains the accounts of those who don't take the time to be creative - so they throw down hundreds of dollars on flowers or presents. it doesn't drain the accounts of those who do a little planning to tailor an evening for them - a meaningful movie, dinner, music, whatever.

    I am fine with people who don't want to celebrate it or who are cynical about it. I'm not sure we would celebrate it if it didn't have a little extra meaning. I completely understand the view. But if you want to celebrate it and save money, then just take a few minutes to think about creative, inexpensive ways to make it special rather than expensive ways to make it common.
  • TAsunder
    TAsunder Posts: 423 Member
    Hallmark has not been around long enough to have invented Valentine's Day. It has a strong religious tradition behind it and has been around for hundreds of years.
  • MysteriousMerlin
    MysteriousMerlin Posts: 2,270 Member
    My husband and I have never gone nuts for Valentine's day. I love the reds and pinks, and hearts of all sizes though!

    Our wedding anniversary and Christmas are when we go all out for each other. V-day is usually chocolates and flowers, maybe dinner out somewhere local. Nothing fancy.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I DEMAND HEART SHAPED PIZZA!
  • wolfsbayne
    wolfsbayne Posts: 3,116 Member
    I think it's much more special if your partner did something for you...not bought you stuff. Make your favorite dinner, give you a massage or just let you hold the remote!

    I would be ecstatic to hold the remote. Just once.

    I control the remote most of the time. He doesn't mind since we like similar shows.
  • Chain_Ring
    Chain_Ring Posts: 753 Member
    V day is a set up.
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
    It's another hallmark holiday scam....

    Just like mother's day and father's day.